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misterrootbeer
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And you can’t let them wrap it. They leave the price on or wrap the wrong thing.
TheLetterKay
I actually asked my family to set up a savings fund for getting us into a house.
ozzycats
Some wedding dinners can be messed up, they expect you to give a large amount of money if its held in a hotel
KingKoopaa
My wife and I did this. Honeymoon in Ireland, best choice we could have made. I didn't want to come back. lol
TimeAndMemeLordOfGallifrey
IceBearisGood
I wanted to do a honeymoon fund but the hubby said no. Now I have a knife set under my desk.
molycakes
If I ever get married, I’d rather do a wedding with just family around or elope and then do a fun party after. Keep it simple.
Badyams73
There’s an app for that...
Ziggypiggyziggypiggy
I'm like mid 30s and i have never been to a wedding where cash wasn't the norm, I also am Asian... however I thought cash was the norm now!
artasincc
Im a big fan of not going to weddings
howmuchwoodwouldchucknorrischopifchucknorriscouldchopwood
Anyone else hit the like button.
calenturian
Put it in a box.
NatsukiIsMyWaifu
Thank you!.gifv
007king
those sites take a cut, just give a card with money
PronouncedWoostahshah
There are sites that don't. And some ppl are old fashioned and want to contribute to a "registry" of sorts.
kargatane
siberianhufky
Just got married and is what we did, already living together and have everything we need. Any contributions were voluntary, just happy 1/2
siberianhufky
2/2 to have people there on the day!
TYCA
My HS sweet heart friends, whom I love, were getting married and asked for a $300 Brie Baker. Oh word Guess what you're getting then guys :)
fightfightfightlosewinfight
I'm assuming they live on Manhattan's UES?
fishiefiasco
That's actually really cool. I'm not a stuff person, I like to use my money to make memories instead.
fightfightfightlosewinfight
What about utilitarian things? I don't like things that provide no value, but I'll get spendy when it's something I'll use everyday.
travelinaddy
My parents had a small church wedding in 1974 with a reception in their yard and then went on a year long around the world honeymoon. 1/2
travelinaddy
That they had saved for 1-2 years for and bought an around the world plane ticket staying in the cheapest places possible
DustinsMissingTeeth
You can't get cash on sale though. $100 is $100 but you can get a $100 punch bowl for $20.
PronouncedWoostahshah
I dont need a punch bowl or anything else tho
VioletMoonRising
Never understood why people spend so much on weddings. A 20k honeymoon sounds like a better use of money. Even if just as wasteful.
PronouncedWoostahshah
Different strokes for different folks. Weddings are stressful enough without ppl judging how you're choosing to spend.
kittenshitten
A 20k downpayment on a house sounds like an even better investment
VioletMoonRising
"Even if just as wasteful" No duh, that's what I just said. But an expensive honeymoon still makes more sense than a expensive wedding.
TheStateOfDenial
Also, when calling vendors (e.g. florist, musicians, cake...ist?) , DO NOT MENTION THIS IS FOR A WEDDING. State it's for a formal reception.
TheStateOfDenial
I kid you not, if you drop the w word, the price doubles for absolutely zero extra benefit.
blooregardqkazoo
U want cash? Probably smart, babies are expensive.
ShiftyToaster
Or just don't make babies
SithElephant
Especially for ones with a good pedigree.
ltslam
CALL J.G. WENTWORTH 877 CASH NOOOOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
Do you not want cheap wedding gifts and you want cash now?
PageNo
We did that, got about 60% off the honeymoon paid for
CheddarDreams
Don't tell the forums on Wedding Wire this, they'll say it's "tacky" (the favorite word on that site, I learned when planning my wedding)
Iamverymucharousedrightnow
That site tore my sister apart when she mentioned her bridemaids where buying their dresses. THEY WERE $100 DRESSES, WE WERE COOL WITH IT.
CheddarDreams
Are you serious bridesmaids always buy their own dresses lol at least that's all I've ever experienced
sakw
So true! When I was on there I saw a girl mention she was considering a honeyfund and they tore her apart on the Wedding Wire forums.
NonConformistFlamingo
Well it kind of is. It's always been considered a faux pas to ask for money as a gift.
PronouncedWoostahshah
This is becoming outdated. Many couples are getting married older and are well off enough that they don't need/want the typical stuff (1)
PronouncedWoostahshah
You'd put on a registry. By default you're asking for cash if you don't do a registry (2)
inaplasticcup
I find it better than wedding lists where you have to choose a specific gift. Why not give them the money to buy it themselves?
CheddarDreams
You're right, people usually give cards and money anyway without being asked
Wobbixx
Which is also considered tacky, which is weird, because I can't imagine what's better than someone saying "here, have some money"
CheddarDreams
Is it?? I thought the unspoken rule was to give the bride and groom the amount that they spent on your meal and alcohol
Wobbixx
yes, but generally that should be packaged in the form of a small kitchen appliance, according to conventional etiquette.
SomethingSomethingTraLaLa
We didn't hhoneymoon, spent about ,$700 on the entire wedding. My sister had a $15k wedding, went to Key West. Neither is any less married.
ImFrank
The question isn’t marriage. The question is cash flow for future endeavors including children and homes.
SomethingSomethingTraLaLa
I mean some people consider it a rite of passage to have one, others see it as greedy.
ButIBuildAThousandBridges
We just had a wedding (about 20k, self-funded) didnt do it to "be married" but to throw a big-ass party. No regrets, but aint for everyone
PronouncedWoostahshah
We did the same and I can't tell you how many times family said we were wasting money. It was so worth it in my eyes
ButIBuildAThousandBridges
Yeah, we had a memorable wedding and 2 weeks later still get people thanking us for throwing such a great party
fightfightfightlosewinfight
Yeah, parties are fun.
SomethingSomethingTraLaLa
I have no problem with that, whatever makes you happy.
IShootBirdsAtTheAirport
20k self funded? Holy shit.
ButIBuildAThousandBridges
Duel income, no kids, saved for a year. It was fun to save for it.
VioletMoonRising
The question is marriage. Stats for expensive weddings show that they have a higher divorce rate.
DasOgre
Don't know why you're being downvoted
Noneedtowaxonaboutit
It's not the cost of the wedding, it's the ppl/families who place so much value on one day and think it's a good idea.
VioletMoonRising
I didn't say it was causation.But yes. Fools who think 15k+ on a meaningless cermoney(when they often aren't even reglious) are, well, fools
kittenflare2718
They have better memories
ButIBuildAThousandBridges
Sorry youre getting downvoted. Our big wedding an unforgettable and amazing event for us and our parents
ButIBuildAThousandBridges
Haha and I'm getting downvoted too. Booo happy memories and people thinking things different than me booooo
DasOgre
Pure being downvoted because you don't need to spend a lot of money to have a fun memorable wedding
ButIBuildAThousandBridges
I don't think you do, but just cause you did doesnt mean you wasted money
DasOgre
And implying that a cheaper wedding has less worthy memories is hogwash
WannieTheSane
You guys are literally saying money buys happiness. I think it's your skewed perspective on life that's getting downvoted, not happiness.
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guardianofthegalaxy
If I only I could convince my fiance we don't need a $400 mixer and a $300 set of knives
guardianofthegalaxy
You guys have no idea how vindicated my fiance feels right now
TinyqueenB1212
My Mom got mad because we didn’t put enough stuff on our registry. Ended up with a bunch of shit we didn’t need or want.
guardianofthegalaxy
Exactly. Pretty much everything on our registry we don't need. I don't care because I don't want anything for getting married but clutter.
NonConformistFlamingo
No I agree with her. You get what you pay for with knives and appliances. I registered for a pricey set of knives, a generous guest 1/
NonConformistFlamingo
Kicked down for them, and seven years later those knives are still going strong without having needed a sharpening. 2/2
TheGrumpest
I agree, just not those particular tools. Both will last a lifetime where a crappy knife or mixer will have to be replaced every few years.
tdstar
My wife bought those for my birthday.
StatisticallyInsignificantCanadian
12 years out, wedding knives are about the only gift I still use on the regular.
ITalkAboutGoats
A kitchenaid mixer is my guess. No, I'm with your fiance, worth its weight in gold when baking. But I do a lot of baking.
guardianofthegalaxy
Yeah you are right and that is exactly what she says. Is your name Emily by chance?
SalvalecRhaplanca
Those mixers are amazing. My mom has one and I'm eternally envious.
ITalkAboutGoats
No, but it's the industry standard for pro-sumer baking. She's really not out of line on it, nothing else can come close to mixing bread
ITalkAboutGoats
Dough. I blew out two 50 dollar stand mixers before I broke down and bought one. They often go on sale for Black Friday, though, so
ITalkAboutGoats
It's not as bad. There's a lot of stuff I think is a waste, but for kitchenaide you get what you pay for. Also, if you make sure those
boob00kittyfuck
A friend of mine got married last month and had a honeymoon jar instead of asking for gifts. They had it set out at the reception...
boob00kittyfuck
... unfortunately, no one was guarding the jar and her junkie sister stole the entire jar and left. They had to set up a gofundme trying...
boob00kittyfuck
....to get money for their honeymoon but after a month they're not even close to their goal. It's really sad.
ILikeCuteGifsAndICannotLie
She took the whole jar? I was a junkie in my youth and I think I would have taken some. But damn all of it is fucked.
letsdotheimgurthing
Beat the fuck out of the sister
EndersdoyouthinkthisisafuckingGame
Then forcibly remove her dominant hand.
tatopotato
Was there any retaliation towards the sister?
misterrootbeer
That's awful!
TracyAllenParks
Totally agree. Fund for the honeymoon is waaaaay better than gifts.
MudkipsRevenge
Well said by the Blue Scribble Dick.
MsMath23
We just tried a hunnyfund for our wedding. We don't drink the amount of wine/champagne we got could have paid for a bunch of activites.
glitterlady
I mean, yes. But my wedding was three years ago and I use the gift of a mixing bowl set daily and I never could have spent $100 on that.
fluffleupagus
My husband and I didn't even do a registry or ask for gifts. Some people brought gifts anyway, but a lot just ended up giving us money.
fluffleupagus
And we spent most of it during the honeymoon. It was great.
BronzeLeaguePro
Well I mean, the marriage gifts are to help the couple start a new life. So IMO you should be as practical as they'll be happy for.
Sajer
I am also a fan of this over the expensive over done wedding.
PronouncedWoostahshah
The 2 are not mutually exclusive. You can have an overdone wedding and still do a honeyfund
btimup
But the stupid thing is all the unspoken rules about gifts. Like damn if the couple needs money to buy a fricken house in this economy, /2
furzinderdose
It' common in Germany to give money and something small like a flower so the wedding is paid...
MeatPopsicleMultiPass
I'd choose a $1,000 wedding and the rest towards a house than an expensive wedding and no house.
btimup
who's the asshole, the ones asking for the money or the ones denying them their wish??
HiImPizza
Helps coming from a culture that traditionally gives money at weddings. Have heard a number of stories about cheapskates though.
Calistil
We specifically asked for house money at our wedding helped a bit. Made a registry for those people who really wanted it though.
btimup
Yeah! We did a registry for the wedding shower and sent by word of mouth that we were hoping for monetary gifts.
tryinghardtobeclever
This has been my argument for cash as a gift in any circumstance!
VexatiousKitten
People have such varying opinions on weddings nowadays that it almost doesn't matter imo, just ask for what you want and boo to those who h8
btimup
Haha although I SO wanted to uphold that attitude, there are just too many family members that I didn't want to piss off
VexatiousKitten
Haha I'd still rather just do my own thing. Maybe a little bit of compromise just to save face
PronouncedWoostahshah
Couldn't agree more. Everyone has an opinion but the couple's is the only one that counts
VexatiousKitten
Right? My grandma was miffed at my cousins wedding because it was buffet style and not a sit down dinner. Like why.
Manzoman666
Where is this a thing? I live in California and never heard of funding honey moon.
Dumf
My wife and I did this. There are some easy websites and people can donate to specific things like airfare or parasailing. Helped a lot
NonConformistFlamingo
Seriously? I live in California and see it happen ALL the time. Two couples I know have done it. It's becoming increasingly common.
ShuffleBoars
We live in California too. My Brother just got back from his honeymoon and did this. It's become really popular in the last ten years.
LeCalabrone
Also popular in Australia. 'Wishing wells' used to ask for money instead of unnecessary gifts. Far more practical.
LeCalabrone
In fact it would be weird to go to a wedding in Australia that had gifts instead of some cash contribution to 1
LeCalabrone
Wedding reception or honeymoon or to a charity important to the couple 2
segat1
Really? I’ve never seen a wishing well at weddings here.
littlegingerone
Just elope.. skip the wedding.. have a party after
damnyuoautocorrect
That's what I did. Vegas wedding. Too bad he was such a jackass!
SmolRat
Seriously. Weddings are awful. I feel so deeply uncomfortable with the idea of having a wedding.
Illithidbane
Mine was five people, including us. Did it at a local beach. Cost us nothing.
NotWhatYouPlanted
I did this!
dontblinkdontevenblinkblinkandyourdead
I wanted to do this when I was engaged & gave some fucks; I was told it was poor etiquette. Eventually, I lost all fucks, and we saw a JOP.
TracyAllenParks
That's what we did. Elope (cheap wedding), moderate reception dinner with just a couple of friends, and then a dream honeymoon!
warick
My wife and i wish we had done this. We budgeted or wedding really well, but still less stress/money in the end.
Lucidalabbra
That’s what we did!
Badsequence
Just antelope bbq it at the wedding feed everyone except Jan cuz Jan is a vegan and does crossfit and that is her maid of honor toast
FlyrishHoney
I suggested this to my bf for when we get married and he said he wanted proper church... i cba ...
Sugarblade
We'll go make our own wedding...with black Jack...and hookers.
TheMightyKibbless
Exactly what my wife and I did.
dwigtyouignorantslut
The party is the most expensive part! Ceremonies aren't nearly as expensive as food for your family and friends. Common misconception.
littlegingerone
Well here in ireland we dont have an open bar so people pay for themselves
VedOkaaz
We almost eloped this weekend, actually. Buuut now we're fighting instead.. *sigh*
krogthedestroyer
We eloped yesterday! Best decision we've made!!
Stephiesmiles
Congrats!
NotWrenP
My parents did. Don't think they really had a party but they eloped to say the least and backpacked in Greece and turkey.
DeviantPhuq
Some people like their family
Cheomesh
Weird
LookMaNoCleverUsername
It shouldn't be about appeasing your family though. I bet your family would rather you buy a house than sleep on their couches bc debt.
DeviantPhuq
Nah my family hates me
Cheomesh
Um, my wedding cost $1000, *tops*.
thepenisbetweenus
Why the hell would people be down-voting this comment? I understand not up-voting it, but to down-vote it I find strange. People suck.
CargoManshark
That's what I did, to hell with paying far too much to accommodate ppl I dont really like.
Lunababygirl
Yeah we did an elopement package. $3k included wedding for 10 people, cake, reception, flowers, and B&B weekend honeymoon with breakfast.
leviwntr
Same man
torpido
Just did the same this halloween. I'm at my reception now. We are some cheap ass motherfuckers
jaboiLD
Browsing imgur during your reception. Respect.
Hamboneclan3
I wish I could do this... but my fiance and my parents won't let us.
EternalSenshi
I absolutely feel you. I'm in the same boat. I just want to elope and do this the easy way.
AawesomeAardvaark
I promise, 10 years from now you will wish you stood up to them and did something useful/fun with that money.
NatsukiIsMyWaifu
Thats the point in eloping. No one knows and its done and over with.
runawaypizza
My grandparents secretly eloped before WWII, got married a year later, didn’t tell anyone about their elopement until their 50th anniverary
runawaypizza
Which is to say, it can be a secret.
mabbo
My solution: wedding 12-4pm, then an after party at 6 for just friend. Mom got her damn wedding, I saved a lot of money.
AawesomeAardvaark
Everyone should do this
TheChelsanator
Yeah we plan on doing this, I don't even want an engagement ring. More money for a trip somewhere!
AawesomeAardvaark
Yep, no rings here. Had a sweet cruise and road trip instead.
TheChelsanator
How are cruises? I keep hearing that they are boring
AawesomeAardvaark
It was great for us as newlyweds. It's like an all-inclusive resort.The excursions were the fun part, the ship part was mostly booze/food
AawesomeAardvaark
I'd probably recommend an all-inclusive resort over a cruise if you're beach people. Our trip to Ireland was far better than the cruise
crabbydotca
But... if you’re going to have a party anyway why not have a wedding..?
littlegingerone
The dress the catering the church or what have you the transport the accommodation costs
crabbydotca
The reception seems like the expensive part to me? Food venue decor etc. So if you’re doing that anyway, just say the vows there too?
Counterfit
Yeah, receptions are the big part of the cost
giftkartoffel
We did the eloping + party. We perhaps didn't save much but we felt that we had all the fun parts of a 'wedding' w/o all the stress.
crabbydotca
The #1 thing by faaar that stresses me out is the guest list... unfortunately if we just have a party I still have to deal with that bit :(
littlegingerone
Not if you just meet at a pub. Finger food, why bother with decorations
crabbydotca
That’s partly my point, if you are going to do it all cheaply anyway why not just throw the cows in too?
mrwinelover24
Godamn Churches. Always screwing people over. Like they even need the money...smh
Ikillmiceforaliving
In Denmark we didnt pay for the priest. You pay taxes which include everything regarding Church business
TheThingsTheyCarried
As someone who has sat on the financial committee for a church: they are expensive as fuck to run, even for the "good" ones.
TheThingsTheyCarried
Utilities alone are insane. Add in payroll (priests, janitors, daycare etc) & the mortgage and you're not making enough from donations alone
FBKatB3TAdotcom
Even better skip the wedding skip the elopement just go straight to sex
CeramicPeterGun
That’s what I should of done. 35k for a destination wedding. I would have much rather used that money to add to a down payment on our house.
FBKatB3TAdotcom
Bloody hell I paid less than that for my house
nashpotato
I like that plan, now I just need to find someone who will have sex with me
Badsequence
Hell skip the partner and just fuck yourself cuz only you know exactly how you like it.
FBKatB3TAdotcom
And just how slutty you can go on yourself
accountnumbertoo
Even better. Skip everything, stay home, wank it and then play video games.
EternalSunshineOfTheSpotlessMind
Very accurate description of my life right now. I usually flip-flop between happy and sad about it like every other week.
AbusedPickle
Even better, skip everything and just. Fucking. Die.
Thisusernameispoliticallyincorrect
This is a safe place. You can tell us anything
thegrandfalafel
Even better. Don't be born. Parents use contraception.
EternalSunshineOfTheSpotlessMind
Who hurt you, AbusedPickle...who hurt you?