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Happiest of Saturdays all!
I'm a narrator with a bookish podcast. If you dig books you may like it.
https://www.podbean.com/ea/pb-xtjeb-1106945
Oct 16, 2021 5:00 PM
Imakeupvoices
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Happiest of Saturdays all!
I'm a narrator with a bookish podcast. If you dig books you may like it.
https://www.podbean.com/ea/pb-xtjeb-1106945
cainofdreaming
What do you mean "weird hand?" It's perfectly normal!
ElbowDeepInGod
First thing I say to most people when meeting them. Please dont touch me.
dart223
Or when some guy slides his hands around your waist to pass you by, this is my sentiment exactly !!
masterbot
That time that guy put his hand on Dave Grohls shoulder
victalany
ThanksForTheThing
thehellbinder
I do not like to be touched at all lmao.
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NakedGalaxy
Here they teach us not to do that from kindergarten on up. It's harassment & assault & it's wrong.
SzKnoWnzEvr72
Stranger danger! Stranger danger!
Equinox13
I'll never forget the feeling when some guy put his hand on my HEAD because I was sitting down and he was standing behind me. Absolute no.
Maelwrath
If somebody touches you without permission then you can probably bite them without their permission as well. Fuck around and find out
OctopusSummoner
Last time someone at work walked up behind me and touched me I was holding scissors and pointed out that he was lucky I didn't stab him.
UncleMartha
I had a boss for a short time who did that. He would grab me by the arm (triceps area?) and pull me along. On the third time I told him...
UncleMartha
...that if he grabbed my arm again, I would break his. He didn't grab me again, but I quit shortly thereafter, anyway. NO TOUCHING!
drGrafenberg
You might want to seek help for that.
ClarissaPDG
tomb818
tomb818
Soft demon, warm demon,little ball of hate
cainofdreaming
AndreaAllheart
Please don't touch me without permission.
StrongholdSlayerSexDungeon
what makes you think someone would touch you?
Sorceresss
For example sales personnel will often touch you trying to seem more reliable and friendly.
victalany
AnticlockwiseMetamorphosis
Please don't touch me w̶i̶t̶h̶o̶u̶t̶ ̶p̶e̶r̶m̶i̶s̶s̶i̶o̶n̶.̶
happywalker
RunicRasol
I had a manager who did that. She would touch your shoulders, or rub your back.. SUPER touchy, but nobody could say anything. /1
RunicRasol
because she was from another country, and would say that "That's how things are there". /2
ThanksForTheThing
Aldamas
Yeah thats BS. No one's culture gives them the right to invade privacy, ESPECIALLY when they are not in their country. They can fuck off
WeNowGoToDanWithTheWeather
Lol. That feels like a continuation of enabling the power move
AuntieAngst
My boyfriend's dad always touches on my shoulders and back when hes drunk at family events and it always makes me cry like an anxious weirdo
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AuntieAngst
Because I was molested
Bearjahud
Yeah you're not anxious or a weirdo for that one, your BF's dad is being aggressive and that behavior is harassment at BEST.
AuntieAngst
Like I said, it's only when he's drinking and I know he doesn't mean anything by it, when he's sober it's not a problem
Ornoth
Dude, when I was dating my wife, my younger brother used to comment all the time how hot she was. Weird as shit when family gets outta line
Aldamas
You didn't set him straight immediately? I get the first time ~maybe~ a second but after that is not right
kkanne20
Yo that’s not ok, hope you’ve told your boyfriend
AuntieAngst
He knows and helps as much as he can
dangermess
You're not an anxious weirdo, he's a creepy asshole. Don't blame yourself for a natural reaction to a man touching you threateningly.
AuntieAngst
He's never threatening, just forgetful but my boyfriend keeps it to a minimum thankfully
dangermess
And for those who don't understand, drunk men touching women almost always comes off as threatening; drunk men are hard to fight off civilly
oldpotatoes
She gave no information about whether what he was doing was inappropriate or normal, only that she has anxiety.
AuntieAngst
OK let me clarify: His dad is REALLY nice to me and does not go out of his way to make me upset or anxious. When he drinks,
AuntieAngst
He hugs me, puts his arms around me, pats my shoulders, he'll even his mom has run her nails playfully up and down my back without thinking
AuntieAngst
He's not TRYING to be a creep, I was molested by a neighbor who liked to give me massages on my back and shoulders so it just sends me
AuntieAngst
Into a panic attack which makes me cry. His dad has never touched me in as sexual way or even made a sexual comment to me. He doesn't even
AuntieAngst
Swear. He's been very nice about being corrected and always apologizes sincerely when he realizes I'm shaking, crying or twitching.
bekindtoanimals
That’s fucked up-tell him to knock it off
AuntieAngst
It's just a problem when he drinks but my boyfriend usually takes care of it
bekindtoanimals
My ex- boyfriend’s dad molested me: that experience is no joke. Put a stop to that shit immediately
AuntieAngst
We're always really firm with him and my bf is good about not leaving me alone with his family when they drink
bekindtoanimals
I’m glad- I still have nightmares. Hugs to you ?
AuntieAngst
oldpotatoes
Do you mean he's being inappropriate in the way touches, or that you have anxiety, and family friendly touch is taken as inappropriate?
AuntieAngst
He's not TRYING to make me upset, I have issues and we've told him that touching me there is no good but drunk ppl aren't very mindful
oldpotatoes
Well that's annoying, I know how that is myself, some issues I have. I try to explain to friends, family, coworkers, and they....
oldpotatoes
Try to understand, but because they are all so far from ever experiencing things the way I do, another slip up often, and sometimes....
oldpotatoes
Get frustrated because they think the kind of consideration I ask for is too much, but in the end I know they don't....
semperfi891
When anyone puts their hand on my shoulder...feels like a power move and it makes me uncomfortable.
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panicmixiedreamgirl
For me it depends… most cases I hate it, but when it’s a person who touches people’s shoulder when laughing I feel happy and accepted
StorytellingSalem
Sounds like a cultural thang. Other parts of the world putting touch is a sign of friendship not just power
FluxSagrie
It is a complex thing. There is a lot of subtle things to it that can make it good or bad, and how receptive the touchee is a factor as well
semperfi891
Could definitely be. And I'm not going to tell at someone the first time, particularly from a different culture. But I'll let them know 1/
semperfi891
It makes me uncomfortable and move on from there. Different backgrounds and experiences. No harm, no foul :)
IllegalDuckling
And in some parts, it's just another greeting. At least they didn't try to kiss your face
semperfi891
Right. I've had experiences where people will hold my hand, kiss my face, hug, sit/stand uncomfortably close, but I let them know I'm 1/
semperfi891
Uncomfortable as politely as I can just because I don't want to offend them or make them think I'm uncomfortable with them. It's just me.
Skyff
Oof. It's a pretty common way to show affection.
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semperfi891
I mean, to each their own, but just throws me off when people try to get physical/close like that (except SO, obvs)
worldsokayestspeler
Different people have different ways of showing affection
semperfi891
For sure. Different cultures/backgrounds/comfort levels. I'm just saying when someone grabs my shoulder it seems authoritative
SaltCollector
Sort of depends where as well, at least for me, over the top of the shoulder feels more authoritative than around the side/upper arm.
iShouldBeWorking42
Nobody should be showing random people affection
semperfi891
Right. Even if you know someone kind of well, it all just depends on their background/comfort zones
bekindtoanimals
I had a boss who put both hands on my shoulders and it was ALWAYS a power move- such a fucking creeper
semperfi891
That's just beyond weird. The only time I've physically touched a co-worker was pulling/pushing them out of harm's way.
bekindtoanimals
That’s cuz you’re not a creeper
semperfi891
Slight correction: I'm only a creeper to/with people who agreed to it.
bekindtoanimals
There ya go!
bekindtoanimals
HA!