Macewindow54
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Hey Imgur,
So recently I met a girl and she seemed cool/flirty but also really put together (like she kept her house clean and knew how taxes worked.) After hanging out a bit I found out she has a boyfriend so that's neat, I was going to just be a friend and it would be cool. Later on I found out its an open relationship, which is cool I guess if both parties are cool with it.
Now her and I, we would have late night wine fueled conversations about, everything, abortion, love, sex, gossip, cars, society exc. During these talks I always tried to be honest as I could about my thoughts on the subject and I didn't think at the time that she annoyed or upset even when I said things perhaps too bluntly.
Now tho she never responds to my texts and dosent seem to want to hang out anymore. Even the other friends in our little group all seem mad at me.
Did I do something wrong? Am I just being too sensitive? Should I have been less honest/blunt?
Birdman2112
SendingThoughtsAndPrayers
Adulthood is basically high school bullshit, but with bills.
Macewindow54
*sigh* wellllllll shit
seltzerandjin
Who brought up the topics
Macewindow54
Its both, sometimes I do sometimes she dose. Its a conversation.
Akurei00
If you don't know, ask. Obviously others seem to know. Surely someone can shed some light on it. They'd know better than random inet peeps
Macewindow54
They all seem super evasive
DildoSwaggens
It sounds like all these people need to be left in high school… Start associating with grown-ups and leave this bullshit to children.
SendingThoughtsAndPrayers
You probably said some things at odds with your social circle and she blabbed, and now you're on the outs.
Macewindow54
Yes, this is probobly it. Thank you.
Galfronon
Macewindow54
tru
trybuttstuff
"We had late night, wine-fueled conversations about abortion" is what I got out of this and also probably one of the places you went wrong.
Macewindow54
She brought it up
MaxSmart99
Bitches be crazy... Find another.
Macewindow54
well sure, but I value our relationship and want to be friends
MaxSmart99
She doesn't obviously. You deserve better my friend.
emilyvin
Nothing wrong with honesty, but maybe you guys just aren't on the same wavelength. Shame she can't just say it.
Macewindow54
What do you mean by "on the same wavelength?"
emilyvin
Agree with each other enough to want to spend time together.
Macewindow54
welll fuck
ZeitGeist444
Not nearly enough details... Something else happened.
Macewindow54
I didnt want to make the post too long. Umm I give her shit for fucking a dud in out friend group. We agreed we should probobly never have
Macewindow54
sex. I bought her a record player. She brought me to some raves/concerts. what details do you want?
ZeitGeist444
Maybe she didn't agree as much as you thought? Still seems not a reason to cold shoulder you. Be open, Be honest, and communicate. Ask her!
Macewindow54
Its hard to when she dosent respond to anything and never goes out alone, I dont wanna ask her in front of people.
ZeitGeist444
If she's dodging you that much, and won't engage in an honest conversation. Perhaps it's time to back off, and move on?
Randazzo
You know the answers to all the questions, you simply don't want to acknowledge them.
Macewindow54
Well, could you help out? Perhaps being told flat out would be benificial.
Randazzo
I don't know the answers, you do. You just have to accept what you already know is true. Seeking advice is just hoping that you are wrong.
Macewindow54
Huh, guess its something to think on then.
demoncatmara
That guy was kinda harsh. I hope you're doing OK now! It's possible her other boyfriend got jealous - I had an overpossessive ex, they never start out that way (they're planning it though). Her pick up line was fucked, about wanting to rape me. Well we were already friends, and I liked the sound of that. I don't regret any of the time I spent with her. I hope she's found someone way better, how does one ask a woman out? My exes all did first, this lady is amazing - loved her since I was 14
Gilgamech
Go find a gf.
Macewindow54
Need to be a friend first.
MaxSmart99
No you don't. Stop being such a cuckold.
Macewindow54
Well fuck dude, I'm sorry I like to actuly know and like the person who is getting my dick wet.
MaxSmart99
Get to know someone else.
Macewindow54
Fair enough
colopctech
ask your friends, if they are your friends why they are mad and what you did wrong.
Macewindow54
Its like everyone just all the sudden dosent want to talk, dosent respond to texts. Dosent wanna hang and is stilted when I see them casualy
colopctech
so be the blunt person you claim to be and ask one or two or three of them directly what you did to offend everyone.
Macewindow54
And then they will be evasive and be like "no its all good" and then keep not talking to me
colopctech
will they?
Macewindow54
Fair I guess I dont KNOW, but it matches how they have behaved before.
thelegendaryWhiteyDionysus
Fuck her right in the pussy
Macewindow54
No we talked about that. We dont think sex is in the picture for us.
MaxSmart99
All the more reason to blow her off.
Macewindow54
But she is a great person, or was, when we were talking
MaxSmart99
What kind of a person blows off a good friend without explanation. Her true colours are showing? You can do better.
Macewindow54
perhaps. Thanks :)