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Teksura
When a man has a child, the most manly thing they can do is be a father first, and a man second.
hanshotthird
Hallsies
This is how we break the cycle of shitty or absent father's
HarmoniousMarie
Never be ashamed of loving your child. Cuddling your child. Hugging your child. Holding your child's hand. Mom. Dad. Daughter. Son. No matte
stupidpendous
My son is ~15. He will still snug w/ us when he wants att., slams @ HS wrestling, hangs w/ his boys, & loves football. Fuck this shit.
startthederping
All I can think of is Ragnar telling Floki he loves him, that shit was adorable and manly as fuck.
vorpalblade82
I'm 35, my Dad's 67 and I still give him a hug when I go round for a beer. No shame in that whatsoever.
Flyndaran
I'm not a toucher, but lots of people are. Sex based paranoia needs to stop.
LinkinPiper
Grew up with an emotionally absent father, although I'm thankful I had one, when I became more independent I thought..what's the point.
LinkinPiper
I don't blame him because he was brought up that way, it's on me now. Bring it on!!
aeouk
I'd give anything to be able to do this just once more. People need to stop worrying & having an opinion on everything others do.
Senguie
Fuck that I’m 26, id we are on the couch I still huddle up against my dad. The man raised me, I’m not gonna put away my love for my hero.
VariouslyStated
I cannot say anything this picture doesn't already say. Let men be 'soft'. Let boys be emotional. Stop reinforcing the negativity.
CliveWarren81
I'll fucking go lay on my dad right now.p
seaumus
My son spent his first night laying on my bare chest so he could have human contact my older son still loves getting cuddles from his dad 1
seaumus
2 and if you think that is weak or soft then you don't understand what being a parent or a human is really about.
nicetomeetyouimdad
The most manly thing a father can do is raise his son. Fuck the noise.
nonepizzawithIeftbeef
That picture is sweet af. Seriously cool pic. Don’t know shite about either of them but from the looks that kid was raised on love. Nice.
YesYouJustLostTheGameAgain
If someone gives me shit for being a great father that cuddles with his son... then I'm a beat their ass with jumper cables... dad style
mrthegrouch
You sir deserve more upvotes
icantsleepsoiImgur
Everyone should be able to hold and be held. We all need that! Whether it's boy, girl, man, or woman!
Thatknifeguy
My best friend showed up at my door the christmas after his dad died. I held him for 30 minutes while he cried his eyes out. We were 25
IMissZach
Every day for 9+ years I have missed holding and hugging my son, who died at 22yo. He taught me the value of hugging. IMissZach
senkuo
damn... no parent should have to outlive their child, sorry man.
mnlp08
I’m so sorry for your loss, i can’t imagine.
davidbowieeyes
butsir
I can't imagine your pain. I'm so sorry.
Dociousaliexpilisticfragicalirepus
I am so so sorry.
FloresDelCaribe
I feel kinda sad for the people that felt repulse by the photos
LizardsInTheSky
They don't know what they're missing. It's heartbreaking
pr0nty
Seriously. I can't fathom that kind of male insecurity.
xxfluffykins
Toxic masculinity ruins the party again
RussianMathNinja
To be honest, I'm not really sure why we keep inviting it.
Sauroctonus
I sure didn't. I just hugged my dad and I'll do it again!
llamalibrarian
Because its been invited for thousands of years and now it shows up without an invite
ShoNgoz
Wyd. This doesn't even make any sense. Bonding is binding no matter the gender.
SurelyNotHitler
I mean... I don't have kids. But my youngest nephew is 16 and still like watching the stars with me (with the app) we lay on the grass 1/2
SurelyNotHitler
And try to spot what we see on the app. I mean... An arm can be a pillow and honestly... Fuck brah... Family should always be a safe zone.
alexjonesisagayfrog
Downvote me straight to hell but this is why feminism is good for men too it fixes shit on both sides
RayGiIIette
I personally prefer the term equality.
theresgarlicinthatnebula
I personally don't think the term is the biggest problem here.
SportForOurNeighbors
The benefit of "feminism" is the recognition of specific problems that have to be fixed before we get to equality. Same goal though!
alexjonesisagayfrog
Great that's fine and that's what they are fighting for
RayGiIIette
Good. Not to down play feminism, I just thing that term has a too gender specific prefix.
alexjonesisagayfrog
Well of course because that's the largest part of the platform and just like LGBTQ movement fights for equality by fighting for gay rights
alexjonesisagayfrog
But I also get what you're saying because they also fight for fairness in the court system which "hurts" the female cause so really I think
worldsokayestspeler
I saw this thing recently saying that because of more acceptance for homosexuality, straight men actually bond more with male friends 1/2
worldsokayestspeler
Because some men are less concerned about showing affection for their male friends. 1/2
minuteye
1/ However, before the increase in awareness of homosexuality, men were much more physically affectionate with each other because there
minuteye
2/ was no worry about "seeming gay". Hopefully acceptance of homosexuality keeps going to the point where it comes back around, but
TimothyTRiG
"Hopefully acceptance of homosexuality keeps going to the point where it comes back around." Apparently it already is. Read that somewhere.
minuteye
I think posts like the one above strongly suggest that we're not really at a point of men being able to express affection neutrally yet.
TimothyTRiG
I meant that we're already heading in that direction. There is sociological research on the subject, which I have seen, a while ago.
minuteye
3/ it's not been a simple change. Source: All them old-timey photos of men holding hands and hugging each other unselfconsciously.
NotActuallyAMemberOfTheThirdReich
As a dude, I encourage all my friends to be more affectionate and for anyone who calls it gay or something I just say 1/2
NotActuallyAMemberOfTheThirdReich
2/2 "are you a coward to the point of supressing who you are out of fear of what others think?". Shuts up the manliest of men.
HurtYou
"no I just hate most people."
NotActuallyAMemberOfTheThirdReich
I guess I'm rambling but even the idea of a MACHO man is a malformed stereotype that was supposed to borrow from "machismo" which is 1/2
NotActuallyAMemberOfTheThirdReich
2/2 a man's sense of passion. Clint Eastwood may be a badass, but if you live like that you're gonna have mental scars .
Corridoor
Dude I cuddle with my son all the time what’s wrong with the world that that’s not okay?
grayed
It IS okay! Fuck the world!
rosiethereaver
Homophobia and a misogynistic disdain for all things perceived as feminine and girly, including hugging with your father, apparently.
JohMarLeh
my mom never huged me because she wanted that i be a good men -.-!
Corridoor
I let him watch my little pony and paint his nails, if he wants to play with his sisters toys he can. If he wants to wear a dress idgaf.
thingssomeonesays
This is *exactly* the conversation we had with family over Christmas about our 9 yo who likes to have his nails painted and only last year
thingssomeonesays
Grew out of MLP. Fuck what anyone else says. He can be who he wants and he's lucky to have a dad comfortable enough in his own masculinity
thingssomeonesays
To support it. It shouldn't even be a thing we have to defend. /endrant
llamalibrarian
Exactly this
jwoytk01
I never got to live with my father. I only saw him twice a year. He passed away 2 years ago and I WISH I could have laid in his arms.
SederHishtalshelus
Exactly
jwoytk01
And if that's wrong, then I accept it. However... I don't care.
BylawsBarrister
I lost my dad this past June, @OP. I hadn't seen him for 2 years. I'm right there with you.
jwoytk01
It's hard because he had just retired and was finally spending summers nearby. So I'd go see him every week.
BylawsBarrister
That's really tough. I know it helps me to remember the fun things we did growing up, or things that he did that made me proud.
myuncutcocksmellsnice
Not wrong at all, bro. Sorry for your loss.
jwoytk01
Thank you.
senkuo
i may not be a dad but i'll give you a hug bro, bring it in.
jwoytk01
I accept your offer. Hug incoming.
TerribleTortuga
I'm a 20 yr old man and I still hug my father everyday and be close to him without any sense of discomfort.
OuchMouse
I also hug your dad everyday
ReifieR
I hug my dad plenty, but I wouldn't be comfortable laying on him like a pillow
BagHumper
I missed my chance with my dad and I regret every day that it’s too late now - but at least I learnt in time to make it count with my sons
JohnSmithterms
I hugged my dad every time I saw him till he died. Miss him loads.
Mouseatthebottomofthecup
Both me and my father have difficulty with this, even though we're both very mellow fellows, sometimes I think Dad has way more of it
Tyreezie
Hell, I'll hug my dad and your dad. I'll hug anybody that wants a hug.
PickleRick
Yeah, I've never met someone who thinks that's wrong.
Pwningpikachu
29, gruff "butch" Scotsman here. I wouldn't think twice about hugging and laying next to my dad. Still tell him I love him.
schoolman
18 Australia here still hug my dad nothing weird about it
HateEqually
I'm 23 and I hug my dad too.
yankeeairpirate
It's been a little over a year since my dad passed away. I still think about the last hug we shared. I NEVER miss a chance to hug my kids.
ThisIsLiterallySatan
I’m 31 and frequently try to stab my father. He’s an asshole and deserves it.
blacknsilver86
ThisIsLiterallySatan
phyr3start3r
I don't know who my father is, can I hug yours?
WestonsCat
I'm a Dad, I'll hug the hell out of you and lecture the fuck out of you about where your life is going. I'll then offer sturdy life 1/2
WestonsCat
Advice and support you in your direction. I'll continue to hug the shit of of you and embarrass you every given chance.
MasterRaziel
Yep. This guy has got the whole "dad craft" down, he sounds just like my dad. Excluding all the embarrassing pictures every chance he gets.
phyr3start3r
Thanks.....pops T-T
WestonsCat
Theodrian
I'm 30, still hug my dad.
apolloin
43 here, still do it.
MasterPrime
I'm 34. Don't really like my dad but I still have no problem with this kind of physical contact between platonic males.
Listenhereyouwookieesonofabitch
Strangely I rarely hug my dad. We just hurl abuse at each other but make it more friendly if we're leaving. It works well.
ConfuMeister
Hug him for once. I'm sure it'll leave him flabberglasted.
TheForgewright
It works well is kinda a sad sentiment there to me. Might be stilted due to the subject matter of the post though.
Listenhereyouwookieesonofabitch
I'm Irish, does that clear up the abuse part ?? My dad and me get along great, in fact he's one of my biggest influences 1/2
Listenhereyouwookieesonofabitch
Hes not big on physicality, neither am I unless I've been drinking in which case you will be picked up, and you will be hugged. Dad included
youwillneverguessmyrealname
Me and my dad never said “i love you” to each other until my grandfather died earlier this year. It was unspoken yet known. >>
Starwulf99
Not sure your age, but it was similar for me and my dad. The first time I heard him say I love you I was 15 years old, the second time was
Starwulf99
the day I shipped out to basic training(army). He's since softened up and says it all the time to me and his granddaughters.
youwillneverguessmyrealname
When he died one of the first things my dad said was that he loved me and we need to start saying it because when >>
youwillneverguessmyrealname
he was raised it was never said either. It was just known. He realized that life was short and when his father passed >>
youwillneverguessmyrealname
he hadn’t heard it said to him for so long that it really messed with him. >>
youwillneverguessmyrealname
Now we say it constantly so I don’t have to feel the way he did. It’s not emasculating. It’s love. Say it and show it before it’s to late.
etotheitimespi
I have a 9 month old son, and this has never been more relevant to me. Its crazy but very real and prevalent in our society.
shuttlecockinakumquat
It's not relevant because why the fuck could/should/would you care?
Mmmnaw
Hold your boy close. Always. This is how you raise a Man.
WhatWhereWynn
My coworker told me you can't get time back. I didn't fully get it until I had a kid. Enjoy every min. You won't regret it.
GrapeApe
My 9 year old son does this whenever he wants. I don’t plan on telling him he can’t lay on me
halfhumanhalfpie
How could you not want to hug the little guy non stop?!?! I'm making the most of it while it lasts! #dadlyfe
Ninjalogik
I have a three year old I pray that when he's grown he will still let me hold and snuggle with him.
Onidino
Watch, "The Mask You Live In". Seriously a great documentary about this
bpetersen
The prevalent part always strikes me because the only times I see this stuff is via internet. Never in real life
ISeeDeadpool
Also have a 9 mo old son!!!
forgetthisnoise
I'm so glad my husband wasn't raised in American culture. He's vey in touch, willing, and able to express his emotions
jjwk544
You better not love your son. Apparently that’s gay and weird.
mattywgtn
Twin 15 month sons. Anyone try and give me shit for ever showing my boys affection better be ready for backlash
VodkaReindeer
When you take a hologram like this in 2035, ask him to put on a shirt first.
trhopkins
This is just as relevant as the comment that pedophiles have been using the same bathroom as our boys and no one cared .
phil1d
Try being a single dad w/ daughter at the park. If you aren't getting side eye as a potential predator, then you're getting 'help' from gmas
ibrokemyselflmao
^^ THIS!! ^^
geojustin
People always say this but I take my 4yo daughter out all the time and have never experienced it. Most people actually give a polite smile
PrivateIsotope
Someone better never say this to me about my boys, 9 and 7. They've got a few more years left.
Azerai
Bout 70 ish given average lifespan
TheIncrediblePirate
HHAHAHAHAAHHA
Abracanawbra
Years left until they need to follow the stereotype or before they have to deal with it?
obizues
Before she will stop being able to breastfeed the 9 year old.
PrivateIsotope
More to do with the fact that they'll probably be too old and too big to cuddle.
ThrowAwayAcct0000
Never too old to cuddle.
Abracanawbra
I am a big dude and like to cuddle. No such thing, just man shaming.
PrivateIsotope
I mean, but do you still lay on your parents? I don't think anyone should be shamed for it, but I do think many parents might just say 1/2