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When I was 17 I got pregnant. I was homeless and without family. Her father was no help he was 22 at the time and couldn't hold a job he was also cheating on me. My pregnancy wasn't celebrated, people would message me on how I would be a horrible a mother like my own mom. I had no one. So I decided to give her up for adoption in when I had her in 2011. I love that little girl with my whole heart I would do anything for her.
I understand my decision but it still hurts I still wonder it for I made the right decision. My biggest fear is that when I have kids in the future will she hate me because I couldn't raise her.
I'm sorry to vent it's just a bitter sweet day for me.
AnnieBahde
No! I think about my biological mother with such gratitude. She gave me a chance at a wonderful life with loving parents in a better place
AnnieBahde
To care for me and provide me with the opportunities to succeed. She was 16 and I have always, always thought of her with fondness.
tiredbossdogtired
Stating that you would do anything for her then giving her up doesn't sit right with me. I'm a first time parent myself
tiredbossdogtired
For a week now. And already my main priority is that child. If I'm lacking of a job then I'll find one any type any pay
tiredbossdogtired
By any means necessary. I grew up from a bad child hood . No excuse to prove to your child that you can better yourself and then when push
tiredbossdogtired
Comes to shove. It's the obligation of being a parent
tiredbossdogtired
But it's just my opinion
godsgalmz5772
Better to suffer for doing good than to suffer for doing bad. God bless you
Kmillar99
Your child would understand
freshlymowedlawn
You made a wonderful choice. You chose for that baby to live.
RubberChickenTenders
You made the right choice and she will have a good life because you did.
Sweetsong
I was given up for adoption at birth, my birth mother was very young and was not prepared to have a child. She is plagued with guilt (1/2)
Sweetsong
to this day for giving me up but words cannot express how thankful I am for giving me a better life. You made the right decision, too. :)
Iwontbeback
this is comforting to hear, I've always wondered about the other side of the story.
jbeason14
I'm adopted. I haven't met my biological mum, but I always take a few moments on mothers day to reflect&thank her, even of she never hears
jbeason14
You did what you thought was best for your child, hopefully they will understand the sacrifice you have made. Took me a while to
TheyMayBeFakeButTheyreGrrrrreat
You're a mother. You did the most selfless thing. I kept my daughter, same situation as you. She's 15 and lovely but I struggle to connect >
TheyMayBeFakeButTheyreGrrrrreat
With her.
FistiCups
A mother does what is best for her children, even when it hurts. Happy Mother's Day OP, you're a great mom for doing what you felt was best
Arock77
You did what was best for your kid, happy mother's day mom.
frpgn
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DarkLynx13
AlcoholicsAnonymousBYO
Go easy on your 17 year old self
JasminDamnIt
You are strong. You love her so much. Good job.
WTFUnicorns
You did the most logical and loving thing you could have done. You gave your baby to people who welcomed her into a stable and loving home.
gingertaylor
Good mother.
TinyOctopus
@OP. Tiny Octopus was adopted, and he wants you to know that most adopted kids grow up and understand without hate. Happy Mom's Day, you.
Poltergeist94
My coworker gave up a kid at 17, they have lunch every Saturday now. You'd be surprised how well all parties involved can handle it
Coffeebug
I'm so sorry you had to make such a difficult decision. Knowing something is right does not make it easy, does it.
DweadPiwateWoberts
Speaking as an adopted child, you did the right thing. Never question your decision. Much love.
hadtochangemyusernamesomyhusbandwouldntfigureitout
How ironic, I just got a happy Mother's Day text from my 16 year old that I gave up for adoption just like this. I now have 4 kids. 1/2
hadtochangemyusernamesomyhusbandwouldntfigureitout
If the parents who are raising her are doing the right thing, she will grow up to understand why you did what you did, & she won't hate you.
mommamia2
I was placed for adoption in 1979, landed with a pretty good family. All I know is they were teens they were too young for that. You made a
mommamia2
Very difficult choice. I have an education a great job and 2 for babies I doubt I would have had the same opportunities had they not chosen
mommamia2
Fur babies
LittleMissNautika
Hello, adopted person here, and I'm going to say something the rest of the echo chamber won't. She will hate you, she will be angry 1/2
LittleMissNautika
But she will grow. She'll realize she doesn't need to be jealous - and that's all it is, jealousy. She may have life struggles and have 2/3
LittleMissNautika
a 'grass is always greener' outlook, but with time, she'll realize what you did was for the best.
LuvnLyph
adopted here too, intellectually i understand, emotionally i still feel abandoned. though it doesn't help the woman that 'chose' me 1/2
LuvnLyph
disowned me as soon as i turned 18
Dudumanne
I'm in that situation... turn out I had a much more beautiful life with my adoptives parents. Met them again for 1st time few months ago. 1
Dudumanne
And it confirmed me that they did the best choice.. at least from my point of view 2
LannistersSendTheirRetards
The people that adopt kids are likely more equipped to deal with one than someone who's willing to give the kid up so not a bad decision
HoosierNPC
In my 30s, adopted. I have a thriving, healthy, joyful relationship with my biological mom & sisters. Thank you for putting the baby first
HoosierNPC
It isn't easy and I know you feel that pain every single day. You aren't alone and you aren't a villain.
EzraFell
It's okay OP. You wanted the best you could for your daughter, and tried to give her that.
ComputerAntiPope
I gave my son up for adoption in 2003. He has a great life & is happy & loved. It was a hard, but right, choice for me, too. I understand.
mlogan
*hugs* I can only imagine. Maybe you could write her letters letting her know you are thinking of her and store them away. 1/2
mlogan
That way, if you guys somehow reunite one day, you can give them to her? 2/2
KCN1
I was adopted. Never met my biological Mom but if I ever do, I would thank her for making the decision to do what she knew was best for me.
Sweetsong
^^ this. I have never met my birth mother but if I did I would thank her for the life she had given me.
thisgoesto11
Adopted here too -- and I feel exactly the same.
eepycatgirl69
Same. I have a pretty good life w my adoptive family, definitely don't have any ill will towards bio mom either
LannistersSendTheirRetards
AWESOME that you are wise enough to see this. I'm glad you had adopted parents that raised you well.
KCN1
KCN1
I would also be really happy if I found out that her life is better now and she has a family, @OP.
HermioneGrangerAndARocketShip
good things about their birth mother. I'd like to think that's what your child's mom does for your child too. 2/2
HermioneGrangerAndARocketShip
I have several adopted siblings. My mom always tells them how brave their mom was to make that decision. They grow up hearing only 1/2