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I’m sorry. I tried to pep myself up with memes and funny things but I’m still sad.
He’s not got but about a year left at that. Almost bled to death internally last week. God I love him so much. He’s the best dad. I’m 41 and feel like I’m losing half of my life.
I’ve never not had him in my life. He’s even more of a dad to my husband than his own dad was.
He’s a life long paramedic. He even ran the school here and taught all of the EMRs, EMTs, and paramedic courses.
One of the sweetest, funniest men ever to walk this earth. A compassion for others like none I’ve ever seen. Always helping. Always love for everyone.
He never saw color. He’s born and raised in Mississippi. So that was an awesome way to be raised here. Not seeing skin color as a less or more attribute. Always stressing to love everyone as we want to be loved. Values I passed on to my children.
A fantastic grandpa to my two boys.
A Vietnam veteran that lost his first wife to a brain aneurysm while he was in Vietnam. He raised my sister (6months old) alone after coming home after her mom died, for 3 years. Then he married my mom.
He’s the very best father and grandfather anyone could ever have.
We were supposed to drive him and my mom to the Vietnam memorial in D.C. this year, but it seems we won’t get to.
Just needed to unload all this. I’m sorry. Feel free to ignore.
If you’ve had wonderful parents please hug them tomorrow and tell them you love them. Or call them and just ask them about their day. Listen to all they have to say no matter if it’s important or not. One day you won’t hear their laugh anymore. One day you will only have your memories. If you live near them go sit a while with them. Nothing is better.
My father sgt John C Morris Jr medic for the air force during Vietnam (sorry I don’t have exact rank info) he has lots of medals. He’s a special guy
Daddy in his bomber jacket
Daddy giving my oldest a trampoline.
Me and daddy one Father’s Day.
Daddy when they honored him at church for his service.
TooDoggoneFunny
I miss my parents too! I miss having them meet my kids, share in our experiences. Gone too soon. It never seems fair.
LorindaLogan
Won't help much right now, but be grateful for the good times you got with him. So many don't get that.
daybydaybydaybyday
I first thought he was colorblind
Snefny
You have his smile @OP ❤️
Oldman51
My condolences. Let his legend lives through you.
theaunBreaker
I know what you're feeling, I lost both my mom and dad, their bodies are gone but the memories they leave us will forever be in our hearts
nonamejanie
Hugs and love to you. I’m so sorry for both of your losses. I know you miss them dearly.
TheRealKingCobra
dad just turned 60,I moved to college this fall, in the time that I was away, i saw how quickly hes aging. Life's short cherish you family ❤
dudedude09
Congrats on the dad! Lots of beautiful memories I’m sure. Cherish them forever. My dad is out getting cigarettes. It’s been almost 40 years.
Giantmutantcrab
I'm sorry for your loss.
Apapaia
Sorry to hear that. You're experiencing preparatory grief. I am going through something similar with my own dad. Feel free to PM to chat :)
kalarWitQueen
There is a traveling Vietnam wall memorial. Maybe it would be closer to y'all & easier to go see. Here it's schedule for this year. 1/2
nonamejanie
I didn’t know this!!! Thank you!!!!
kalarWitQueen
http://www.travelingwall.us/schedule_of_appearances.htm
KanackyBiznasty
My dad will be 80, he could go at any time. Let's cherish them while we can.
nonamejanie
Yes. There’s just no amount of time that’s enough. Hugs
jenigrl85
My dad will be 70 this year and I’m thankful that both him and my mom are healthy. They’ll have been married 47 years this year.
joemac65
Can you arrange the trip? I'd recommend it as a perfect memory,enjoy him now OP.Grieve later. It's time now to smile and live.
CountSnarkula
Is he happy with good quality of life? If he's miserable death isn't the worst option. It's hell on everyone else but good death's desirable
EventidesCall
Lost my dad suddenly to Pancreatic cancer this summer. Spend every moment you can with him. I wish I would have spent more time.
nonamejanie
Hugs to you. I am so sorry for your loss. It literally makes my heart hurt.
UnsolicitedDikDikPic
Stay strong OP, spend as much time as you can with him and cherish every moment of it.
My2Puparoos
Also do something fun. Laughter IS great medicine & makes wonderful memories! Hugs.
nonamejanie
Thank you hugs
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iggylights
I lost my dad, also a Vietnam vet a little over a year ago. He was so good to me and my sis. Would do anything for us. So sorry love.
nonamejanie
Hugs and love to you and your family. <3
iamthemadz
Cherish the fact you got to spend many years with the man. Sorry for your impending loss.
RagingSlab
It is apparent that he had a life well lived. You and the rest of his family are his legacy.
nonamejanie
He did. He’s not sad. He’s content and has all of his family around him. I know lots are not as fortunate as he is or we are. Thank you for>
nonamejanie
>your kind words.
MikeCandyTerror
You are very fortunate to have such a great man for your father.
nonamejanie
I so know how lucky we’ve been. I’ve seen plenty of friends and my husband not have anything even close to someone like my dad.
corbie157
Cherish your time together, try not to dwell on the future. Thank him for his service. God bless.
DunnGoofed
You'll always remember the good times. Next year I'll have lived half my life without mine. Ill be 28.
nonamejanie
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. Hugs and love to you. I can’t imagine how hard that was for you <3
DunnGoofed
Thank you. Focused on making good memories with my own son. In case my time comes earlier than expected.
Mickey421
Tell him we thank him for his service. May his remaining time be well spent in the company of caring family and friends.
Doctorfatherson
Shit yeah
nonamejanie
Thank you I’ll tell him. He’s had a long full life. I know he’s tired and ready.
thelonepig
If you haven't already, tell him you're proud of him. Thank him for the little things he did when you were a kid. I didn't get to say ...
thelonepig
those things to my mom and regretted it for years, so I made sure to say them to my father. It gives me a little peace now.
idontknowhowthissiteworks
He’s in good hands. His brothers are waiting for him in Valhalla. Spend the time you can with him.
nonamejanie
Well this just made me smile. Had not thought of all the friends he’s lost. This is so true.
idontknowhowthissiteworks
He didn’t lose them. They are just waiting for him with a cold beer. He had a long life. That’s what any of us can hope for.
woodystables
I'm really sorry OP. It's a very difficult thing to lose a parent, especially a good one. I lost my father last year suddenly. He was my 1/2
woodystables
Hero. I'm not spiritual but he has left an indelible mark on me, like he lives on in me. The pain fades to bittersweet affection in time 2/3
woodystables
Give yourself time and be kind to yourself, everyone's grief develops differently. I wish you luck and happiness.
highlifefin
My father(whom I lost in February) said something that stuck with me; "as long as it's the right way around it'll be alright. Parents first"
nonamejanie
:( hugs. He’s right. It sucks to lose children too soon. I’m a member of that club too. I wouldn’t wish that on any parent.
highlifefin
Sadly I never got my membershipcard but that's a tragedy for another day. My faith is weak but I'll send all my good thoughts for your dad.
linkynpark
Damn, your dad be looking classy in that bomber !
nonamejanie
He was quite snazzy in his dress blues also. :) Thank you!
noobletron
@OP my dad dropped dead last sept. Didn’t get to say goodbye. He was a Vietnam vet too.. I understand and am sorry man :-(
nonamejanie
Thank you very much. I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t know if there is a good or bad way for death to happen. I’m sorry that you didn’t>
nonamejanie
>get to say goodbye.
noobletron
There isn’t. It just is what it is, part of life. If I had a choice I would choose to say goodbye. Cherish the last days with your pops, (1)
noobletron
(2) you’ll be him before you can blink, saying goodbye to your kids
CuteUnicornStar
As a 40yr old with a dad that was diagnosed w/ ALS, I feel your pain. Love and hugs from Germany
nonamejanie
Oh no. Lots of love to your father and family. I know thoughts and prayers are blanket words but you will definitely be on my mind in the>
nonamejanie
>coming time with your dad.
CuteUnicornStar
Thank you for your kind words. Wish you tons of strength and I sincerely hope you'll be making some precious memories in the time being. /1
CuteUnicornStar
You'll be on my mind as well. And please feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to. Thanks for sharing your dad's story /2
nonamejanie
Thanks for reading it and being so kind hearted <3
thisismyimgurname
@OP, my grandfather passed in May of last year. It was a very sudden and unexpected. He raised me for most of my life. He stepped in where
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My dad wasn’t able to be there. He walked me down the aisle when I got married. He patiently sat in the waiting room while I was having my
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Children. He taught me to drive. And love others. And see the beauty in life. Knowing that he passed the beauty of the world and his gentle
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Soul onto to us to keep his spirit alive keeps me going. We don’t do thing with him anymore. But for him. **Often hospice facilities will
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Provide free counseling services. I highly suggest you trying to go. Even beginning now. Also check out Dr. Alan Wolfelt @ centerforloss.com
nonamejanie
I’m so sorry for the loss of your grandfather. I will look into the support group. Thank you so much for your kindness.
rssplowman
I lost my dad when I was 27. Some people don’t even get that long. I’d recommend you reach out to a grief support group. Soon. Peace to you.
nonamejanie
I know I’m lucky. Hugs and love to you and your family.
rssplowman
I wish you and your family all the best. There’s no getting around death and it sounds like you take it quite personally like I do. 1/2
rssplowman
2/2 When I lost my mom 14 years ago I was in hell. Support groups helped a lot. Talkie doctors are good too. Please do take care. :)
nonamejanie
Thank you. Yes I probably need to just go on to the docie talkie already.
BigFatBobbie
I was 9 months old when my dad died, but I feel really bad for people who form strong bonds and have their hearts broken when they lose them
mirrelle
I was 4 and my only memory is of him in his coffin. I'm glad I didn't get the attachment but sad i didnt get a chance.
BigFatBobbie
That is how I feel too.
rssplowman
I’m sorry you never got to know your dad. :( My nephew lost his dad when he was 3. At that age there is no bond, barely presence. :/
BigFatBobbie
Thank you. That is rough for him anyway. Did you lose your brother?
rssplowman
Thanks for the concern, it was my brother-in-law and I was still just a little kid myself. I remember the dude having a good heart/smile 1/2
rssplowman
2/2 yet leukemia ate through him. Death will surround as long as we live, it’s how we deal with it that matters. I suck at life. lol Peace.