Glaineargcroi
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Real talk/Vent...I am coming back from a deployment in a few days and I seem to always come back with one of my friends dead or on more medication. With everything going on in the world it is hard to keep going some days, I just want to say to those out there dealing with life issues you are not alone in your fight. You are stronger than you think.
Follow-up: https://imgur.com/gallery/JVfLk
TheWorseJuan
Pot helps my cousin, he didnt smoke before enlisting but it really mellows him and helps him sleep, you can also try cbd if weed is a no go
cuddleboner
Hooyah brother
fahrenheit451
All the men in my family have served starting with my grandfather in Vietnam. We need better mental healthcare for our veterans.
LooseWomen
Its okay. Trump will you send you back out shortly.
sputnicht
Hey Bro/Sis, been home 5 years now. Trying to give back to those still out there. PM me.
justacatholicmilitaryenglishmajor
If you're coming home to central Texas, let's grab a beer. or a coffee :)
Amazingamandaaaaa
My friend is so depressed and he is in the service. He cannot get help because it's frowned upon and may loose his job.
4AngryJews
I'm about to leave for my 2nd deployment so I know your pain bro keep your head up you have people here for you
kempper
30,000 homeless vets & ppl turn their cheeks, but get mad when a football player express his 1st Amendment rights against PIGS not vets
UnassumingAscotCap
Not to diminish anyone else's struggle, but it can be hard to deal with PTSD as a civilian when people act like you have no "right" to 1/2
UnassumingAscotCap
Struggle because you "never saw combat" or were "never in real danger."
fartyandbloated
Thanks man. Not ex military but always down to talk if you need a pal.
DurendaI
I'm new, and my job can potentially run convoys when deployed. Not looking forward to that.
Glaineargcroi
It is the nature of the beast, just trust that the people in your team will look out for you.
alpacaballs
Flamboyatron
From one vet to another, I'm sorry you've lost your brothers/sisters. We'll see them again in Valhalla.
likifucrieverytim
Life is your new objective push through it.
SelfawareFetus
Why would they make those pill bottles so fucking huge?
uberaudi
The bottles I get from the va are huge, obviously not that big but bigger than normal
earthbndmissfit
Thank you for your service, thank you for the positive words, I'm bipolar & being told you're not alone means a LOT. I'm civ but cont
earthbndmissfit
have vets in the family. My cousins were in Afghanistan and their father/my uncle was in Vietnam. Please remember you too are not alone.
Somethinginthewoodshed
And you are stronger than YOU think OP. Sorry that things aren't going too well for you. We got your back dude x
bravoromeoalphaindianovember
Ive put alot of thought into this, and i think it boils down to purpose. You know what im talking about, everyday our purpose was handed....
bravoromeoalphaindianovember
...to us. We had little choice in whatever it was the objective was. Most of the time we were told what to do and to get it done (2)
bravoromeoalphaindianovember
You come home and the urgency is gone. The everyday purpose is gone. The reason to fight is gone. It leaves a pretty large hole. (3)
bravoromeoalphaindianovember
Finding that new purpose was the struggle for me. But once i found it, things started to turn around. But maybe thats just my situation. (4)
awkurst
If you need help and can't stand the VA look up the VFW. Most of them have been where you are now.
garghuul
Positive post is positive. Thank you on all counts.
RocknRootRanchcuzallwegotisrocksandrootsandafewtrees
All I can say @OP is please don't turn to illicit drugs to try and cope! Too many of our service personnel in the "system" because of that.
Glaineargcroi
Yeah, I am not going too. I have enought issues and I am not looking to lose my benefits
Velina
If you need a psychologist and the wait at the VA is 6 god damn long ass fuckin months, theres a website called give an hour, cont.
Velina
And psychs give an hour, completely free, i was having trouble talkin to my civi friends after i got back from the desert and the wait, cont
Velina
At the mother fuckin VA for a psych appt was 6 months. I didnt use these guys till in between appointments. Dont do what i did, cont
Velina
It took me having a gun in my mouth for those fuckers to take me seriously, so ya if ya not feelin right in the head call em they can, cont
Velina
Talk to you that day, fuck dude you can pm me and ill send you my number and we can talk, im always willin talk to my brothers and sisters
Velina
Seriously if you need to talk hit me up, i been through it too
uberaudi
It's pretty discouraging receiving huge bottles of meds from the va, almost like they just want me to keep eating pills and just shut up
LearnSomething
I went back to work a year after I got out to make sure I had actually health insurance instead of having to rely on that VA bullshit.
uberaudi
It's been 6 years since I was in the desert and I'm tired of being medicated to be "normal"
uberaudi
Unfortunately for me I don't have that luxury and have to rely on the va for my healthcare....
LearnSomething
Yea, I did too for a year. I had horrible stomach ulcers and back pain and they wouldn't see me at all. Now I'm finally getting cared for.
LearnSomething
Have you tried just visiting an ER or are you bound to the VA?
LuciferRattlehead
Depression is a son of a bitch....
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http://www.militaryonesource.mil/web/mos/confidential-help For real bro, no shame.
n4chtm4hr
This. MilitaryOneSource is a severely underrated and underutilized resource.
Treydogg735
If you've been diagnosed with PTSD they can't refer you. I was pissed when they told me that...
DurendaI
It's called just 'PTS' now, apparently.
Alighierian
I still think that's kinda silly... I'd say PTSD should be the description for stress which keep reoccuring, as some stress after |1
Alighierian
2| stressful events is pretty normal, but reoccurring stress isn't. But at the same time it shouldn't be looked at like it's totally weird.
Glaineargcroi
I agree, seeing one of your teammates burn to death then putting them in a body bag is kind of hard to box up.
ListenHereOP
Not truly confidential. They are mandatory reporters for some things.
n4chtm4hr
Very few things, such as domestic or sexual abuse.
ListenHereOP
And suicidal or homicidal ideations.
HitlersClonedButthole
Only to things that are would make you a danger to yourself or others. I came to them with some real dark things and they didn't report it.
Glaineargcroi
I hear you man, I myself have said some dark stuff to my provider and I have never been reported.
DurendaI
Chaplains are completely confidential. You don't even have to be religious.
Glaineargcroi
The best chaplains are the Air Force ones. They are 100% confidential. Some people are put off by the religious part even through chaplains
ListenHereOP
All DoD chaplains are 100% confidential.
Glaineargcroi
Will not talk about that piece if you don't want to.
drezrale
This will sound stupid but get something likea balisong trainer or a figdet spinner, the minor distraction will help when you have a problem
PedroWasAlreadyInUse
Or maybe a dog.
Glaineargcroi
I don't have a dog, but is the first thing I am doing when I get to my home station. I am picking one up from the shelter.
LeiserGeist
Shelter dogs are the best
raykwondo
I'm not a soldier but I have a fidget cube I keep at my desk and it really helps w anxiety and restlessness
drezrale
Its not a cure all, you will probably need a therapist if it gets worse, but there are a lot of things that can be use as a coping tool, if>
drezrale
You need a list of the proven stuff or the more off the cuff weird stuff that I'm experimenting with just let me know. I have a lot of tools
Glaineargcroi
I appreciate the thought, I see a therapist regularly. They got to make sure they protect their investment.
drezrale
PTSD is completely manageable, just not easy. Everyone will understand if you need to isolate yourself sometimes, but just dont do it often.
rotten2core
I collect knives and guns and have a crippling g video game addiction after my years of service. It helps to have hobbies
Glaineargcroi
I am going to take up hiking, I feel like nature will be very good for my mental health after this deployment.
TheDivineUsersub
I live in Homer, Alaska. Got a spare room if you ever need a place to crash. The nature out here is second to none.
Igoligirl
Good call OP, borrow friends dog or get your own for company, they are awesome for therapy.
Qinsane
We need to equip service members with the training to handle the stress of deployment. And the training to help each other afterwards.
ButchLobster
But you are right. After they're done fighting they just say "you're on your own now", and then throw some pills at you if you're struggling
DurendaI
We do. At least, in the Air Force. That's a really big part of our basic training.
LearnSomething
It's really not that easy. We do receive a lot of training on dealing with stress but it just doesn't work that way.
ButchLobster
Since before the First World War they've been trying to do that. That's why you get screamed at all day at boot camp. They try to stretch(1)
ButchLobster
Your nerves as far as they can. Crazy drills, crazy high standards for daily routine, physically exhausting drills, forcing you to depend(2)
ButchLobster
On your comrades. Much more. Training is designed to get you used to stress, high tension situations. The routine they pound into you is(3)
ButchLobster
To give you the skills to be able to operate under pressure. To be able to think and make decisions in battle. That's the whole point.
Gymratthatsnotadouche
War, greed, oil, drugs, big pharma.
justahumanbeing
All controlled by the banking cartels who control the media, who control the masses
TheDivineUsersub
And in all this, Pornhub, a place for sexual defiling and release, does more for its communities than all of the above combined.
shtposting10101
Sounds like you've got a good grasp on american politics.
Gymratthatsnotadouche
Reason why I quit Facebook. American politics, love being Canadian.... Sorry
Buttsmith
r/im14andthisisdeep
justahumanbeing
I didnt know that shit when I was 14. Maybe because there wasnt internet yet.
Gymratthatsnotadouche
Sadly I've seen the first three on military helmets....
Gymratthatsnotadouche
In reference to God greed oil drugs
outlawjosey
Welcome home
nutjob2
...and get your hands on some Ecstasy.
nutjob2
Google "PTSD Ecstasy"
bryanreed
How was it defending the most ignorant selfish nation in the world?
Glaineargcroi
Chill man. This isn't the thread to be throwing that type of talk around.
bryanreed
I'm genuinely sorry about that post. Thanks disagreeing respectfully.
AuryxBecauseWhyNot
Who the fuck dislikes this
TolvanT2ielik
isn't the military voluntary in USA?
Glaineargcroi
Yes it is.
TolvanT2ielik
so basically some people sign up to go kill others and then come back surprised that they feel like shit?
AuryxBecauseWhyNot
No. They sign up to defend our country, knowing full well that it could result in serious injury or death, and come home scarred. Fuck you.
Glaineargcroi
@TolvanT2ielik, I am just a normal person trying to make a living in the world. I personally have never killed anyone but 1/..
DurendaI
Sanitarium?
BigBossTheMSFCommander
Leave me be
DurendaI
I got downvoted... :(
Dsharppe
Just leave me alone.
Glaineargcroi
Is it a game reference?
GelidIce
Do you feel like a hero yet?
Glaineargcroi
It isn't about being a hero, I am just trying to provide for myself and live my life.
Glaineargcroi
No :/
GelidIce
You're dismissed, Soldier. ((Reference to Spec Ops: The Line))
GelidIce
Good.
Janusha
Surely EVERYBODY who comes home from deployment cant return in a state of being fucked?
MrSmilingDeath
Obviously not, but an overwhelming majority of them do.
Janusha
In that case.... America needs to do war differently. What fucks people up is coming home to poverty and unemployment. Not all about PTSD
MrSmilingDeath
Of course. The whole meaning of this picture is that most veterans that come home don't get the proper treatment, regardless of their...
MrSmilingDeath
condition. Got PTSD? You'll get put on meds instead of proper therapy. Having trouble integrating into the civilian populous? You'll most...
MrSmilingDeath
likely be left in poverty because you won't be directed to the right career path. Of course, plenty of veterans manage pretty well, but...
Janusha
I know. But who GETS anything in the US. Remember they PRIDE themselves on not getting basic shit like... Healthcare, education, pensions...
MrSmilingDeath
I wouldn't say we pride ourselves on those things. Free healthcare would be pretty nice, but no one can agree on a good way to switch to it.