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squishcat
Accepting yourself is the first step to doing anything about anything in your life, if you choose.
SquareDiesMad
Accept that through self control, diet, exercise, and possible consultation with a doctor you can change for the best. progress is progress
CarpeMofo
It's random. Women I think are hot my friends don't and vice versa. You only really change who you're attractive to. Just do you, be happy.
knifeskills
At least when the time is right for you, you can change it. People carry weight for different reasons emotionally. Sometimes it's protection
SauSauG
Having been there, feel this.
bentlightnvegas
Every woman I've ever had a relationship with has been BBW. That's all I'm attracted to. Partially because I've found BBW are more sensual
manslut
Idk I like fat guys...
BlueKarat
Sometimes it can be true though. Really depends on how it's carried and how healthy it is. Not all big is the same. Feels worth saying
NobelDynamite
Self hate can lead to feeling defeated...don't settle but don't hate yourself either. Small steps make big gains, you can do it!!!
TetrachromanonagonINFINITY
I notice alot of people saying "maybe lose some weight" in various nutshells. As a man with a thicc gf who makes me VERY happy, ill say that
TetrachromanonagonINFINITY
you gotta love yourself before you start trying to lose weight. "Maybe ill be more worthy after I lose a few lbs" is setting yourself up.
munkyboyh8su
I am 450lbs and getting a gastric sleeve in a couple weeks. I know how you feel.
cheeseburgersmakemehorny
Good luck
Dinglefaeries
Not trying to say being fat is healthy but it's only ugly because society says it is. There are cultures that idealize a chubbier look
PitWolf87
Yes you are fat I am too and I am ugly. The question is who gives a shit.
WittyNamesSuck
Some guys like skinny, some like other guys. I like fat.
Orcus424
The majority still likes a certain type. People should thrive to be healthy.
Mothstradamus
I always assumed the body positivity was there to help you as you worked towards better.
Mothstradamus
I only started losing weight when I wasn't being bullied everyday. Shit' s freaking hard, especially when you have no support or confidence.
mrnosey
Well I think some females who are big are beautiful...
Zombeavers
My husband is fat and i think he's beautiful
BenShambrook
People have different tastes, there's no one universal concept of beauty
Orcus424
There is a majority view. If you want to go for the minority view of beauty I wish you luck. You're going to need it.
MachineInterface
That's not how beauty works. Something is beautiful to the people who find it beautiful.
whatupmyknitters
being fat doesn't have to mean you're a beast and ugly. being fat doesn't have to mean you're obese, either. being fat doesn't have to be --
whatupmyknitters
--the be-all-and-end-all of your appeal, or your worth.
Kitastrophe
My BF admits he's less physically attracted to me cuz I'm fat, but he likes me and we've an active & rewarding sex life. My best friend(1/2)
Kitastrophe
has a fat girl fetish and chooses romantic partners based largely on appearance. He thinks this makes him the less superficial of the two.
VerdantApollo
Beauty is subjective, but most guys' subjective tastes converge on certain aesthetics.
Flyndaran
I prefer women with two eyes and a mouth a certain distance beneath them.
Orcus424
I dare you to tell a woman that you're interested in that you have low standards and that you like them.
Flyndaran
I have pretty damn high standards, someone that wants to be with me. :) 18+ years so far. Double :)
JunWasHere
Some people genuinely like rotund figures, but I agree most people are just following a trend of popular denial. Good luck slimming down!
Royoffinland
I like all type/size of women, prefer plus for SO, though. I've always been into softer women, but was hiding it for quite long time.
annabaeto
I prefer fat guys..........
weenielover
Instead of telling everyone that they are beautiful, because not everyone is, we should understand that it's ok to be ugly.
squishcat
I agree. It should be OK to be ugly.
cparksrun
Or that everyone has different tastes. I love fat bodies. It's how I was born, I had no say in what I like. But apparently, I'm wrong.
weenielover
I'd even go so far as to say that most people are ugly. I know I am.
IAmLeftShark
It's not UGLY. It's just unappealing. You're not a monster. You're just not a model
cormyn
Yet.
itsthevoiceman
Ugly = unappealing | For most people
lolaluftnagel
Yeah by definition lol. but i also know people with cute faces or pretty eyes who are very large so fat != ugly sometimes i guess
cparksrun
It's appealing to me. I can't help it. Why do people talk about this shit like it's objectively true?
RosegoldEverything
I dunno, I'm ugly as hell when I'm fat. Fucks up my face.
fr1080f
Positive words from someone who can't coordinate his dance moves right.
IAmLeftShark
*Triggered*
secretlibby
Problem is, calling people fat and ugly is discouraging. If you feel beautiful, you'll be motivated to take care of your beautiful self.
werwerwere
I dunno if that's universal. I've always put on weight when I've been in a relationship with someone praising my looks...
werwerwere
It's called relationship weight
secretlibby
There was a study where fat and skinny people were both criticized for being fat, and both groups gained weight.
oldlampsfornew
Can you share a link?
secretlibby
https://www.ucl.ac.uk/news/news-articles/0315/240315-weight-discrimination-quality-of-life
squishcat
Thank you, I knew that was true I just had no proof.
BlueKarat
It's almost like attacking people makes them feel shitty and makes them end up worse off.
Kitastrophe
See, My mom called me fat as a kid and when I looked back at pictures I discovered that I wasn't fat til I got it into my head that I'd (1)
Kitastrophe
been fat forever & just gave up, so I see what you're saying from one perspective. However, I also am an adult who can make an honest (2)
Kitastrophe
assessment of where I am on the spectrum of human attractiveness & when people say 'No, you're crazy! You're beautiful!' I don't feel (3)
Kitastrophe
beautiful/affirmed, I feel discouraged, cuz they're lying in an attempt to make the poor ugly girl feel better. That's just condescending
secretlibby
That sounds more like unresolved issues to do with emotional abuse that should be addressed through therapy than an honest assessment.
oldlampsfornew
Beauty is very subjective. Also, you could be beautiful in different ways.
TheGrubinator
Well, I see big guys and big ladies in happy relationships all the time, so... while I'm sorry you're unhappy with yourself, I (1)
TheGrubinator
think it's fairly safe to say that there are a lot of people who genuinely *do* find a little weight attractive; or at least (2)
TheGrubinator
don't find it *un*attractive.
Orcus424
I've never met a big person that honestly wouldn't rather be fit. It's about health.
TheGrubinator
I've known plenty who don't really seem to give a toss. It's about the individual person.
Orcus424
They're lying to you and to themselves. Eventually if you believe in a lie it becomes true to themselves. They don't think it's a lie.
TheGrubinator
Your statement requires you to know the contents of a person's mind. You don't know the contents of those peoples' minds. Thus, your (1)
TheGrubinator
statement is faulty at best.
Man0fReaction
Being ugly and fat would be worse than just fat but ugly is a lot harder to fix than fat.
plsslideintomydms
You can be ripped and ugly. I can live with that.
Drosophilamelanobastard
You can be unattractive to most people and still live a fulfilling life. The real issue with obesity is health.
KikiLebeauf
Not helping
Man0fReaction
Nor is saying ugly is beautiful.
ShitSteve0Says
I've lost 25 pounds. If I lose another 50 I'm gonna be insanely hot. Watch out world. Here I come in like a year if I don't fuck up.
Bl4nk3t
You got this
DrMarioSThompson
Lost 50 pounds last year. Starting to get looks from the kind of women I always wanted to. You can do it bud!
SomeJustice
I'm both fat and ugly so I have a hard time staying motivated since I know I'll still be ugly when I lose the weight.
CWMoudi
People like fit people. So you'll have that going for ya.
SwarmingWithOrcs
People like confidence. Usually that comes with being proud of yourself, I'm far more confident when I'm fitter.
countcasimir
Listen dude or dudette, fit people have an attractiveness all their own. If you work hard you will be hot, somehow someway
SilverLullabies
I feel this. When I was fit I was like a strong 4.now that I'm fat I'm like a 1.5
ShitSteve0Says
I stay motivated cause I don't want to die early cause I'm fat.
Onikou
Yep. That's the attitude I have. I like this perspective.
ShitSteve0Says
Yeah dying young sounds lame as fuck. Especially over something I can control