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I am a manager at local chain of restaurants in the Chicago area. I was recently promoted and have been exhausted from the extra hours I've been clocking lately. I went from about 38 hrs on average to 50 hrs.
Today a detective came into the store asking for one of the other managers that works there, Ralph*. (*not his real name but it is what I want to do when I think about him so.... ) The detective mentions that Ralph has been terrorizing this girl for months now - dragging her into camera-free zones, touching her inappropriately, forcing her into our coolers, etc. Apparently, there was 'relationship' for a while but after a couple weeks she told him that she didn't want to do anything with him any longer and that it didn't seem appropriate. He didn't think he should stop and didn't. And that's when all the problems started at work. I had no idea any of this was going on. They both kept everything to themselves.
I felt really awful not immediately feeling bad for her. I'm upset that I wasn't able to be a reliable source of guidance. She was the sweetest girl with a crazy amount of work ethic for a 15 year old. And she quit her job because Ralph couldn't calm his ass down.
My boss called and told me that Ralph was going to be fired tomorrow as well as taken in for questions by the detective that was at our store. Which means, my boss and I have to split Ralph's shifts while the company searches for a new manager to fill the spot. And when my company 'searches' for someone they take their sweet time. So, at least a week of 60+ hrs maybe more.
I'm still wondering how I'm going to survive with the extra hours and questions from our staff. Maybe my anger will sustain me?
I just wanted to get this out. I've only told a few people and I can't discuss it with anyone at work. Imgur is usually the place I go to when I'm down. So, send me stuff. Funny. Sad. Music. Pictures. Whatever.
CrappleJack
How could he do that to you??
MyMiddleNameIsLiterallyJoy
Stuff, eh? Well, here's my favorite toast: In wine, there is wisdom. In beer, there is happiness. In water, there is bacteria. Cheers!
TheMostOffensiveAndInsensitiveNameEverMade
Do you even get paid any more?
Rifneno
+1 just for not being another queef-tastic joke bear. And screw you if it is and I didn't get it.
LiterallyLordLucifer
Just don't send dicks. That's my job.
keyserv
Not cool, Ralph. Not cool.
iDigDinos
That's a really rough situation all around.
StabbyMcMurder
Just think of the extra money you'll be earning.
dangermint
so, you're hiring?
ktdid
Guess that's the gist of it.
JustHereToFactYouUp
If ots any justification, you have extra hours, but she has to live with it.
ktdid
That make me feel extra bad. :(
Abysse
Welcome to life, sometimes 72 hour work weeks happen. Suck it up and get it done. Move on with life.
ktdid
Yeah. Just like bitching yanno?
NatesSauceLab
Dude. I work 60-70 hours a week between a High School and 4 hospitals. And, I have 3 kids. Hint-- exercise during lunch, eat while working.
ktdid
More power to you. Gotta be difficult.
IWouldLickThat
What is the LEAST popular musical instrument? The kiddie fiddle!
Dynamite651
Ay, another person from Chicago. That's fuck up and a dick move. Do you know the age of the girl he was messing with?
ktdid
15
xyzzjp
Depends on whether you get paid by the hour!
ktdid
Salary. So yay and nay.
xyzzjp
do you get over-time?
ktdid
Don't believe so. Not sure yet actually.
XComApocalypse
If you inappropriately touch another minor, you don't have to work there anymore and you already know somebody in prison to form a gang.
ktdid
How would that even work? Graze their butt then beg them to report you?
ktdid
Sounds like the best possible plan. Now to hire another minor...
aufkurs
It's fair to feel upset about getting shafted because of an asshole's actions. You shouldn't feel bad about bringing it up later, like 1/2
howdoyoucollege
I feel like calling him a dick might work better in this sentence.
aufkurs
talking amongst management "yeah Ralph was a real ass, not only did he screw with the girl he fucked my workload too" 2/2
Cerinna
Yeah it's fine to mention that later, when things have calmed down. It's not YOUR fault Ralph was a dick after all.
IAmLookingForSomeoneToShareInAnAdventureWith
Good time to fight for a raise
ktdid
Just got promoted, they'd laugh in my face.
TazDoll16
Kinda ok to be pissed about the hours thing. And not your fault if you didnt know what was going on if no one said anything
ktdid
Yeah, I just feel like I should have protected her somehow. :/
TazDoll16
Cant fix what you dont know is broken :/
ktdid
Yeah, I know. Dx
bogusid
If your anger feels misplaced it's because you're emotionally buffering how terrible the whole abuse thing is. Understanding that can help.
bogusid
Trying to figure out how you could have spotted it is a kind of emotional negotiation, but it doesn't lead anywhere. Predators are stealthy.
ktdid
Yeah, seems so.
bogusid
I think you're going to be OK. Sad thing is the predators and victims are equally distributed among races, religions, and economic classes
bogusid
They're hard to predict individually. Corporate HR should have useful counseling for the whole store.
ktdid
Would hope so.
RadioZombieHazard
Ooo a Chicagoan. Damn though, why must idiots do that at work??
ktdid
Wooop. Right? Why risk your job like that.
glovelyday
Why do people do that at Work? Why do they do it anywhere? She was 15 for crissakes.
ktdid
Yeah, why not find someone older?
glovelyday
And consensual.
glovelyday
And consensual.
ktdid
Most importantly.
irishnovember
A Police Officer came in and just told you about the shit Ralph was doing? Without ralph there? Just told you about these charges?
ktdid
He just mentioned why he was there and the severity of the accusations. Sure I didn't see first hand - could be false. But either way 1/2
irishnovember
I'm not a lawyer but that just seems kinda illegal? To tell someone about someone else's possible charges? I could be wrong though.
ktdid
He didn't actually say, "Ralph is charged with...." He just said that there have been accusations and he would be taken in for questioning.
ktdid
shit isn't looking good for his career at the moment. 2/2
irishnovember
ha yeah either way of legality I can dig that. This type of stuff sticks with you regardless of guilt
RoastedSalted
And NOW I want Portillo's.
ktdid
X) mmm. delicious.
copingcabana
Sounds like you have a minor problem.
ktdid
Was that a fucking joke? I'll admit I didn't get it a first...Nice one.
Fyrebaugh
It is amazing what your body and mind can do I've routinely worked 60+ hours a week. When I used to clean the local football stadium 1/?
Fyrebaugh
I would put in 40 hours in 3 days, then take a day off to sleep and work my normal 40 hour job. It did get rough when there 2/?
Fyrebaugh
2 home games in a row, but at that point it becomes a mental work out and as long as it is not long term, enjoy the overtime pay?
Ralpheroo
Bruh why you gotta hate on a cool name?
ktdid
Sorry buddy. ;(
Ralpheroo
I am hurt but my feelings will recover
ktdid
Be strong. :(
iguessidontknowhowtospellimaganative
Delegation. If you give everybody a little more you have less to do.
ktdid
True, to a point. I'm pretty proficient at assigning tasks. My main problem is dealing with extra time spent at work. Dx
SergeantGSD
Maybe get ahold of her and tell her Ralph is no longer employed there and see if she is willing to come back and see about a raise?
ktdid
I wish! Hopefully after this all blows over she'll consider it.
glovelyday
Bad idea. Any HR person will tell you stay out if this, it is now a matter for the police and the courts.
ktdid
Hm, yeah..
SergeantGSD
That's shitty.
glovelyday
May seem shitty, but it's smart and the right thing to do. This ain't a prank, and this is the real world where people go to jail for this
SergeantGSD
And he deserves what he gets. But she didn't deserve that. I just don't see the issue of calling her back now that he is gone.
glovelyday
But it's not over. It's a legal matter, not a personal one anymore.
AbsurdSteak
However, offering her a job and a raise can be seen as the company standing by her side, taking care of employees that have been wronged.
Squossifrage
It could also be seen as an admission of guilt and an attempt to forestall a sexual harassment suit against the company.
AbsurdSteak
Guys I was just adding another viewpoint don't get your boxers in a twist.
glovelyday
Just trying to give you the benefit of hard won experience. In business, and life, what your heart says to do may not be the right thing.
LCPLunderground
I disagree. I would invite her back because it is the morally right thing to do. BTW, I'm a lawyer with some HR experience.
glovelyday
Not likely, but if you are a lawyer, then you're not a good one. Until the matter is fully adjudicated you'd risk ruining the case or worse
LCPLunderground
Well, I disagree on both counts.
glovelyday
And I stand by both judgments. Shall we go to trial? (You'll lose.)
LCPLunderground
Well, I disagree on both counts.
glovelyday
Once was enough, and wrong both times.
spazzysquirrel
Glad he got busted. Five 12 hour days aren't that bad. Extra money, too.
MadHakon
That depends on the work you do. I couldn't interact with people for 12 hour days, day after day.
BornToRun94
Managers tend to be salaried rather than by the hour. So no extra money, just hella overtime
EnjoyThisGIFofYourUsername
BreadyStinellis
My all time favorite Disney movie!
CherrySnowCone
Me too! :D
CyandeExpress
I like this
BreadyStinellis
My all time favorite Disney movie!
spazzysquirrel
Funny! Thank you :)
InboxMeYourHDGIFs
Hey, can I get a gif of my username?
BornToRun94
Managers tend to be salaried rather than by the hour. So no extra money, just hella overtime
ktdid
I'm pretty glad too. If only they would do 12 hr days. Most likely going to be 6 10hr days. ;(
CongratsYouAreHereNow
tell them to go fuck themselves
acliberti
That's not too bad, you'll be fine. Set that extra money aside for a vacation
HeidiandFrankforlife
I've worked 2 jobs and 75+ hour weeks. It's not fun at all but you will prevail!
ktdid
Woo. Look at you. :) Thanks for the confidence.
spazzysquirrel
Only having one day off a week sucks, but I've pulled 72 straight in the bush. Hang in there, it'll pass!
ktdid
Fuck. Well, hats off to you! Thanks too. :)
spazzysquirrel
Thanks. Just about got divorced over that one though. Found a more reasonable job in town. Still get o.t. on weekends too. Trades jobs, yah!
ktdid
Wooo. :)