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It feels like a shitty thing to do
The backstory, if anyone cares, is that we've been dating 4 years and living together for 2. Sex has never been great, for various reasons. He always comes after just a minute or two (yes we tried everything), and he has a strange attitude regarding sex. He has a hard time talking about it, I don't see him naked much, he's very self conscious in bed, always asks "if I'm okay", etc. It's strange because we're both 25 and healthy, and he's a good looking guy. We even saw a therapist once (I pushed him to go) but it didn't change much.
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Now, we have sex every month or two, I usually feel sad afterwards. We've talked these problems over extensively. We love each other dearly and we're best friends, but we aren't sexually compatible (in my opinion. Somehow, he's perfectly content).
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I'm totally devastated. I feel like I need to go through with the breakup and just move on, but some family members of mine have told me I'm being selfish. My mother even said "what if he lost his legs? would you leave him for that too?" So maybe I'm just a shitty person.
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*EDIT* Wow, thanks for all the advice, wasn't expecting that. This is what I'm getting:
85% of you think sex IS important and I should fix it or GTFO
14% think I'm a shitty person that never loved my partner
1% think I need a strap-on
What more can you expect! Thanks imgur!
**EDIT 2**
Based on all the PMs I've gotten, there are a lot of people going through someone like this. So know that what you're feeling is valid -- sex IS important -- and when people say "if you really love him/her, you'd make it work", just brush it off. That's not sound advice. Relationships are much more complicated than that.
i broke up with him yesterday. It was the hardest thing I've ever done. At some point, I thought he was the one. I thought I would marry him.
Our relationship changed, though. We're still best friends... but in the end, I prioritize sex more than he does. And that's fine. It just means that while we may love each other desperately, we're probably not sexually compatible. I haven't slept in like 48 hours and I'm afraid I'll never stop crying but hey... I'm doing my best to look out for myself. It's a work in progress.
I'm by no means an expert, but if anyone going through this needs someone to talk to, I'm happy to lend an ear.
thescottishfox
One simple question, are you okay with not having a sex life? Because you need to answer that to have your answer.
loopycunt
There's no reward in this world for settling for something you do not want. John Mellemcamp said that. Set him free
talldrink413
Anti depressants ie paxil did the trick for me. Have him take 1 hour before sex. You will not regret if he is willing. Or take daily :)
UltraBooster
Maybe see if he is ok with you getting sex somewhere else? Have your cake and eat it too? Or let someone else eat it?
1nfinitezer0
Look up polyamory. It's hard for some people, but possible. I had an asexual friend who let his partner 'roam'.
am0rph0us
Being incompatible in bed = losing legs. Got it.
TheOneWhoKnowsNothing
Exemples bro, it's never gonna be the same, the hiperbole it's always gonna be the shit with examples
bntli
hes probably into some kink and doesnt want to tell you
InZaneOh
I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 years cause she had sex like a dead fish. We also maybe had sex once ever 4 months. 1/2
InZaneOh
I'm now with a girl that wants it more than I can handle. Its pretty amazing
LittleKnownOne
And soon she'll write a post here "I'm breaking up with him because he can't keep up with my Needs."
AlcoholicsAnonymousBYO
Don't feel shitty for being patient and trying to make things work. Much less for wanting sex. As a guy, all sympathy. Just go. Cry. Bonk.
HeroinAddictedJesus
If you aren't happy, move on. Don't let people make you feel bad.
Lobsterfarts
For real. Forever's a long time to have shitty, mediocre sex with someone every other month.
IcantSpellForShit
He might have some medical problems affecting him. Even if he is healthy as you say, he should talk to his doctor about this.
Blunt350
+1. It is abnormal to have a low libido at 25 yo. It is what we call a red flag in primary care (need to investigated).
Morositas
I'd love a guy with low to no libido. If I want to get off I can do it myself. I'm actually sick of sex.
nohman64
I have a pretty low libido, but I feel like it might help if I stop watching porn. I don't do that everyday either, but I feel like 1/2
nohman64
it would help if I could regain that excitement from seeing a woman naked, if you know what I mean. 2/2
tusig1243
Sexual compatibility is a big part of a relationship... I see nothing wrong here
sosofosho
Most chicks don't orgasm from intercourse anyway - teach him good oral technique.
imshibagel
intercourse alone, not a majority, but with intercourse and clitoral stimulation they sure do
BringBackZachBraff
I doubt he is content. He's probably scared of constantly disappointing you meaning he's "happy" with sex infrequently.
Cheesecakecrush
One of the cyclical side effects of "poor performance" is anxiety on following encounters, leading to worse performance.
Cheesecakecrush
Plus, your own expectations prevent you from getting into the act. There is too much pressure to perform on him to actually do it
soupiswhatitsoundslikewhenyoueatsoup
I could see this being the case. He doesn't want to lose you, but this kind of situation just doesn't fit. Love is not a relationship. /1
soupiswhatitsoundslikewhenyoueatsoup
Love can always be there, but a relationship is its own unique arrangement. You're not getting rid of love; but you both deserve fulfillment
RealityIsOftenDisappointing
Fulfillment is a bar you set yourself. If you constantly look for 10s in all categories, you'll be unfulfilled most of your life.
soupiswhatitsoundslikewhenyoueatsoup
You're 100% right. Still, it's no undoing of happiness to seek qualities you're attracted to. Fulfillment can exist with or without a 1/
soupiswhatitsoundslikewhenyoueatsoup
relationship; but, if she's gonna be in a relationship, she wants SOME certain things--otherwise, there's just no point.
zrhay
I mean, break ups happen. You can both find people who will be better suited to your needs. Don't feel the need to settle.
Blinkordeath182
I tried making it work with a girl that wasn't into sex for years. I loved her desperately and told myself there were other more important 1
Blinkordeath182
Things. A relationship shouldn't be all about sex, but it is a huge deal. It didn't work out in the end for that reason. Then right after 2
Blinkordeath182
We broke up sue started fucking everyone. It still hurts. A lot. My sex life is totally in the drain because all i can think about is her 3
Blinkordeath182
Getting fucked by some adage that doesn't give 2 shits about her. Can't even jerk off anymore.
boopboopityboop
Damn, I'm so sorry to hear that. Sounds like this was recent?
Blinkordeath182
Yeah. Its been happening over and over again for the last 6 months. She hasnt been very nice lol. I just ended it for good a week ago
Blinkordeath182
The shittiest part is that I still miss her dearly. Even though she was such a dick
EchoMe
If you WANT DIFFERENT THINGS it's a completely understandable thing to try to find someone who is more compatible. It's WHY ppl date 1/2
EchoMe
Before they marry the first person that they fall in love with 2/2
roflwaffle92
Sex therapy. Keep seeing a therapist. I'm a 10 pump chump myself unless I'm drunk/high and really comfy with my partner. Record is 15min
roflwaffle92
I also have to think about unrelated shit and keep up the dirty talk. Sometimes I even have to get weird cause I won't know what to say 2/?
KyleBeach
The problem is OP sounds set in her decision already. Further, if they had issues together, therapy might help but it rarely does when it
KyleBeach
is one partner dragging the other in saying "you aren't fucking me right, now Dr. Love here is going to fix you"
boopboopityboop
Haha. Well, it was my idea, but I didn't drag him anywhere.
roflwaffle92
Like Morty I might stutter like "uhhh yeah I'll put my leg up like this, you like this angle? You like when saddle you up like this?" 3/?
roflwaffle92
What works for me is doing everything possible to distract/desensitize how good it feels cause that's why I bust so fast. 4/4
roflwaffle92
See a sex therapist. Keep trying at it. Look up premature ejaculation. Ask a Dr. Sounds like a wonderful relationship apart from this.
Horseymcfaceyface
timeloveandyarn
Be gentle but above all HONEST with him. You have every right to have a happy, healthy, and fulfilling sex life even it it's not with him.
Peryton
Is sex really that much of a deal breaker? Would/Is he bothered by you masturbating? I mean if sex really is the be-all-end-all 1/
Peryton
Of the relationship then yeah break up with him. Before you break-up figure out what you want out of a relationship, if he meets all the 2/
Peryton
important criteria, and you break up with him anyway, then either you don't know what you want, or yes, you are that shitty. But if sex 3/
Peryton
Is high on the list of important criteria, then yeah maybe breaking up is the way to go.
Sephonia
Yes, it is a deal breaker. If your partner smoked and you tried to help them quit with therapists, patches, gums, etc. all while provding1/2
Sephonia
Support along the way, then you have done everything you can and the person is simply not going to be able to be good for you. Thats 1/3
Sephonia
Exactly what is happening here. She has tried everything to make it work but he refuses to go outside his comfort zone for her. Leave him.
Peryton
It might, indeed be a deal breaker for you. But OP's answer is the only one that is relevant. He clearly has gone out of his comfort zone.
tagmomg
So wait, he's went as far as going to therapy, but he's refusing to go outside his comfort zone? I don't quite follow your logic there.
boopboopityboop
He has, to a point. He went to therapy with me (once), and he took salsa dancing classes with me (Idk, I thought it might help)
boopboopityboop
I do, however, feel as if I've done a lot more. I bought a sex toy, new sexy underwear, planned dates, scoured the internet for answers...
nerdyvet
Sex means different things to different people, and if it's a necessity for you in your relationship it's selfish in the good way--
nerdyvet
It IS important to prioritize yourself to a certain extent; martyrdom is not actually healthy!! That being said, I think a sincere convo--
nerdyvet
is recommended FIRST. As others have mentioned there are reasons he could be struggling as well (Vit. D, depression, etc...)--
nerdyvet
I have a good friend who had this problem with her husband for over a year, and was beginning to have her own depression because of it--
nerdyvet
Turns out he had a Vit. D deficiency (hah.). It was corrected, now no one is D-Deficient ;P (haha!). Just one example! Point being--
nerdyvet
TL;DR--You need to do what's best for you, BUT, it may be worth a thorough sincere conversation and medical work up!!
WHATILEARNEDINBOATINGSCHOOLIS
You should get a strap on and show him what you want
jayfizzle
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crimison
drbobvsbdubs
Second this
pagliacci323
Haha maybe he would be into that!!
notareej
pegging! woo!
fraaaaaaaaank
I love this. I love this gif usage. LOVE.
PoppaBigBear
Not a bad idea at all. Maybe even try some cybering where the laws of physics and human biology are irrelevant.
Oxvee
Problem solved :D
HeyImMatthewHearMeRoar
McFancyPants
Being pushed to see a therapist is probably one of the reasons it didn't make much of a difference.
Horseymcfaceyface
Yes all of this
jacksparrah
Speaking from experience, some people just aren't into sex. I know I'm not. I've tried, and it's just not something I enjoy, so I tend 1/2
jacksparrah
to have sex as seldom as my partner will mind. I just don't enjoy it, I don't think it's that great, and it's... blah.
zFUBARz
I'm always curious with people in your situation, do you actually orgasm? name implies male, so gonna assume yes.
jacksparrah
Actually a girl. And I've never orgasmed from intercourse, but biology's biology, I suppose. If I masturbate I orgasm like anyone else.
zFUBARz
Hmm, well that's not uncommon, but masturbation's not particularly pleasurable either? or at least not enough to be worthwhile?
kallikak
Eh I'm a male and I have no desire for actual sex. Been there, done that; wasn't all that great.
AgonyZ
Do you still have an urge to? If not you might be asexual. I am. Opened my eyes.
ZPretorianZ
I think you should tell him basically everything you wrote here, make him understand exactly how much it effects you.
SomeSortaPsycho
I think if she has even pushed him to see a therapist than she pretty much has told him how she feels
vavavoooom
The question is how long new habits (in his case) can be sustained. Sex every month or two seems deeply ingrained for a 25 y/o.
TibiriusSolo
I agree. But if u do, make it as a team. Guys often feel pressure to be good and that anxiety just makes things worse. Not fun sexy time.
TheeRealDuke
+1, but anxiety after YEARS is coming from somewhere within him, probably not related to sex. Maybe some developmental trauma idk.
WHATILEARNEDINBOATINGSCHOOLIS
As someone who just got out of a 4 yr relationship, if you're willing to break up over the sex, there may be deeper issues being overlooked.
boopboopityboop
You're right. There probably are. But if he's not interested in figuring out what those issues are... Well, I can't make him.
WHATILEARNEDINBOATINGSCHOOLIS
Exactly. I broke up with my gf because I was moving 800 miles away, but the bigger issue is that I wasn't willing to stay for her.
HEXADECIMAL
You're not wrong, but these comments are hilarious bc if it was a guy saying this it would probably be downvoted to hell.
gamerman99
All too true
ZPretorianZ
Sadly that is true, when it's a guy that says sex is important in a relationship it's often viewed very differently
WHATILEARNEDINBOATINGSCHOOLIS
That's because women can get away with laying there like a dead fish most of the time and the guy still gets off
kummeli
"I need a more fulfilling sex life." pretty much covers it.
LggiLovesNewWaveAndIndieRockPop
Ultimatum gurl, being direct and honest is best
WHATILEARNEDINBOATINGSCHOOLIS
Ultimatum is code for "I don't love you for who you are, I like you for what you do"
Knobcheese
No. No ultimatums.
onefaller
*affects
browniesandcheese
Yup
yourcreepyunclefriendly
Well this proves it. I have no fucking clue what the difference is lol. BRB gonna go write my evs paper
TheInfraggableKronk
Affects cause effects.
Alwaysbackdoor
Effect is the noun. Affect is the verb. At least in this context.
Nethyl
You are affected by an effect.
ZPretorianZ
It's my second language, I tried :p
HEXADECIMAL
How many men have sex with their gf/wife maybe three times a month and they put up with it. They shouldn't but they love em, so they deal.
Morositas
My bf bitches if we skip a day. I'm not allowed to refuse because he gets whiny and pissy. I can't wait for my period.
Niroan
That's not a good guy. Your partner should at the very least try to seduce you, not force you. You been with him long? If you don't mind
Morositas
9 years lol. Know his family, am the aunt if his nephew. He suffers from depression so he uses sex to try and alleviate it.
Morositas
At least get me the freaking vibrator lol!
boopboopityboop
I feel like I shouldn't have to "deal" with that when I'm 25 and not even married with kids yet. But I'm probably just a bitch
SureJan
Not at all. Breaking up will open the door for both of you to find better suited partners. Ain't nobody got time to "deal".
PegLegSteg
Nope, you're entitled to you're feelings. If you feel this lack of intimacy negatively effects your relationship that is a fair reason to 1/
PegLegSteg
Choose to not spend the rest of your life with someone
soMuchHappy
If you only do it once a month, of course he's going to last 2 seconds. Try 10 times a day and he'll build that stamina up
Lastdarkninja
@op or teach him oral ya know
Snotty128
This. When Im getting laid only once a week I struggle to make myself last. When Im getting laid everyday I can keep going as long as I like
mroranges
No not this. Clearly the guy has issues beyond sensitivity
Snotty128
Its hard to say, considering we only have one side of the story, and its a short story at that
Mavgurian
Masturbation does not count or does not occur? Honestly curious, PM me if you do not want to talk in presence of our little family here.
Snotty128
I find masturbation helps with the feeling of being 'over full', but doesnt help deal with the riot of sensation from actual sex.
nohman64
It's not going to work if he has a low libido. You can't force someone to get horny. Speaking from experience.
FrozenRaccoon
Yep, the more he gets off in one day the longer he'll start lasting. 3 x 1-2 hours gets most men up to 20-30 min. It increases after that.
kvietela
I would honestly get so bored if it was 20-30 minutes! 2-5 is perfect for me
FrozenRaccoon
Clarity Edit: 3 times in 1 to 2 hours...
RyoukoSama
The rest of her freaking post explained that is not the only problem. He obviously just has a problem with sex. She needs to move on if it 1
mroranges
Yup
RyoukoSama
Is making her this unhappy. @OP you're not a bad person and at this point you are doing the best for both of you to move on.
Lastdarkninja
Which is caused by his low stamina
ILikeCuteGifsAndICannotLie
You have made efforts to improve the relationship for both of you and he refuses to make any changes for you because he is perfectly happy.
ILikeCuteGifsAndICannotLie
Moving on is not selfish at all.Both parties need to be fulfilled and happy for a relationship to work.Your mom is just thinking outdatedly.
DisBean
Agree. You are trying and if he isn't as well, don't settle. You will resent him- sounds like you already are. Comparing this situation to
DisBean
Having his legs blown off isn't the same cause that's not controllable. He can talk to u, continue counselling, communicate what u want etc
boopboopityboop
Yeah, you're right about that. She's even said "Most women would love to have your problem, so they don't need to have sex"
NERDRAGEohacat
That sounds legit... for the elderly. Sure is easy to dismiss sex when the drive isn't there anymore.
magnificentbastard
Ohhhh wow that's just fucking horrible mindset. Shows you how unhappy she probably is with her marriage and sex life.
nerdyvet
....wtf xD
TinySupreme
I hate that argument. Let's just generalize everyone because we all have the same wants and needs and then make you feel like shit.(sarcasm)
ILikeCuteGifsAndICannotLie
Fuck that noise! If a woman has the right partner sex is awesome. I feel sorry for woman that think the way your mom does.
boopboopityboop
Me too :\ I don't ask for details but I'd guess my parents haven't had sex in a few decades. I don't wanna be like that damn
NoFoxLeft
You do you boopboop. Sexual compatability is important. If he's not willing to change now, he never will. Maybe he has low testosterone?
ILikeCuteGifsAndICannotLie
For sure. Sorry this relationship may not work, but there will be a great guy out there for you.
WHATILEARNEDINBOATINGSCHOOLIS
That's so depressing
isandrocks
I feel bad for the guy. He probably knows he is shit in bed so he actively tries to avoid it. But hey it your life. Gotta lookout for no.1
Shellzie2010
In that case, he shouldn't avoid it, practice makes perfect...
Stonetaku420
Yeah I bet his self confidence is in the gutter
happyadams
Even a therapist couldn't help. Either he didn't open up or He's just built that way.
ThePrimrose
If he knows they he should improve. He's also looking out for himself. By only avoiding it, and leaving her hanging
aselleus
Maybe he legit has a medical problem and he feels shitty about it. Has he been to the doctor at least?
boopboopityboop
Nope. And I think that might've helped -- maybe he has low testosterone? But if he won't go, I guess I'll never know...
Howdoilife
He could be absolutely shit at sex but still make some magic happen with mouth and hands. Idk why this isn't happening for them
supersmashsisters
It's not the same though :(
HighlySexualLobster
https://youtu.be/3r1O4quczxI
Oxvee
That's what I thought !
KPopGirlKimi
Maybe he's not good at that either :(
IShouldProbablyReadMore
THIS!!
mynameisnotalice
"Magic with mouth and hands" doesn't count as sex?
Howdoilife
I thought a lot of people would consider foreplay, idk I don't have sex much
mynameisnotalice
Errr. Okay. Would explain the amount of sexually frustrated people.
Kektimus
Yes. I'm as confused as you on that one.
XooMG
I don't really understand the issue. If he is against manual or oral or toy stimulation, then maybe I can sympathize with OP a little. (1)
XooMG
I know there are shallow folks who have specific sexual demands, but if both partners are reasonable, sorting it should be trivial.
boopboopityboop
It's not just his premature ejaculation. It's his attitude about sex overall.
KappaColors
So he doesn't offer to help you in other ways? My fiancee was like this for the first year or so and during that time I felt like that (1)
KappaColors
until we talked about it. Then he started using other methods to satisfy me and it helped our relationship immensely. He doesn't have (2)
boopboopityboop
Unfortunately, at this point, sex has just gotten awkward and tense for the both of us.
RealityIsOftenDisappointing
Marriage isn't about everything being right.Its about both of your abilities to deal with what's wrong together. 4 years and not married-
Iwanttobangthatbabe
Can confirm. I used to be that kind of guy. Sex was never fun. Just an immasculating and embarrassing experience. Often turned down /1
Iwanttobangthatbabe
'invitations' because the shame I'd feel about myself was far greater than the pleasure sex brought me.
Alastor3
sooo, did you change that? Im pretty sensible and can never last more than 5-10 minutes.
thefatlonelyjew
I have had a uniquely different experience
Iwanttobangthatbabe
Oh yeah, it's better now. Can last way longer depending on mood, sobriety, etc. Full disclosure: I take pills to combat it.
Alastor3
is it medical pills? I just tried a Cockring but it did nothing except making woody feel like trapped and hated the feeling.
periwinklepanda
Glad you found something that works for you!
TinySupreme
I think the average time a guy lasts is about right in that time span, actually.
almostsomething182
The trick is to not care what others think about you. I'm a piece of shit, but hey, I've gotten laid!
iambanned
Anyone cum fast after not having sex for over a week or two, try having sex every day or get him to masturbate. Also foreplay helps alot!
karlta05
this!
ImStillLearningHowToLife
@OP read this!
boopboopityboop
I tried :( This summer we had a serious talk about my dissatisfaction (lots of crying) and I told him i want to have sex every single day
boopboopityboop
So we could work on it together. We had sex twice that week, and once the next. Then it fizzled out again
boopboopityboop
The big warning sign, for me, was that I didn't feel like trying anymore. I could initiate it with him, but I just don't want to :(
ImStillLearningHowToLife
fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck. That really sucks. I'm sorry OP.
ImStillLearningHowToLife
But honest question here. After 2 mins, did he keep going after he came or did he stop after?
iambrokencog
And, when I leave a woman because sex, I'm a chauvinist pig.
TheShiftyEyedDog
I feel like it's mostly about the way you deliver the news that makes you a shitty person or not
UH60Mechanic
Oh no, there are plenty of whiners saying she strung him along. They fail to realize that actual relationships take time and effort.
mroranges
Shut the fuck up
OBIJUANKENOBl
I know plenty of guy friends who have left because the sex wasn't good and I never thought that, sex is super important in any relationship
KappaColors
I feel the same way!
FlatPlutoSociety
What are you even talking about?
Coldstreme
starfish aren't an endangered species anyways
nicholcm
When I read the story I thought if you flipped it on its head, and have a bloke complaining of this people would be mad.
iambrokencog
you should see my inbox.
JohnnyCaldwell
Ain't that a bitch, an only men can be sexist right?
NoLollygagging
Sex is a super important part of a relationship. It's our intimacy with each other, something good we do only with the one we love.
NoLollygagging
If that fails, then it's just as bad as not communicating, not sharing, and even more devastating that fighting
NoLollygagging
Because you can still love each other, but can't be intimate, can't express it in the primordial instinct that is to breed.
KyleBeach
But regardless, he has a point. In just about any situation, if you inserted a male into OP's scenario he would be the scum of the earth for
KyleBeach
leaving a chick who didn't fuck him enough.
strawmanAlert
That's cool dude, make this about yourself.
757packerfan
You must be new here :)
TheShiftyEyedDog
Wow you really got torn apart for that one! That'll teach you to point out stupid comments
MyPPisSmall
He's not, it's double standards, If a woman leaves a man because of bad sex it's ok, but if a man does it he's a pig. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
mroranges
No one thinks this. It's the approach of how it's done that matters.
megfc
These aren't the same. They've tried to work it out. Where others just say "meh" and move on, that's shallow.
mroranges
No idea why this was downvoted
megfc
Thanks. I didn't think I was attacking anyone.
MyPPisSmall
True, but my statement is still correct.
pagliacci323
OK I will get so downvoted but here goes: you're a horrible person because you kept dating him for four fucking years are you FUCKING crazy
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Rabidbacon
I agree, that's just messed up. Poor guy is not going to trust women for a long time after this.
imshibagel
Clearly the sex each month or two is recent. Perhaps she could cope with shitty sex if more frequent as it had been...no need to be mean
pagliacci323
I cant help but be mean.Stringing someone along is one of the worst things you can do. Especially your own boyfriend/girlfriend. Four years!
imshibagel
Did you completely misunderstand what I said or chose to ignore it?
UH60Mechanic
"stringing someone along" and "trying to work through problems" are two totally different things.
KappaColors
It's not "stringing them along" if they actually love them and thought it could work.
lostintransmutation
I was with someone for almost 3, despite us, basically, not having a sex life. But i loved his company...i shouldve ended it sooner, 1/2
lostintransmutation
So youre not wrong in your statement. I guess i was hoping that the desire would deminish, but it didn't (he was also pretty selfish. 2/2-3
lostintransmutation
So that didnt help his cause. Sorry for rambling. 3/3 (for real)
Bombideer
Speaking as a guy who got dumped after four years and the girl lost her virginity days later at a party, THIS. If it's a problem, fix or end
pagliacci323
She couldn't fuck you then break up with you? Damn bro. Sorry.
Bombideer
I ended up losing it to her anyways two months later, and I *really* regret it. I just wish I wasn't led on like I was for so long.
TheOneWhoKnowsNothing
I agree, i understand her problem, but this could have been over in just 2 years, why did she had to develop her relationship even when 1/2
TheOneWhoKnowsNothing
She knew it already was gone to shit and she didn't like it?
wayshegoesboys
Sounds like she really loves this guy. Imagine breaking up with someone you really love just because sex is sub par. It's not that simple.
squallau
I get the impression Imgur doesn't really know what love is, since everything is reduced to "be naked when I get home" and touching butts.
wayshegoesboys
I think it would also be interesting if we could see the ages of the people who are replying to this post.
boopboopityboop
I thought the sex could get better, I really did.
wayshegoesboys
Don't feel bad, my story's similar. Girlfriend for 4 years. Sex got better recently. She's got issues and we BOTH worked at it. You tried.
AIDS
Make him pleasure you first
TheyCallMeBuns
You know after a while sex becomes one of those "things that won't change just because you're in a committed relationship." (1/2)
TheyCallMeBuns
If he had a particular habit/lifestyle choice that you didn't approve of, would you have waited years hoping that it would be resolved? (2/2
TehBox0rz
Yes? I've been married for six years to a procrastinator who is finally realizing what a problem it is. Sometimes self-awareness takes time