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I quit because I used to watch it everyday and when I had sexual encounters, I found that I could I only get it up for porn, and wouldn’t be turned on by the real thing. Now I have a girlfriend that I find extremely attractive, and she wants sex, so I quit porn 10 days ago to try and rewire my brain to not associate porn with reproduction. Now I have almost no sex drive at all. I want to make her happy but I have no desire to have sex. I don’t know what to do.
tipsymcstagger1
Also try this..
OmniverseDayDreamer
You're mind is still going through withdrawal, give it time to adjust. Also more foreplay will go a long way while, trust me.
Melanorosaurus
Go. See. A. Professional. Like, a therapist. You might need a referral for a sex therapist, but it WILL HELP YOU. Also communicate with g/f.
Chault
At least 3 weeks for a new routine. If you're not feeling it, still give her oral. She'll love you more and be so ready when you're ready.
Rotarded
Hang in here, it’s tough. Keep at it though, it’ll be worth it.
MinorityRetort
Go see a therapist.
JupitersWitch
My husband was addicted to masturbation. It too a while for his sex drive to come back. Lots of foreplay helps.
squintobean
/r/pornfree on Reddit will have a lot of insight for you. It’s just a phase until you recalibrate. Try other forms of intimacy to explore
sackofmeat
Heat the turkey up first... it'll feel better.
JDaveD
Instructions unclear: 1st degree burns all over the groin area
blaskHitBeast
Here's what to do and has worked well for me. Put in tough sessions of exercise. Doesn't have to be just weight lifting. Anything 1/
blaskHitBeast
High intensity. Push ups, pull ups, sit ups, running. Take a zinc supplementation and also eat well. Try a supplement called Maca. It's a 2/
blaskHitBeast
Herb supplement that I think is a wonder. You'll feel way more confident and strong in that department trust me in like a week.
Eight77
Exercise. Run until your pener is hard. Or go to the morgue that always does it for me.
beelzebob23
Rewiring your brain takes more than 10 days.
imadethisaccounttotellyouthis
Neurons the fire together, wire together.
Nathanfake
RIP
bunnykins78
This sounds like the plot to Don Jon with Gordon-Levitt, good movie. Give it a watch you might find some inspiration.
KrKy1000
MUNCH SOME RUG YOU'LL BE FINE
DirkNurple
This guy gets it. There’s a book called she comes first, from a guy who had this same problem. It made my gf a fan of my reading habit.
asplenium
Your neurons have scaled back the amount of receptors due to sensory overload
metalfoto
WTF. That is real!!!
asplenium
The good news is once the sensory stimulation drops, your body will ramp production back up to equilibrium
nakedible
...except that doesn't happen with porn.
dfsmitty0711
Talk to her about it.
ManAmIThirsty
Be honest with her and ask her to be patient and help you out. It'll take some time, but you'll get there.
Klaaism
Also ask her to wear the latex horse mask and strapon.
Kunitsu
Being honest with her definitely! Nothing worse than thinking you're the problem when it really isn't you!
GnomeTalmbout
Good practice for marriage.
NoiceSmart
That's too bad, I'm married and we really like sex
thisisprocrastination
It takes more than 10 days, you'll be fine.
AllForFee
Take some time. It isn't like a light switch you can turn on or off. Your brain is just adapting. Have you heard about how it takes 28 /1
AllForFee
Days to create a new habit? Well this is no different. You have to work on it. You can try starting with foreplay, slowly /2
AllForFee
It's like retraining your brain. You don't have to jump right into bed. Tease yourself. You can let her in on it and ask her to help.
guacamolecereal
Take a bath. Then wrap a hot towel around your head. And then make yourself some soup, get a nap.
JDaveD
Instructions unclear: burned dick
thedeathstarwasaninsidejob1
Read the book "Your Brain on Porn". This is incredibly common. Just continue without porn; your brain and body will adjust back to being -
thedeathstarwasaninsidejob1
- able to function without it. But it takes time.
ASquirrelNamedLloyd
Fuck man. That’s wild.
thedeathstarwasaninsidejob1
The brain is crazy, man. And too much of a good thing (Dopamine) can really mess you up. That really goes for any sort of chemical imbalance
ASquirrelNamedLloyd
My mind is blown. (I’m a woman)
sahdad
Sounds like you're making healthy descisions for yourself, that can be rough. Everone is saying "it will take time" and I'm sure they're
sahdad
Right but that doesn't make it any easier right here and now. Maybe set a "sex date" with your girlfriend, anticipation can be good...
GravyWonTon
I'll openly say this, I have this problem too.
atomicpotato124
Quitting is hard and boy do my balls hurt but I feel that I’ll appreciate it a year down the road
GravyWonTon
Working out and changing diet and drinking more water less bad stuff
AstralTrinity
This made me scared, I guess no porn for me too. Thank you for this post, you may just saved someone's life.
IdleNarrator
Masturbation is healthy. Just don't overdo it.
itmeanspeaceamongworlds
Even putting aside all moral and ethical considerations, porn is awful. Staying away from it is better for you and your relationships.
Sphincto
I watch porn and masturbate almost daily. I have no problem getting it on with my wife after 10 years. Even when just cuddling I get aroused
magicrhombus
Porn is fine in moderation, as are gambling and alcohol. Just because an addiction is bad doesn't mean the thing always is.
bobyran
Genuine question.... at what point does looking at porn on the internet turn into an addiction?
AmHumanNotLizardMan
Usually addictions are defined by whether the activity interferes with other aspects of your life. "not being able to stop" is only a part
AmHumanNotLizardMan
of the whole problem, and may not be a sign. If you want to find out if you are addicted to, say, masturbation. "Trying to stop" isn't
AmHumanNotLizardMan
necessarily the best way to find out. At the end of the day you can masturbate without being addicted, but even if you didn't have a problem
AmHumanNotLizardMan
you would probably "relapse" at some point.
Zodgrod
it takes time
VodkaReindeer
OP is probably not used to it taking time...
ChrisCopp
Depending on your age it takes longer for some. But deciding to stop masturbation helps as well as stopping the porn.
Septiformus
A few months in my experience
HULKSMASHMOUTH
livingscreamydreamy
If it helps, watch porn but imagine her as the actress, if you can do that or if that helps. Other than that, yeah it takes time @OP.
becausesnakesandsparklersaretheonlyonesilike
Definitely more than 10 days
Bobcatticus
It takes time, but a visit to a urologist and one Rx later and you are immediately back in action. Actually having good sex during the..
Bobcatticus
..recovery will shave a lot of time off said recovery. It's an embarrassing visit, but well worth it.
LilMaGoo
How much would it normally cost?
Bobcatticus
Sadly not cheap. No Insurance besides VA benefits cover it. You’re looking around $20 a pill usually for name brand. One pill will work for
Bobcatticus
2 nights typically. The trick is to have the doctor call the Rx into a local Apothecary where they will make off brand substitutes for..
DickDastardly404
Yep never been addicted to porn, but i’ve been addicted to a couple of other things and it takes more than 10 days to go back to normal 1/2
DickDastardly404
Enjoyment of these things at a normal level. You’ve been pressing that dopamine button too often for too long, and your brain reacts 1.5/2
DickDastardly404
To your complete removal of that habit in odd ways. Personally I can go a week without jacking it and jack it four times in one day 1.75/2
DickDastardly404
Depending on the wind. Its gonna take a sec for you to find your “normal”. 2/2
MrSebu
Porn addiction fucks up your dopamine levels op. Eat well and exercise. Dont masturbate at all! Let your brain and hormones regenerate
ilovefluids
Dump gf and get porn Hub premium
ShitsNGiggelz
Solid advice.+1
SirShakesHeadaLot
Also talk about it with your significant other, let them know why this is happening and what you're doing to fix it. Exercise too!
atomicpotato124
Sounds good, I already exercise daily so hopefully that will speed up the healing process
Schmuck4hire
I'm worried I'm going down this road, but I legit cannot sleep without it...
MrSebu
Masturbation isn't wrong.but if you can't get off without porn or have to consume increasingy degenerate porn to get off, then its a problem
senkuo
shit....
McKyrl
Sounds like you gotta make a change then brother.
Schmuck4hire
A change that could potentially require months of restless nights... I dunno, man.
McKyrl
Definitely wouldn't be easy, but I'm pretty confident it would be worth it in the end. Best of luck with whatever you decide.
posiespugs
Be honest with her, ask her to help. Ask her to clean something, naked. Shower together, give her a massage, do intimate things
Vedar
'You want to fuck?' No.... can you just go do some cleaning please. Oh and make it naked cleaning.
posiespugs
You have no idea if I want to fuck or not ????
ASquirrelNamedLloyd
Lmao
NRXNext
This is a common symptom of porn addiction withdrawal. Essentially sex is like wine and porn is like heroin. You're sensitivity is shot. 1/2
NRXNext
Just wait it out and your brain chemistry will return to normal. Best to not even watch TV or videos at all. Once that part of the brain 2/3
NRXNext
Is not constantly stimulated you will begin to be aroused by normal things again. Also dont materbate - same principle. DM me @OP to talk.
atomicpotato124
Can I still browse imgur and play video games? Screens are a huge part of my life come to think about it
NRXNext
Provided it isn't a trigger to watch porn. I think the best bet is to put your video games in a public place where you can be seen if it is
NRXNext
PM me if you want to talk more about this.