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Hi Imgur. I’m benedictcucumberpatch’s best friend. We’ve known each other since primary school, and she’s asked me to do a quick post to let you all know how she’s doing.
Before I get to that, I’ve seen a post or two flying around with links to the American Bladder Association or something similar. Just to make it known publicly, this isn’t something my gorgeous friend has ever requested anyone donate to, and she was a firm believer in the notion of effective altruism - i.e. donating to a charity where your money or time will have the most impact it can. She mainly liked to find small local charities or individuals, where she could really make a difference, and that’s what I’d encourage you to do now.
Without further ado:
“Well, that’s it then. The final curtain. I’ve given up the ghost. Kicked the bucket. Breathed my last. Gone to meet my Maker to file a complaint.
What a joy and a privilege it’s been.
I don’t intend to pontificate on all I’ve seen and done and learnt, and I’ll try to keep this short and sweet. You can all rest assured, I’ve done enough.
I want to say a huge thank you to this wonderful community. You probably know by now that @MartynMage has declared me a legend, and who am I to dispute that?
To each and everyone one of you who took the time to reach out, know that you brought me so much happiness. I’m hoping to guilt trip my wonderful friend into keeping this account open, so the messages can be read into the wind, and a piece of me kept alive through him.
I wonder if I should use this time to ramble about how all countries should have universal healthcare and assisted dying. I think y’all have probably heard enough of that from me though.
So, what can I say? Love each other, be honest and kind, and cherish the living fuck out of those that matter to you. You don’t always get to choose when the grim reaper comes for you, but you can choose how you interact with the world today.”
God, I love her.
I will, with Imgur’s permission, keep this account open and read through each and every one of your messages. I’ve also been charged with keeping Dobby on the road, if I can. I might choose to post some of the places we visit together, or I might not. Grief can be unpredictable at times.
All that remains to say is rest easy, my friend.
Sumdumguy42
Rest In Peace
BigDumbGinger
Given circumstances, she's gone her chosen way. I'm looking forward to Dobby's New Adventures - thank you for being her trusted friend. x
TinyOctopus
In times like this all the words are appropriate, and yet none of them are. Be well and sleep easy friend. Put down your burden. we got this
ColdfreezeZero
I'm going to miss her, I don't know her personally, but she showed me an outlook on life I will never forget
8BitDinosaur
DadOnTheInternet
Derfboy
This was the most difficult click in my life. She spread so much love. An angel before and now forevermore.
bedat5am
Agreed, knowing what was to follow the click made me think and really read rather than scan. A moment of reflection.
ImmortalChild
You're a good friend. Sending you both hugs, although hers will have to travel a bit farther to get there :)
plusonefororegonians
She’ll still get them :)
MrBizarre
My sentiments exactly !
eclips1st
“Why are you crying mom?” “An internet stranger passed away…” fuck. I’m so sorry
Goldenteckel
500flyboy
PoppaBigBear
Didn't need to read that right now but yeah...
engel762
Cancer got my Mom 364 days ago, look for her when you get there, she's good people.
bigalamcc
It’s amazing how people can be brought together through such grief. Thanks for celebrating her life, it’s incredibly moving.
KillerEnigma87
Rest easy friend. You will be missed
RoxannaTroy
I can only hope to be as brave as she is, in the end. Death with Dignity is so important, and I really hope more countries see that soon.
NotAgainRichard
oh. December 8 she posted the start of this. That wasn't long. Fuck cancer. I feel like i should be doing something more worthwhile.
SnargleBlaster
We hope you are doing well too, thank you for being a good friend.
JustSomePersonThere
Well, I didn’t think I would be crying today either, but here we are.
MartynMage
Goldenteckel
You've always been kind to everyone, Martyn, but what you did there goes even beyond that. I wish you all the best in life !
Minitokiwarsid
Thank you @MartynMage! For giving Becca the recognition she deserved and the best care and act of love that this community has to offer :')
MorrighanWolf
inkmartyr
Pseudobatrachotoxin
Thank you for your service @MartynMage in making her legendary… she certainly will be missed.
BurningVeryImportantThings
I made it through the entire post with a huge lump in my throat and then this
I just started cry laughing
Twinklepot
May she rest in peace ?. I hope you are doing ok yourself.
dreadpiratekhan
putcleverusernamehere
Imgur is my only foray into social media, and I really came here to be amused by dogs. But I've come away touched, a lasting ...1/2...
putcleverusernamehere
...2/2....memory created by brief contact with a stranger on the internet. Unexpected to say the least. Poignant. Melancholy.
Howdoyoulikedemapples
MoreCatsThanSense
Her attitude to cancer was the same as my late sister's, and for that I salute her. Farewell Traveller, until our paths cross once again.
AutomaticSlims
I’ve been on Imgur for many years and her posts had a profound impact on me. Thank you. Sending hugs.
BurningVeryImportantThings
BurningVeryImportantThings
fucking legend
Mockingbirb
Famous last words from a true legend, well posted by a real friend. I second the idea to keep this running, I won't forget her anyway.
bluefisherking
Thank you for posting. It surprises me how invested I am in her journey. Love & warm feelings to you both. Oh- I do hope to hear about Dobby
Easykehl
RideTheStimutacs
The ball hasn't deflated in, let's see here... Two years, one month, and counting.
IHaveGreatKittenRecipes
Two years in Aug for me and yeah, that fucking ball hasn't shrunk one bit. I've just gotten better at not tripping over the box as often.
Muunk
Thanks Imgur for connecting us to special people like her that we'd otherwise never get to meet. @sarah
sarah
That's my favorite thing about this community. ?
Goldenteckel
We may be "Ships that pass in the night, and speak each other in passing", but, here, there's more than Longfellow's "darkness and silence".
TheRealR0tb3rt
I just got out of bed and this is the first post. I just wanna go back and cry like a baby for the rest of the day. :(
dreadpiratekhan
Same, and same
MadamPuddifoot
Ver much same. I can't even put into words all the things that I'm feeling, all for a stranger who impacted SO many by telling her truth.
crashmat
It's amazing how many emotions we can feel for someone we barely got to know. Love for her travels, hope for possible treatments...
crashmat
...joy at seeing another post pop up, sadness when when realising it was ending and loss now she has traveled on alone.
Ithoughtshesaidannul
I have legit cried for this girl so much today. Damn, life is just short. I considered getting my law degree but now I really want to ?.
picklemunkey
I wonder if we can get a little miniature of Dobby, and mail it around to those who are up for it, take them on photo-adventures.
AlpacaMyBagsAndGoNow
I would love to do that so much! Id bring it to every mountaintop I stand on
Derfboy
Well fuck me, I'm in. The absolute BIGGEST of dots on this one!
EnigmaWearingHeels
I know artists who can make this happen. I'm sure we have several in our imgur community as well. <3
mindedfuture
I’m so down for a Dobby adventure!
HillOfBeans
I was going to meet Becca in France in June- she was so hopeful to be still traveling there on her way to (the compassionate country). 1/
HillOfBeans
I’d love to take a photo or “matchbox” car of Dobby with me and share some travels. My heart is broken for everyone who loves her. 2/2
Goldenteckel
I remember : you talked about the Alps, and she was truly happy with your offer. Kindest hugs from France, to your loved ones and yourself.
HillOfBeans
Thank you kindly. I wish the very same to you and yours.
Mayyybe
Thank you so much for this, I’ve been waiting patiently for the final update. I was told that the link was what was requested, I’ll take it
schizznatt
Do you know her?
Mayyybe
Down. Can I ask what charities she would have wanted donations sent to?
SeeMyVests
It doesn’t sound like taking it down is necessary, it’s an option if people want to choose it. Your sentiment remains, love takes many forms
tehmoosezor
When my GF passed I asked to donate to any no kill shelter or donate a purpose they believe in. Was nice to see her name associated 1/2
tehmoosezor
with so many donations and thank you's from any and all donation provided.
Everyonesfavorite
Planned parenthood always needs money ?
IRegretThisUsername
I can't second this enough
tzxAzrael
"something local that matters to you" basically.
Slimewire
Check out thelifeyoucansave.org for an idea of how to think about effectiveness
Mayyybe
Yes, I understand that, I just wanted to know if the family had something in mind.
tzxAzrael
yea... for you to pick something that matters to you.
Higure
That's what the post said. Effective altruism also means doing some good research and thinking about what you ACTUALLY want the money to 1/2
Higure
achieve. The best example I know is that if you want your money to be as efficient as it can to increase total hours of school attendance2/3
Higure
in developing countries, then worm treatments are about 100x more efficient than building new schools. 3/3