IMO the kindest way to shut someone down

Jan 30, 2018 9:07 AM

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First frontpage post!

Thanks guys!!

Here's to all the GG Ginas of the world, keeping us guy's morale up

conversation at work: Customer "you have a boyfriend?" Me "yes." customer "fuck him." Me "I do." end.

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I like stories like this when people treat each other human

8 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

My merchant marine ass always sees IMO here but it never means what I think, Internation Maritime Organization.

8 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

I do this, too. I will subtly phrase my sentences so it’s obvious I’m happily with someone while keeping friendly conversation going.

8 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Just don’t ever go for a girl in a relationship regardless if she says she likes you more. That’s where it gets messy, fast.

8 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

This shouldn't even need to be said. I know that people fall for that shit, but, oh god, why?

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Call her a slut and that you can get chicks 10x hotter than her any day of the week. You think I was actually flirting?! Omg that’s cute.

8 years ago | Likes 35 Dislikes 12

Keep that up and you'll have a genuine and amazing girl in no time. +1 for OP being a mature adult.

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

funny one: girl hit on me and i spoke about my wife so she hit harder. then i told her we are in an open relationship and that scared her of

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 2

Anyone remotely intelligent can easily slip in a reference to their partner into a conversation if they feel the other person could do 1/

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

with knowing that's the case. And then you can continue talking without worrying that anyone is getting the wrong idea. So damn simple.

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

What if she notices the flirting, doesn't have a significant other but just isn't interested?

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Hmm, tbh doing the same thing might not be so bad in that situation either, haha.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

You didn't go bitching about being "friendzoned". Emotional maturity for everyone!

8 years ago | Likes 56 Dislikes 4

Exactly. But as pathetic as it is, at least bitching about being friendzoned is a step up from some of the vile reactions I've witnessed.

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 1

you got farther than I could by being the same room as the opposite sex.

8 years ago | Likes 73 Dislikes 2

You are not alone!

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

you don't even let your mom in the basement?

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 1

Isn't it further? I know it's a bit random and it's not my native language but now I can't let it go until I know :')

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

It is further... a rather clumbsy error if you ask me :3

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

This is how normal social interaction is supposed to work between two adults.

8 years ago | Likes 152 Dislikes 0

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

between 2 dudes

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

+1 for username lolol

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I mean, it's kind of her to be preemptive, but she doesn't *have* to say anything. If he asks her out, she can refuse with no explanation.

8 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 1

Nothing abnormal with that interaction either. Guys can't be offended by abruptness, which happens a lot more than we'd like to admit.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

yeah, but that's an achievement on imgur. We need role models like Chinpokemon to look up to, to show us success is possible.

8 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Question is, did you carry on the conversation?

8 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Sure, she's fun to talk to and we get on. We work together and it's nice to have another friend, just gotta make sure it stays friendly

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Then you are a good guy as well as a gent :D

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Guy came up to my fiance at the bar said, My name is Bobby, I love your hair. She said, Wow, my fiances name is Bobby what a coincidence!

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 1

That's a great story, Jim.

8 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Dude, I clearly said my name is Frank.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

When guys totally miss that you were hinting you wanted to cheat on your boyfriend...

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

One of the best ways I’ve found is if they compliment something say “thank you my bf got it for me”

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

"You have beautiful eyes" ... "Thank you, my boyfriend got them for me!"... Just kidding this is a nice way of dropping the BF line +1

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Easy there, Dr Frankenstein!

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Just how subtle? Anything short of being smashed by her boyfriend on top of the bar is going to be too subtle for some.

8 years ago | Likes 43 Dislikes 2

"Oh, I know exactly what you mean! Me and my boyfriend went to X just this past weekend and it was jam packed!"

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

XD .. She mentioned shes going to see her "future mother-in-law" on the weekend, that was all I needed

8 years ago | Likes 42 Dislikes 0

What if she's meeting your mother??

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Would have went over my head if I even had the confidence to try.

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 2

I think that's just willful ignorance at that point.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

... really?? Well, then hopefully you don't complain about the girls that just say "I have a boyfriend" like other people on Imgur

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 2

Told a guy who was creeping on me I was married since my obvious disinterest wasnt convincing enough. He asked if I had kids & kept creeping

8 years ago | Likes 24 Dislikes 0

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8 years ago (deleted Jan 31, 2018 12:54 AM) | Likes 0 Dislikes 0

It doesn't need to be, some people are just self-involved dicks.

8 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Truth. We were in a photography class, I just had the bad luck of sitting next to him.

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I'll get a variation of 'Your husband is a lucky man' and the flirting will continue :(

8 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

I tried that once. Dude lost his shit.

8 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 2

Was it a subtle mention? Was he actually flirting?

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 14

Why does it need to be subtle? If I'm not single I'm telling you not to waste your time.

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Amusing 7 idiots would downvote simple questions. But no it doesn't have to be subtle, but there is a difference between a guy chatting (1)

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

with you and saying you look cute and you bluntly responding I have a bf or just saying thanks and later in the chat mentioning the bf. (2)

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

I agree. But when that doesn't work, we're forced to be blunt and cold.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Guys who are flirty, then immediately turn into friendbros? Yeah. Ladies with mates like them. We have single female friends to pair off.

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I do 3 steps: 1. “flash” my engagement ring, 2. mention my fiancé, 3. shut him down ice cold - if he’s still trying, he’s a douche

8 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

I can never remember which hand the ring goes on, so I'd miss the first step

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Lol, it doesn’t help that depending on the country, they wear it left or right... but that’s why there is a step 2 hehe

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Hey, guys are really bad at reading signals! lol jk

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 3

Hahahah, riiiight! Lol

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

:D

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

I am single for 3 yrs and today i had a courage to text a girl. She said yes that we can be friend and immidiately told me that shes in rshp

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

And i thanked for her blunt response.

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Keeping our morale* up. Not morals. There's really nothing that can be done about our morals, honestly.

8 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 1

Fixed*... Thanks :)

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

My personal fave was halfway through a conversation: 'Before I go any further, do you have a boyfriend?' Said yes, he left, no friend for me

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Ouch, that's cold

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Dangeous move on her part, though kind. Some men still wouldn't take the hint, or just wouldn't care.

8 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

very few. it not really a reason to be a dick to someone just because they might not take the more subtle hint

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 3

If someone came on too strongly with me after I gave them clear hints, I'd shut their advanced down right then and there.

8 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

yea after you have given them hints. dont just be a dick out of nowhere

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 4

I wasn't condoning being a dick out of the gate, no.

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

yea i know im just putting it out there because some people (again just a few) think its an excuse to be a dick to people

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 3

Always annoyed me that the only acceptable "No thanks" seems to be saying I'm already claimed. Can't it just be No? 1/2

8 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 2

woman think we like playing hard to get. maybe some of us do. I dont know, I always took the hint, but I guess we all dont

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 3

I found that saying "No" is just followed with lots of questions. Saying you have a man, however, USUALLY makes them back off. USUALLY.

8 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

also that not the only acceptable reason.its only a small % of people that dont accept no

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 5

Us galz don't demand reasons why a man flirt w one girl, but not the other. Not ur type? No worries. We cool. Dudes u gotta learn 2 chill.

8 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 1

Ok that’s not true at all rejected a girl and she started screaming at me about how I must be gay to reject her body. And that I’m an idiot

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

if you turn down a girl they get just as upset in fact ive seen it be worse because some pretty women are not used to people saying no

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 4

because men dont usually turn down pretty women. the only reason this is more common in men is because men make the first move more often

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 4

Are you flirting with me with this post? How dare you, I have a boyfriend.

8 years ago | Likes 640 Dislikes 28

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8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

So are you single?

8 years ago | Likes 35 Dislikes 1

Well, that's origin- oh... Nevermind

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I do Crossfit.

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

But...I'mma nice guy.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Wait till my father hears about this.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

8 years ago | Likes 34 Dislikes 1

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8 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Sorry :(

8 years ago | Likes 171 Dislikes 4

You're not sorry. God, what a slut. I wasn't interested anyways

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Me too

8 years ago | Likes 42 Dislikes 1

#

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I am also sorry.

8 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 1

I’m sorry too...

8 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 1

CANADIANS? ON MY FRONT LAWN? SHOO, SHOO, FLY AWAY

8 years ago | Likes 21 Dislikes 1

I have a boyfriend too. Wanna ditch em and go hang out and do girl stuff?

8 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

As a male, I love doing girl stuff.

8 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

As a female, idk what girl stuff consists of. I usually just play RuneScape and csgo with my gf.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

As a mail I love delivering girl stuff

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Hey, you made an effort. That's more than many guys can say.

8 years ago | Likes 1495 Dislikes 10

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

Didn't stop him with Mary.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

"You miss every shot you don't take." -Jesus

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

-also Abraham lincoln

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

- Michael Scott

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

seriously i avoid eye contact with all women when I'm out in public.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

might have made a friend too!

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

like @majhi said, I dont even dare talking to a girl I think is hot. You will get there eventually while I lurk and throw rocks at people ;)

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Most, probably.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Seriously though, make an effort enough times and eventually one won’t be dating someone lol

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

@OP: your spelling is *clumsy.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

That's more than many girls can say.

8 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

Plot Twist: She is lying, but its the nicest way she can say not interested.

8 years ago | Likes 58 Dislikes 5

P.S. Just adding some background as to why this is probably common from a female perspective, not like justifying or... I dunno.

8 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

That could be true too, still appreciated though :)

8 years ago | Likes 55 Dislikes 0

Guys can take it badly or hear my 'no' as a challenge or as me being unfair (not giving them a chance etc). It can be easier, although 2/?

8 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

It does chafe to have to declare yourself 'claimed' to have your 'no' respected. And even then some don't care but that's another issue. 3/3

8 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

If women took the intiative at all anywhere things eould change, but human nature does not change.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 4

As a woman, saying no can be such a minefield. I favour the direct approach of 'thank you not interested' but so many ignore it. 1/?

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

That's not a game where you get a participation prize, though.

8 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 3

No it is a game where you get experience points.

8 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 2

It shouldn't be a game at all.

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 8

True. Though you can't level up without scoring at least once, regardless of how much XP you farm on failures.

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

I guess, thanks :)

8 years ago | Likes 223 Dislikes 1

Hell maybe made a friend. At least you tried and know. You also know she might not be a cunt. Keep at it bud!

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Thats the plan, thanks bro!

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Try enough times and you'll hit it off with someone eventually! Attracting someone is not an exact science. A little boldness goes far!

8 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

You know, I kinda hate that advice. You get burned enough times and you're gonna stop trying.

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

How many times is enough? Might just need to experiment with different tactics. Try eHarmony or something. I got burned so many times (1)

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Before I met my wife. I don't give a shit about any of the girls that came before. I've got one that matters now, and it was worth th effort

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Trust me, I've been burned more times than not. Even had girls laughing me out the room, it's all about keeping your head high and mind open

8 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Yeah, well, a lot easier said than done

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Think of it as practice. Now you know you're capable of the approach. If at first you don't succeed...

8 years ago | Likes 34 Dislikes 0

Purchase a sex doll and be done with human contact for good.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

... cry, cry and cry again?

8 years ago | Likes 56 Dislikes 0

Dating app. Talk to several at a time. Meet several of them. Dont pin hopes on one or two.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

This is good shit +1

8 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

You'll be fine. This person was kind to you. Take that with you and realize there are still good people in the world. Gotta find one for you

8 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

Do or do not, there is no crying in baseball.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Plenty of women use the boyfriend-drop even while sans said significant other. Doesn't change the result - just wish people could be honest.

8 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 6

i dont mind being told they have a bf even if they dont,either way they are disinterested, so why would i care? It's a kind rejection IMO

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

Me too but unfortunately many guys think disinterest can be changed with effort or become insulting

8 years ago | Likes 22 Dislikes 1

Sometimes we have to drop the boyfriend bomb bc they respect another man not wanting me to sleep with them more then me not wanting to do it

8 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 1

So you’d be ok with a girl saying “I’m not interested in you”. And you aren’t going to call her a bitch, shallow, whore, fat, ugly...etc.

8 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 4

yes 100x better than being lie to

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 3

Why would I do that? That's psychotic.

8 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 4

That's real life. That's about how 70% of my interactions with men in bars go.

8 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 2

It's sweet you think there aren't people like that. And plenty enough for many women to have at least one really cringy story.

8 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 3

But extremely common

8 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 2

not extremely common (common enough that every woman probs has a story or two but not a high % of guys)

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

I can't even count the amount of times that has happened. It's definitely not 1 or 2. Maybe 1 or 2 every weekend.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

The fact that half the population usually have multiple stories of that happening, is what makes it extremely common

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

yes its very rare that people would do anything like that

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 10

Most women have at least one story of this kind of thing happening... not rare my friend.

8 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 2

people get hit on a lot in life. it is rare for someone to be like this but not so rare that its not going to happen in your life

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 5

Not nearly as rare as you think.

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 1

im aware of how rare it is (at least in my area it could vary from place to place)

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 3

I think you’re correct on this point bc setting plays a big factor. Imagine a young girl who has to walk in city vs driving in small town.

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

Yes, setting matters. In a grocery store it's rare, In a bar, not so much.

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0