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Sep 27, 2019 5:42 AM
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stratosphere
Just fucking tell us! Stop with the hints and games.
organiste118
What part of, "I will build you a fire," did you not understand?
NomDeImguerre
One girl's hint is another's "Just being friendly". I've known girls who did exactly that, and got angry when the guy thought it was more.
R3stAssur3d
How the hell are you supposed to pick up a super subtle thing like that?
zylokun
Ladies, because of rising sexual harassment and legal situations we now purposefully ignore your signals to try not to get in trouble.
ineedmypaddles
You were cold, he made fire... romantic as fuck!
dutchtreat
Og make fire for woman, stave off sabertooth. Save woman.
Voric13
westPAguy
EvillBob
FIRE GOOD.
NinjaPoopy
Well DAMN Jackie! I can't control the weather!?
30Jonseredi
"I was trying to find a way to get him to make a move" is literally the reason why you're single ladies
Neonbaron
I was always told a woman wants to talk about the problem and be listened to, the man however wants to fix the problem
sparkalicious
nwdle1
Well damn Jackie. I can't control the weather.
creepymountainman
This is the best comment ever made on Imgur. You are a hero.
ChewyChewbacca88
Jayhatesspidersandshit
iCorndawg
I'm watching that 70s show right this very minute
SugaSwish
Here is a novel idea, Why don't you just make the first move if you want a piece of action?
Deffentlynotagnome
Um...I am just now realizing I've done this same exact thing. I honestly thought I was doing the right thing by building a fire....fuck
30Jonseredi
You did. If that dudette really wanted to go out with you they would've just asked
djblackeye
Why not just tell him you like him?
Shadoweclipse13
Or suggest that he comes back to sit next to you after the fire is built. Fire AND cuddles. That's a win-win.
Xanthus179
He provided for her!!! What more does she want? - dumb guy who always missed the hint
ScrippyChan
That would have made me uncomfortable as fuck. Be direct, ladies and gents. It's dangerous in this day and age for men to "make moves".
ScrippyChan
It also wastes less time of you just state outright what you want. Get on with it, for fuck's sake.
JellyButtSugarPants
Met a guy at a wedding. Flirted, put my hand on his knee, danced super inappropriately close to him. Eventualy I TOLD him to kiss me. 1/2
JellyButtSugarPants
We are married now. But the first night we met was just me making moves until I straight up ordered him to make one. Worked out. 2/2
HumfreeBugart
Come on baby light my fire.....he does, and then you complain?
Cazzyle
I know right!? I read this as: "he heard I was cold so he built a roaring fire for me"? He was trying to show he cared.
secretagentdoubleobeaver
That doesn't sound clueless. It sounds like he took your statement at face value and created a resolution for your problem. Just because it
secretagentdoubleobeaver
Wasn't the result you wanted doesn't mean it wasn't a huge gesture of love coming from his cro-magnon brain
BronzeLeaguePro
At least I know no women tells these stories about me, since nobody has ever hinted at me.
dutchtreat
I'll bet they have!
streetfightingeasterbunny
This is exactly what I would do.then,10 years later while looking in a bathroom mirror realizing what I did, scream FUUCCCKKKKKKK.
CaptainMiffles
in school a crush from drama asked me to practice with her, I said I'd rather chat with my friend... we didn't have anything to practice...
CaptainMiffles
in school a crush from drama asked me to practice with her, I said I'd rather chat with my friend... we didn't have anything to practice...
B0ULLIE
The hint game is the biggest bullshit. Niggas are afraid to disrespect and cross lines. Just say "I like you", childlike? Maybe but it works
smuxi4
I like you
B0ULLIE
Fuck outta here you don't even know me lmaao
smuxi4
It doesn't work as you said
B0ULLIE
Wrong context bro you gotta build that rapport first. All me what my favorite color is
laestrella
And in that hour she could have said she really wants to sit with him.
RenaissanceFaireMan
She was already sitting with him...right? Didn't have to say anything.
Shovi
But he got up built a fire and sit somewhere else.
StarscreamAndHutch
So if they are dating now, what did she do to finally get him to make the move? Did she give up and just whisper ‘garlic bread’ in his ear?
TrappedInABubbleGumFactory
He probably wasn’t interested at first but she wore him down
dovebair
She thought "Damn, that's family provider material!" And just sat him down to talk like adults, bc keepers are keepers :D
jamandtoast
Maybe she put on her big girl panties and asked him out?
Gianttesticlemonster
Going through an unnecessarily large amount of effort to solve a simple problem is one way many of us men consider to be the ultimate "sign"
Ferrumkit
'me Ug, me tame fire, me great lifepartner' the evolution of man
malachitedragon
We want to solve your problems. We want to be useful. We also want to be -wanted-.
CommanderRy
Building a bon fire for someone is making a move
HoldingAccount
OMG! When my dad built that bonfire on our camping trip 30 years ago he was trying to get into my pants! That perv! I’m gonna tell mum!
JustinSane6
Ladies, if that’s your definition of “most obvious flirting”, you need to step up your game. Platonic female friends would do exactly this.
PandoBox
one girl dropped the same in 'hint' to me, i tried to go for it... it wasn't a hint, she wasn't interested and it was an akward experience
ShoggothTree
And this is when JustinSane6 realized that his "platonic" female friends have been trying to sleep with him for years.
JustinSane6
I have no platonic female friends. I’ve slept with every one of them since high school. I’m 50 now, nothing’s changed.
Shitheid
I’ve told my husband “hey, we should do [sex act]” and have had him think I was joking. He has gone on to complain later in the day that 1/2
JustinSane6
Grab him by the dick and drag him into the bedroom.
Shitheid
We hadn’t had sex in a few days (mis matched libidos). I don’t know how to get more obvious. 2/2
PardusXY
Just wear a towel or a skirt as a dress.
Goldenbeer
Instead of "We should do XYZ", try "We should do XYZ, tonight/right now".
AnnieBahde
Would sit in the same chair as you? I wouldn’t, I’d worry about sending mixed signals. Just like you want to be clear when you’re interested
AnnieBahde
I think it’s good to be equally clear when you aren’t so you don’t lead people on or blur lines that lead to misunderstandings.
JustinSane6
Many women have figured out that keeping a guy guessing/hoping, helps keep him around longer. Even as a friend.
AnnieBahde
Seems like a recipe for it to eventually blow up in your face with hurt feelings and resentment. That’s high school shit.
PardusXY
Exactly, but doesn’t stop it from being everywhere.
JustinSane6
I’m 50, it really hasn’t changed much. It might even be more prevalent now because it’s harder to make friends when you’re older.
Fischtoria
You guys joke that women shouldn't just drop hints, but in high school a girl asked me "do you want to be my boyfriend" and I asked "what?"
Fischtoria
Didn't think she was serious, so when she repeated herself I replied "what" again, and then she said nevermind
smuxi4
you're deaf
Fischtoria
I'm not the smartest guy around, I know
DoublevBomb
High school isn't exactly the stage of life where you'll find stable and meaningful relationships anyway, at least for many people.
DeadArcadian
That sounds like a trap to me
Fischtoria
Looking back I know for sure it wasn't a trap, I was just an idiot of the highest degree
CaptainMiffles
This. I was ruined by two popular girls asking me out within 5 minutes, they hated me, obvious trap. I've had a thing for shy girls since.
CaptainMiffles
(I'd like to point out A: I knew it was a trap, told them to sod off. B: I was like 10)
Sonorum
You know what, if you're interested in someone don't be like this dumb lady and drop hints to get them to make a move. Make a move yourself.
strawberrycocoa
Enduring middle school gave me a nice robust "it's probably another practical joke" reaction to all flirting.
Fait
Sitting almost on his lap seems like a move to me? I the only one that wsnt quite this lvl of oblivious wth girls? (like, I was to a point)
subbingaround
SHE DID MAKE A MOVE lol. girls tend not to make overt moves because they might get judged or rejected...guys learn to read the signs. there>
subbingaround
is no "manual." just keep socializing and hanging around girls, you will pick up things and learn how to communicate between the lines
Imaintainnothing
but "they" erase the lines
ALittleKinkInYourThink
Can attest. I was shy but got a bit of liquid courage one day and asked out my crush. Been happily married for years.
HisBabes
Preach It! It drives me nuts with all the ‘does he like me?’ Crap.
jekath
I disagree. I like this game. The woman drop hints. I pretend to be the lion, she pretends to be the sheep. I love that playful game.
Silversalvation
Hints don't work. That funny "choke me Daddy" meme? Thats much more of a hint than this is. And apparently it's not a hint.
Ruudeboy
Exactly. Saying something is an obvious hint is stupid, if it was obvious it wouldn't be a hint.
fbutt09
Or just open up about your feelings? Life too short to keep feelings hidden.
LegendMasterX
You can say that about the woman in this story too.
HoggsUK
You can't say that, the women equality brigade will be after you.
squirreltactics
Wouldn't the ability to ask a man out make them equals?
bushmuncher
Well you sir are you using common sense. STOP IT right now, what a human being you are, should be ashamed of yourself for common sense
KABARU
Society is weird and judges everyone for everything.
xVVitch
Yup, that's why we have upvotes and downvotes.
Spambot0000
She sat on the same lawn chair where he was sitting. But yeah, she probably should have just grabbed his private parts instead as a hint.
idonthaveanyideawhatthehelliamtalkingabout
a friend was sitting in the same lawn chair, that doesn't count as a hint you know...
plentybinary
No she should probably have used her words. I don't know maybe something old school like hey you Wana go out with me sometime?
subbingaround
the prob is this is usually impossible in a social setting
dovebair
What do you mean? Maybe that's true for 14-year-olds, but adults are able to have conversations with each other, AND accept rejection
Shadoweclipse13
Or at LEAST come right out and say "I like you/dig you/want to bone you". I'm happy to take it from there if you don't want to make a move.
ScourgeOfAges
Does that not qualify as a move?
Shadoweclipse13
Maybe some people see it that way. I always see action and words as different things. Sure, making your intentions known is a STEP, but ...
Shadoweclipse13
/2 to me, a "move" is more akin to putting your arm around someone, you know, something physical.
lookingforapurpose
I've had to make the first move in all of my relationships. Then a second and often times a third before the guy realizes I'm serious.
Imaintainnothing
ahhh but was that a move or was that a "move"
lookingforapurpose
"Hey, wanna go on a date tonight? My treat." "I like you. Wanna hang out and get to know each other later?"
lookingforapurpose
If they don't catch on by the 3rd "hey, come over and let's have sex." I move on, rejected.
alsoAzrael
I feel like sitting in the same chair as him kinda IS making a move.
Imaintainnothing
but what if it is kinda isn't?
LegendMasterX
you say that, but ive had female friends who are that intimate but arent interested in dating
alsoAzrael
That would actually annoy me. Like, a lot. But I'm suspicious that they might have wanted *something.*
dovebair
You know, this whole thread is about him making the wrong move back, but I think identifying yourself as a good provider is a great move!!
10001110101periodictablewithasantapieceofmind
Expecting guys to recognize hints, no matter how obvious, kinda is a stupid move
alsoAzrael
You're only calling it a hint because he didn't get it. If she sat in his lap and wiggled, would that be a hint?
10001110101periodictablewithasantapieceofmind
...no? Wasnt that what i was saying?
alsoAzrael
Um, okay, what were you saying?
AintNoThangBangARang
But in her mind she feels like she did and was rejected.
10001110101periodictablewithasantapieceofmind
Shes wrong
Lambdafish1
But guys are so conditioned that any perceived hints arent actually hints that the fear of rejection and awkwardness stops them acting on it
Ruudeboy
Then she should stop being stupid. Saying "i'm cold" is not making a move.
sunnymangoes
It's not a full come-on but it's definitely flirting - usually making a full move comes after some reciprocal flirting and few ppl will take
sunnymangoes
the next step without feeling reasonably certain it will be well received. It's got to be a 2 way process regardless of gender
Sonorum
Saying "come here and hold me, I'm cold" would be a lot smarter
Ruudeboy
Gimme some heat
valen00
Saying, "Hey Frank, I like you romantically and if you feel the same way I'd like to try that, if you feel differently /
TheFurion101
Yeah, good luck with that.
valen00
we can still be friends of course" is better
RobertZimmermanWasRight
Yes. I’m shy and blind for hints. I depend on women making first moves. Maybe that’s why I’m single.
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MajesticGiant
Hey buddy. You've got 1 life. Make the move. Ask them out. Be fucking stupid. Weve only got so much time. Whats the worst that can happen
galorni
and wear sunscreen
Ferrumkit
I mean you could get treadedlike Aziz Ansari
MajesticGiant
Other than being a fool for like a week? And the best thing that can happen is a lifelobg partner. Pretty good odds, id say
RobertZimmermanWasRight
You might be right. But shit‘s still difficult
Gadvance
I used to be the same way until very recently went from 4 years single to dates whenever I feel like it, just tell people you like them.
starrocket98
I flirted with my boyfriend for 5 months and after he didn't make a move I just asked him out - going on 4 years strong now!
justhereforthefun
LittleKnownOne
Well you forget that not enough guys are top 10% enough for women to pursue.
PardusXY
Oh that’s not going to go down well here...
starrocket98
I think that everyone, no matter gender, should just say what they feel. If it works out, great! If it doesn't, then at least you be (1/2)
starrocket98
Won't be wondering what if (2/2)