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FrostedBlues
This hits home, so hard.
CoarseAndSalty
Taking time off has gotten so much worse now. I still get sick and suffer but now I'm already quarantined. Makes it much harder to justify.
drmccormick75512
Slimebunny
I love this!
bloodydingo
Well now you have a reason to take a mental health day tomorrow.
Slimebunny
And again, and again...
atropos81018
I feel this. But panicking at home sucks WAY less than panicking at work. Don't forget - you ARE enough! And you deserve a chance to rest
Slimebunny
You’re absolutely correct, I’m glad I didn’t go, I just wish I could tell my anxiety that!
lovingspace
I feel terrible about calling in sick to work. Always have. It's like unless I'm in the hospital I'm not allowed.
MeerkatMuskrat
Guilt is a hell of a drug.
Elroydb
On the bright side this justified your day off? This might be a sign you want to evaluate how your work is affecting your mental health
Slimebunny
Very much so. You are right
butiforgetthename
I was this way about skipping class in college
rollercostarican
ha, i wouldnt go to class if it looked like it MIGHT rain
sparkletempt
called in sick on Friday. Felt anxious whole weekend that they will think i wanted a longer weekend and faked it
Mexrose75
I am taking Friday off but I don’t need to feel bad. It’s part of the Covid Furlough.
cre8majic
You can't care what other people think, so let that go
IMadeAnAccountForThisFuckingSobStory
my boss was a hard ass about me taking a day here or there off. when i told him it was so i would come in the next day and not be 1/2
IMadeAnAccountForThisFuckingSobStory
driving my car off a bridge he suddenly got a lot more understanding. i ended up taking a long weekend a few weeks after. travelled my 2/3
IMadeAnAccountForThisFuckingSobStory
county, saw the country side and basically took life slow. came in on the tuesday and his comment. "first time i've seen you smile." 3/4
IMadeAnAccountForThisFuckingSobStory
"I guess it worked?"...yes taking time for mental health works. since then i've taken 2-3 this year. works much easier when your heads good.
Slimebunny
You’re most probably right. I just need to get over the guilt
IMadeAnAccountForThisFuckingSobStory
the guilt for me was a combination of "i need the cash" and "im letting so and so down" since i tell them ahead of time and *plan* 1/2
hoopsnek
I find work gets harder to deal with if I avoid it
Ls1965
I find the older I get the easier it is to avoid it
abacab87
I've found the older I get the more I realize there are no consequences to avoiding it. (until there are)
Slimebunny
Yeah I’m definitely feeling this. I’m going to force myself back in tomorrow!
flamingflamingo
I used to be the same way as you. Ultimately I went to therapy, took medication for anxiety, and also changed careers.
hoopsnek
It's often tricky to interpret the information we get through thoughts and feelings. Know, understand and be compassionate with yourself.
Slimebunny
You’re right, although it can be difficult I am trying to learn to do this!
hoopsnek
How did you go?
Slimebunny
Hey! Sorry this post blew up and things are getting buried. I had a wobble half way through but I got there. Thank you for asking!
SubtleOrc
Just tell them that you have vision problems because you can't see yourself coming in today
Slimebunny
Okay, I’m totally using this next time!
asm80dfa8sdfj
If you were honest about taking a mental health day and this happened, you might reconsider lying about your reason for staying home lol
CallsignFatNinja
Better to be anxious and off sick than anxious and at work.
Slimebunny
You’re right. I didn’t want to have another panic attack at work, it was super embarrassing last time.
CallsignFatNinja
Yeah I hear you. Hard as it may be. Try to forget and go something else that relaxes you.
mindofajoker8888
Join a union
ArtfullySane
Those still exist in America?
Alrathra
You can get fucked, if you're in I.T. mostly contract work or direct hire for non-union work. If there is a Union in AK/WA I'd love to know
acme64
an IT union? literally never heard of those
TheIceHorse
Depends on state. Some places will fire you for even discussing it
dekket
I did this once, accidentally told the truth. He said to take two days.
Lynkfox
It's a symptom of a bad corp culture where not being at work is so feared one would rather be sick/mentally unwell than miss.
Lynkfox
I'm very lucky. I have unlimited PTO. No requirements other than you let your team know and if more than a sick day or 3 plan it ahead.
Lynkfox
I've got some internet issues this morning and am taking the day off till the tech arrives cause I cant do anything anways.
Slimebunny
That sounds absolutely lovely!
Lynkfox
It is, and Its one of the reasons I took this job offer. That plus starting a whole new project from scratch was too good to pass up
mmcnaughton
This happens to me.. every time
helenfrankannekeller
Im sorry y’all have to deal with this. I can’t understand because i send an email sayin I’m sick then fly into bed with snacks
Slimebunny
This sounds beautiful
helenfrankannekeller
Let it be known I hardly ever call out and when I do i deserve it lol
Tivec
Fighting to stop anxiety every day, panic attacks weekly, no energy left for anything. Know the feeling, you’re not alone. Have a hug! *hug*
AgamemnonsMemes
The worst part is when you have no enthusiasm for anything anymore. Dozens of games on steam, hobbies, TV shows.. nothing.
Ruthknits3
That’s depression. You can have both. Time for help, friend. You don’t need to do this alone. You can’t, actually.
AgamemnonsMemes
Yeah, you gotta step out and get that help, i've been trying, its slow going, but its going.
Ruthknits3
It’s hard to do. Takes energy that you don’t have. But it’s worth it.
AgamemnonsMemes
Thats the thing about mental health, everything you need to do to fix it are literally the things you have problems with
Slimebunny
I totally understand. Hugs back to you!
Jordinatinglybeautiful
Nobody should feel this bad. Work to become a scarce commodity in your chosen field and you’ll feel more at ease.
jojobac
It's hard for some to have their anxiety brain believe that.
Goldenbeer
I am that, but anxiety still bubbles up with everything going on. My company is going thru shit so that probably doesn't help.
reallynotmikepence
A lot of times these are people that have anxiety issues in general. I had a breakdown trying to get change from a bank once.
tequilamesmalls
i did and now i feel worse calling out because there is no one else who can do the work i do. also never take vacations out of guilt
PirateRubberDuck
Take a vacation, the company will be fine. They might struggle if you burn yourself out though. Take care of you.
Imsurprisedihaventchangedmyusernameyet
Self employed and same boat. I feel so bad when a great customer really needs me but I can't help them.
Newlyof
But how do you do that? I had a very annoying conversation is someone who studied a niche topic at uni and has worked in it for 2 decades 1/
Newlyof
And he couldn't understand why it was more difficult for me to find work. I didn't know what I wanted to do until much much later
Jordinatinglybeautiful
I’m the same red not knowing what I wanted. The key I think is to become good at something in particular. Niche and long-term best...
Jordinatinglybeautiful
... but any skill in demand is good. As you become good at it, you come to realise your co needs you more than you need them....
Jordinatinglybeautiful
... the key to life (for me) is optionality. Always provide options for yourself that are thought out, and you’ll never feel too trapped.
RealRaceRiotsAreAboutGettingBlueshelledInMarioKart
Branch out. I only have an AS, but I'm unfirable. I code kiosks & website, manage public affairs, oversee interns, work reception...
RealRaceRiotsAreAboutGettingBlueshelledInMarioKart
"Jack of all trades and master of none is still better than a master of one."
blankunderscore
For me I developed my fundamentals, got a job, found where there was a lack of expertise, read books, wrote standards, etc 1/
blankunderscore
And now I’m more or less untouchable unless the company wants to lose their only expert on 50m+ of annual product 2/
blankunderscore
Which they might someday, but at least I’ll always have those fundamentals
llcoolj
I have nightmares frequently about being late for work because of my anxiety
YesLikeWhatIDo
Hang in there buddy, we all have been in there and passed it.... you can do it.
AlexisActually
I still do and I'm a fuckin freelancer now. I've been actually late twice in my entire life.
JoeT85
If your that stressed, you might need to change jobs.
abacab87
I have nightmares where I forget I'm taking a class until the last day. I haven't been in school for 20 years.
HighImpactSexualViolence
I've had precisely this dream before, several times. It's been years since I've been a student.
NespreSilver
I have nightmares of being late for work at companies I’m no longer employed at :(
WrongUn
same!
WrongUn
me too. Irony is that when I WAS late for work I was just pissed off with myself but not worried
kah929
Ask ur primary care giver about Buspar. That stuff has helped my anxiety soooo much.
tylarg
Is the cup half full or half empty? My brain : lets throw it in a wood chipper and see were it lands
RealRaceRiotsAreAboutGettingBlueshelledInMarioKart
You're the best kind of person
vermillionpenguin
I'm a very logical "cup is at 50% capacity" person most of the time, so the wood chipper tends to really get me by surprise.
asm80dfa8sdfj
For me a cup is half way if it's sitting there. If you're drinking it, it becomes half empty, and if you're filling it, it becomes half full
IamMrGoodfellow
I've had 2 strokes now relsted to panic attacks
Slimebunny
Wow that’s scary!! I hope you’re okay!
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Slimebunny
If you need to talk, I’m happy to.
IamMrGoodfellow
Probably not but I'm not in a huge rush to live a long life.
Slimebunny
I’m always here if you need to chat as are many people on this thread. Take care of yourself
dogsarebetterthancats33
You guys have jobs?
GoodKingFuzzwumps
So anyone else have nightmares about being late to the second job you don't have?
Newlyof
Oh god yes! That is me all over. I hate it. I get the paralysis of stress throughout the day, then the self hatred of a wasted day at night
SniffsMcgee
I feel you :(
PiGiSpi
Don't forget looking at the clock at whatever time you would normally leave work and think "damn, i should have just done"
FuturamaIsAlwaysRelevant
I've done this enough to have learned to just do whatever it is I initially didn't want to do because it feels worse later on
Slimebunny
I feel this so badly!
lordelordelorde
It's fucked isn't it. I'm doing it right now
1milliondancinghedgehogsonapin
Just remember that every person you work with has done it, many recently and none of them care!
Muhanoid
Try to think of it like this. Car needs maintenance, you need maintenance. Clean up your head! CTRL+ALT+DEL the stuck cycles of thought.
Muhanoid
Flex your muscles, lay on couch or floor, dance to the song you love. In any order or without order.
edzo1121
Me too!!! Sorry to hear youre in the same boat, but kinda nice to know im not the only one here
valentine20
Same!
MsLusus
This boat sucks.
asliceofpizza
How do I get off this fucking boat.
MsLusus
Therapy and weed
askmeaboutmyhiddenuploads
I have to call in for the SO 'cause he can't do it himself. Then for myself so he's not alone. My employers are a lot more understanding
ProjectKurtz
I used to hate calling in. My current manager is 100% okay with me texting in when I'm not gonna be in and it relieves the anxiety.
RevolutionOnHerLips
I text in usually 3-4 hours before my shift and then just lie there anxious waiting to see if I get a negative text back ?
Radgan
Same, dude
Zyrixion
God, I've been with an employer who doesn't even ask questions when you call in sick, and I'm still healing from the trauma of retail 1/
Zyrixion
2/ where having the audacity to be not feeling well enough to work resulted in instant abuse from your manager, and a risk of being fired.
cozmicflea
Food service too. Causes you to work when legit very ill in order to keep your job. STILL wincing over it 15 years later.
Zyrixion
Never worked food service, but yeah, I imagine it. Fuck, you know, the worst part of it is, the one thing no one fucking talks about is 1/
Zyrixion
2/ the amount of mental trauma that working retail, service, and food service fucking puts people through. A little while after starting to
Moongobl1n
I've worked two places now where I've called in ONCE in a year, and had to fight to keep my job after that.
silentwolf1999
My employer would call that a no call no show.
Slimebunny
I once got my mum to do it for me aged 18 and it felt a lot worse!
JustaDick
When I was 20 I had me wife do it. My boss read me the riot act the next day saying that if I wasn't in a coma I'd better call myself.
askmeaboutmyhiddenuploads
He's 35, recently diagnosed ASD & a collective bundle of mental nope. It's the worst thing in the world to him
Thatburga
I just want to thank you and let you know how much it means to me, thank you for sharing that.
Slimebunny
It’s the worst thing for everyone but that must be so hard for him. All the luck in the world to him!
MissPapercut
"collective bundle of mental nope" I love that so much! Gonna steal it.
Thor400
It's all about how the other person acts while helping.. find someone who understands and cares and it's very helpful
thewax00
Last week I call in because I was worried about my older bros mental health and my boss told me if I don't come in it means I quit.
staktdex2718
That might be your walking music, there are better bosses out there.
RealRaceRiotsAreAboutGettingBlueshelledInMarioKart
In this economy?...
thewax00
Put in my 2 weeks 10 minutes later.
jrredneck
Good work. No boss like that cares about employees.
Sayagain
Wouldn't that be an attendance point or two not flat out quit? Most places 1 day isnt an auto quit
thewax00
I work part time there and barely make any hours.
imcurrentlyatabar
Starbucks is an amazing place to work if you need hourly stuff. I’ve worked there a number of times between jobs
UncleSlam123
Time to go. Place is probably a revolving door of employment, isn't it?
thewax00
Put in my 2 weeks 10 minutes later.
RaggedyGirl
Congratulations!!! It really is not worth it sacrifying your or your loved ones' well being for a job. Best of luck in your next job! :)
MantisTobagganMD
Braver man than I. I wouldn't leave my job in this climate... Then again, you might not be American. In which case, congratulations!
thewax00
Texas.
grizzlybeerz
Oh oh yeah the panic attack that ensues can be worse
Soberyn
I've been awake since 4 am scared about calling into work. And I am contract work so it isn't even that big of a deal!
MegPintDear
I have played that game. I would recommend seeing a doctor and a therapist. It can really help.
grizzlybeerz
I had to leave work for an acute anxiety attack. Ended up at an urgent care. Everyone just said "well drink less caffeine"
SgtJohnsonsJohnson
"Just be happy" wow thanks you cured my depression.
grizzlybeerz
I'd drank no caffeine. Those seizures were seizures caused by anxiety
Slimebunny
Yeah, it’s hard because even if people genuinely want to help there’s not a lot they can do, it’s a personal thing
Oralgami
It’s a real bitch to get all sexied up for a night on the town, and then not being strong enough to turn the doorknob to go out. And lonely.
JoeT85
I took a mental health day earlier this year. Played golf and it was great. Just stay off social media.
Slimebunny
I’ve been having panic attacks at work lately and didn’t want it to happen.. but now I’m more scared of going back!
lifeiselswhere
I had my first one ever at work last Friday. Nooooo bueno
Temyari
It takes a long time to get used to it if you never do it, but calling in sick when you really need a day isn't something to feel guilty for
Temyari
Took me a long time, & much logic from hubby, to accept that if I'm not safe to drive (migraines) it's okay to stay home for a day.
Slimebunny
I am sure if I’d have gone in I would have made a mistake or had a panic attack, I know it’s for the best I just feel very guilty.
Chapownow
I know the feels big time, had a covid scare and went to get tested so called in; everyone bitching the next day that I was on a jolly :(
grannyrampage
Also suck on an ice cube
lucariusx
From my own exp: respect the time your mind asks for, don't force "being ok enough" for work. Rushing things only makes it worse. Take care!
SirSpiffyDijelos
Do small actions which you can control and tell yourself "I'm eating this cracker" "I'm picking up this thing". This helps me
gettodachoppaa
Stay in the now in other words, this works well in the middle of an episode.
plusonefororegonians
Panic attacks at work absolutely suck. If you need somebody to talk to please DM me!
Slimebunny
Very lovely offer, thank you very much
Swedash
My personal advice having been through and seen enough of those. It's perfectly okay to have one, you are fine, you will be fine and every..
Swedash
single time you've been in one you've gotten out of it perfectly alright. It's not a big deal to need to take a 5-30 minute break for a...
Swedash
temporary breakdown that you 100% will get out of and back on your feet from. Do think about what is causing them and what to do to...
Swedash
get better, but that's for when you're having a good day and energy to think about it properly. Your one job during an attack is to breathe.
DorfFortress
If you can get access to CBD oil in your country I highly recommend trying it as well as the monkey mind meditation
Emmyexley69
Been there, realised it was time to get some help, no regrets. Take care OP.
philthechamp
Know that nobody will question you or care that you were sick, truly. People at work need you to like them too. You also owe no explanation
CorydorasAfavorplease
Get your eyes and heart checked. I have generalized anxiety disorder and once I corrected my vision and had my heart ablation, it improved.
gettodachoppaa
1. Identify your trigger. 2. Accept what is happening to you, don’t try to control it. 3. Float it, (change your focus). 4. Let time pass.
gettodachoppaa
Follow those steps each time you start to feel the onset. Identify, accept, float, let time pass. It works, but takes time. Gets better op.
missmonster
As silly as this sounds, when I had attacks during work (wfh) I put on Bob Ross or Mr. Rogers. Their calming voices helped tremendously.
viblis
Take a hot bath. Turn off your phone. Make hot chocolate. Remember that you're awesome and can do anything.
Slimebunny
Imgur has been surprisingly lovely today. Thank you so much stranger!
viblis
My pleasure! We all need a little love and support every once in a while. It's hard to do things on your own! <3<3<3
Slimebunny
<3
batukhan
Look up anti depressants. Can do good
Slimebunny
I take citalopram but I think maybe I can ask to up the dose
batukhan
Whoever downvoted me does not have anxiety
NotSinceYourAccident
Get help. Sometimes you need it for a little bit, no shame in it.
Slimebunny
I definitely need to, it’s starting to beat me a bit lately.
NotSinceYourAccident
I took some anxiety meds for a little bit and worked on some lifestyle changes. I got off the meds, and life has been pretty good since!
NotSinceYourAccident
I had panic attacks and all that for a short while. It's awful; pure dread. You don't deserve to feel like that! Best wishes to you!
RememberTheC4nt
Damn having a panic attack at work must be hard. Stay strong!! I think taking off was a good start it's just bumpy
Slimebunny
Thank you! I like your analogy
Taxicat
If you’re having a panic attack at work, ask if you can step outside for a moment. It cuts down on that “oh god, I’m trapped!” Feeling.
grizzlybeerz
The best advice I can give you is. You're not doing dying. It's anxiety.
Malak224
Yup I get panic attacks at work sometimes, drink some water and take a deep breath helps me sometimes.
UpvoteFairyCakes
Never really helped. U feel like ur suffocating so ur body/brain acts like it.My rational thought never outweighed the instinctive response.
AjaxMaior
I also try to not do die. Is it the opposite of unproductive living?
grizzlybeerz
When you feel like you can't breathe and your hearts about to stop. It's good to remember you're not doing a die. It's the bad brain chemica
AjaxMaior
Indeed. Hard to let logic win though! My panic attacks revolve around dying itself so it puts me in a bit of a pickle
DarthFutuza
I mean its more just the opposite of living.
searchforyeti
That would be dying sir
AjaxMaior
Well yes. The joke was on the strange grammar
Mrstealyomemes4th24
Probably better than stuffing it away for 10 years just to have it all boil up and land you in a psyche ward
RevolutionOnHerLips
I'm in this comment and I don't like it
PlusHooks
That’s what I’m going for.
FiendishDoctorWuTangClan
Fuck yeah bro save me a bed ill see you at the med line
Mrstealyomemes4th24
Not worth it
METROlD
If they are reoccurring and frequent, take note of the time and activity when they happen. For me they struck at 11am if I had been >
METROlD
> drinking the night before. The way my body metabolized alcohol left me vulnerable to a cute stress by around 11. Bingo. Mystery solved. >
METROlD
> they were still terrifying though.
Slimebunny
I definitely do this after drinking. I should just stop drinking. It’s ridiculous really
MancRed
Worrying about the past or the unseen future is a learned behaviour that takes you away from the now. Took me 40 years to overcome that.
cre8majic
So true! thank you for saying this!
MancRed
Hey overthinking just isn’t good for you, not is any of it real. Anxiety thrives on it.
cre8majic
So true! It's vital to get out of your own head, talk, write, go outdoors in Nature as much as possible
MancRed
The only truth is the now is what’s important. I lost years thinking and feeling terrible about stuff I made in my own head. I’m happy now.
cre8majic
That's fantastic! Good for you!! we only truly have the present. Letting go seems simple but can be hard. I learned that ruminating, going..