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Hi imgur. Long time lurker here with an heartbreaking confession.
I’m in tears, I can’t stop crying, I don’t want to believe this, I thought she was happy, I never thought she would tho this to me..
I haven’t confronted her yet.
She’s still at work, and I’m here shaking and crying my eyes out..
What should I do??
A little more fact:
She’s lately been staying longer at work than usual, don’t want to me intimate with me in a couple of weeks, and almost shows no affection towards me.
Now this morning I was emptying the trash can from our bathroom when I saw it, 2-4 used condoms in the bottom.. we don’t use cobdoms when we have sex, so i freaked out, trying to find an logical explanation to this. I’ve had been out of town 2 days with friends so it must have been then it all happened. She must have forgotten to throw out the trash...
She’ll be home in about 9 hours and I don’t know what to say or do.. I’m not the aggressive or screaming kind of guy, and I’m afraid she’ll try to turn this against me some how..
Please Imgur, what should I do?..
I never thought I’ll ask anyone for help here, but seeing all the love from other post similar to mine gives me hope.. feel free to message me aswell ...
This is an nightmare
Fp edit: thanks so so so much you all!
Send nudes!
drewzzard
lilithiumx
End the relationship, do not try to "work things out". You now know how she works. A cheater always cheats. Stay strong random internet guy
jane053425
Get tested, and also get retested In 6 months. You and your health matter.
sleepysnarlysnorlax
Ok OP, asking for nudes in your FP edit on a cheating post, without a resolution to said cheating, makes me disinclined to believe you
t00thlezz
How did you find 2-4 condoms in the trash? Was it 2, 3 or 4?
ItsSpanishForTheNino
While she's at work, pack up her shit, change the locks, and leave her crap outside with the 4 used condoms on top of them.
CloakerJosh
Fuck. My dude, that's heavy. I'm sorry.
CloakerJosh
I will say this, @OP - have steely resolve. The part of you that loves her will want to hang on to her excuse and try to believe it. Don't.
LeGrandPeg
Yeah or will try & forgive her... forgiveness is way overrated. Get her out of your life, take time to heal and then find some new happiness
Alexylkoe
Please keep us updated
Vikesh
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MajorBashflack
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NortonGuy
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Starburst870
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Boredasfuk
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therepeatoffender
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xpixelboxer
don't jump to conclusions to fast tho. I know girls that use condoms on toys to make cleaning more easy. Just confront her with the condoms-
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StrayLilCat
There are toys that have fake cum that they can have squirted out. Granted, if you got such a toy? Condoms would be silly to use.
xpixelboxer
-and see how she reacts. Plan ahead in case she actually did cheat on you. (Im not tryng to defend anyone here)
nutsacrilegious
uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh what?
Imhonestlypartying
Find out who she's fucking and fuck them so good they run off with you leaving her heartbroken and stuck paying the bills alone.
AnthonyLittle09
Read that out loud to yourself and consider what that means.
GronkIsTheSoundAGronkMakes
He knows exactly what it means.
fnhngest
oh no someone implied The Gay!
JaxDagger
Everyone including him knew what it meant, enjoy your -45 downvotes lol
PeterPanGuineaPig
I will never not upvote this strategy.
auzziefella
Don't fall for the "i let a girl friend hook up with her man at my place" line
Dionysus187
I heard a "I used them on a new dildo I got" luckily my friend wasn't THAT retarded.
ImADoctorNotAnImgurian
THIS!!
AlmightyDylon
Is that a real excuse?
Affray
It sounds super greasy, but so does fucking some dude when your boyfriend is at work. So it kind of fits.
fnhngest
do people really try that? wtf? like the scene in the room lol?
Lulumegan
A cousin's ex used that line. She's immature and... just not a great person. I couldn't believe someone would try that excuse.
LeGrandPeg
sonic745
Updates please!
DoooooM
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sonic745
Yes
odinsravenscloaca
It’s shit like this that ruins it for everyone. Put the condoms in a ziplock bag. Wrap them up like a gift. Note inside says “we’re through”
DougieCorgiLifter
Use her tweezers to do so
PenguinsAreJustPandaChicken
Had a chat with OP. Pretty sure he's just fishing for nudes.
iamcatbug95
Any updates, op?
Chubyllama
Wondering if used meant full of semen or if they were just out of the wrapper. I've used condoms on dildos because I didn't want to clean.
nexusband
This. I was wondering the same. People always think the worst..
nomatchingsocks
Ya. Especially for anal.
medici
Yep, we use condoms on the sex toys all the time - keeps them fresher and easier to clean.
IfYouSaySoItMustBeTrue
Even if it was for dildo covering, you have to calmly kick her out. Why? two reasons. 1. She has been distant from you and has chosen a toy
sesameoil
WolnyLogin
wtf man, would you seriously be jealous of a bit of plastic?
IfYouSaySoItMustBeTrue
Not at all. She was being distant and showing no effort. She can use toys, but in this case it's about indifference..not about sexual releas
Hextant
Or, just fucking bear with me here, OR ... he wasn't home or couldn't be home and she was horny. Wow...
MostUninterestingManInTheWorld
WHAT?! I am for him leaving her if she cheated, but bcuz of a dildo? Come on, if that is how she deals w/ being upset w/ OP that's great.
CreepyPete3
Riiiight so every time a dude jacks off he’s chosen his hand over me? Got it.
nexusband
Unless he uses a picture..! :D
MOFOgeorgieO
Lol wow insecure much?
IfYouSaySoItMustBeTrue
Over talking to you. 2. It shows that even if she had not cheated she must put in effort and you are not afraid to stand up for yourself.
ILoveTomHiddleston
So you are ready to leave a relationship if someone just doesn't put effort and uses a dildo. Jesus boy. How about talking first?
IfYouSaySoItMustBeTrue
The toy has no importance. It is about the situation. And no, by this point she had already shown she is not interested in talking.
ILoveTomHiddleston
YOU DON'T FUCKING KNOW THAT!!!! PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT OMG
ILoveTomHiddleston
That's not how relationships work, you have to fix things (cheating is not fixable imo), talk about problems, decide together what to do.
thesameoldfears
I mean if her and op don't use them they prob don't even have them in the house. But I feel like he'd know she did this but maybe not
StrayLilCat
I did have an ex who masturbated with condoms cause it made clean up easier. :x
nexusband
I do that too.
BizarroIsNo1
Am I the only one waiting for an update on this?
JohanKondrup
@thPoster - don't spend your time thinking what to say or how to say it. Find out your next step. Is it your place or hers? 1/2
JohanKondrup
Find a good friend or family member to talk to and don't spend your evening alone! Its over, figure out how to deal with tomorrow
anyofmany
The fact that you are affraid of her turningthis against you is enough to call it over
AlPawchino
Confront her, then you leave her. Move on with life and be happy.
SterlingArcherSecretAgent
Maybe a direct confrontation is not the best. I'd make plans to leave her, in a way that's most advantageous to me. But leave her, no doubt.
ILoveTomHiddleston
I could never do that. I would've sent her a pic of the condoms with the caption, we are done, I'll be spending 3 days at friends, leave.
sleepysnarlysnorlax
This might be a TMI question, but is there cum in the condoms? Because she could be using them on sex toys for health and/or cleanliness
FreckledGalaxy
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HowComeDespiteTheFact
My thoughts exactly, it could be, OP should ask but not immediately blame.
sherbetty
I'm glad I read this post to know to tell my bf if I do wind up using a condom on a toy. Seems like something that may not occur to me
sleepysnarlysnorlax
Exactly. It's actually recommended to use condoms with sex toys cause some cheaper toys are made of porous materials, which are harder to-
sleepysnarlysnorlax
-clean appropriately. But yeah, I can see why OP would jump to the idea of adultery, but this could be a valid reason to finding them.
sherbetty
I probably should to make it easier to clean but material wise it's safe
Howdoilife
How the actual fuck would you not tell your boyfriend about that if you don't use condoms though?
thesameoldfears
Yeah my bf and I don't and I think he'd be really angry to find condoms in the house. But if I wanted to use them on toys is tell him first
insertcoinhere
I use condoms on toys, I’ve never mentioned that to my husband, I’m not sure why? I guess your comment made me think I should
SpeakerForTheUnLiving
Well, not everybody thinks you need to explain everything you do to your SO. Maybe, she thinks the relationship is all good and he has no ➝
Howdoilife
Also never said explain everything, just specifically the pregnancy prevention tool that OP stated they never use ever.
SpeakerForTheUnLiving
reason to suspect she may be cheating? Then again that assumes she may not be cheating and Imgur would have a seizure over that idea
Howdoilife
Maybe i'm just autistic but if you and your SO never use condoms you MIGHT want to tell him what's the deal with those ya know?
Howdoilife
Like, it's unbelievable to me that you think condoms don't require an explanation.
ILoveTomHiddleston
Not everything, but the fact that there will be some condoms in the trash, that you should explaun.
SpeakerForTheUnLiving
To further explain my point, If she was doing something innocent, she may not have put any thought into it, I agree she should've told him
SpeakerForTheUnLiving
but, I don't think jumping to conclusions and assuming everything is over is the best option. Sit her down and talk it out like adults
CoffeeyCore
Stay calm. There's no need to make it ugly. Tell her you know, and you expect her to pack her stuff immediately. Warn relatives.
CoffeeyCore
While it hurts to tell others, it's better to make sure they know the truth. (in case she lies about it) Stay strong, my man <3
fracturedhip
As much as I agree, the evil side of me says that’s letting her get off too easily and she will be like “that was better than I expected”
fracturedhip
And then it might be easier to do again if the consequences arnt too bad. Deserves to see what she did to him emotionally.
Corona688
hisrionic fits are more likely to confirm her belief that she was right to find someone else.
fracturedhip
Don’t have to make a scene, just make her feel shitty about it
vegeta420gokublazerbieber
In a way its colder if you don't make a scene
MeowMyOvaries
Get tested, bag the evidence and ask her to sit down and talk. See if you can talk to her before showing her slimy evidence bag. Give her
MeowMyOvaries
A chance to tell you herself. Personally i don't recommend staying with her, but talking to her may give you some much needed closure
MeowMyOvaries
Also...get tested. I really hope things get better for you OP, no one deserves to have their trust broken like that. You'll be ok,time heals
RaffScallion
Nope nope nope she doesn’t deserve any chances whatsoever.
MeowMyOvaries
Oh her yeah, but op may get some closure rather than straight up leaving and wondering what happened. Everyone is different but i think
MeowMyOvaries
Deserves a bit of closure, that can be traumatizing and may hurt future relationships. She can go to hell tho
MeowMyOvaries
*he. Sorry for my bad grammar!
mrpumbaa
I agree to it. Asking her for an explanation is like asking her to made something up and if @OP love her so much he will believe her
Cavy
You know how she feels about you, you have 2 options; 1. Man-up and get away from her or, 2. Be a martyr and kiss those cock sucking lips.
fnhngest
wait they weren’t they very possibly cock sucking lips before the cheating as well? what?
peterzappfe
you mean 2.be a little cuckhold bitch
philosoraptor1000
A martyr is someone who died for their beliefs. There is no cause in staying with someone like that. Only weakness.
tothe9ines
This guy sounds like a #2.
peterzappfe
absolutely, "and I’m afraid she’ll try to turn this against me some how.." this guy is pussy, no wonder she cheated on him.
jadedashell
You shouldn't be downvoted. The evidence is in his confession.
tothe9ines
This website is brimming with jaded children. It's expected.
peterzappfe
"and I’m afraid she’ll try to turn this against me some how.."
TangyAlmondJoy
Come to grips with the fact that it's over as soon as you can. You don't have to be with someone who does that. It'll be fine, eventually.
InternetPopularityAchieved
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TheVaccine
Or, and this is just a suggestion, cut a hole in the roof/floor and shit through it
SmoothSaline
I get that reference.
ImAFoxButNotReally
Don't empower her. She cheated on you. Don't let her tell you: you don't listen to me/ I'm tired of.../ I cheated but you are a ...
cory79
Anger is a tool. I used it to productively end a relationship with a cheating GF. She WILL do it again. Get out
Invada
And don't misuse the CONFESSION bear. Other than that, if you are an actual person experiencing this, I feel your pain. I advise getting..
Invada
.. angry. It will feel better than being sad. Just don't hurt anyone.
imnotarealgiraffe
Yes! but also, weird creepy fact: some girls use condoms for anal masturbation to help keep toys clean. Ask why first, freak out second
MacTwistie
It seems when he said used, he means there is a male deposit in each one.
imnotarealgiraffe
Oh that makes sense, I thought just out of the wrapper / unfurled
Fonzcorp
When you're going through hell...keep going. All it takes is time.
bronsonlug
https://youtu.be/c709rGYW8v0
ImjurJiffer
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Chilloutandhitthis
I 100% Agree and respect your comment.
thatabbyrose
For real: It killed me to leave my cheating, manipulating ex. It took a few years but now I’m so glad I left (and wish I had done it sooner)
BigAZNMan
Good old stockholm syndrome. Glad you got out!
mandadadada
My ex wasn't physically cheating, but had neglected me altogether. I broke up: super happy now
Ropo101
It's true. And despite it being a few years of pain, it would have been a lot more if you stayed.
thatabbyrose
Exactly. I think of his current wife, the shit he has pulled on her & how she stays. My heart breaks for her. I hope she can break free soon
TheUsernameFormerlyKnownAs
Start with "I found used condoms in the trash". Don't bite on "so you're going through the trash". Find a better GF. Life sucks.
iwearlittlesocks
"Apparently I've been dick deep in trash for a while now"
tacodefender
"well I was going through you, what's the difference?" Is how I handled that question. Kick her to the curb.
AGiantFuckingKoala
Don't tell at all. She cheated and knows. They deny to prey on your desire for answers to find out how you knew to prepare for the next time
AGiantFuckingKoala
Just end it and let her fucking wonder where she fucked up so she can sweat a bit...
yabbadabbaderpityderpdurpderp
Lay the used condoms on her pillow and then ask about them
wr0ngy
Better: Hey, guess what I found when I was throwing out the trash.
Nova5269
Sounds like the guy she was cheating with was going through the trash. Ay-yo!
newsguycraigevans
Don't use the word "found". Use "saw". I saw the used rubbers in the trash.
Grandmastersexy
Other guy was marking his territory.
eroso
You see the bottom contents when u empty the trash can - no even need to go through the trash.
3PiecesOfBread
"So you're going through the trash?" "Yes. Now back on topic, FUCK YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU BITCH!"
notashill
Is that Ronald regan
AfroHo
Ronald Reagan? The actor?
notashill
Yep. I heard he did some movies
3PiecesOfBread
Who's Vice President? Jerry Lewis?
AManWhoWasntThere
If she says that line...the bf should use the "yes, someone got to clean some sh*t in this house so... GTFO"
Nightwing1984
Alternatively: at least I’m not fucking it
TheUsernameFormerlyKnownAs
I'd accept that
TooStronkkk
TheCloney
"So you're going through the trash?" "No, I'm getting rid of it. GTFO"
YOURSTUPIDITYISRAPINGME
Dokramuh
No. Start with "It's over." then move on to whatever else.
BirdPerson4
followed by "Anakin, I have the high ground!"
Zipfte
*I've bought the high ground dlc for $9.99
PeterParkerPickedAPeckOfPickledPeppers
What if she just wanted to stick her dildo in her ass?
revooms
You know what "used condom" means?
GrumpyGrumbo
It has been taken from its packaging, unrolled, and stuck in any orifice. Doesn't mean there was a human being in it. Anal + Toy = Possible.
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GrumpyGrumbo
You're pitying me for my ignorance not knowing that I'm a woman and this is something women do. Who's ignorant really?
nexusband
Men do that too. I hate cleaning up as much as you do
revooms
That's a possibility, true. I sincerely hope @OP didn't cry his heart out over some "unpacked" condoms
thebestimgurian
do the condoms smell like shit @OP ?
revooms
Why is this downvoted?
Steffn
Because people wan't to hate on some cheater and don't like uncertainties around here
GrumpyGrumbo
Apparently the people of imgur believe that used condoms can only mean semen packed.
Howdoilife
You have way too much faith in people.
SpeakerForTheUnLiving
You have too little. Not every person is a saint but, not every person is a villain either.
Howdoilife
You're not wrong but...used condoms, more than one, what more of a warning sign do you poor fuckers need?
dmendez199
Just tell her it's over. You found the evidence of her infidelity. There's nothing more to say.
plebianmaximus
Say you can live with it. :)
Donkey1521
This comment is irritating and somehow I feel it was meant to be on purpose...
AGiantFuckingKoala
Just tell her it's over. Cheaters always deny not just to try to get away but to get you to tell how you found out so they can hide it 1/
AGiantFuckingKoala
better the next time. Don't help them fuck up the next persons heart. Let her fucking wonder what she missed during the clean up. 2/2
WacknCheese
No, dont engage, do not give her room to fuck up your head nor claim you're the aggressor.
SlavSundayisgonnabeathing
This is actually a good advice. She will be the one with theheart broken. Been there, seen it. Stay strong @OP
TheWitBandit
Agreed. Be an adult and be straightforward. Its over and move on. Stay your course. It gets better.
TheWitBandit
Not to mention who leaves condoms in the trash. She wanted to get caught or shes just not that smart.
wolfpreist
if you own the house, change the locks.
eroso
Hmm...not before u r 100% sure she used the condoms. .. @op have u had any visitors in your household? Eg. Ur brother and her gf?
spoonyforky
His brother is a girl?
eroso
Ah, his. My native language has no gender nouns
Nibbets
Do what I did: taste your semen. Then taste the semen in the condom.If it doesn't match your taste then she's cheating. Leave her now!
SurpriseFatGuy
Honestly @OP just sit her down and talk to her. If she’s willing to be mature about it, get whatever closure you need. If not, then
SurpriseFatGuy
Just cut her out of your life. It’s going to suck, a lot, but that’s what she’s done.
ShinyMoonPilot
Tell her what you found and let her say whatever. Don’t engage if she’s abusive. Then leave. You can do this. It will hurt like hell 1/2
ShinyMoonPilot
But it will hurt worse if you stay. 2/2
ShinyMoonPilot
Take the high road here. You’ll feel better in the long run. And I’m sorry you have to go thru this.
Renstthegif
Maybe she used a condom on a sex toy?
Iinajoki360
And then she milked her vagina juice in there!
yourmamajumpsforjoy
Allocez
Deus vult her. She is infidel.
apolloin
Why not trebuchet her ass 300m away?
KingZullu
HandleyTwynham
Best answer
YouGoSister
Staying late at work but used condoms at home...?
dmendez199
Probably used them at both places.
TydenS
He mentioned he was out of town for 2 days recently.
corbynDallas
She wants to be caught, she doesn't have balls to break up with him.
soulhunter24
Idk, they were in the bottom tho. It might have just been over sight. I used to bury all the stuff I didn't want people seeing in the bottom
ashipthatshipsshippingships
100% agree. Condoms in the trash can is the easiest clue you can leave
dmendez199
I think this may be the case
Thespoonfeed
Yeah why drag it out she obviously dgaf
hiroshimaFried
Ppl who usually do this are incapable of making their own decisions and thus fucks someone else to ease the pain/make sense of it all -
Ansatsunin
Also, the comfort of sex when you already feel guilty.
hiroshimaFried
Please, assume my gender
ChaosBerserker
Pack your stuff, leave. Leave the condoms on the table so she knows you found them. That's it. Don't get stupid with anything.
DreadCarcass
Um I'd pass on touching someone else's used condom
sonic745
*gloves
wizardblizzard
*condoms as gloves
GloriousPubes
Unless its YOUR place, in which case you shouldn't leave.
Newnewhuman
Sell it. Buy a new place.
ChaosBerserker
Oh if it's my place their shit would be outside and my locks changed. With the condoms on top.
fblurbg
On top of the locks?
GloriousPubes
On top of the roof, to discourage other unfaithful women from approaching the premises.