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Edit/update: I woke up on the front page with no idea how I got here. I assumed my post would die in usersub before you can say "down votes"
I was floored by the support and advice offered to me by total strangers. Today imgur has given me reassurance from people I've never met and oodles of fake internet points but more importantly, today imgur gave me strength. Or maybe that's front page giddiness. Either way Thanks imgur
weedtittiesandkitties
Plot twist: Op is actually another guy and his boyfirend is bi
ImgurLurkerAlsoYourBushes
Has he met any nice guys yet?
nervousdoggo
Had he been using it actively? Maybe he forgot to deactivate it?
cantafford2bthisbroke
I like your name. Sorry about your bf.
ThisIsSoMuchFunItsFreaky
Did you then break up with him? I hope.
BroccoliRocks
sucks to hear that, if he is actively using that profile im really sorry for you. best wishes
pistachiomoustache
I hope it was followed by a break up.
ActAppalledAshley
Hahahaha, I have also done this.
Graypony4
Passive... No. Aggressive... no. Where was I going with this?
KramLynch
Still valid.
HNNNNNNNNNNGGGGG
plot twist: is seeking men
Littlewinglet
Why does he have a active dating profile if u two r dating? Dump that d bag. Well played tho!
ehjm
My husband did this while we were dating long distance. He didn't tell me about it until we had been married for more than a year. We're
ehjm
Not married anymore. Not be of this, but Bc he's extremely selfish. This is a sign of a lot of different things. Get out.
Starcatcher1986
Am I the only one who thinks this a bit cruel to the perfectly innocent gay/bi men who will now be contacting him?
Secretnewusername
Oh dude, I actually feel bad about that. I honestly didn't think of that when I acted out. I should have just deleted it in hindsight.
lenomdeplume
Did you also discover his password?
suppahiro
My last ex did that to me. It wasn't a happy relationship and finding his active profile was the last straw. He couldn't explain to mr...
suppahiro
Me* why he went on. Now I'm in a happier relationship and engaged. Find someone who wants to be with you.
suppahiro
I forgot to clarify the detail that I broke up with my ex and found someone else.
Shendorion
Now you need to make a male profile and send him the filthiest propositions you can think of. Daily.
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PiffTheMagicDildo
As someone who did this when I had a girlfriend, he's using it to hook up with girls. Get out now OP.
Rumpleslutskin
That or it's an old account he didn't delete? OP didn't specify
breakfastburner
woodenrobot
"Discovered" or "accessed"? Regardless
ooooblackbetty
2016
Beelzebutton
Honest question. Why's he have a dating profile if you're...I dunno, dating?
syphon44
SilverRazer
I have profiles I created while drunk and forgot about. I'm worried that my so is gonna find them and be upset.
AIDS
Tell her before she finds out
SilverRazer
I'm going to. Technically we're not a 'thing' yet so I haven't gotten to it but when we make it official I will.
assbad
Playing devil's advocate here, but have you evaluated why he has the profile? Sounds like communication sucks and/ or he isn't satisfied.
Zootsoot
But if it's active, dump his ass and reboot your own profile Asap. Lurking cheaters never change
memphisonfire
Takes a man to satisfy a man...
memphisonfire
Or snickers...
Zootsoot
If he's old enough to have a profile, he's grown up enough to communicate properly about commitment and satisfaction. 0% her fault
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JeziBelle
Cheating is literally never excusable. If you're unhappy enough to cheat, you're unhappy enough to leave.
filben7
Once you are dating someone why would you have an online dating profile?
chiefwill
Oh my sweet summer child...
filben7
I was pointing out that thats NOT something you do in a relationship. DTMFA
chiefwill
filben7
Ok... thats nice.
Cockle
If hes active on that profile, it should be your ex-boyfriend.
InhaleMyBumHole
Agreed.
Smushalush
Maybe he is just a bro looking for another bro to hang with. Jus saying, don't assume the worse until you talk....
Blanklabel
If you have trust issues enough to need to log in, you should be an ex-girlfriend.
RegularLegs
Yeah, fuck the dude... well, don't fuck the dude.... you get what I'm saying.
copingcabana
Unless, of course, the profile was created before they were dating and he doesn't use it anymore
MissAizea
Its like your employer firing you for sending out resumes and going on job interviews
MissAizea
It was a joke, bunch o grouchies
AceOfBlack
No... It's nothing like that, but thanks for playing!
FaithAlone
Honestly, I forget where I have made profiles & if a girl I was dating pulled one up and had me explain it I hope "I forgot about it" works.
jtb1313
And if she is too unreasonable to accept that answer then bye
DoorbyTheHouseShelf
The key here is if he's actively using it. I have a tinder still, but I haven't had a fb for years. If he has recent messages, it's over.
DontNeedAWeatherManToKnowWhichWayTheWindBlows
I dunno - Where are they in the relationship? Are they exclusive or not? Has that been discussed?
Totallyscrewedinaustin
Why are you being down voted? These are legitimate questions
HerrBisch
I think once you become "boyfriend and girlfriend" there is a certain expectation.
DontNeedAWeatherManToKnowWhichWayTheWindBlows
If it's both sides. Does he refer to her as his girlfriend? Do we know that?
DoorbyTheHouseShelf
They've been together for two years. It's highly unlikely a FWB scenario would go on that long, and they wouldn't discuss a real relationshi
Secretnewusername
Nearly 2 yrs. Sadly not the first time. He'd say he was never in the mood anymore or too tired. It turned out he's just tired of me.
2NE1LSTNG
I'm really sorry. I think it's best you dump him. He's not the right guy for you. You deserve to be treated properly and not cheated on
Kamunari
Please end it. Thats not healthy at all :c
DontNeedAWeatherManToKnowWhichWayTheWindBlows
In which, case, rather than doing sneaky shit to each other, maybe it is time to go your separate ways?
DoorbyTheHouseShelf
Oh yeah, it's time to end it. No one should be I'm a relationship where the love between the two of you isn't on a mutual level.
Secretnewusername
Thanks. Been trying to work out whether to fix or destroy this :( I posted to get it off my chest. I thought a meme would cheer me up :)
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JennFitz20
If he has an active profile.. You should drop him like a bad habit.
Twinkletwinklechocolatebar
FINISH HIM
Mirawatts
@OP Just talk to him. If you don't trust his answer then either you don't trust him and should think about leaving him or there's no issue.
InvolentaryYoga
Destroy it @op
RaisinZetaJones
If it's active, he's using it, w/e, then I gotta say, there's nothing to destroy. Ending it isn't a destructive act on your part at all.
croelz
I was in the exact same situation with a chick, gave her an opportunity to explain, that failed and I ended it immediately. FINISH HIM!
AssholeTown
Dude I'm sorry but it's time to cut ties
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Digicat
You completely misunderstood this post.
GazzardTheStrange
I'm pretty sure that she changed it to seeking men.
HumanFlag
As a guy, the only reason I would be on a dating site even if I have a girlfriend would probably be to hookup with other girls
DoorbyTheHouseShelf
Ditto. It's a fucking dating site, you go there to get dates. No one with a SO should be on a dating site actively
HumanFlag
You can do better OP
Secretnewusername
It's nice to know I'm not over reacting :)
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jobe
As someone who immediatly deleted their tinder / other dating profiles when I finally found the girl of my dreams.. talk to him about it.
wideeyeddoe
I'm actually disgusted for you - that really sucks. Ditch him!
Blastergv9
Absolutely not. If it's active, drop him immediately
PropheticShadeZ
just make sure he didnt forget about it or isnt active. he might just be stupid
messmor
Not at all. If he's looking, you should as well.
happyishturtle
Not at all. Talk to him first though but it might be time to end things
RandomWordsRandomThoughts
Just went through the same thing! Also changed it to interested in men and dropped him like a bad habit!
Charleyshumanmom
Same thing happened to me. He promised to get rid of it..didn't. You don't deserve to feel like you're not good enough to keep his attention
RaisinZetaJones
You aren't. Like Cockle said, if it's not active (ie: you two got together and he just walked away from it), no big deal. Otherwise dump him
danzafan37
Assuming you are in a committed relationship? If yes, look through his sent history and see if he's been active. I forgot to take a profile
danzafan37
down that I had active because I turned off notifications. I'd say do a bit more digging, talk to him, and figure out next steps
MyPalmsSpaghettiKneesWeakArmsSpaghettiTheresVomitOnMySpaghetti
Cheating is one of the few legitimate reasons to end romantic relationships, IMO. He might not change later down the line
Cutestuffies
Exactly!
DankVino
Any reason you have for ending a relationship is legit! Any at all! :D
antillesw
Have you ever seen Seinfeld?
MyPalmsSpaghettiKneesWeakArmsSpaghettiTheresVomitOnMySpaghetti
What about "I don't like that pimple you got on your forehead yesterday"?
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dmoore182
Parched as fuck!
Hanyolo420
Damn you thirsty
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