I hope I'm not the only one.

Jan 16, 2017 2:59 AM

I was molested as a child and I'm a docile person.

This idea excites me but also disgusts me. I'd never act on it but it's a fantasy of mine.

I want to do it with consent but I'm scared to ever bring it up with anyone irl.

Nope, you are not the only one. It takes a LOT of talking to do it safely though.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Surprisingly a lot of ladies are into being strangled. Kind of a good middle ground. But meet the right woman and damn!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

So, a lot of people are really into it. Just...bring it up./

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I don't think this is uncommon. And some people want to be the victim in a safe environment.

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We do something called Consensual Non consent, where we discuss limits but anything out of that is fair game, they consent to non-consent

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

With prior consent that is one of my fetishes - both giving and taking versions. Still good to seek help if you are feeling this conflicted!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Sounds like me; raped as a kid, lots of weird fetishes. I got a good wife though; has daddy issues. We take turns acting out our fetishes.

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Fetlife.com. It's like Facebook for kinky folk. fetishists and BDSM. A lot of groups/forums which you talk about this or see others talk.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I'm sure this is rooted in your past. You're wanting to regain power from the times you were powerless. Speak to a therapist to work this ou

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

So often abuse victims internalize/externalize their trauma. I am not a professional, but that is what I'm hearing here. 1/2

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Thoughts don't make you a bad person. We're given self control as humans. The fact that you know better highlights this.

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You know that's a turn on for some chicks right? You just gotta talk to them and figure out their kinks

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I don't kink shame, even the weird ones. What gets you going gets you going.

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Fetlife. So many message boards about this. A lot of people feel the same way.

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Find an SO into role playing that stuff. As long as you don't hurt anyone, no harms done.

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Its not uncommon at all, therapy is still something you should look into though. When you're comfortable enough with a girl discuss your <

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> fantasies together. You'd be surprised how many woman have the same fantasy.

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Talk to a therapist.

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I can incredibly relate. It's weird, I thought the rape would make me act the other way.

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Safe. Sane. Consensual. (Or in this case, Consensual non consent.) You're not the only one, and I'm sure you'll find someone who is 1/2

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Into the receiving end of this. If it makes you feel better, I definitely am, so if you're strange, then I am too. :) 2/2

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2/2 The means to prevent bringing more trauma into the world is to heal from yours. How you do that is your journey.

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@OP look into fetishist comunities(fetlife), it's a common power fantasy and if done safely with a willing partner, can be very gratifying.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

This is a fairly common fetish (rapeplay). The key is doing it safely and ensuring everyone involved is consenting (and have a safeword)

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Common fetish. Stop worrying

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Simulated rape play is actually not that uncommon. Pretending to hold someone down and fuck them is pretty standard in BDSM community.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Yeah same. It always feels s bit messed up

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

a: within boundaries, this is a common fetish. b: you should discuss this with a professional counselor. where you're at isn't healthy.

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And if you end up getting it figured out, call me? ;)

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seeing your selfies... i'd volunteer... i'd volunteer so hard

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Damn

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Look into consensual role-playing

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

the number one fantasy for chicks is rape fantasies, so you're in luck. just ask first then keep lines of communication open

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Not all chicks, but yeah. Safe words and safe gestures (like safewords but in gestures if the lady is silenced) are absolutely needed. @OP

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You're not a piece of shit for the urges you get. You're only a piece of shit if you act on them and actually rape someone.

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Now what if someone was attracted to children, but they never acted on it? Would people have the same attitude? Could someone seek help?

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I know that I have the same attitude, though many people don't. The help options for paedophiles are unfortunately and unreasonably limited.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Yes they can seek help and no they aren't automatically pieces of shit.

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Really? Cause from what I understand (which can be wrong) is that, if you are attracted to kids, the police are notified and you get put on

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

a list. Especially if you have kids of your own.

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idk, i'm pretty sure thats only if you start making plans or touch a kid. If you are seeking help then they should leave you alone.

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