GuyThatRealizesFemalesAreConfusing
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I have only been in one relationship prior to the one I’m in now, and my last one was emotionally taxing and mentally painful, but this ain’t about the past. I have been friends with this girl since I first met her, and was sad she had a boyfriend, but yknow Brocode. So later during the summer when I only had one college class, I went to the beach with her A few times a week, and when I found out she ended the relationship with her (ex)boyfriend, I was super happy. I waited the appropriate time to ask her, but I chickened our, and this past Friday I got the guts to ask her out. Her response was “I would love to!” This will probably die in usersub, but I am keeping it quiet from her friends and my friends because we want to keep building our relationship. Just wanted to tell y’all at imgur TL;DR - chickened out asking best friend out, finally asked and she said yes. Edit: Holy shit guys! The amount of love from all you is amazing! Thank you so much!
alberteinsteinwasagreatmagician
congrats on the future sex
ThatGuyWhoSaysIWouldALot
Now you dick her down for the glory of America
butreallywhogivesasingleshyt
muhvitus
Downvote for will die in usersub
GeddaFuckAddaHere
I hate it when people say “this will die in usersub”. Comes across so needy and self-depreciating. Other than that, congratulations!
r0twhylr
Username checks out.
pancakemix710
I did this to a girl I knew for 2 years and she stopped talking to me altogether
jmrex
You've already built the relationship. Just go kiss her. Do it right now. No, really. RIGHT FUCKING NOW. Go! Let us know what happens.
TheDodoIsAlive
Fair play @OP you’ve had the courage to do what I’ve been trying to do the past 2 years, good work
GuyThatRealizesFemalesAreConfusing
Hey man! I wish you the best of luck to try, I have to give credit to friends on imgur and close friends for telling me “go ask already”
Three5Nines
I am so very very happy for you.
GuyThatRealizesFemalesAreConfusing
I’m trying to reply to as many as I can, thank you very much!
JmARCANGEL
Congrats and good luck on the relationship building!
nicoleoftheeast
Because the reason you don't go after a girl with a bf is the bro code and not because you respect her decision to date someone else
GuyThatRealizesFemalesAreConfusing
I mean, the dude is not my cup of tea but in a generalized statement yes, I respected her choice of who she was in a relationship with
ArtieoftheAbyss
StrugglingVirtues
Out of the friend zone and into the end zone :)
ShackMcBlack
IM. SO. FRICKIN. HAPPY. YOUR. EXPERIENCE. WAS. SO. MUCH. DIFFERENT. THAN. MINE. @OP.
GuyThatRealizesFemalesAreConfusing
Thank you for sharing your happiness with me, I know I could always reach out to any of you guys and y’all would help, so I thank you :)
superpaul79
FoxVoxDK
She was waiting for 4 months, but she couldn't do it herself, right?
searchydestroy
That’s awesome! My best friend knows me better then anyone, and he is scared of getting into another relationship. I wish he wasn’t.
GuyThatRealizesFemalesAreConfusing
I definitely relate to where he stands, I was like that for 2 years, but it all changed when I met her but I will send prayers out for sure!
PsychoutDE
My 2 best friends started dating and i hate it cause i was in love with one of them. Im happy for them, but fuck does it hurt my confidence.
ComradeStaIin
I feel you, same scenario happened to me. My best advice is move on and look to date someone who isnt a friend, then you wont chicken out
27yoUGLYvirgin
Is bro code slang for being a normal decent human? And how has she not asked you out? She just decided to wait because guys need to do this?
Clemmer
Met a girl in college, got the nerve to ask her to a movie. While waiting for her to show up she called to reschedule due to her fiancé
yagetmeblud
If you say so ?
inspectorbutthole
4 months of wasted boners
penxv
I asked my best friend out. We dated a bit, but seriously fucked our friendship up.
AnemicBanana
Yeah I learned that one from experience too. Don't shit where you eat, kids.
PossiblyJewish
Yeah. Asked out one of my best friends recently and she hasn't talked to me in 3 weeks. We normally talk every day. I done fucked up.
TheresnoDanaonlyZuul
Yeah, this is why a lot of ppl friendzone. I personally have to many ppl bc I love them and I’d hate to lose them in my life, and it worked
BeardedScarecrow
better than to love then to have not loved and wonder
27yoUGLYvirgin
This.
beeeeeeerkaaaaa
It can really feel like a betrayal when you think you're friends and this gets sprung on you.
HistoricallyMinor
I dated my best friend and we broke up. We’re still friends but it’s...different and sometimes that sucks worse than not being friends
CptLetdown
It's such a high stakes game. Been dating mine for 2 years; if we fuck it up it seems impossible to go back to being just friends.
Dominator497
I dated mine for 2 years, I think we did it. That was about 2 years ago now. So time will tell I suppose
DirkNurple
Let 15 years pass. I’m best friends with my “college gf”.’
MoooCow
I dated a good friend once. We're no longer friends :(.
ghostrobbie
Dated a girl, became friends after, became best friends for 4 years, got back together for 3 more, then she left. I wouldn't recommend
MetaSomma
It doesn't always work out. But it's worth trying, in many cases
MoooCow
Yeah I don't regret it but it's a sad outcome.
MarlenaWatches
Why don't more girls ask guys out? Waiting for the guy often leads to missed chances and wasted time. Ladies ; grow some fucking labia.
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CptLetdown
Too late. The words were uttered. Soon people will be wrapped in fleshy labia shawls& cuddling up on the couch under cozy labia blankets.
CptLetdown
What have we wrought upon this world
MarlenaWatches
A whole lotta shit worse than lady part nomenclature, you weenies.
CptLetdown
Yeah, like full body shawls made of labia. It’s not the nomenclature, I’d make this just as weird if it were regarding testicles.
ffsSteve
GeneTheAwkward
Dunno how other girls feel, but I didn't fall in love until 20-21 and I'm told leading someone on when you're not certain makes you a bitch.
MissAizea
Women typically have significantly more options than men, so there's no pressure to ask a guy because some other guy will ask you out
MarlenaWatches
"options" have fuckall to do with it. If a girl sees someone she fancies, she should go for it. Success rate skyrockets. I know.
MarlenaWatches
I'm a woman. I don't wait for the other person to make the first move. I get dates. It's kind of Duh.
Rednintz
While true, I've been told that finding a good date is just as hard for women. A lot of the 'available' guys are iffy or downright scary.
daneWatkins222
My beat friend as a girl dumped me becaus she said it felt wired.that was in 2010 now she likes me again and I plan on asking her out again.
coffeeforone
BeardedScarecrow
your the safe bet just let her go
Krogs322
Did you have a stroke while you wrote this?
DeadlyEnzyme
Uhm. You’re aware she will 100% dump you again right
KonEl252
Maybe he’s plotting his revenge and will dump her at a romantic restaurant on their 11 month anniversary?
Bigmackattack
8 years? I would be scared. sounds like a dopandier from deadpool.
daneWatkins222
Ehh rather focus on school at the time and I skipped my prom to go to comic con. Met will Shatner
MeridaIsMySpiritAnimal
If only a short amount of time had passed I would agree with other commenters that trusting her not to repeat history isn't the safest bet..
MeridaIsMySpiritAnimal
but 8 years is a LONG time. I can't even fathom being with the person now I was with 4 years ago. Circumstances can change & people can grow
MeridaIsMySpiritAnimal
a lot in that long of a time period. I'd say go with your gut & if you feel like this is something you want to take a chance on, go for it!
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realnorskeN
What?
ocegur
Wut? Why would there be an age to have a beat friend?
ryanjoseph666
Lmao what?
Wolfaloo
I didn't know best friends had age restrictions?
Laynal
spookyactionatadistance
Godamit. Beat was corrected to best
ParanoidWithGoodCause
so what was stopping her from asking you?
lindydanny
+1 for reading my mind
kermie92
I asked out my guy friend. We're now getting married (he popped the question). Ladies, if you want it, go for it!
Deadlyfire
Fear of rejection usually does it for me.
TeleportingDonkeys
Cant blame him or her at all, every close friend i have had that i expressed an interest in i have completely lost as even a friend.
BakaWakka
The very same thing that stops the guy, except there is still much more pressure for the guy to do it in our current culture.
MisterD90
Gender roles
Rushluk
Social conventions
Comet260
Fuck those.
clucja1
That's a shit reason
badger21
BS. My fiance was the one who ended up asking me out first. Zero problems there.
IPoisonedDorcasMutton
Your logical fallacy is: Anecdotal Evidence.
Thudjy
Just because you didn't experience it, doesn't mean it's not a thing.
dan10026
Fear of rejection. Much better for the man to deal with that burden.
catapulter
hell hath no fury
DenverCoderIX
This. If the bitch couldn't muster enough courage to ask him in 4 months, she might not be such a good catch...
clucja1
How so? Cause guys deal with it more? All the more reason for women to learn to deal with it more often
dan10026
It was a sarcastic comment
ParanoidWithGoodCause
but aren't women supposedly equal to men in every way?
27yoUGLYvirgin
What. The. Fuck?!
dan10026
It was a sarcastic comment
27yoUGLYvirgin
Wheeeeew, thank fug.
super3dcow
Not really. Men have much higher suicide rates, and I think it's because of lots of little things like this.
dan10026
It was a sarcastic comment
Captaincuttlefish
Probably the same reason he chickened out in the first place, she didn't know if he felt them same way and didn't want to ruin it
27yoUGLYvirgin
He literally said she waited for him to ask her. Sounds like she just expected him to do the hard part.
GuyThatRealizesFemalesAreConfusing
Exactly this
Crandillo
Almost same situation for me. Crush on friend since 13, too scared to ruin it, finally ask at 17. Been together for 8 and just got married
Crandillo
It has been a dream come true
GuyThatRealizesFemalesAreConfusing
Ayee my guy! That is amazing!
Comet260
I hope that it lasts a long time and you guys have loads of fun and happiness together.
GuyThatRealizesFemalesAreConfusing
You have no idea how thankful I am of your comment!
Comet260
:) I hope to find my own special someone soon.
BeardedScarecrow
but the women are pushing the #metoo and should know by now if they want something they need to man up
Comet260
Oh, shut up.
pezlex
There is a big difference between 'I was also assaulted and 'I didn't ask him out for a date'
Othernate
I mean, yes, that's roughly what equality is but that has nothing to do with consequences for sexual misconduct.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
What on earth does this have to do with metoo?
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Ansatsunin
Sum up the point you're trying to make. You know, the thing that ties all these disparate but tangentially related things together.
IMadeAnAccountSoICouldUploadAGifOfMeGettingOwnedByABalloon
Show me one time that has ever happened
Captaincuttlefish
So I met this girl in middle school she ended up going to a different high school, we really reconnected after graduation 1/2
gilbertd13
I thought this was about to be that Harry Potter snaps meme lol
trescatorcedieciseis
I met my SO ten years ago during high school, after knowing each other and being friends for 4 years we started dating and here we are!
RoundThreeFIGHT
Marrying your best friend is the best. It's like having a sleepover ever night except you get to have sex too
kirbynomnoms
The only problem is at sleepovers you stay up all night because you are having too much fun. And then that happens and you are exhausted 1/2
kirbynomnoms
at work all of the time. Totally worth it though lol 2/2
IBelieveOdinIsReal
Wife originally told me she wasn't taking friend applications...I sure showed her up on that one...heh heh...
Captaincuttlefish
Ended up dating I've known her for 16 years now married for 8 of them, things can really work out with friends.
romicra88
Well duh. Your partner should always be your best friend.
DanteLidge
Only if you're not slightly antisocial and have seen childhood female friends in the past few years..
1metalnation
Started as friends with my girl. Saw her though some bad times and she wanted me. It has led to a really strong relationship
GreedyJungle
I have a super similar story but it ended with her divorcing me.
honeyleaf
You are still together right?
ebonyfaery
'now married for eight of them' suggests so
Captaincuttlefish
Still together
honeyleaf
:D
ThereAreNeverEnoughDoggos
I wanna know too
ebonyfaery
See above
Captaincuttlefish
Still together
Mojayokok
He said “now married for 8” which means they’re still together.
CaldariBob
Or she's buried in the basement.
Chronoroth
Met my wife online in a gamer over 16 years ago, became friends but we were both involved. After being online friends for the entire 1/2
Chronoroth
2/2 time we both ended up single about seven years ago. She moved here to be with me and we've been together ever since. Friends can 2/3
Chronoroth
3/2 make the best lovers and partners!
frostybox
BF was a minecraft buddy, came to visit and never left :)
Gatepc
+ for 3/2
Chronoroth
Ya noticed huh, you're sharp.
DeathPlacebo
Met mine on Halo 3!
Chronoroth
Awesome!
PropaneTankNSpank
Met mine on DoMO, an older MMO that emphasized team-play and being social 10 years ago. Been together for 9 now.
Chronoroth
That's awesome. One of a kind relationship huh?
PearjuiceATX
My wife was my WoW guild leader before we even became friends. 7 years now, 5 married.
Evococa
Husband and I met on WoW also, he was the GM! XD Saved my noob ass from a cave of harpies and it was love ever since. <3 8 years strong!