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Before you get all white knight on me, it’s her mess, not mine.
Dec 16, 2018 7:45 AM
mac1222
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Before you get all white knight on me, it’s her mess, not mine.
ThrockmortonTheSkateboarder
It's also a repost.
Geofrywasright
An outstanding move
IrritatedZebra
Omg don't tell my boyfriend. Cleaning AND putting up with people? Fucking no.
YdoUwant2know
Sometimes you just need the right motivation.
hadtodeletemyprofile
Marriage is more like an old jalopy than a fairy tale. You do what you need to to keep it running.
steerAwwPrincess
Your married. There is no her mess / your mess. Grow a pair and stop being a little bitch.
HenryLongfellowIII
Few people like constantly picking up after someone else.
Hemispheres
I have noticed that “my mess” are often the pots , pans, and garbage I created making his dinner.
Pining4TheFjords
Maybe she needs a counselor. If she felt like she had control over her life, she'd feel like she had control over the mess.
BraveSlayer
Hit deep.
nontno
Men don’t treat their wives this way. Boys do.
mac1222
Women read the flair. It’s her mess, not mine. Equality
awkwardbeautiful
Then talk to her about cleaning up. Solve the root issue; don’t just trick her into cleaning.
Nedji
Well. Based on your previous post it sounds like a healthy and mutually respectful relationship.
QueenAmy
My husband loves when we have people over because of this
RandHimself
My childhood dream was that by the time I grow up I will have myself a cleaning Alfred. Welp, I'm broke now and still dreamin
ILoveTomHiddleston
I just tried for hours to convince my bf to clean the house together. He wanted to watch tv. Now in am in bed and rly don't want to do shit.
justactlikewedontknoweachother
I'm this wife and totally fine with this arrangement. Sometimes motivation helps
makeiteasykeepitsleazy
I literally do this to myself. I’ll have an event at our house knowing it’ll be the catalyst for a deep clean/deck uttering. Only I am not
makeiteasykeepitsleazy
The primary mess maker. I end up cleaning up most of my kid and husbands mess plus the basic maitenance but they help.
Slothhugswanted
I loved it when my ex's friends would come over for this reason. Except toward the end neither cared anymore and all the beer bottles! :c
LetMePickMyTeethThenHaveMoreChips2
i've done this. it is %100 effective 60% of the time.
Harropotamus
This is like gaslighting someone to help them life.
supersonicman
I understand it. I live with a person who has the ability of not doing the dishes for 2 weeks. congrats for taking it so diplomatically
AtlantisTheLostEmpire
Sometimes I tell people what they need to do.
tegfdd77
You’re hired
AtlantisTheLostEmpire
Make me dinner.
BungusAmungus
Like telling them to get their shit together?
AtlantisTheLostEmpire
*images someone scraping their turds together on the floor* ... Yes.
neilwatkinsfromaccounting
Why not just go to...
SincerelyHated
It's not the same without sound
amatte
Do you at least buy the food and cook ?
hisdudenesselduderino
I feel like this is in response to someone else's post about cleaning up their friends house.
midrampage
Either way, win win. Well done sir.
Frostbreaker1
Cool, it's her mess. Now help the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with clean it up. Then she'll help when you need it.
se7enblessings
Maybe she is a person who never cleans and this is his way of getting her to help on occasion. Who knows so why hate
DrDestructo
Yeah we’ve never had a gathering at our house where one person does all the cleaning. OP should suck less and help.
VetchLurker
Unless it's mutual or agreed, constantly cleaning up after your significant other just makes you feel like their parent or their maid.
StripTheFleshSaltTheWound
Feeling like your spouse's parent absolutely ruins your sex life if you don't have daddy or mommy issues.
DONTSHAKETHEBABY
Quite the outlook. Im surprised you can both be pessimistic about his marriage choice but also optimistic about the future
Waskomsause
I have a small issue tat's kinda the same. I tend to clean up after myself, or at least get my mess into the right spot to clean later - 1/?
Waskomsause
but my father does nothing to help 99% of the time, and my mother is old. I'm living at home due to them needing help day to day, but - 2/?
Waskomsause
damn if some days I'm just tired of the whole "This is YOUR mess too, so why don't you get off your ass and help!" bullcrap when I - 3/?
Waskomsause
haven't cooked for myself, or used anything besides paper plates and 2 forks that I washed when I needed them. Not my fault I'm - 4/?
Waskomsause
able to clean up after myself and still ignore the mess someone else made for themselves.
skywards
Sometimes my bf and me invite people over so we both have a reason to clean together. It's our mess.
makeiteasykeepitsleazy
Same! Plus it’s an excuse to cook good food.
IDidntDoIt
If it works it works. But I think it's better to do it together even if it's only one person's mess. A relationship is a team.
Mythanris90
One's not responsible for the shit others do. Huge difference between mess caused by both parties, and excessive mess caused by one.
backseatcommentator
Agree, but I also see it as shared responsibility. My wife and I used to both work the same hours and shared cleaning evenly. 1/1
backseatcommentator
Now I that I have a lot more time off, I am expected to do a lot more housework and laundry
3Davideo
Ok but what do you do when your wife runs out friends for you to barbecue?
zuzuisafool
It's time to bond with the annoying neighbors
matchstickmetropolis
Temporarily
dghammer
Had to down vote ya.....”to a” kills your joke.
3Davideo
Hey at least you didn't mention the missing "of" between "runs out" and "friends". It's been bugging me but since this is now my top-voted >
3Davideo
> comment of all time by a factor of three I couldn't bear to fix it.
Xenomagus
This was gold.
buttonguy3
One of my biggest problems with my ex was how messy she was. She'd literally surround her computer with plates for days and stack them up.
footballisjoy88
My roommate would bake all night, leave a mess, and then I would have to clean the kitchen for two hours or more until I make coffee!
Potatopeelerkind
Note to self: Break this habit.
z3lfmoord
*gamers
ilikecamels
its lose-lose. either you dont clean them and they pile up forever, or you do and youre just enabling her and then she definitely will
ilikecamels
never do it
ilikecamels
source: my gf is the same way. she has her good qualities but that is not one of them
Calistrasza
My husband and I are both terrible about this. Our solution was to schedule (yes, schedule) time to clean together. It worked for us.
transientmind
Sounds like someone wasn’t getting the hint he was supposed to be cleaning her plates! ;)
safetcup
As a woman, wtf?
Potatopeelerkind
I hope this was sexual innuendo, because otherwise, good lord.
buttonguy3
Until I cleaned them. I'd have talks with her about it to no avail. Just lazy and messy. Once had a pile hidden that collected worms.
Predacane35
So she was a female neckbeard then?
immakinmywaffles
SuperAwkwardGirl
That's nasty. My dude had done the same until I just stopped cleaning up after him and when stuff piled up he complained because he had(1/2)
SuperAwkwardGirl
(2/2) to do it. Now at least dishes are rinsed out and not left to attract ant colonies.
SubiBryant
As a guy thinking about proposing this makes me nervous.
Deaditequeenlivs
If this makes you nervous you’re not ready for marriage lol
nonamejanie
If she’s like that before she will be like that after. It’s true. My husband is a neat freak. I’m not but I keep an orderly house!
Rookvlees
Do what I do. Instead of a wife and kids, get a cleaning lady. Problem = solved.
Needtolaughmore
Lol, wait till you see the laundry pile after a few kids. Hell, even before kids it could have doubled as a yurt.
theonethatgotavvay
It gets more worse
PreciousPotato
Then just don't. I mean, as long as it's no a matter of money, kids or inheritance, who needs marriage?
noctism
Don't propose until you know what your life will actually look like down the line. Live with em first, babysit a kid together, go on a trip.
addicted2pjs
Married female. I keep the entire house clean. With one exception. My bedroom is perpetually a disaster.
SuperAwkwardGirl
As a chick having been in the same position, it's worth it if you love the fucker. Just have a reasonable talk about it.
invaliduserformat
And then another talk. And another. And before you know it you're 78 and still telling him to throw his empty beer bottles away.
jbilly90
Live with them for a while
koopaya
It shouldn't, unless your S.O. is a slob. Definitely live together before proposing. You must know your daily routine before committing.
justthebearnecessities
yeah like if she leaves the seat up after using the toilet
Nnsoch
This is gold
justthebearnecessities
then she needs to drink more water. a pale yellow is fine.
BigDaddyHall
I used to do inspections of college housing. The girl’s rooms were way dirtier and messier than the guy’s!
bamblebimble
Girls bathroom is always worse, as someone who cleaned at a restaurant for a couple years.
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mac1222
Am I wrong? If it was my mess, would you be “ you go girl ! Make him pick up his mess!”?
xXxHulaHamsterxXx
I have good days and bad days. Some days I'm a clean freak, others I am a pig. If people are coming over I blitz the house so I agree
maincarrot
Probably. We don't have a full story, so people like to think they know more about your situation than you do. Even then, its still one side
maincarrot
People will think you're the bad one because she can't clean up a mess when she makes one. Posting about SO's bad habits rarely bodes well.
QuitLookinAtMineAim
It's your house and your wife, it's your mess too. If you don't like that, communicate your needs. Or, bitch on the internet, I'm not a cop.
mac1222
Haha. “Our mess” Somehow you have tied the legality of marriage into the daily life of a couple living together. Is the same for roommates?
QuitLookinAtMineAim
Yeah, me and the wife are a team, try it sometime. Or don't, sounds like it's working out how you want it
QuitLookinAtMineAim
And yes, when I had a roommate, I would keep the house clean because I don't like living in filth, but if you don't mind, forge on my friend
PiffTheMagicDildo
When my wife an I were dating, she would keep her place immaculate, everything had its place. Now? Clothes are on the floor for days at
PiffTheMagicDildo
a time, she uses something for cooking but leaves the empty container on the counter. I’ll ask her if she’s gonna throw that away, she says
PiffTheMagicDildo
yea in a minute, fuckin 4 days later it’s still sitting there. I wasnt prepared either. If I didn’t have my man cave I’d give a shit but
PiffTheMagicDildo
It’s just not worth the argument/fight to tell her to clean up after herself cause that’s what happens every time. Get ready buddy.
ChobbleGobble
Girls are shockingly messy. As a man who grew up in a home with brothers, a dad, and a clean freak mom, I was quite unprepared for my wife.
MrHowe
When I worked as a mechanic I found the better looking the women the more disgusting her car. Strangely accurate and disappointing
whitter86
i've got news for you buddy, there are guys out there that are shockingly messy too
ExistentialDreadlocks
The empty shampoo bottles... My god, the empty shampoo bottles...
BungusAmungus
Tell her to get her shit together
NewPhoneWhoDissss
Fuckin same bro!
SpacemanSpiff1000
Fucking spot on. Are you me!?
PreciousPotato
Mmh, depends. I keep the kitchen clean as fuck, but clothes and make up are all over the place. Need a better sorting system.
tangybreath
Girls and guys can be equally messy. You and your siblings are clean because you were raised that way.
OtherErinFromTheOffice
Yep. My wife is much cleaner than me. I have slowly brought myself to that level mainly out of respect. Gender has nothing to do with it.
Bassemuss
The hero we needs
Bassemuss
In our household its my boyfriend and his dad who are the gross ones. Leaving old cutlery all over and im giving up
ImOPsMom
Lmao at "I'm giving up"
BungusAmungus
Tell him to get his shit together
Bassemuss
Have done that for 4 years
BungusAmungus
Beat him with jumper cables
bamblebimble
Tell him you need a break from his messy life and that he needs to work on cleaning more regularly
PrincessNausicaa
It really depends on the girl and the situation. My house is fiendishly clean at all times, but I play with blood in the bath so eh.
Dentistman
Wait what? Explain
PrincessNausicaa
I clean everything in my house as soon as it gets dirty/messy, & I then give it a proper deep clean every Friday night. People comment on it
PowPowParn
Same. I have a small vacuum to clean small stuff with through-out the week and a bigger one for deepcleaning on Friday night.
MoonMoonYouIdiot
Before they ask, can I guess you play with your period clots in the bath tub while they float around? Just a guess...