Hey folks: always make sure you know how to do everything. Your spouse can die. You can get a divorce. There are a lot of reasons why someone may not be around and you will need to do that task in their absence.
It may be their love language, or you may do it differently than them which they hate, but learn and practice it occasionally. I know too many elderly people who don't know how to pay bills or call a plumber because their spouse always did it.
Good on her, my dad had to learn it all from us kids after mom suddenly passed away - he'd never even been grocery shopping on his own. I know it was hard on him, losing his partner of 50+ years and suddenly having to learn how to live on his own.
Everyone is making comments about him not knowing how to do laundry but what are these laundry sheets that's she's ripping? That'd be lost on me. Don't think it's dry sheets since I've never seen ones you rip
"Hey son/daughter, remember that video you recorded of ya mum showin' me how to do the laundry? Can you send it to me? 'Cause I forgot how and I don't wanna ask her."
Start 'em young. Not bringing your children in on household chores, like fixing a bike, preparing food, cooking, stuff like that , leaves them helpless in later life. Try to make them independent people, fending for themselves. They'll pass it on.
I've been a geographic bachelor many times in my life. More times than I care to think about, really. So, yeah, I can do laundry. Any man should know how to cook, clean, do laundry, gardening, etc, etc..
It’s really sad for a grown up to not at least *know how* to use their basic household appliances. Whether they split the chores a certain way or not, at least know how to use the darned thing?
Laundry is a job for people that wear clothes Cooking is a job for people that eat Cleaning a house is a job for people that live in that house Why TF did these basic human tasks become gendered tasks?
tbf, I grew up thinking that cooking was men's work. My dad did all the cooking until I took over. My oldest son is a fantastic cook. All the cooks on TV (save Julia) were men.
But I try hard not to be sexist; I firmly believe it's okay for women to cook too.
As a man, who has been married for over 30 years, I've been doing my own laundry for about 45 years. Works out great. I don't want my wife doing my laundry, and she perfectly happy not having to do it.
To all the people teasing him for not knowing how to do the laundry I want to say something: I'm picky about the kitchen. There's a few things like air fryer and rice cooker my poly partners use but the rest is mine and I insist on cooking with and cleaning it. I know how to treat the utensils and out of boundary respect they don't use them. It's just kinda that (potentially). I love them to death but if they don't know my knife cleaning, pot treatment, knife cleaning, they just don't.
I rarely end up doing things for my partner, if I do it even a little off from how they do it they get upset. So we just do our own things most of the time. They have their laundry and I have mine, etc.
Is there any scenario where this guy isn't a complete garbage partner? I've been doing laundry since I was a kid, I can't imagine relying on my partner to do my laundry all of the time . He should be embarrassed.
My wife does the laundry; I do maintenance, tech, and such. I do the cooking; she washes the dishes. We divvy up stuff according to our skills, interests, and so on, but we try to keep it fair.
Also, the washing machine/dryer we have now is WAY different from the ones I had when I was young/on my own so it's quite possible that this guy hasn't used the fancy new machines they have.
Well, you pay for the whole hour so if you finish in 5 minutes they won't mind throwing a load of laundry in the wash for you and doing a little vacuuming.
Back in the day mothers did all the home work, kids married early so the guy could have been living at home till they married, and after marriage, their wife did all the home work...
He very likely did not have chores. He appears to be in his 70's which means he was born in the 1950's which says it all. The two of them have likely been in a traditional marriage which means that he earns the money while she stays home and cleans. So yes, you are correct.
I don’t know how old the guy is, but some people are old enough. They didn’t have laundry machines. Their laundry was done by hand. My mom made sure to teach me and my sister in high school how to do our own laundry.
Different people do different chores. He may not have done laundry in a long time and no longer knows what stuff to use or even how to work the machine.
I’m not letting my husband do the laundry! It might be a hang over from when clothing colours would run and the washing machines were not as good but I don’t know how to make an excel spreadsheet so he helps me with that.
Bought a new machine recently. It's a QR code. Our machine from 2008 didn't have printed instructions on it either. Also with terms like heavy duty or lightly soiled, leaves room for interpretation.
Usually they are right leaning and fall into that tradwife stuff. Women in America were basically slaves or at the very least second class citizens until *checks notes* 1974.
America is a shithole. So if this isn't America sorry for making this about us. We're going through a lot right now with the genocide ramping up as we've lost our country to a coup.
Hes old and most likely hasnt had to do it in decades. Kinda sad how you view this with such a negative perspective and put him down for no reason other then i guess to make yourself feel better?
My wife won't let me do the laundry(we share chores, she claims that). 'There's a certain way' she likes doing it. I did my own laundry as an adult for 10 years before we even met so I'm perfectly capable. Separate this, use this, put it on this setting, hang this... Blahblahblah. Don't judge someone's ability when it might be the other's 'nitpicky'ness.
I have to do the laundry in our house because my wife is obsessed with using fabric softener, even with towels. No matter how often I remind her that it stops towels absorbing water properly she always adds it.
Starting out, I thought we'd share laundry due today but you ended up kind of random. I always do my own laundry because my wife does it my clothes end up missing, shrunken, covered in shredded tissue paper that she forgot a pocket or my blacks covered in white or multicolored lint key she mixes all the colors together. I also end up doing all the towels cuz she leaves them in a damp pile outside the shower. She does the betting, her clothes and the kids clothes.
Yeah, I am allowed to wash my husband’s clothes if I need some to fill up the washer, but he’s not allowed to touch anything of mine because he washed and destroyed a very sentimental blanket that my father gave me.
I don’t think my 82 year old father has ever done a load of laundry since he got married nearly 58 years ago. I don’t know he’d be able to figure out a digital machine. If he outlives my mom,he'll probably marry the first women who makes him a sandwich
My great aunt was from Oregon, where you don't pump your own gas. Married young, her husband was very old-school, always took care of the car, etc. After he died, she drove out of state to see family and had NO IDEA how to pump her own gas. Pushed some buttons, grabbed the pump handle while squeezing the lever, and started shooting gasoline all over the place, which only panicked her more. Sometimes, you don't know, because your partner's love language was doing it for you all this time.
I’m guessing from the phrases “great aunt,” “old-school,” and “after her husband died,” that the woman in question was elderly. Which seems like a perfectly reasonable excuse.
I did an hvac repair at this house, and the homeowner didn't know how to light a water heater. He didn't even want me to show him..."i will just call the plumber."
eh, not necessarily, it depends on wardrobe size and the person/situation
i dunno about them but i have **multiple weeks** of clean clothing available to rotate through, which has come in handy for this exact sort of situation.
its also entirely possible that this is a newly obtained washing machine unit that operates completely differently from the styles he has experience with, so its best we avoid making broad character judgements about people we dont know.
myr14d
Comes back to: I just ordered 3 weeks of underwear off of amazon.
UncleRat
That says more negative things about the marriage than is positive.
stickywiggit
Hey folks: always make sure you know how to do everything. Your spouse can die. You can get a divorce. There are a lot of reasons why someone may not be around and you will need to do that task in their absence.
It may be their love language, or you may do it differently than them which they hate, but learn and practice it occasionally. I know too many elderly people who don't know how to pay bills or call a plumber because their spouse always did it.
WhatUpDog3000
32 years is a good run my friend
sfbiker
Good on her, my dad had to learn it all from us kids after mom suddenly passed away - he'd never even been grocery shopping on his own. I know it was hard on him, losing his partner of 50+ years and suddenly having to learn how to live on his own.
FinancialRavioli
Sexist stereoypical response: Would she be able to run the lawnmower without instruction?
thereisnohurry
I'm a woman and the person who is the one who mows the lawn. There's no excuse for an able-bodied adult to not know how to take care of themselves.
CALAMOSCOPYJANE
Learned helplessness is a hell of a drug.
rWitLord
Wait just a damn minute. You mean to tell me that this Boomer has been babied for the last 32 years??? (Sarcastic eye roll.)
kaiken1987
Everyone is making comments about him not knowing how to do laundry but what are these laundry sheets that's she's ripping? That'd be lost on me. Don't think it's dry sheets since I've never seen ones you rip
davemUnderscoreOr
Exactly. She's not showing him how to do laundry, just what size detergent sheet to use.
bohjeenie
“First lesson, You don’t need to wait until you have no more clean clothes before you start”
UnlimitedTrickPony
AtlantisTheLostEmpire
"Hey son/daughter, remember that video you recorded of ya mum showin' me how to do the laundry? Can you send it to me? 'Cause I forgot how and I don't wanna ask her."
justyourfriendlyneighborhoodimgurian
At this point, why change until they are back? But it is important to know how, but also alternatives like laundry services or buying more clothes
IUpvoteEveryNicholasCageGIF
Children: We posted it on facbeook, dad
Dad: Oh right, you posted it on your streaming channel The Facebook
19marcurious57
Start 'em young. Not bringing your children in on household chores, like fixing a bike, preparing food, cooking, stuff like that , leaves them helpless in later life. Try to make them independent people, fending for themselves. They'll pass it on.
beerbarrel
I've been a geographic bachelor many times in my life. More times than I care to think about, really. So, yeah, I can do laundry. Any man should know how to cook, clean, do laundry, gardening, etc, etc..
SpartaWolf117
i'll never get how someone can go that long without doing their own laundry at least once
astrangehop
IKR! Like I was doing laundry at eight.
peppymints
It’s really sad for a grown up to not at least *know how* to use their basic household appliances. Whether they split the chores a certain way or not, at least know how to use the darned thing?
FentuckyCriedKhicken
I’m 42 and single. Sometimes I wish I had a wife. And we could do everything together and live happily. But no.
samwyze
At least you know how to take care of yourself.
DisillusionedMe
Yes, Laundry detergent sheets!!! No measuring, no spills, NO plastic. Perfect. I love Canadian brand TruEarth.
Futchm
Laundry is a job for people that wear clothes
Cooking is a job for people that eat
Cleaning a house is a job for people that live in that house
Why TF did these basic human tasks become gendered tasks?
Taranis1878
Because men didn't wanna do them.
Sinasohn
tbf, I grew up thinking that cooking was men's work. My dad did all the cooking until I took over. My oldest son is a fantastic cook. All the cooks on TV (save Julia) were men.
But I try hard not to be sexist; I firmly believe it's okay for women to cook too.
BobAllen2004
As a man, who has been married for over 30 years, I've been doing my own laundry for about 45 years. Works out great. I don't want my wife doing my laundry, and she perfectly happy not having to do it.
RabidNutria
Do you do hers while you are doing your own?
BobAllen2004
Nope. She does hers, I do mine.
astrangehop
Who does the bedlinens and towels?
Absurdloco
Honestly, this isn't good lol
ringtailrho
To all the people teasing him for not knowing how to do the laundry I want to say something: I'm picky about the kitchen. There's a few things like air fryer and rice cooker my poly partners use but the rest is mine and I insist on cooking with and cleaning it. I know how to treat the utensils and out of boundary respect they don't use them. It's just kinda that (potentially). I love them to death but if they don't know my knife cleaning, pot treatment, knife cleaning, they just don't.
bamblebimble
I rarely end up doing things for my partner, if I do it even a little off from how they do it they get upset. So we just do our own things most of the time. They have their laundry and I have mine, etc.
SmackGawd
Damn gmilf if she wears that black dress out she might nor be coming back single
marisav
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jspatte83360
Is there any scenario where this guy isn't a complete garbage partner? I've been doing laundry since I was a kid, I can't imagine relying on my partner to do my laundry all of the time . He should be embarrassed.
Sinasohn
My wife does the laundry; I do maintenance, tech, and such. I do the cooking; she washes the dishes. We divvy up stuff according to our skills, interests, and so on, but we try to keep it fair.
Also, the washing machine/dryer we have now is WAY different from the ones I had when I was young/on my own so it's quite possible that this guy hasn't used the fancy new machines they have.
CarelessWhimper
Aw, he immediately sucked in his stomach when they realized they are being recorded lol
weewaawoowoo
Hubby's just going to spend the next three weeks naked isn't he?
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drcookieninja
Man I'm not even close to his age and if not for work (which I hope to avoid at this age) and my girl, I would never wear pants.
lowerider777
Bingo
MrSnuffleupagus172
He’ll only have one pair of sock, one pair of underwear and one t-shirt to put in the laundry for when his wife comes home.
RestlessVagabond
Clothes are for outside.
WhiskyBravo
dirty underwear and Domino's delivery, yup
xizar
He's spent so much time clothed already, there must be balance in all things.
BananaForScaIe
If she didn't want him naked, she should have hired another wife.
Afroditakarambolo
U genuinly made me laugh :) Thank you. Men are creative 😂
ancalime
He's not far off and she's not even left yet.
putcleverusernamehere
Or if he *dies* do the wash, those colors ain't getting separated
putcleverusernamehere
*does
TheWombatStrikesAgain
Of course not. He'll just wear everything for a week and once it starts smelling, he'll spray deodorant on it.
onecowboytoo
In a bathtub full of chili.
higginh7
No He’s buying new clothes.
VodkaReindeer
Without the wife? lol
frankmanhattan
Fair point!
hgfurgyhauh4uhghghuhgiqguhniij
She should just get him one of those hookers who just do laundry and a little house cleaning.
Qmanchu62
She should just not come back. She deserves a rest.d
Ecxusemeisthisnametaken
You mean a maid?
hgfurgyhauh4uhghghuhgiqguhniij
Yeah, that's the word.
Columbus43219
cobra chicken
WhatUpDog3000
My friend would like to know more
VodkaReindeer
https://barenakedcleaners.co.uk/
MeowWoof
Well, you pay for the whole hour so if you finish in 5 minutes they won't mind throwing a load of laundry in the wash for you and doing a little vacuuming.
TheobromineAddict
From what I've seen, finishing in 5 minutes means she's done for the day.
JimmyWalkerTexasRanger
Multiple loads.
Goatfer
I read "Well you pay for the whole hour and they finish in 5 minutes, they won't mind you throwing a load in." Thanks dyslexia!
boobsalot
Do you have the number ?
justherefortheconfession
(702) 473-9977
fartharder
The Peppermint Hippo?!
sevenfingerman
How does a grown ass man not know how to run laundry? Does he not help around the house? Did he not have chores when he was a child?
MioTaalas
Back in the day mothers did all the home work, kids married early so the guy could have been living at home till they married, and after marriage, their wife did all the home work...
That's how that happens.
nation543
He very likely did not have chores. He appears to be in his 70's which means he was born in the 1950's which says it all. The two of them have likely been in a traditional marriage which means that he earns the money while she stays home and cleans. So yes, you are correct.
bril350
I don’t know how old the guy is, but some people are old enough. They didn’t have laundry machines. Their laundry was done by hand. My mom made sure to teach me and my sister in high school how to do our own laundry.
Raikupath
He is part of the generation that forces the women to do all the work at home. That beer stomach doesn't get that big from working all day.
veesee
Weaponized incompetence
Tigersterne
I take medication histories in a hospital. At least half of married men have their wives manage their medications, in my experience.
MCNewYorkLives
Different people do different chores. He may not have done laundry in a long time and no longer knows what stuff to use or even how to work the machine.
Rhythmaster
Boomers be boomin'
Lulabel73
I’m not letting my husband do the laundry! It might be a hang over from when clothing colours would run and the washing machines were not as good but I don’t know how to make an excel spreadsheet so he helps me with that.
fartharder
It's generally printed on the inside of the lid
AFSamizdat
Bought a new machine recently. It's a QR code. Our machine from 2008 didn't have printed instructions on it either. Also with terms like heavy duty or lightly soiled, leaves room for interpretation.
Tumescentpie
Usually they are right leaning and fall into that tradwife stuff. Women in America were basically slaves or at the very least second class citizens until *checks notes* 1974.
America is a shithole. So if this isn't America sorry for making this about us. We're going through a lot right now with the genocide ramping up as we've lost our country to a coup.
hotrodny
Sort by colour and run the machine on 40°C. That about sums it up.
Alientongue
Hes old and most likely hasnt had to do it in decades. Kinda sad how you view this with such a negative perspective and put him down for no reason other then i guess to make yourself feel better?
OriginalAndWitty
My wife won't let me do the laundry(we share chores, she claims that). 'There's a certain way' she likes doing it. I did my own laundry as an adult for 10 years before we even met so I'm perfectly capable. Separate this, use this, put it on this setting, hang this... Blahblahblah. Don't judge someone's ability when it might be the other's 'nitpicky'ness.
canadianreserve
"won't let you"? As in she will physically harm you if you attempt it? People are crazy. She may need therapy.
chrisjfinlay
I have to do the laundry in our house because my wife is obsessed with using fabric softener, even with towels. No matter how often I remind her that it stops towels absorbing water properly she always adds it.
MAN9000
Starting out, I thought we'd share laundry due today but you ended up kind of random. I always do my own laundry because my wife does it my clothes end up missing, shrunken, covered in shredded tissue paper that she forgot a pocket or my blacks covered in white or multicolored lint key she mixes all the colors together. I also end up doing all the towels cuz she leaves them in a damp pile outside the shower. She does the betting, her clothes and the kids clothes.
FormerlySable
Yeah, I am allowed to wash my husband’s clothes if I need some to fill up the washer, but he’s not allowed to touch anything of mine because he washed and destroyed a very sentimental blanket that my father gave me.
thinkybrainpains
I don’t think my 82 year old father has ever done a load of laundry since he got married nearly 58 years ago. I don’t know he’d be able to figure out a digital machine. If he outlives my mom,he'll probably marry the first women who makes him a sandwich
thinkybrainpains
*woman
nopenopittynope2806
More women, more sandwiches
thinkybrainpains
He would become a polygamist
xedrik
My great aunt was from Oregon, where you don't pump your own gas. Married young, her husband was very old-school, always took care of the car, etc. After he died, she drove out of state to see family and had NO IDEA how to pump her own gas. Pushed some buttons, grabbed the pump handle while squeezing the lever, and started shooting gasoline all over the place, which only panicked her more. Sometimes, you don't know, because your partner's love language was doing it for you all this time.
Littledirtybirdyfeet
There's written instructions on pumps. There really is no excuse. Same with washers and dryers, it's really not that complex
bamblebimble
You've never had an anxiety attack doing something you don't know how to do huh?
Littledirtybirdyfeet
The way it was described is she panicked after the gas started spraying and implied nerves, but nowhere did they say panick attack.
DiedAndHauntingImgur
I have anxiety attacks doing things I KNOW how to do
RabidNutria
I’m guessing from the phrases “great aunt,” “old-school,” and “after her husband died,” that the woman in question was elderly. Which seems like a perfectly reasonable excuse.
Littledirtybirdyfeet
Probably shouldn't be driving then either if she's undone by a gas pump.
KFGProdigy
I did an hvac repair at this house, and the homeowner didn't know how to light a water heater. He didn't even want me to show him..."i will just call the plumber."
Larnoc
I suspect i'd have to look it up on youtube, should mine already be alight?
FinancialRavioli
I'm willing to bet most, by a large margin, homeowners would need to look up how to light a water heater.
KFGProdigy
I would definitely recommend it, especially since it's really easy. Not to mention having to pay a plumber to come out for like 5 minutes.
RabidNutria
I’m a professional carpenter and I had to look up how to light my water heater.
KFGProdigy
Easy right? Beats hiring a plumber and paying a minimum
myr14d
I mean, if they split the chores since they were married and she's done all the laundry, washer and dryer interfaces have changed a lot in 32 years.
GerbilHereReportingLiveFromRichardGeresAss
lol imagine that excuse:
"We split chores so I never did laundry for 32 years!"
C'mon now. You know that's bs. He never wanted to learn how to do it.
ishouldprobablybeplayingpokemonATM
Insult the chores with my wife. I fold and put away, she run the machine. It's really not that crazy
Talori
How do the chores react when you insult them? Are there specific insults I should note down? ;)
nopenopittynope2806
Exactly. She had to have been sick a few times at least. Or had just given birth. Etc.
pyr0kid
eh, not necessarily, it depends on wardrobe size and the person/situation
i dunno about them but i have **multiple weeks** of clean clothing available to rotate through, which has come in handy for this exact sort of situation.
its also entirely possible that this is a newly obtained washing machine unit that operates completely differently from the styles he has experience with, so its best we avoid making broad character judgements about people we dont know.