Never thought this would happen to me.

May 1, 2023 8:43 PM

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I was out walking around my neighborhood when I decided it was hot and I got some slurpees from a 7/11 on my way home. Immediately when I walked outside a man noticed me (I'm a fairly small lady) and started hitting on me. He asked if those slurpees were for him and I gave a little laugh and said "No sorry." Him now keeping up with me asked if they were for my sisters and I said "No it's for my husband." He then said that I was lying and backed off. Now when I first looked at him I had this visceral gut reaction that something was wrong with him and he was dangerous. Glad to be rid of him I started walking home. Shortly after however he was back saying weird things like "she's a bitch". Getting a bad feeling again I texted my husband to come meet me outside a guy was following me. This man was holding an opened bottle of liquor and asking a ton of personal questions and other comments. Things like was I really married, I was really fine, I want to hang out with you sometime. I kept walking giving short, polite responses as I didn't want to risk making him mad. He keeps following me which is making me really scared at this point so I'm spam calling my husband with my phone to my side. I could tell he was getting angry as his tone and words were getting more irritated. He was now saying things like I'm not going to hurt you and let me walk closer to you, you look scared. My husband finally picks up his phone so I put it up to my ear and all I said was "I need you now" and he said "I know I'm already outside". At this point the guy crosses the street and my husband comes running around the corner from the street we live on. This guy is screaming curses at us now. My husband started escorting me home but he stopped. That man who was following me is now standing across the street staring at us. After a few seconds he ducks behind a car then peeks out. My husband didn't want that guy to watch us get into our house and know where we live. After a while the guy finally turns and walks away and my husband had us walk where a large truck was blocking us.

We got home and even though this man didn't attack me, we both felt severely sick afterwards. This happened in broad daylight, right next to an elementary school. Whenever I'm out now I keep looking around for this guy expecting him to be somewhere watching me.

*most viral edit. Wow thanks for the support! I posted this as a way to vent and didn't expect so much love. I'm definitely going to carry pepper spray from now on. And if that ever happens again I'll bee line for a populated area. Keep safe out there everyone!

*EDIT #2. I did it, I filed a police report. Hopefully this helps catch this creep or at least the police will keep an eye out for him.

so enraging

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Hopefully you filed a police report. That guy probably has committed prior assaults and should be reported.

2 years ago | Likes 287 Dislikes 2

I've said this to many people and I'll say it again: Open palm so you don't break fingers and strike at the nose with the heel of your hand. Kick them in the groin and claw at their eyes. Fight like your life depends on it because if someone is making you feel unsafe and doesn't fuck off then it really does. There's no such thing as fighting dirty if your life depends on it.

2 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 2

Call the police. Order a few cans of UDAP “jogger fogger”. It is about the strongest pepper spray in the business. If you think a person is about to unlawfully put their hands on you, blast em. Is also not a crime to produce it and keep walking, displaying it as a credible threat. I feel bad that this happened to you, my wife and I have had similar issues when we were younger. Just keep extra alert for a few…

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

Tell the police. I had a very close encounter when I was younger and didn't want to make a big deal about it at the time. I wish I would have now.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I don't expect you to have a photo of the guy, but I wish you guys documented him. You could file a report and potential restraining order. It's possible that your wife is not the first to be stalked. His behavior suggests he's done this before and will again.

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

yeah, this isn't his first rodeo. tell the cops. get the store's security cam, tell the school security officer face to face right away.

2 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

Note to guys: When speaking to women you don't know, don't say anything you wouldn't be comfortable hearing from a 350lb cellmate.

2 years ago | Likes 23 Dislikes 4

To those saying wow: this happens to women all the time. I've had to call a friend so I could be ready to yell details because a car followed me walking home in broad daylight. My friend got sucker punched for ignoring a catcall, I've had my ass grabbed on a crowded train and platform, and 'compliments' turn into threats real quick if you ignore them.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I’m sorry this happened to you and I’m glad you’re both ok. It’s so good that you listened to your intuition and yours hubs helped you!

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Your husband did excellent husbanding.

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Get some pepper spray and if you can legally carry one, a pocket knife. I don't know your stance on firearms, but that's also an option.

2 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 3

Definitely call the police and give a full description of the guy. And then start carrying pepper spray like I do — spray the eyes, then when they open the mouth to tell, spray there. Then kick in the balls as hard as you can and run.

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Kudos to your husband for the heads up play of not going home immediately. And double kudos to you for having the presence of mind to contact him all while keeping the situation under control. I hope the police or the school are about to help resolve the situation.

2 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Happens to a lot of people :(

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I stopped a man from raping a lady ... between my car and my front door.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I hate that women have to feel they need protection while just out enjoying the day! I have recently started training at Gracie Jiu Jitsu, and it is a good feeling to have options if a situation like this comes up. It is not a guarantee, but it is great excersize and great possible actions to take!

2 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

Exactly! I'm trying to exercise and be outside more. Can't I walk around outside without being hunted?!

2 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

I've had something almost identical to this happen (I'm not married though) and I've also been offered money to watch someone fap/have sex and I've also been flashed. All of this happened in broad daylight. I have so many more stories I could share. They have all frightened me into a constant state of paranoia and anxiety. I really am glad your husband was home and came out to help you. I'm glad you are physically safe. Give yourself time to process this. It's bloody scary 💜

2 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Describe the guy to a manager at the 7/11 if they know who he is they might have filed similar incident reports or have a photo of him for your report

2 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

They have him on camera I'll bet

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'm sorry. I tell my wife to be a bitch from the start if a guy hits on her at the gas station and then go back inside the store and tell them to call the cops if the guy doesn't back off.

2 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 1

Yeah, I'd probably jump to "Fuck off" as soon as he asked if the slurpees were for him, or straight up ignore him. And wait for help inside the store. Don't give him a chance to follow

2 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

As fucked up and scary and wrong as all that was (and my heart goes out to you - I would be freaked out enough having that happen to me as a big dude), when you got to the part about your husband running around the corner, my mind immediately went to

2 years ago | Likes 38 Dislikes 0

here’s a gif one with plat plat sound

2 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Yes! He was zooming. Thanks for the laugh, I love frogs.

2 years ago | Likes 22 Dislikes 0

Well in that case…

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

"I'm not going to hurt you" and other things stated by harmless, well meaning individuals /s

2 years ago | Likes 26 Dislikes 0

..So what happened to the slurpees?

2 years ago | Likes 28 Dislikes 2

Yes that's a good point I would have a hard time using a phone with plural slurpees in my 2 hands.

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

"My husband didn't want that guy to watch us get into our house and know where we live." YES! THIS!!

2 years ago | Likes 27 Dislikes 0

Yeah, this is why even if you aren't a giant piece of shit like this guy, cat calling isn't cool. A lot of women deal with this shit. I've seen it myself just walking down the street.

2 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Also, honking at people walking beside the street. I won't walk to the grocery store anymore cause I hate creepy dudes honking at me

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Welcome to the regular issues of being an attractive women. Somebody I spoke to for less than five minutes over seven years ago in a waiting room just contacted my cousin yesterday to see if she could get me in touch with him. Half of straight men are insane, I swear

2 years ago | Likes 30 Dislikes 6

Woman*

2 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 4

Welll that’s insanely creepy !

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

File a police report and inform the elementary school principal verbally with follow-up in writing

2 years ago | Likes 662 Dislikes 3

Damn thats dark. (and likely accurate)

2 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 1

Had some women here do that recently and cops found him and found he was on probation for stalking next city over. So now they have proof he violated probation.

2 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

Also notify social services. The guy could need evaluation.

2 years ago | Likes 78 Dislikes 1

Fuck that.. Dude needs a bullet. Sorry not sorry.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 3

This. Every other response falls short. Get social services involved.

2 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 2

Social services probably better 'cause we don't want the guy dead

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

Some of what he was saying wasn't making sense. And he was jittery/jumping around. Maybe social services could help him.

2 years ago | Likes 76 Dislikes 0

That's a very kind thought and I admire you for thinking it. Maybe they could and hopefully they will, but that is secondary to protecting yourself and anybody else he might harm.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

The chances are extremely higher that hes a tweaker. A meth addict. But that if creep is around a school there needs to be an all points bulletin out to bring him in. Is he is dangerous. Don't give him the benefit of the doubt. Nothing can help him at this point but jail and forced treatment.

2 years ago | Likes 35 Dislikes 2

Before carrying a weapon or doing self defence classes and whatnot I read here, my tip would've been: Go where other people are. Into a store. A library or museum. To a crowded place. Something like that. And tell people there that you are followed and feel threatened.

2 years ago | Likes 42 Dislikes 1

It wasn't a serious situation, but got weirdly hit on by a guy, I slipped into the nearby flea market for a bit before heading home.

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Even most elementary schools will let you in the front door and you can stand in the little office with the secretary until the cops come.

2 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Honestly, I think this is true for most places. Probably even most homes will let you in if you look distraught enough.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

The only real problem with that is that there's no knowing if anyone is even home or not, and its better to get somewhere with other people.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Yes. There's a bakery right next to that 7/11 that always has women working in it. He said if that ever happens again to go into the bakery. Don't try to make it home, get help.

2 years ago | Likes 39 Dislikes 0

Similar escalation happened to me eating out by myself in the middle of a restaurant one time. The kitchen staff snuck me out the back. They knew this guy as a regular and let him stay.

2 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

That's kinda fucked up.

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

That sucks they gave him special treatment but maybe it distracted him from pursuing you

2 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Ah, that battery charge brings back memories. Very similar thing happened to my wife about 20 some odd years ago. Only difference he was more aggressive and tried to grab her. I ran up and without word attacked the man. I beat the crap out of him and my wife had to tell me to stop. I was arrested and charged with battery. They dropped the charges so it never went anywhere. We never saw that man again. The violence I displayed scared my wife and that started my anger management classes.

2 years ago | Likes 44 Dislikes 2

Most people don't realize this, they think that if they assault someone, they'll go to prison. Nope, if the cops even show up at all, they'll take one look at the stalker person, and drop charges, and you'll be fine. You think these creeps can afford lawyers? Hell no.

2 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 5

They can. My stalker had a lawyer and walked out free after stalking me for 3 years. He will be back, but next time he will most likely go to jail- at least I hope so. Cops were helpful in my case, it was the judge that basically let him go.

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

So, what you're saying is, the system failed and you should have just assaulted him?

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Absolutely not. I don't believe in violence. I just wish he would be monitored by an ankle thether. I would feel safer and gotten a harsher sentence.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

It doesn't matter if you don't believe in violence. It will happen either way. Don't confuse being peaceful with being harmless.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

You still did the right thing.

2 years ago | Likes 42 Dislikes 1

It’s either beat him before or after he does something awful to your wife. You did the right thing

2 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Tell the police. II you (and others) don't then nothing will get done about it. If you and others do, then eventually a pattern will emerge.

2 years ago | Likes 1447 Dislikes 10

Depends where you live if I'd bother with the police or not. Anywhere that votes Trump, probably not.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 5

I spent most of my life in a blue state. 2 red states shirt term. The many, many differences are stark, chilling, disturbing.....

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

Any that were most notable to you?

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 2

Sadly this will only create a paper trail for people to reference when they guy actually hurts someone; like the guy in TX who executed a family who asked him to quit shooting in the air at 1am & cops had ignored dozens of complaints about the illegal activity

2 years ago | Likes 24 Dislikes 1

That paper trail can prove useful in court....

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Never involve the police they only make things worse. ACAB

2 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 7

I've seen too many videos where the victim calls the police and the police kick the shit out of the victim, arrest them, shoot them, rape them, etc. Honestly your police forces are fucking stupid. Do what you can to protect yourself.

2 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 13

Assuming the guy's now an off-duty cop himself...or has 'friends on the force'.

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 4

Speaking from experience, the police won't do shit. When I had something similar happen they literally told me NOT to file a restraining order because then **" I "** could get in trouble too if I'm ever close to him, or if an altercation occurs. Police are worthless.

2 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 2

Restraining orders font prevent stalking or whatever, but if one's in place that means the perp was warned officially and that can drive more serious charges & jail time, etc.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

great, tell the police that then.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

That's a great way to get yourself beaten to death or killed. If the lady you do this to has a husband, boyfriend, or father that is protective you may just eat a bullet. I'm very protective of the women in my life from my wife, daughter in law, sisters, etc and have literally beaten a man down for following my wife around a mall and out to our car where I was. Then I called the cops and told them I was simply protecting my wife. He got charged and I went home with my wife.

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

If I raised a son like that I'd puke every day.

2 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Dear men who are told by the women in your lives that they've felt threatened: stop defending these creeps. You don't even know them. You know the women. Do better.

2 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

While I agree, I worked at a gas station in a bad town for a few years. Cops don't care. They never show up, and when they do, it's never to help.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Cool, they'll know who was responsible for the 27 serial murders then

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

Also notify corporate for the store.

2 years ago | Likes 316 Dislikes 2

That's more likely to get a police response than you calling the police.

2 years ago | Likes 133 Dislikes 3

Yay capitalism!

2 years ago | Likes 29 Dislikes 1

Calling the policy in America will likely result in them coming to the house for a report and shooting your dog. Steer clear

2 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 3

Exactly this. He's going to make a headline sooner or later.

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 2

The police?! She is a person, not some rich assholes property. Police aren't going to do shit.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

You'd think that, but I reported something similar once and while the cops were polite and professional I really got the impression that no, they don't keep track of these instances and put patterns together. There wasn't even a form to fill out or anything. They seemed so confused about why I would be reporting it if they couldn't immediately track the guy down.

2 years ago | Likes 47 Dislikes 1

They don't even solve *murders* anymore. They're not about to bother investigating "harassment." Sigh.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

indeed...i have issues with a neighbour...every time i call the cops two new morons show up who think this is a new one-time issue...every time i tell them its a recurring issue and they shall finally fucken do their fucken jobs...nope...best case he gets another verbal warning...worst case they threaten me...you would think they write reports and eventually someone connects the dots, but nope...fucken imcompetent bastards...

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

This is the sad truth. Source: I've been working with forensic teams for most 20 years... They're not smart enough to put together a pattern and they don't have the AI to do it for them. They're fucking idiots and they will file a report and it'll go in a virtual "drawer" and never be seen again. Til he kills someone and then "there were nine complaints against the murderer... Why wasn't he apprehended?" bullshit happens...

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

Seriously??? We need to publicize these areas!

2 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

It's everywhere in the US that has a property tax lower than a year's rent. Cops are spectacularly lazy about paperwork if they can't solve your problem before it's filled out. I've seen them refuse to make reports about deliberate property damage when the person who did it left, decline to help when someone's car broke down in the middle of a busy intersection even though they were right there, refuse to send anyone for a domestic even though I could hear them beating the shit out of each other

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

and just generally reply "that sounds like a you problem." Every third true crime story/report starts with cops not giving a fuck that someone was missing/scared/having a health crisis. If there is no one present to bully, they probably can't be arsed.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

The guy who massacred the family in Texas had dozens of police complaints about illegally firing into the air at all hours of the day & night and all the cops ever did was drive out, tell him to take the night off from trying to kill the moon, and drive off.

2 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Lol the police won't do a goddamn thing. They are in no way preventative

2 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 3

Where do u all live? I spent most of my life in a blue state & that is not my experience. Tho truthfully I had little contact w local police over the years. But their response to others was as it sb....

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 3

Boston, MA is a pretty blue area and I can confirm police were worthless for me when this kind of shit happened.

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

Red state here. Same red state where a guy gunned down his neighbors. Same state as murders at a grocery store. Same state that had 19 children killed in an elementary school. Know what has been done since all these? Not a damn thing.

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

That's my experience too. They wait until there's a crimescene yuck

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

That's nothing to do with the police generally. More to do with not being able to arrest people that haven't committed a crime yet. As unfortunate as that is, the alternative would be fucked up like the minority report. Plenty of police however are incompetent as fuck at investigating things that HAVE happened.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Even if there is a crime, often all they do is file the paperwork then proceed to do nothing.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Too true... I have unfortunately had that experience as well

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

police will still do nothing, maybe shoot one of your neighbors dog, police only react when crime is commits and don't prevent it.

2 years ago | Likes 60 Dislikes 71

Bruh not every single cop is a dog murdering psychopath who ignores everything actual crime, you watch too much news

2 years ago | Likes 54 Dislikes 20

That might be true, but is it worth the risk?

2 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 8

As a victim of multiple crimes and cops did nothing to help me, acab. They either are actively toxic, or they participate in a toxic system. There is no in-between anymore.

2 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 8

I say this as a gang sexual assault victim who is transgender and when I went to the police who were within earshot for help after, they threatened to arrest me for prostitution. ACAB.

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

Even if they do want to help which some do. Not much to go on. Still worth reporting in case he escalates shows the guy has a history

2 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 3

My brother called the cops on a sketchy guy snooping around a neighbors house, gave a description. Cops show up, the described sketchy guy says my brother is the sketchy guy and he has to convince them otherwise. Eventually the cops tell the sketchy guy to leave and then leave themselves. Next day brother talks to the neighbor, the guy has been stalking her and she's reported it before.

2 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 3

At best they are bad at their jobs. Go ahead and file a report but don't expect anything to come of it.

2 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 2

ACAB

2 years ago | Likes 21 Dislikes 19

AACAB, keep your messed up standards in your own great country, kthx.

2 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 10

Not ever single one. Just like 90% of them

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 2

Documentation is still documentation and can help identify repeat offenders. Don't be an idiot, you're literally giving out bad advice to push a narrative. Satirical or not.

2 years ago | Likes 60 Dislikes 5

I got hit by a hit and run driver while bike commuting. After waiting over a hour for a cop, he refused to make a report.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

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2 years ago (deleted May 7, 2023 5:56 AM) | Likes 0 Dislikes 0

As unhelpful as that guy was, they were right about one thing. Police can't do anything unless an actual crime was committed. They aren't even necessarily obligated to document the incident, especially if OP doesn't have anything specific to tell them about who that man was. Contacting the police and reporting it is a good idea, but let's also temper our expectations a bit. (And pointing out that it's ensuring a paper trail in the event of a double murder isn't exactly reassuring.)

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2 years ago (deleted May 7, 2023 5:56 AM) | Likes 0 Dislikes 0

Carry mace. And if the children r ever mentioned call 9-1-1 so the police can tell the school to lock down til the perp is apprehended.

2 years ago | Likes 64 Dislikes 0

Most states are anti mace. The recommendation is wasp spray for a go around. The attacker will need to seek an ER.

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 2

+this is 100% false

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Ok mace vs pepper spray, %of capsicum in spray content. However city/town/county & state laws vary. Bear spray may be permitted in hunting areas but not highly populated areas. At least 25 states have specific regulations.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Having bear spray is stupid unless you're around a bear. It's not as potent as regular pepper spray, it just has a longer range. It's meant to scare a bear away not render it incapable of seeing and breathing like pepper spray is.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

If it's legal. Some states don't allow it. Same with shock devices.

2 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 3

CORRECTION allowed in all 50 states though there are restrictions in some states. Shock devices are restricted - for instance here in Michigan I can't even buy one to be shipped to me.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Pepper spray us allowed to be used in 50 states if ur -18 yrs of age or older-. I looked it up. It included a map & all were filled in, as well as the wordafe above.

2 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Red states?

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Ironically, no. It's my biggest gripe that blue states aren't just anti-gun, they seem to be anti-self defense. You have to try running away, often a tactical blunder since it tires you and if they catch you you're now further from help and have less stamina. You can't escalate, so if they try to punch you and you beat them senseless, or grab a knife, they're now the victim. Meanwhile, a lot of them don't allow mace over a certain size, batons, tasers, knives, etc. It's messed up.

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

First ive heard of something like this

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

When I was a security guard, one of the guys in the plant with access to the laser cutter made thick rectangular aluminum keychains with our names on them for me and the other girl who did solo nightshifts because he didn't like that there was a college girl working the truck checkpoints alone every night. He handed us each a pair of them and said if anyone ever forced their way in the shack, the corners are strong enough. Aim for the jugular. I still have them on my keys 15yrs later.

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

what blue state doesn't allow pepper spray ?

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'm done expecting the police to help. I think I'd put my bag down, take out the heaviest object and swing at him with it while screaming. Or dump my drink on him. If these people don't have anybody stand up to them, they'll keep doing this shit. (I don't blame you at all though, not everybody feels like they are physically big enough to do this. I'm 5'9", over 200lbs lady in sneakers.) Bullies don't stop until they're MADE to stop. He only stopped because your husband showed up.

2 years ago | Likes 113 Dislikes 27

I get where you are coming from but you roll the dice between this scaring the asshole off or them escalating the physical confrontation.

2 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

You're risking the asshole escalating the situation either way. At least confronting them has a chance of stopping it. Horrible people don't stop their bad behavior because they succeeded in making someone scared of them-- that's a win for them! That's what they want. They stop when they are made to stop.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

This. I've been through this situation many times and the police proved over and over how shitty they are by not doing anything. I had an officer laugh at me and say, "Ya know ma'am, we dont take these calls seriously." Fuck the police. Protect yourself. Carry a tazer and pepper spray.

2 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 3

So you have the right to judge someone's crimes, sentence them and carry it out yourself? You dont get to just attack people because you dont like what they are doing all your plan is going to do is get you arrested for assault(probably unprovoked assault). OP should have called the police immediately, state her location and have an audible conversation with the police. He would likley leave and if not the police now have a face to the complaint so if he comes back harrassment can be pressed.

2 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 37

LOL Your first sentence is such a wildly inaccurate take on this, that I didn't bother reading further.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Yeh good idea call the pilice infront of somebody who will likely stab and rape you in a bush before the pilice even know your location or thinks its worth theor time to even go there

2 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 4

Well... I mean yeah that sounds like a very good idea. I'm also realizing I'm not in the USA and trust the local police in canada

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 3

Lucky...

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

I'm pretty sure canada has laws against verbal assault/threats, verbal sexual harassment and stalking, all of which this guy did already, so hopefully it would lean more towards self defense than assault if she had protected herself with violence. There's also plenty of corruption in Candian police too, though not all are corrupt, the system has accountability issues just like American cops.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Absolutely, I agree that it's largely pointless to hope that they'll actually do anything. However. Reporting is still important, because it can create a paper trail. If this guy DID get caught later for something, having a written record of things that can be pointed to by the cops and/or prosecution in a trial could make the difference between outcomes.

2 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 2

Exactly this. Thank you.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

A paper trail is literally just someone writing things down. I can do that too, but I'm not holding my breath anything will change much.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Someone writing things down *and filing them in an official place*. You can write things down all you want but the point here is that a file gets made on the guy & it's stored in official records. Again, don't get me wrong, I 100% share your cynicism about how unlikely it is for anything to be done, but a paper trail makes it possible / easier for the right things to happen in the unlikely event anything IS done.

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Sure, get a paper trail! I just don't have any faith whatsoever in a cop believing me (I'm not a white male). File that paperwork all day long. But don't expect anything to come of it, because it won't.

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Murderers, kidnappers and rapists love it when you put your bag down and try to fight. You grab your heaviest object and they use the shark pokey blade in the pocket or a gun. Just run, call police and hunker down somewhere safe preferably with trusted people of you could let the next Boston strangler walk around and attempt it again on someone

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I disagree completely with your first premise. No, they don't love it-- no one wants to get wrecked. They want to have power over you, or they want to take your $, that's it. They are high school bullies that just got older and didn't grow up. They are thinking about what they want from the other person, and the feeling of power they get from harassing them. All it would take is one person to stop them. I'm not saying everyone can do this, but if I can fight back, I'm going to.

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Okay they may not love it but you ain't wrecking shit, you seem to think you will over powering them and screaming always works. Murderers don't care what you do and thieves if you drop your bag it's easier to snatch. If I was a murderer and you did that I would be like "this is gonna be easy". Not everybody is driving by bullying. If I'm high on crack and need money it has nothing to do with bullying

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If I hate humanity and want to hurt them you think stopping will stop me from wanting to kill someone. I will give you rapists but this bully belief is so stupid. You're acting like they're serial killers and require a pattern.

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Then the fact that size means nothing in this day and age. One well placed shot or stabbing them right will end the life quicker than you can retaliate. Like the mall fight video you can find he got in a fight, guy poked him in the neck and the guy bled out. No size matters

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AGAIN, I only advocate this for people that are physically able to. But they will not stop on their own. The must be forced to stop. I'm not giving a perfect solution that works 100% of the time, and to be honest, a solution doesn't have to work 100% of the time for it to be effective. How do you know how murderers think, anyway? You seem to be speaking for them a lot.

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