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My girlfriend of three years had a miscarriage a little over a month ago. I honestly couldn't have been happier, neither of us are really prepared to take on the weight of a child. We've both got a ton of growing to go trough. I supported (and still continue to support) her as much as I could, and she still has nightmares about it. While I do admit I'm upset my child never saw the light of day, I couldn't be more grateful that he/she didn't have to suffer because of his/her irresponsible parents. Maybe some day thought.
(throw away account btw, might reply to any comments, might die in usersub, just really wanted to get this out.)
saddobop
I must say, you sound aware of your life situation, so you may also have cared enough to change for the child. Don't hate on your potential.
Confessbitch
Sorry for the spelling errors, I typed this rather hastily.
masterofmuppets13
Happy Not Father's Day!!
confoundingvariable
Big hormonal changes that come with pregnancy. Plus it can really damage your self worth leading into depression. Be there emotionally 2/2
P7M8
ifunny.co! that means this is funny!
ChristinaNotChristine
Yeah but for a while kids don't really weigh that much.
yourmomisminenow
Unlucky/lucky dude, just be more careful so when you decide to have children you'll be ready.
Mcflyvol
I don't know that happy is the proper emotion here....relieved maybe, but happy seems a little extreme
snaggletoof
Not ready for the responsibility? Stop trying to plant your seed in her garden of Eden!
thefuckwouldiwantacaravanthatsgotnofuckinwheels
condoms, abortion, etc etc
FuckComcast
You could even spend this time to learn how to spell through
WetPawPrints
nothing wrong with that not everybody is prepared to have children
ExpoAve17
as much as condoms suck during sex it's better than bringing in a child your not prepared to take care of.
BagOverMyHead
Cycle around the user to anyone who needs anonymity for confessions.
confoundingvariable
So I think this is important- having a miscarriage is an extremely emotional event, even if its early or an unwanted pregnancy. There are1/?
badbiscuit
Doesn't sound likw you love her anymore
LOAChainsaw
Didn't get that impression, OP just isn't ready for spawn. Sounds like he cares about how it went for her...
ImgonnapartylikeitsCOVID1999
Give it some time. You may surprise yourself about how you feel about this in a few years.
BvcketHat
You just gotta lift bro, babies don't weigh that much
jimthecanadian
so, happy... not father's day?
WiserDucksLivesLonger
Im glad you can repost something like this. Have seen it a bunch of times lately.
Confessbitch
wasn't a repost. if you think it is I'd love to see the "original". people like you are the reason people hate those that call reposts out.
cheersdom
does your wife know?
SoupIsNotAMealVera
Too bad your girlfriend could be happier. She still gets nightmares about it? :(
lilmissmew
It is a hard thing to go through physically and emotionally. She probably should talk to a professional
SoupIsNotAMealVera
Jeez, imagine you go through a traumatic experience like that, and when you tell your partner he jumps for joy? Lol.
lilmissmew
Certainly would make you feel alone without support.
ShitForBrainsLikeABlumpkin
....why make a throwaway, though?
Confessbitch
gf has an account
causality
Why no abortion?
ShitForBrainsLikeABlumpkin
I would argue that if you actually talked to her about how you feel you wouldn't need to hide from her.
wolverineprostateexams
A most proper us of this bear
wolverineprostateexams
*use
ITSMRTORGUEYELLINGSTUFF
One of use! One of use!
IAmThePermabannedAccountOfMyNameIsMrTorgue
It's not real. You can tell because of the ifunny.co. This is just a stolen repost.
Confessbitch
I said it in the comments already, but I made it on iFunny because the workshop is the only way I knew how to put text on a picture.
IAmThePermabannedAccountOfMyNameIsMrTorgue
Like Imgur doesn't have a memecreator since forever ago.
BlackElkSpeaks
Yeah bc everyone uses it.
Confessbitch
Which I wasn't aware of until some commenters let me know. I rarely post, let alone make things that require tools.
Backspackler
They do? Shit iam on mobile. Hmmm fuck it i have an app
AnonresponsivE
Linkie?
BlindDivine
so y'all didn't have money for an abortion, or she was just too stupid to get one?
BlindDivine
maybe you'll think about bc more now. let this be a lesson.
Waganga
Many women become pregnant even with proper birth control use. 40% of unwanted pregnancies are thanks to birth control failure.
Confessbitch
It was literally the week after we had it confirmed by a doctor. We we're still in the "accepting" phase if you will.
psychoelectrickitty
An abortion is an extremely personal choice, so you can fuck right off.
BlindDivine
and by too stupid to get one i mean trying to keep it even though neither of you were ready.
TheMightyKibbless
Fuck off guy
Confessbitch
sorry about the iFunny watermark, I'm not sure how to make one without their create studio, downvote if you must.
OCanadian
http://imgur.com/memegen
OCanadian
I'm not sure why it always links to an image, but copy and paste that URL into your browser... it's Imgur's custom meme generator.
scuba7jb
You can use imgur's meme generator, you know. :-P
Confessbitch
Hard learning when you're such a hardcore lurker! Thank you.
HibiscuitsTea
its like 3 fucking steps/
youdknowifitwasyourbusiness
Hope you've discovered prophylactics since.
Confessbitch
her birth control failed, but yes, more extensive measured are being taken
WetPawPrints
Nowadays it's so hard to take that seriously because so many people get pregnant on accident because they don't use protection.
WetPawPrints
Birth control is supposed to be like 99% effective and with all the people claiming they used b/c, most of them are not part of the 1%
psychoelectrickitty
Don't rely on plan b either. Got a little creepy crawler in my uterus because that failed for me. It's okay though.
youdknowifitwasyourbusiness
In any case, sorry for your loss. Even if it was for the best. I hope you two can pull through together. I know it can be hard on couples.
Confessbitch
thank you <3
adventuretoin
@OP if you think she's the one and if you don't want kids for the next 3-5 years, I recommend an IUD if possible
Confessbitch
IUD? (too lazy to google srry)
adventuretoin
http://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/unintendedpregnancy/pdf/contraceptive_methods_508.pdf
Waganga
Also other long term alternatives like implants.
manslut
An Improvised Uterine Device. The insurgents plant them in vaginas and they explode when you enter.
LOAChainsaw
Noooooo! But ya that's how I imagine mine works. (Don't want kids, have a great one already.)
khaleesimotherofkittycats
My sister has one and hurt her very badly, though I'd assume everyone's experience is different. Her body tried to menstruate but couldn't,
khaleesimotherofkittycats
and then she bled for months.
Spacelionsx10
As somebody who has had an IUD i highly do not recommend
LOAChainsaw
I've had 2 Mirenas over a 10 year span. Mine have worked flawlessly and I have a very light period every few months. Love it.
emi8ly
As some one with one in right now. Super dooper recommend
adventuretoin
I love mine but it's not for everyone. The mini pill for example I hated. Sometimes you have to experiment until you find something you like
emerwee
I was considering getting one implanted. Why are you unhappy with it?
amesaur
I've had severe pain with the mirena so far, but the blood loss has been really improved. It takes a while to settle in though
Spacelionsx10
I got terrible pains from it where all I could do was curl up in a ball in agony for hours on end. It was a combination of the IUD (1/?)
Spacelionsx10
hitting my fallopian tubes and a series of ovainian cysts that I only ever had with the IUD. That and its very painful to get in and (2/3)
Spacelionsx10
the next day was very uncomfortable for me as well. If you dont like the pill I recommend the nuvaring. No troubles with that for me (3/3)
emi8ly
I've had it for 3.5 years without a single side effect. Definitely recommend the mirena :)
emi8ly
Message me if I can help you out at all!
Gunshanks
I recommend condoms next time.
cheesywonton
I recommended anal.. but apparently he's not gay
blitherypoop
Right...because gay men are the only people who ever have anal sex.
adventuretoin
Because condoms never break? Come on now
kraeftig
True story; One time I broke on in a country where I didn't speak the language and almost everyone didn't speak mine. It was an... adventure
kraeftig
True story; One time I broke on in a country where I didn't speak the language and almost everyone didn't speak mine. It was an... adventure
hopethisisarelevantname
This is exactly why I have a daughter in Poland.
kraeftig
Well, I managed to avoid quite exactly that fate. This time.
thuperduperthpeshul
Ditto, we should form a club. That was quite an experience.
kraeftig
What would we call our club? Rubber Breaking Degenerates In Foreign Lands?
thuperduperthpeshul
I like it. Or maybe Torn Condom Travelers? We could charge membership fees to subsidize Plan B/morning after pills...
Confessbitch
she was on the pill at the time.
HeroOfSovngarde
Both of my children were conceived while we used birth control and condoms. I think they were meant to be born to do something great.
misskittyamazing
I was concieved on the pill. So were two of my cousins. So, yeah. That kinda means fuck all tbh. The pill fails often.
forgetfulvegetarian
Well don't cum inside her ?
Mayonnaiseisainstrument
Or just don't have sex, easy.
unofficialchemist
The pill is not effective for someone who weighs more than 150lbs. Just something to consider for all the guys out there.
FakeDrV
Double protection hombre
melveys
Our first child was conceived while I was on the pill. Maybe your gf should see about switching to a different type of pill.
flamingflamingo
No contraceptive is 100% effective.
melveys
True but since that method failed for them and they don't want kids, it may be worth looking into a new method.
flamingflamingo
If it failed for them twice, sure. But any of them can fail once, and it doesn't really indicate much.
JerseysDeNiro
What did you learn in middle school? Abstinence!
DarkUranium
For how long? IIRC, it takes 30 days after starting for them to properly take effect. (might be just 7, not sure)
Confessbitch
two years
popau
man, I've been on the pill for four years and still get nervous every month
YourInfoIsCrapImgur
Still use a condom, I wouldn't trust the pill
Khalostarundi
I wish I could upvote this ten times
YourInfoIsCrapImgur
Yup, a magic pill aint going to stop a dudes sperm fertilising a stray egg of yours. Wrap it boys if you don't want a baby with crazy.
AvocadosAtLaww
Not an excuse, the pill is very finicky. Either way you know that now
adventuretoin
The pill isn't finicky and for the record, when used correctly, the pill (estrogen or mini) has higher rates of success than condoms
melveys
Actually 40% of women who take the mini pill still ovulate and you NEED to take them at the exact same time every day. I got pregnant on it.
adventuretoin
Piils have a higher rate of success: http://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/unintendedpregnancy/pdf/contraceptive_methods_508.pdf
adventuretoin
And the mini pill is less forgiving versus the estrogen-containing pill (but for those of us who can't take estrogen, it's still awesome)
adventuretoin
But yes, the mini pill is a different beast and I mentioned both separately in my original comment because they have different success rates
frejathorshammer
The pill is not finicky. It is the most effective birth control.
ThelostWorldofAtlantis
Unless the person taking it is also on antibiotics
giftkartoffel
Actually, that is not true! https://www.drugs.com/article/antibiotics-and-birth-control.html
sarawr105
IUDs and DEPO are shown to be more effective. Although might be because of less chance of user error.
thuperduperthpeshul
I was afraid of making such an error so I switched from the pill to the IUD. Feel so much more secure plus this sucker lasts up to 10 years!