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VendettasWhim
Prepare OR leave behind the stress
JeyYoung333
That’s pretty sexist. The real reason is that existence in a liminal space can be calming and everyone needs time to themselves
Tmakki
Place between work, trafic and home. Engine shuts off and I shut off I need to restart and process things. Or maybe its just reading mwssages I got while driving home or radio has good stuff on. =]
FukcTedCruz
Needed to finish the episode of Radio Lab on NPR
BiffaBoffa
You need to reset. You leave the work environment behind and adapt to the one at home.
bikergeek6249
My dad didn't do this. He was the source of stress for everybody else in the house.
contempted
I ain't bringing the work bullshit into my house. I choose to suffer the bellends (it pays the bills). My family shouldn't have to suffer the negative side of my choices. So I let war pigs finish playing while I de-funk.
gunmim3
Personally? Its to finish the song or the current bit if its not misic on the radio
FajitaPrinceofAllMexicans
Look man, it's once in a blue moon the local rock station didn't play the same fucking 10 songs, or make me drive for 15 minutes listening to commercials.
Slashenaar
For many it is the stress, emotional awareness isn't taught to men and men's emotions aren't really considered so they feel like shit and need a minute cause this is the moment they get to recover. If you see a man do this on the reg make sure his human emotional needs are being considered- Therapy is probably necessary to unlearn and unpack. For many men you can ask them why and they will have a generic reason because they don't know the emotional driver, just the reason they found
Raventhief
Not done masturbating?
Niicollage
I mean, that's the reason I stay in the car for 15 seconds each day
Outlavv
Get the work stress out with a quick, secret cry
tsterling00
To let the tears dry.
JustaSimplePlumber
I can only speak for myself, but it’s not preparing for the stress, it’s leaving the last few bits of stress from the day behind. Can’t walk into a home and be a loving supportive husband and father still raging from your day.
Oblok
Alone time. Crank a tune, listen to the news, sit, and have no one in your space and no one talking over your thoughts.
Johnsky
Solitude, we crave solitude so we can decompress. The moment we get home, we have to catch up on chores, we were just busting ass at work all day, those 5 minutes of sitting in the car is all that stands between us and losing our sanity.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
That's everyone though.
Johnsky
So it's understandable then? We men are human after all?
qyrriqat
Back when I lived with roommates, I was the responsible one who handled bills, landlord, etc. Roommate would hit me with stuff that came up the moment I walked in the door after work. I finally snapped one day and asked him to give me five minutes to switch work mode off once I got home. The next time he had something for me, he followed me, staring pointedly at his watch, and at the five-minute mark, launched into whatever thing he wanted me to deal with. 1/
qyrriqat
A) This is why I now live alone, and B) this is why I might stay in the car rather than going in immediately.
ZoidbergIsGreat
Yup. As soon as I get through the door there's usually 6 things that need to be attended to. I have to prep myself before walking into that so I don't act like a bitch
theskepticinme
For that small moment of silent alone time.
theskepticinme
Also to finish my cigarette
fractalsphere
Boomer humor right there - the ole "I hate my family and it's super-stressful cuz women" trope.
Lulabel73
Well it’s seems it’s moved down a couple of generations, so now it’s middle aged millennial humor now.
lelsdfjwwer
been true for at least last 50 yrs...so hardly boomer humor. and it's not a "trope" just because you say it is
bingotown
Yup because everyone under the age of 60 has perfect marriages.
Thunderchunks
Mostly taking a breather to change gears. Work needs to stay at work. Need a few moments to swallow the stress and rage and remember the stress you're about to walk into is the reason I can't kill myself but that's a good thing.
Psychobeanz
Alone time in the car is sacred when you have a family
SteveTheEgg
Or roommates. Or any coworkers. Or any type of social obligation.
ZoidbergIsGreat
Agreed. My introverted ass requires some reset time. As we age and have more responsibilities that time shrinks.
TheOneWhoFoundSauce
Multiple possible reasons. I'm exhausted, I'm still thinking about something work related and want to finish it before getting out, it's hot outside and cool inside, my favourite song or some interesting news is on the radio,...
somethingstupidandclever
NPR calls it "a driveway moment" and since then ill never question it again. Just having a private, stress reducing, mind clearing driveway moment.
whyforetho
I don't touch my phone or fiddle with anything while I'm driving so it's usually to check a message, put the gum I was chewing in the wrapper, google something I thought of on the drive before I forget, etc etc.
DoubleSunMoonMoon
Just swallow the gum, my chum
thetrulymaddog1134
I don’t think this is a gender specific thing. for me it was the sign to leave my SO when I had to brace myself for “home”
MustHailSagan
MurphyPandorasLawBox
What in the AI?
RunawaySpoons
I had no idea this was a particularly male thing to do? - signed, a woman confused because she's always done it too.
ZoidbergIsGreat
Right? It's the only time I get any time to myself...
DumpingSh1tandBeingKind2
Yep, woman here, I always do it too!
thedarkcanuck
Listen, if they're gonna play all 13 minutes of Freebird on the radio, I'm gonna have to sit there and finish it
oprahslovechild
I do it and I’m a woman. I do before work as well
jl2t17ilra8m17c
The annoying thing is when they do it while leaving their engine running. I had a female neighbor who would sleep in her car fr an hour or so every night between 1:30 to 4:30am w/ the engine running & the high risk of Carbon Monoxide-p0isoning while polluting the air w/ toxic microfumes to cause potential long-term health damages like aneurysms, str0kes, etc to her sleeping neighbors.
BestUsernameICouldThinkOf
There's a really good song on the radio.
DaveSamsonite
Darude Sandstorm is on.
lazysombrero
This!
AlphaIndustrial
Sometimes I'm just staring at nothing with no music until I snap out of it
EroticZombiePants
Exactly.
Zetor
If Bohemian rhapsody or Shine on you crazy diamond have started you have to finish listening. It's the law
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Aldante92
For definitely non-perverted reasons, what movie is the first half second from?
Malus333
Charley's Angels i think.
TheLark
Either that or "The Sweetest thing" one of the 2
Eridianne
Like bro you want me to just turn the car off when Phil Collins is about to drop that drum solo? Impossible
Danack
Yupurineutah
If it's Synchronicity II the family better flee out of the back door. 💀
quadraspaz1
It doesn't have to be a a good song. You can't just turn off the radio in the middle of a song or a news segment or a conversation or anything else that won't give us auties closure
MartyBrice
ya just don't shut off the car in the middle of a guitar solo, ya just don't!
Tastydumplings
BillyYankNova
"Nah nah nah nah-nah-nah-naah nah-nah-nah-naah, Heey Juude!"
darthstormer
Because they're finally about to say whodunit on my murder podcast.
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JadeNB1729
It was me. Always.
FishieStardust
I'm a chick, but sometimes I do it so that I don't bring work emotions/stress into the house with me and I can pretend that work wasn't a dumpster fire
invisibulman
Yep, this is it. Transitioning from work mode to home mode. Two different circuses.
ForkForkFork
I was going to say, I don’t think this behavior is gendered.
FishieStardust
You are correct
hufflesnuff
Life sucks, and then you die. But you do it for them. And you hope they won't be peasants too. But they will. And for 10,000 years it goes on and on. We're all doing the best we can.
Sokonomi
My whole life is a flaming garbage truck, so sadly that trick wont work for me. :')
MrsBlancheDevereaux
Yep I do it too
Comet260
This is why I DESPISE bosses that expect us to take work home with us. Nah, I like not thinking about work as soon as I clock out.
MenstrualWaterBalloons
I used to do this too because I live with a malignant narcissist and dreaded going into my home every time. I don't anymore because the neighbors would start fighting every day and my narcissist started running to me almost the second I arrived. Now I park at random places to calm down between work and the control freak.
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AawesomeAardvaark
This is unfortunately common too. I used to frequently see a guy sitting in his truck most days at a boat launch. I finally asked why he sat there and he just told me his wife and life at home sucks so he gets 15 minutes of calm before the storm.
MisadventurousFlapJack
I didn't know women referred to themselves as 'chick'. Somehow that seemed like a word only men use but maybe that's just where I am from.
Salticido
There's a band made up of women called The Chicks.
JadeNB1729
They don't. It is actually used by small farm fowl pretending to be women. Don't be deceived!
FishieStardust
FishieStardust
I might be a bit of an outlier. I will also accept, "hey you/you there", "broad", "Amber" (or any other name that I can tell you're meaning me", "ma'am", "hun", "sweetie", "dude", and then some. I tend to believe most people mean well, and there's usually bigger concerns than this.
PreciousPotato
True dat. I care about the meaning, not the word. I’d also call a group of men „chicks“ or „girls“. It’s all about the intention. I’d be like: „Us bitches would appreciate it if you chicks would be a bit less neander.“
TheBishopofBanterbury
You're good people.
FishieStardust
TheBishopofBanterbury
CairoLen
I read this to my wife who is of the same opinion. She said, "Tell her 'Yeah bitch!' from me! That's my kind of dame."
mikeatike
Same even when I work from home. Sometimes I gotta go out, even if it's just to sit in the car and listen to some music or an audiobook.
wreynor1
That's actually a really good idea.
mikeatike
Makes me wish I had an electric car, then I wouldn't feel so bad about driving to nowhere in particular.
Comet260
Until some Karen calls the cops.
ImeldaLuciana
awwww. this made me sad. I feel you. what kind of work you do?
FishieStardust
Amazon distribution, ahem, "fulfillment center"
TsubakiTragic
If we don't hear from you by 3pm friday should we send rescue, or kittens?
madjo
I think a bottle to pee in would be more helpful to an Amazon warehouse worker.
FishieStardust
To be determined
vladimirtheliberator
I am so sorry for you
FishieStardust
Just livin' the dream
sciencegeek26
You're doing your best, and it is enough ♡