Personal growth and becoming the person you want to be takes time and is difficult even under ideal circumstances, much less the fascist climate apocalypse. Be patient and kind to yourself in the meantime. The people who matter will recognize your beauty and value.
My card was declined at the grocery store and I was crying but the lady told another employee that "her card declined" I thought well that's good at least.
Can relate. Also a kid once said to me "you look like a girl, but you sound like a boy". I thought "you little brat......wait, I LOOK LIKE A GIRL!!!!!!"
kids are dumb and harsh, but that doesnt imply malice. If they grow up with different kinds of people in their lives, they will learn that those people are normal, and that what they said was a bit rude
Something about PIzzacakecomic always strikes me as opportunist and astroturfed. Rather than someone that is an ally.
Similar to the onion article of the worst person you know made a good point.
Regardless of that Glory to you and your identity. May you have allies that support you when it isn't convenient. May you have to tools and the ability to be your true self.
There was controversy a while back where she released a three-page comid titled "Talk" which depicted if women talked to men the way men talk to women. The first example was women mocking a man for getting robbed, saying he was asking for it by dressing nice, accusing him of lying about it, and saying not all women rob people. That's a good one. Then the next one was a man complaining of feeling lonely and isolating and women saying it's not that bad, he's an attention whore, and women have 1/2
problems too. That is actually a real experience men have and the types of responses men frequently get. The third is a man saying he wears a hair piece b/c it makes him feel more confident, and the women accuse him of lying to women, make a joke about taking men swimming on the first date, and saying he should look good naturally. Again, actual things that actually happen IRL framed as a wacky topsy-turvy world. When people called her out on it, she called them misogynists. 2/2
Well no, not on point. She framed real experiences that men actually have as some kind of crazy topsy-turvy world. Her goal was to show how misogyny is bad by drawing a parallel to comparable situations that everyone would generally agree are both shitty and ridiculous, leading misogynists to question why they think the real-world cases are okay. This is a sound debate tactic. But her wacky parallels were things that DO happen and ARE often considered acceptable. And she could have saved face1/2
My oldest son has a friend that's trans. I always call the kids and their friends affectations like kiddo or sweetie or something like that. I apparently said "goodnight sweetie, drive safe" one night without realizing it or even thinking about it. My son talked to me about it later and I thought that maybe I insulted her and was prepared to apologize as it can seem sexist. But apparently I made her night. He said she was really happy about it and it made her feel really good.
fair enough. Just find it strange that anyone would use it as a gendered term 'cause everyone i know who says it (even the very conservative people) have used it non-gendered
Wow. Just out loud with being a fucking waste of skin. Were you hoping to find comrades in your anti trans bigotry here? Huh? You stupid fucking bigot. I hope you get everything you deserve.
Tell me, if someone took a rabbit and cropped its ears so they're short and pointy, would you call it a cat or would you have the basic level of intelligence to see that it's a damn rabbit?
Never got past high school biology, huh? Is your next argument that it was Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve? Cause that's the level or relevance you're batting at here. Medical science says trans people are valid. Common sense says trans people are valid. Basic human decency says trans people are valid. Just let people live their best lives. You don't have to participate. You can go sit in your little corner and be sad with the rest of the chuds. Cool? Cool.
Wow. And a double down. You just Google "what arguments have moron bigots been using for years" and copy paste the stupidity? Huh? You stupid fucking bigot?
For some reason, really dumb dudes think that women become lesbians because they just didn't get dicked enough in college, and that a really manly man will cure them of their lesbianism. Source: I used to know some really dumb dudes.
They really want to believe their dicks are somehow magical and powerful enough to fundamentally change a person on the deepest level. See also: their obsession with girls’ virginity.
Can confirm; as a dude I have known a *lot* of guys who thought that exact thing. Men fetishize lesbians and think that not only is every lesbian just a straight woman who is choosing to be with a woman due to the failure of the men in their past, but that the dude in question is going to be "the one" who dicks her down well enough that she goes back to being straight. Idiots think that being LGBTQ is a choice.
Same, I've known a lot of guys like that. I got tired one night of one guy going off about it and I said "Man you can't get laid. When you gonna turn gay?" He tried to tell me it doesn't work like that and I had to remind him that it was exactly what he just said. The rest of the guys confirmed and he was harassed the rest of night about when he's going to suck dick, or grap his ankles and other crude things that would probably get me a warning here on Imgur.
And yet, the majority of the ones who say shit like this would get really upset when my gay ex-roommate from college would tell them that they are only into women because THEY havn't gotten the right dick yet.
I only partially get the "straight men like lesbians" thing. If at least just for porn (you can watch all the goodstuff without seeing dick), but otherwise I don't get it??? You're not invited??
Too many men have this idea that all lesbians are secretly bisexuals who are just mad at men because of an experience with someone who wasn't a Real Man™.
They, of course, are convinced that they are a Real Man™.
I read a psychologists take on lesbian porn once, and why men like it so much.
Turns out a big part of it is basically "There's no men in this picture, but sex is happening, so I can imagine that I complete this picture without having to deal with another dude."
For a straight guy, that's a pretty attractive scenario, but it relies on the idea that the women are bi, not lesbians. And as for the "assume they are invited," it's porn. It's up to your imagination what you do with it.
Total idiots really. Clearly you can only dick her down enough to make her a Bisexual. No ones good enough to turn a dyke straight. Well except for maybe Chuck Norris. /Heavy sarcasm if you didn't get that.
rugtiestheroomtogether
You will and Im sure youre beautiful either way
BohabRex
Personal growth and becoming the person you want to be takes time and is difficult even under ideal circumstances, much less the fascist climate apocalypse. Be patient and kind to yourself in the meantime. The people who matter will recognize your beauty and value.
thesameasyours
Same
Stuffitwithbeans
Plot twist, her dick is bigger than his.
LoopStricken
From all the videos I've seen... yeah.
Caprittles
This is the one thing that sexists inadvertently become good at. Affirming trans women by treating them like shit because they see a woman.
GreaseMonkeyOfLove
Guys like that REALLY don’t like it when another guy says the same thing to them, freaks them out….so say it loudly and clearly.
techlich
i usually just punch them in the throat too shut them up
drousnavat
Girl, you already pass on vibes.
Shenaniganz80
Why Thank you so much
drousnavat
Also that ass
TinaEveFox
My card was declined at the grocery store and I was crying but the lady told another employee that "her card declined" I thought well that's good at least.
dickblack12
Can relate. Also a kid once said to me "you look like a girl, but you sound like a boy". I thought "you little brat......wait, I LOOK LIKE A GIRL!!!!!!"
lizardbones
kids are dumb and harsh, but that doesnt imply malice. If they grow up with different kinds of people in their lives, they will learn that those people are normal, and that what they said was a bit rude
TheVaal
@OP You pass right now. We compare ourselves to our idea of pretty women instead of being our own feminine selves.
PostalHeathen
Ahh, classic ewwphoria. It'll happen sooner than you expect.
DemonKysho
Something about PIzzacakecomic always strikes me as opportunist and astroturfed. Rather than someone that is an ally.
Similar to the onion article of the worst person you know made a good point.
Regardless of that Glory to you and your identity. May you have allies that support you when it isn't convenient. May you have to tools and the ability to be your true self.
ThatRaccoonGuy
Why so? Genuinely curious since her comics have always seemed on point, if perhaps kinda smug.
2074red2074
There was controversy a while back where she released a three-page comid titled "Talk" which depicted if women talked to men the way men talk to women. The first example was women mocking a man for getting robbed, saying he was asking for it by dressing nice, accusing him of lying about it, and saying not all women rob people. That's a good one. Then the next one was a man complaining of feeling lonely and isolating and women saying it's not that bad, he's an attention whore, and women have 1/2
2074red2074
problems too. That is actually a real experience men have and the types of responses men frequently get. The third is a man saying he wears a hair piece b/c it makes him feel more confident, and the women accuse him of lying to women, make a joke about taking men swimming on the first date, and saying he should look good naturally. Again, actual things that actually happen IRL framed as a wacky topsy-turvy world. When people called her out on it, she called them misogynists. 2/2
ThatRaccoonGuy
So, on point, but smug.
2074red2074
Well no, not on point. She framed real experiences that men actually have as some kind of crazy topsy-turvy world. Her goal was to show how misogyny is bad by drawing a parallel to comparable situations that everyone would generally agree are both shitty and ridiculous, leading misogynists to question why they think the real-world cases are okay. This is a sound debate tactic. But her wacky parallels were things that DO happen and ARE often considered acceptable. And she could have saved face1/2
MightyUrto
My oldest son has a friend that's trans. I always call the kids and their friends affectations like kiddo or sweetie or something like that. I apparently said "goodnight sweetie, drive safe" one night without realizing it or even thinking about it. My son talked to me about it later and I thought that maybe I insulted her and was prepared to apologize as it can seem sexist. But apparently I made her night. He said she was really happy about it and it made her feel really good.
sneakinglurkingpeepingguy
A happy accident
lizardbones
sweetie is a gendered term for you?
ErgoCue
It can also be perceived as condescending when used on teens and adults you aren’t close to, so it’s usually better to avoid it.
MightyUrto
Nope, call my boys that all the time. But it is for some folks. kiddo, sweetie, hon, etc.
lizardbones
fair enough. Just find it strange that anyone would use it as a gendered term 'cause everyone i know who says it (even the very conservative people) have used it non-gendered
Calicious
Depends on age. All young children are sweetie, but once you need deodorant it's usually reserved for females.
KellyCrazyCatLadyinTraining
That makes me sad. My boy cat will always be my sweetie.
Calicious
But all cats are sweet babies.
sometimesarobot
Don't think they plan on being with a man anyway.
spaghettiThunderbolt
I mean, given the one on the right is a man...
HandsomePenguin
Wow. Just out loud with being a fucking waste of skin. Were you hoping to find comrades in your anti trans bigotry here? Huh? You stupid fucking bigot. I hope you get everything you deserve.
PostalHeathen
spaghettiThunderbolt
Tell me, if someone took a rabbit and cropped its ears so they're short and pointy, would you call it a cat or would you have the basic level of intelligence to see that it's a damn rabbit?
Illendor
Never got past high school biology, huh?
Is your next argument that it was Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve?
Cause that's the level or relevance you're batting at here.
Medical science says trans people are valid. Common sense says trans people are valid. Basic human decency says trans people are valid. Just let people live their best lives. You don't have to participate.
You can go sit in your little corner and be sad with the rest of the chuds. Cool? Cool.
HandsomePenguin
Wow. And a double down. You just Google "what arguments have moron bigots been using for years" and copy paste the stupidity? Huh? You stupid fucking bigot?
ThatRaccoonGuy
For some reason, really dumb dudes think that women become lesbians because they just didn't get dicked enough in college, and that a really manly man will cure them of their lesbianism. Source: I used to know some really dumb dudes.
BurlRavenscroft
Chasing Amy sure did leave an impression. It's so quotable even if it's so wrong-headed!
Taxicat
They really want to believe their dicks are somehow magical and powerful enough to fundamentally change a person on the deepest level. See also: their obsession with girls’ virginity.
Madara1389
Can confirm; as a dude I have known a *lot* of guys who thought that exact thing. Men fetishize lesbians and think that not only is every lesbian just a straight woman who is choosing to be with a woman due to the failure of the men in their past, but that the dude in question is going to be "the one" who dicks her down well enough that she goes back to being straight. Idiots think that being LGBTQ is a choice.
loma45
I wonder how many people who believe sexuality is a choice are actually bisexual - so for them they really DID choose to live a heteronormative life.
That's not exculpatory since they're still projecting their own experiences onto everyone else and being shitty about it, but I am kind of curious.
MightyUrto
Same, I've known a lot of guys like that. I got tired one night of one guy going off about it and I said "Man you can't get laid. When you gonna turn gay?" He tried to tell me it doesn't work like that and I had to remind him that it was exactly what he just said. The rest of the guys confirmed and he was harassed the rest of night about when he's going to suck dick, or grap his ankles and other crude things that would probably get me a warning here on Imgur.
filid
And yet, the majority of the ones who say shit like this would get really upset when my gay ex-roommate from college would tell them that they are only into women because THEY havn't gotten the right dick yet.
RevengeIsIceCream
lol!
sometimesarobot
I only partially get the "straight men like lesbians" thing. If at least just for porn (you can watch all the goodstuff without seeing dick), but otherwise I don't get it??? You're not invited??
foreverinchains
That's the thing.
They assume they are invited.
Too many men have this idea that all lesbians are secretly bisexuals who are just mad at men because of an experience with someone who wasn't a Real Man™.
They, of course, are convinced that they are a Real Man™.
Madara1389
Bingo. It's straight up main character syndrome.
CallMeCourierSix
I read a psychologists take on lesbian porn once, and why men like it so much.
Turns out a big part of it is basically "There's no men in this picture, but sex is happening, so I can imagine that I complete this picture without having to deal with another dude."
For a straight guy, that's a pretty attractive scenario, but it relies on the idea that the women are bi, not lesbians. And as for the "assume they are invited," it's porn. It's up to your imagination what you do with it.
VolcanoHerder
If it was a choice, I think very few of us ladies would choose men
Net05
isn't that why the bear has become the third choice?
VolcanoHerder
Yes. The bear ranks higher than third
Elonth
Total idiots really. Clearly you can only dick her down enough to make her a Bisexual. No ones good enough to turn a dyke straight. Well except for maybe Chuck Norris. /Heavy sarcasm if you didn't get that.
RevengeIsIceCream
hehe, haven't seen a Chuck Norris joke in the wild in ages. I got it! ;)