Feels Bad Man

Feb 20, 2017 8:54 PM

GobIinSIayer

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It's raining up here in Northern Wisconsin in February. I brought an umbrella to campus just in case (it's freaking warm out dontchaknow). A woman was using her books to block the rain, so I figured hey what could hurt asking if she'd like to share. Guess I'll just go home and watch Vikings.

My umbrella corp shirt came today. Should have given her that instead.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Well....were you trying to hit on her?

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

Bus stop, wet day, she's there, I say, "Please share my umbrella...."

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I may be an asshole but I think this happens more in dude's heads than it does in real life. Women don't say "I have a boyfriend"

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

I'm more shocked that its raining in Northern Wisconsin in mid February....

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Lol a standard "no thanks" would have sufficed.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 3

Just needed to add a "m'lady" in there and you would have had her

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 5

"So do I."

9 years ago | Likes 169 Dislikes 2

Im vegan.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

—Sorry, honey, but you’re not my type. —Oh? And what is your type? —Men.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Bitches be tripping yo

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 5

You get one for the gemtlemanly attempt. +1

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 3

That may be from her past experience @OP and not how you came off. Sometimes it's easier to lead with "I'm married" than them being nice,

9 years ago | Likes 25 Dislikes 2

and then getting pissed off later I "misled" them because I was friendly back. lol. Also I choose to assume you meant The Vikes. SKOL!

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 1

Don't offer to share your umbrella with girls if you aren't flirting. Not once has that ever been a thing.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

This is what society has done to us. Makes women think every guy who offers help is trying to hit on them.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 3

When has it EVER been not flirtatious to offer to share your umbrella with a random lady?

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 2

When it's pouring?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 2

She's an adult. She can work out how to get out of the rain.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Don't you know chivalry is dead?

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 3

Vikings would never do that to you!

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

"feels bad" ? -- you offered something nice to somebody. you were nice to somebody. if you get a chance, try to feel good about it.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

good taste in TV man

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I have never had any girl say I have a boyfriend randomly. I think you guys are exaggerating.

9 years ago | Likes 31 Dislikes 1

no, i know a girl who says that immediately to any guy who speaks to her.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 5

I've said it to guys who are actually coming on to me cause I'm socially anxious and it's the quickest way to make a guy go away ^.^;;

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 1

Samesies

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

At a certain point it becomes a 6th sense. You can tell who's actually sincere and who trying to get somewhere.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 4

Shoulda said "I was just being nice, fuck you, get drenched"

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 11

"Does he like you better when you are wet?" -- Possibly the wrong rejoinder, but who cares really.

9 years ago | Likes 398 Dislikes 3

I would have gone with "getting you wet is the exact opposite of what I'm trying to accomplish".

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 1

I'll just put this in my little book of evil answers to "I have a boyfriend"

9 years ago | Likes 31 Dislikes 2

And I'll be adding "rejoinder" to my personalized word of the day calendar. Great word!

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

I would have laughed. But seriously, sharing an umbrella is too invasive of personal space for strangers. I could see how it was taken >

9 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 3

As a "hey baybeh". Still, No thanks usually works just as well.

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 1

Took the words right outta my noodle.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

It's okay, @op. You were nice and some people aren't very good about accepting that. Even so, it doesn't mean you should stop being amazing!

9 years ago | Likes 133 Dislikes 6

This. Being an asshole is a self correcting problem. Don't let assholes dull your shine!

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 6

To be fair, offering to share an umbrella is practically 5th base

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

I concur. Manners are so rare theyre confused with flirting...doesn't mean you should stop. Go on with your bad self!

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 4

You will accept my hospitality, even if I have to force it on you

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Coming from a cool guy, this lifts my spirits!

9 years ago | Likes 52 Dislikes 6

... I would want to respond with, "I thought I smelled wet dog, never mind - have a nice day!"

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 3

Yeah, she might not have been a bitch, maybe just socially anxious as f.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

I'm glad! And thanks for the compliment!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Don't stop being who you are. Those books are expensive...

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

You know, to be honest, a lot of times when people offer me things, my first instinct is to decline. Not to put anyone out. But I still

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

Appreciate the gesture.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Same. I have moderate social anxiety tho and declining gets me out of the (often awkward) conversation the quickest usually

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Ironically I still offer help to other people whenever I can, I'm just not good at accepting it

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

As someone from Wisconsin, you can't say watch Vikings without getting a negative reaction.

9 years ago | Likes 51 Dislikes 3

I'll have you know I agree with what you said, but I downvote you because of the packers

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

I think he meant the show "Vikings". Could be wrong though.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

I think he did too, but when you say Vikings in Wisconsin, we think football first.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Stave time

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

False, border towns get a pass.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 2

No. Just no. There is no excuse for that kind of bad judgment

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

No one can hate on the heart it takes to be a Vikings fan. It's easy to like the pac, not so much for us mn sports fans.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

My response was something along the lines of "maybe she sensed you were a Vikings fan"

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

+1 for Wisconsin!

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 2

Awww yeah Wisconsinites

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

but @op is a Vikings fan.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

I did mean the show Vikings. All hail Ragnar!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Its February... football is over.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

I thought OP meant the tv show Vikings.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

To be fair, this is a pretty m'lady creep thing to do, sounds like an excuse to get in someone's personal space

9 years ago | Likes 43 Dislikes 9

Till being helpful to a woman means u are phishing for sex.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Or it just didn't happen

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

If i didnt mind getting wet, i wouldnt have gone outside. I too can purchase umbrellas.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

Maybe I'm autistic and don't understand those social cues, but I'd just feel so guilty if I had an umbrella in the rain and someone else

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 1

I imagine body language, tone, and timing could really make a difference but I'd never get that close to a strange man.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

didn't, regardless of attraction, and I'd want to offer it.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I imagine body language, tone, and timing could really make a difference but I'd never get that close to a strange man.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

@op Fellow UW student!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Greetings!!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Engineering by chance?

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Where are you located!? Hello from Oshkosh!

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Green Bay!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Also greenbay

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

by gosh

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Stevens Point :)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Milwaukee!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Hello from Wausau!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Hello from River Falls!

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

People don't understand Wisconsin hospitality. You saw someone having a tough time and offered to help. Just the way it works here

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Hey my cousin is going there now.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Not gonna lie, if you understand American culture you know this will come off as creepy.

9 years ago | Likes 53 Dislikes 9

As an American, then fuck our culture. If it's creepy to offer someone rain safety so they don't ruin $200 text books, just fuck it all.

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 9

As a girl, 9/10 times a random guy coming up to to talk to me is usually trying to ask me out. Worse when they act nice till you decline.

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

You're hearing 1 side of the story. Sure OP used quotes, but his delivery is what matters. He could have easily come off the wrong way.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 5

i promise it gets better

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I've been here my whole life and our culture keeps getting dumber and dumber by the minute, so I have my doubts.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

culture has less control of you as you get older

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I bet I'm older than you. If you think culture has no impact on your life, you're very naive.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Not dumber...just less inclusive. We are down to the point of men vs women.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Maybe she likes her personal space. I would not share one either but thats just me

9 years ago | Likes 161 Dislikes 12

personal space? http://imgur.com/yL63vmc

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I really hate that this is the norm in today's society.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

"No thank you" seems a less bitchy way to communicate that

9 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 8

Certainly less haughty and presumptuous. How can anybody think that was an acceptable means to handle a social situation?

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 3

Ya, you've gotta be physically close to share an umbrella, its a personal thing for a lot of people.

9 years ago | Likes 60 Dislikes 3

So respond politely by saying so. You don't have to take the umbrella, no, but you also don't have to be rude to someone who wants to help

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 7

I don't know why you were downvoted, but I agree.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 2

I would probably rather give my umbrella to a stranger than share it with them

9 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 2

That's what I would do... Well, it depends, but I'd like to think I would.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

but...there are ways to express that without coming off as a "how dare you approach me" hoochie about it. just saying.

9 years ago | Likes 36 Dislikes 21

"Nah im good"

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 2

"Oh, no thank you." Comes to mind.

9 years ago | Likes 24 Dislikes 3

exactly. be a weirdo, but don't be a dick.

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 2