I've got those isolation blues

Jan 9, 2017 12:06 AM

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I don't know if I'm just so unappealing that no one is interested, but it feels like everyone just paired off one day and I just slept in or something

I'm 30, I've never been in a relationship, probably cos I'm overweight and don't like how my body looks. Working on it.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

It could be worse :( you could be in a long horrible relationship

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

The myth that a relationship will save you or somehow reinvigorate your life is a big part of why divorce rate is so high.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 1

Relationships can be over rated. Just spend some time figuring out what you want out of life and then find someone who wants the same.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

Could be worse, I've been in a lot of bad relationships which also makes it hard to know how to be in a relationship.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Most people In our generation don't, it's either hook up or meet up via online or social events.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

What generally worked for me, is just talk to people in a respectful manner, and be yourself. And don't expect anything, just have nice talk

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

I've been single for 7 years and I could not be happier

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

I know that feel. Unfortunately I have no wheelies for you to escape your feelies, for I do not know where to find them. I am sorry.

9 years ago | Likes 69 Dislikes 0

@OP got to meetups or events where people gather who enjoy things you do. That can help.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Coulda written this not too long ago - it did end up happening for me. I had to believe I was worthy, and then all of a sudden one day...

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

...I had a sudden and inexplicable heart attack while writing an imgur comment and posthumously completed said comment on my ghost account!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

...WHAT?!?

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

I'm an unemployed, single virgin whose friends all live in different states. I feel ya.

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

Yup same boat man. Finished college and have not fucking clue about anything... lol fml

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Hooray! I'm not the only one

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Give you a tip: just talk to people and wait until it happens. Key word: Talk*

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I'd start by closing imgur

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Why isn't this top comment?

7 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

U just jack off be disgusted with ur self then go sleep

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

When you find the right person, it'll all work out, if you need to talk of anything, just send me a message,

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Ps I have a fart nugget of a chihuahua I can send photos of you'd like

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

I'm married, and I still don't. At least according to this person living with me.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

I know the feeling. Even if I manage to pull a relationship outta nowhere ill be pretty lost on the whole thing.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

It fucking sucks. Expect to be undermined and unappreciated.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Your not alone

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 2

You're

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 2

Cuz we uggos, bro.

9 years ago | Likes 38 Dislikes 0

Perhaps. But more often than not it's a story of average dudes that don't have the confidence to put themselves out there.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Are you even making an effort to go out and meet people? Talking to strangers is the first step.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 3

How do you do that in a non-creepy way though?

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

When you say things, have the right intentions about it. Are you saying things just to impress a girl, it probably won't work.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Confidence is key to everything. Just be yourself. (Is what I learned in the 12 years of my very bad social anxiety)

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Thank you! That is really good advice! It's definitely something I need to practice. It can be really hard letting go of self-consciousness

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Someone once told me that people are more busy and selfconcious about self than others. :p so don't be afraid to be judged others are too.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

You have to be cool, like calm, relaxed, then just say stupid things

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

The last girlfriend I had was when I was 9 and it lasted 2 days. I'm 2 weeks off 28 and understand what you're saying completely.

9 years ago | Likes 22 Dislikes 0

I feel yah OP v

9 years ago | Likes 141 Dislikes 0

This though

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Yeah.. dude is in a party yelling that. I don't even get invites to parties.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Just show up uninvited. Keep to yourself and get drunk. Don't talk to anyone. Bring your own booze. And there ya go. You're at a party :)

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

He's actually yelling "Whooo" but that's what the whooo translates to. There's this whole thing about it in this episode.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Hmm, I felt that way for a while. Then I got back into shape. Turns out no one wanted to be with me because I was an unattractive, fat slob.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 2

I thought this as well, however i am far above average in that department where i live and those other guys are all paired off...

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

It just means you're so good at looking like you are complete that everyone thinks you don't need someone to feel whole.

9 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 5

Barf.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Gag

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'll take bullshit inspirational quotes for 400, Alex.

9 years ago | Likes 30 Dislikes 1

Lol hey sometimes overused sayings are overused for a reason

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 2

After a cheating fiance Ive gone from hopeless romantic to total cynic. Ive no idea how to get back out there. Not sure I even want to

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

I'm still a hopeless romantic, but i need a target for it

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Don't let him take that aspect of life from you! Take your time but don't close your mind or heart to it.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Its been 2.5 years now, I dont think time is what I need. I just think that specific part of me died. Ive tried to find it, but I cant.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Before meeting me my gf felt the same way for almost the same amount of time as you. Her husband of 29 yrs cheated on her and the divorce

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Ended up splitting the family in half; her 2 older sons disowned her despite it was their dad that cheated. Her daughter and younger son

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

took her side. She feel into depression and was only getting by each day for her children's sake. She gave up on herself. How I ended up

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 119 Dislikes 12

Yay, I'm like a red panda!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

This is quite an appropriate reaction @InappropriateReaction

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

What kind of fucked up panda is that

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 6

A red one

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

The Red Panda is more closely related to the Fox

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Oh. Thank you. TIL

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'm 27 and haven't had a proper relationship. I'm surprised that I've even managed to lose my virginity without paying, to be honest.

9 years ago | Likes 66 Dislikes 0

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9 years ago (deleted Jan 9, 2017 4:20 AM) | Likes 0 Dislikes 0

Experience with what? He said he didn't pay

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

27 too and that's exactly how I feel. :(

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

You people make me lose hope... I am 21 and only starting with this shit :/

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

25, lots of sex, lots of experiences, haven't had a proper relationship or girlfriend. And that is the only thing I wanted.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 2

27 never even been on a date so I know that feel.

9 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 0

it'll happen someday, just focus on work and enjoying shit, because the day will come when wish you were single again.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 2

"It'll happen one day" is for pretty, interesting, and outgoing people. Better to tell OP to actually go out and make an attempt than wait

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Im 33, still a virgin. Thing is i did meet a chick in December, went on my first ever date and now I have a GF and it wont be long now. 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

She came out of left field for me on a dating site with an older account and it can happen to anyone just don't lose hope

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Congrats, bro. Best of luck to you. Personal question: does she know you're a virgin? Do you plan on telling her beforehand?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

yes she knows she was basically the first date i ever had, she gave me my first kiss, and ect - was worried about rejection but she didn't

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I feel the same way except with friendships even. Literally don't even know how to make friends/ be friends with anyone anymore.

9 years ago | Likes 552 Dislikes 2

Honestly, just be real have fun, do fun stuff. Get out of your house. Join a club anything.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

I luckily get to know a lot of people, I just can't keep the relationships going strong after a few months

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I can relate to this a lot, and I gave up trying to make friends or getting into a relationship long time ago.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Are you me? Sounds like me.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I got you on that friendship

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

yeah boi .... i know that feeling

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'm not even old enough to drive and I already got that problem. Just roll with it and don't give a shit. It comes easier then, apparently.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I'm always looking for friends!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'm here for you too

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Smae here friend same here

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Yep. Same. And Friday I lost my job. Now I'm even less appealing

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Pick a few people who have replied and send them messages. Tell a bit about yourself and where you live and what you do. See what happens.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Can relate, after I finished my education, lifted my head from the desk and got a real job, I looked around and realized everyone is gone.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Same. I invite people, they're busy. I also constantly find out about hangouts that just didn't include me for whatever reason

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

You're Not Alone -- Saosin

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Put down the cell phone, be there for people. And ffs stop with the unrealistic expectations that porn instill.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Same here buddy. But I seem to be able to manage internet friends to some degree. :T

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

This so much. I feel your pain.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Make waterballoons. Everyone loves waterbaloons.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Do what I did play league and anyone who doesn't tell you to kill your self at first becomes a life long friend

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Stop feeding bro

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

We both know that wouldn't matter

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Practice being friendly, how to have good conversations, join local groups like RPG games or men's sheds.

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Uh...mens sheds?

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

This is amazing http://mensshed.org/what-is-a-mens-shed/

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

TIL

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I've got like 3 or 4 friends. That's almost too many.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

find an activity you like, do activity with strangers, get to know strangers, start doing things outside of the activity with them

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Same. I want to hang out with people but then I don't because that takes effort and I'm an anxious mess.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Exactly this!!!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

It sucks.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Depends if you want friends. I personally hate people and dont care about have tons of friends.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

This

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I too am in the no friend band wagon. Only friends i got are online friends lol.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Same here. I'm trying to figure out why though.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Me too. I'm a 23 yr old in London. Wtf.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I agree with you and OP. Welp, I'm in trouble.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

The best friendships are the effortless ones. Ive had my best friend for 12 years, and if you saw us you'd think no way would they hang out

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Me too, my last friends screwed me over so I never tried to be friends with anyone again

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 3

This was my exact experience as well!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Wanna... wanna be friends? Oh god I can't I take it back!!!!!!

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

NO YOU ALREADY SAID IT NO TAKE BACKS!!!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Oh my god, me too!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I feel like @op except the opposite. I wouldn't have a clue how to be single or go from single to in a relationship again.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Oh making friends is good fun. All u have to do is say words at them and see if they are interested

9 years ago | Likes 24 Dislikes 0

Yeah, but what if your vocabulistics aint too good and you say stuff that dont make much sense to most people?

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

It's the saying words part that I struggle with!! :p

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

Any words dude

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

It's the registering interest I struggle with.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Also that.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

All of the above...

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