I'm starting to believe the phrase "ok boomer..." was made for my Dad.

This will no doubt end up lost in usersub but I just need to let off some steam.

I live in the UK, so apologies if things aren't as easy to understand.

I've had to move home due to losing my job during the pandemic and since being here I've realised why I used to put up with being treated so badly by friends and boyfriends in the past.

I've done a lot of therapy and self help in the years I've been away as well as counselling qualifications and an MSc in Psychology. I understand how families work and they can have an impact on children as they become adults. I've worked so hard to become the person I am today... and I feel like the work is being undone as my Dad belittles me and my Mother.

The reason for this rant is the fact that my mum had bought a light up rainbow to stick in the window to support the NHS (it's what a lot of us are doing in the UK, rainbows to show we support). Mum works for the NHS so no surprise she wants to show her support for the frontline workers who really have been working hard..

My Dad kicks up a fuss about it, he's a tory voter and he's being doing a lot of "reading" on the Internet, if you catch my drift. He's become one of those people who thinks they're smarter than the scientists and those in charge... and he says he refuses to show any support for the NHS as he doesn't believe they're doing their jobs properly. He can't separate the front line workers from those who are actually making the decisions at the top so he won't show any support to any of them.

What actually gets me about this is that it's obviously something my mum really cares about and wants to show solidarity and my Dad basically told her she can't.

Now I don't know about you, but if any partner of mine told me what I could or couldn't support, I would lose my shit.

However, I know that just a few years ago, this is something I would have backed down on and just said "oh, ok" to. I'm sat here getting really angry as I realise that my Dad is the reason I allowed myself to end up in 2 abusive relationships, that I allowed friends to use me because I just thought that's how things were. Everybody else was more important than me, I always said "oh ok" if people disagreed with me or told me I was wrong.

I've tried telling him how much the world is changing and he refuses to see it. He says its no different from when he was a kid (in the 50s and 60s). Idiot.

This has become quite a lengthy rant, apologies. But it's hard having to live with the person who's done so much damage to you and it feels like it's too late for them to change. And you're apparently just meant to put up with it. Because that's just how he is.

Big sigh.

I'm not like that anymore, I don't put up with it from friends or partners, but it's hard when you're stuck living with your Dad who's like that.

Thanks for reading anyway if you did.

Tl;dr my Dad is a real boomer and is the reason I've allowed so much shit in my life. I'm not like that anymore, but I still have to put up with it as I'm stuck living with him.

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