D0nutPrincess
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I read a blog post recently from an acquaintance who was complaining that she had trouble making and keeping friends.
In the past I've invited her to parties where everyone else was a stranger, but she seemed to actively avoid making conversation or getting to know other people. Eventually the rest of us became close friends and we just stopped inviting her.
She's also a one-upper and unnecessarily competitive. Her posts almost always put down others or complain about family or coworkers. She doesn't offer much to bond over or work with if the goal is trying to meet new people.
Making friends in your 30's is not as easy as it is in college or high school. You have to put some effort in and don't expect everyone to placate your negative attitude and you might have a chance.
ShatteredF1re
I literally feel like a genius trapped among retards. Life is infuriating.
madifier
Most of the time, I agree. In my case, after hearing people whisper behind my back a bunch of lies about me, yeah, screw them.
Tassyr
Oh I know I'm the problem. I recognize this fact. I just don't know how to fix it.
gamblingpoet
I lost a lot of friends due to my depression/mental health issues. I can't blame them. I was an idiot and it shouldn't be their problem.
2and900
Relax, they were idiots too.
killernat
or you're anti-social/ introverted and are perfectly ok with having few to no friends
kimbozo
Pshhh...doubt it
BallsLikeWatermelonsPeckerLikeAThimble
If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, YOU’RE the asshole.
SethCronyn
What are these ‘friends’ you speak of?
crazyandfuctioning
I’m the problem and the solution. I’m a the omega.
ArtOzz
Can I go on just hating everyone else and treasuring my time alone?
AhelpingOfRumHam
Maybe not everyone is meant to make many friends so easily but more meant to make a handful of close friends and enjoy solitude more.
CigaretteMan
Agreed. I saw a post earlier where the OP said they couldn't make friends b/c everyone around them is "fake". Got some bad news for you...
YourMomsNewBoyfriend
Thinking everyone around you is “fake” means your probably obsessed with image and pretty fake yourself.
CigaretteMan
I don't read as much into it. People justify their social failures in a number of random ways; don't think the specifics mean too much.
YourMomsNewBoyfriend
Yea I was mostly speaking to the way I felt as a teenager/ young adult. Pretty standard phase I think haha.
YourMomsNewBoyfriend
I mean I’m still a young adult (25) but I’ve definitely gotten over my catcher in the rye phase as it where
PerroMalcriado
for your information, I'm very aware of that
burntcustard
Similarly, in Overwatch, if I have a team mate who says they keep being on awful teams, I remind them about the one thing all those teams
burntcustard
had in common. Not like all the time though, for the most part I think of myself as more sweet than salty.
Odballl
In the past I've invited her to parties where everyone else was a stranger - that sounds super awkward for her.
D0nutPrincess
Equally awkward for everyone because we were all new to each other.
NotShortJustFunSized
But is it equally awkward for all? Some people are much better at making new friends & socializing than others. (1/2)
NotShortJustFunSized
Extroverts get a "charge" out of socializing in groups, and introverts find that more draining. -shrug- (2/2)
killernat
or absolutely exhausting
Schrodingersfaggot
Schrodingersfaggot
I am planning to move to a new state for more social opportunity
CigaretteMan
From where to where, if you don't mind me asking? Just curious as to where you think would have better "social opportunities"
Schrodingersfaggot
From Vermont to Florida or idk
Gingerbreadman18
More people per square mile maybe