Finally telling my story

Jan 25, 2018 4:35 AM

Hesus00

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I am a 17 year old boy and have lived with my dad my whole life he one most of the custody of my sister and I. I was 3 she was 5 so I have no real idea of them being together so them being separated never bothered me. At 5 my dad married a women he met on the internet from Russia (mail order bride) I was excited for him and for a year her being here was great! Then it started.... the mental abuse of telling me I was stupid and that I can’t go anywhere without being as smart as my older sister even though I was only 6 at the time and my sister was 9 I was barely allowed outside because my work “wasn’t at the right level”. She tried everything she could to keep my self respect at the lowest it could be. What has stayed with me the most from that age was she would read the papers I would write in a voice of someone who was the dumbest person possible. Even sometimes skipping words I wrote to make me feel even worse. This caused me to have a fear of writing anything and feel like I just wasn’t as smart as the rest of the family or kids in my class. Over time it turned into physical abuse once she realized that my dad wouldn’t stop her only scold her. One time thinking I said “Close the damn door” when I said “Close the dang door” which I can see why it sounds similar but without words or letting me know she walks up behind me when I am washing the dishes and punches me as hard as she can in my back. My dad said why did you do that and she said I cursed and she said didn’t you. And gave me a look that is only described as a threat. After that it happened more and more just little shoves and slams but when I reached 16 little over a year ago she crossed a line. I came home from my moms to her being mad that I can home on my Sunday that I was suppose to without asking her to see if it was okay with her and I said that she isn’t my parent and she said well I’m a better mom than yours and I raised you and I am your mom. I told her that sorry but no matter how hard you try you won’t be my mom and she lost it but not with words she ran up to me grabbed me by my throat and started chocking me while slamming me against the front door. The worst part as I couldn’t breath I saw my father, the man that said he loved me more than anything in his life, sit there and watch.

I saw this post and made me want to tell my story because now I called DSS and live full time with my mom and got myself into a private high school. Also got accepted to my dream college but now that I left the house and the DSS was settled because her and my dad said that I attacked her and I was an aggressive teen they tried talking to me and I went with it but every time she speaks or looks at me I think of what she did and how I can never get my childhood back that she took from me but this Post gave me happiness and strength to finally tell my story since still to this day my principle classmates and teachers think my stepmom was assaulted by me. @Latetotheparty23

Oh my goodness. Wow I am absolutely floored. @Hesus00. I am so glad you shared your story.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Similar story here. Step mom was mentally and verbally aggressive, becomes a saint when I have kids so she can be the “favorite grandma”

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

You're doing good. You're a good guy/gal. Seek professional help if you feel like it, even just a little.

8 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

Sounds eerily similar to my childhood too. When I tried to tell adults, they didn’t believe me as it was the “typical wicked step mom story”

8 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

TLDR. But I got the gist: Kick ass, and take names @op! Stay strong, & remember that all your weird internet friends are here for support.

8 years ago | Likes 41 Dislikes 4

I mean, he got a mail order bride, red flag right off the bat

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

*won

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

@Latetotheparty23

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Do her Russian style and chop her heads and hands off

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Your dad “one.” Won?

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Sorry @op but your dad is an inadequate human being and a terrible father. Remove yourself from his life as much as you can.

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Ok with age comes wisdom... when your arguing with a dick make sure there not arguing with a dick. But it’s a fucked situation, granted.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Op.... parents can be so cowardly and I speak from 100% first hand experience. I'm so sorry

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I know how that goes...First time I went away to college, all of a sudden my dad wants to be a father and I got 5 calls a day.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

That's a clear case of borderline personality disorder. Yay for you to getting away from her!! I can empathize coz my ex was the same!!

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I’m certain my mom would murder anyone that did that to her kids. She’s normally pretty chill but has raging mother bear instincts.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Hey, at least you're out here doing the most work and bettering yourself and she'll be a huge cunt forever.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Are you going to stop talking to your father and not mother or do you still want some kind of connection with him?

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Go to counseling see the value that is you.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Just getting out is great, but long-term you will probably need years of therapy, and I hope you have access to it.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Hell, may as well break her hip... I mean, if you’re getting accused of it anyway... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

8 years ago | Likes 105 Dislikes 2

If jeezus suggested it, it must mean it’s ok to do!!!

8 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

I mean, flipping tables and chasing people with whips is in the realm of possibilities.

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Full disclosure, my name is about unholy as it gets. I took it after Michael Jackson’s version of Jesus Juice. Also, I don’t think he raped

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Or molested kids. I think he was just super weird and made an was target.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

8 years ago | Likes 100 Dislikes 2

And love! Poor child! I am in tears!

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

8 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

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8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

My entire life wasn't shit but since 13 mom was an abusive drunk I was lucky though I had enough stupid courage to fight back when she tried

8 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Getting physical with me or my sister's when I was 16 she dumped me on my dad and honestly was the best thing that happened to me.

8 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

It took until a year ago to get over my fear of driving ,she would drink and drive with us in the car constantly and I think I developed a

8 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Fear of driving from it. Im good now its been a year of safe driving and I never drink and drive.

8 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

My heart breaks for you, @OP. Do whatever it takes to let go of the trauma or it will eat away at you like cancer. Get therapy if necessary.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Why are Americans shitscared of saying “god damn”? Why to they say “Gee Dee”?

8 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 3

Because one of the ten commandments is don't take the Lord's name is vain god dammit!

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

We aren’t, but consider it inappropriate for children to say.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Tiny baby Jesus is watching.

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Why do Germans dislike Nazis jokes. Its like that, but with god.

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

/a/oDxC6q8

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I have never heard anyone, in any state, say "gee dee" instead of "god dammit." Even in Catholic grade school. Nobody says that.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Friend from HS had a similar situation. Her dad watched as her stepmom abused her. She slept on the floor and had no furniture. His 1/2

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Stepson had every video game possible, never cleaned. The rest of his children abandoned him and CHOSE to live in poverty.

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Your writing is clear and concise @op another example your dad's wife is a fucking idiot, not you.

8 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 2

Okay... i really feel for the guy and wish him the best but it isn't well written. Yes cunt of a thing to say but it isn't.

8 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I thought it was. Not saying it can't improve but OP got the point across without any need to re-read for me.

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Fixed whoever down voted you for being a reasonable person

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Friend of mine's step dad did something called "pencil and the copy". He'd give her like 20 multiplication sums that she had to copy and 1

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

answer. She wasnt the smartest sweetheart and usually got them all wrong. Each wrong answer was how many slaps she got in return :( Cunts :(

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I wonder why someone with such a toxic learning environment would not be smart?

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

oh I know... such a mystery!

8 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Why did you just go with whatever they said though?

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 2

Because he was a child and this was treatment that conditioned him?

8 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I mean, I totally get that. But if he was already free and clear. It means the conditioning didn't really work right?

8 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 3

I don’t think you do “totally get it”. Shhhh, you’re making yourself sound dumb.

8 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 2