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Got a job of a lifetime, making a good amount of money, own a house and about 50 acres of land, and have almost everything paid for. Significant other wants me to quit, sell all my belongings and move 12 hours away to the middle of the desert to live/work on a ranch with him. I said no, he said goodbye. Feel pretty good about my decision and signing papers on a new vehicle next week!
Wondering if anyone else has been in this situation and regretted it?
waytoocreamy
People who give ultimatums that don't have to do with the relationship are just assholes who care more about other things than you
zombiesunflower
Hey fam let me get an acre.
grimmia
You do you. Don't be like Rachel and give up your dreams for stupid ass Ross. Or [insert an actually relevant pop culture reference]
Nightcaste
I've never been to the desert. I do not regret this decision.
jwdotson
If I have learned anything from the copious amount of criminal investigation shows I've watched, you made the right choice.
imnottryingtobesarcastic
I think I would be the one murdering him out in the sagebrush!
Rodeodoc
Obviously he wasn't invested in you. Sounds like you made the right choice.
imnottryingtobesarcastic
Yea 4 years later... lol oh it wasn't all bad
Shepsus
@op, I have been in a similar situation, not as successful, but similar. If you are interested, I could PM you
Terrapin2190
It's not about the money. It's about you. Yolo. I support the decision you made.
TheRealOzone
Would have done the same thing. The only ranch I need in my life is dip/dressing
imnottryingtobesarcastic
ryunwould
Don't give up what you have FOR ANYONE. That's a terrible choice to put on someone.
Id0ntg3t1t
Unless it's smoking.
chakaru111
So he basically said "I am going to move to a new place and it doesn't matter if you come with me or not." Well, good riddance then.
WhereOnceThereWasAYachtNowThereIsNot
That, @OP, is called a good fucking decision.
CatBlaster5000
@OP good on ya, if they gave a shit about you, they wouldn't have put you in that situation.
Threns
Nope, you made the right call. That sounds like the beginning of a 'My Life as a Militia-Wife' memoir.
squidbastard
So you're well established and single?
imnottryingtobesarcastic
Looks Like I am now
squidbastard
So.. you like stuff?
RVAtrundler1
I am 29 have a house, a truck a great job. Girlfriend moved to a ranch in Wyoming and told me to come. Been two years. Wish I had gone.
imnottryingtobesarcastic
Worst part, we both are going to inherit huge ranches. Yet, I want mine, he wants to sell his.
jjm152
Opposite for me: Left my country, job and house to travel to the other side of the planet. Married 10 years now and a baby on the way.
imnottryingtobesarcastic
Congrats!
Iwouldbenick
I have been in this situation. I moved with my GF and its the best choice of my life. Sad at first but I am so much happier now!
PileOfWalthers
I knew a woman who did follow along and she was miserable for decades. Soon as he died, she moved to L.A. and lived out her life there.
coldaniels
Sounds rough but I believe you made a good choice.
DeakVanNyke
so u single? https://media.giphy.com/media/kYBStwgFSLeJq/giphy.gif
tentaclefriendly
Absolutely do not give up everything you have built for their shitty dream. Just guessing but their thing probably isn't nearly as planned
imnottryingtobesarcastic
Oh you guess write. I'm a planner and a stickler to plans. He is just "whatever happens"
tentaclefriendly
Yeah, you totally made the right decision. Anytime you doubt this find one of those bright yellow whiffle ball bats & smack your head w/ it.
tentaclefriendly
Oh right! That's what a stupid decision feels like!!!
ScottishPower
I broke up with the guy I was seeing today. So I feel ya bro
imnottryingtobesarcastic
I mean it was all very mutual, but still was kinda sad.
ScottishPower
He dumped me cos I flaked. But he flaked like 3 times . Like helloooo
imnottryingtobesarcastic
For me, We've been together for 4 years, agreed we never wanted to get married or have kids... we just got tired of being long distance.
tzxAzrael
anything you don't do, you will always look back on and wonder "what might have been...?" but that's how life goes.
tzxAzrael
the "you" in the alternate universe that -did- pack up and move will also look back and wonder "what might have been if i had stayed?"
imnottryingtobesarcastic
That's kinda where I'm at.. but we both decided long ago not to get married, no kids and such
tzxAzrael
if it's working for you, then it's working, no big deal. plus it's still a much easier option to have kids later than to decide you don't...
tzxAzrael
want them after all. but the brain is still gonna look back and wonder. it's just how we be.
imnottryingtobesarcastic
Very well said!
SlutAtNight
Why is he going to work on other land when you have 50 acres?
Cats2cats
Because he doesn't own it. She does.
imnottryingtobesarcastic
No clue.
SlutAtNight
Sounds like a real bright light ;)
AliBarber
Sounds like a made up story
IamIntoleranceIntolerant
At least the new car will take you places. Unlike the old significant other.
bootninja
what do you mean? he'd have taken her to the desert!
imnottryingtobesarcastic
Thank you!
IamIntoleranceIntolerant
And, yes. I have been in a similar situation. Regret it every day. Slowly getting out of the situation, though.
imnottryingtobesarcastic
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope it works out for the best!
IamIntoleranceIntolerant
Thank you. It will, as it will for you.
THEfreshestbrew
I think you did just fine. Probably significant others loss anyway since you seem to be successful in your life...
jjm152
Naw, he dogged a bullet. Someone more committed to material things than him. I mean, it was the right call - she was wrong for him.
Cats2cats
Why did you have to put her down? Could be he was intimidated by a self assured woman.
jjm152
Why'd you have to put him down because he wanted someone he loved to be with him?
jjm152
1/2 I like how people getting salty about me just stating the fact she chose material possessions over the relationship.
jjm152
2/2 How else do you describe that other than "dodged a bullet"?
Cats2cats
I concur with Billy.
BillysLegendaryCrack
She didn't want to leave an established and happy life and he prioritized leaving all that over the relationship. I'm not saying he's in 1/2
BillysLegendaryCrack
the wrong exactly, I'm sure he had his reasons, but she definitely didn't do shit all wrong. 2/2
Seawolff81
If the place is more important than the person, you both probably made the right call. Can I get a free acre for my advice?
SamaelTheVenomOfGod
This . . . is solid advice.
jenniii
I read acne advice
o4fuxxake
I spotted that too.
imnottryingtobesarcastic
Change your bedsheets regularly
Jerrynstf
imnottryingtobesarcastic
Haha I live right in the middle of a 6000 acre ranch that I already work for. But it's nice to own a chunk of land. Looking to buy more
rusrsdude
Why couldn't he sell his stuff and move to yours, anyway?
iAmNature
So you're single?
PreciousPotato
Then it's even better to just say "no, I won't move". I mean, it would have been more understandable for him to make that choice if you /1
PreciousPotato
were living in a tiny appartement in NYC. Yeah, you made the right decision.
aramn76
Op your living the dream and if she didn't saw it she wasn't the one at all keep at it. Hope my VA stuff get me my dream land soon too.
rusrsdude
Dude read the post again
FitzTheBastard
Uh.. what..?
PreciousPotato
*you're *he
monadi
So... he's giving up living on a ranch to live on another ranch?
imnottryingtobesarcastic
.., yes that's exactly it
ihaveaprettylargeamountofnothing
from the infos i have at my disposal i come to the conclusion that your ex is an idiot
imnottryingtobesarcastic
Thank you! lol oh well different strokes for different folks