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My dad started looking really bad around Christmas and I forced him to go to the hospital to find out what’s wrong. At first they thought it is some sort of arthritis of the neck which would have been uncomfortable but ok to live with I guess... after uncountable tests they have now diagnosed him with pancreatic, liver and kidney cancer... today we got an estimate for life expectancy and he will have about 6 months... I can hear in his voice how he is trying to be strong for us and I really don’t know what to do or how to act around him anymore... I just don’t know how to make sure that his last few months with us are as amazing as possible....
MadMupp
That not how you use they meme
Simotellis
Make it a great time for him without him feeling like he's going to leave.. Act normal, appreciate the little things ^^
OMGamIImguringCorrectly
You may not want to, but while he is of sound mind discuss POA and his will. Also discuss DNR's. It's going to become very important.
baldyeti
I had a similar situation with my mom. Spend time with him, laugh and have a good time. If you dont I can promise you'll regret it.
DanielBonnett
Act normally, spend your time together, enjoy it. Tell him you love him, no macho bs. Just appreciate it. I'm sorry for the diagnosis
Mapachito
You have 6 months to talk about everything, record it, save it, dont see it as 'just' 6 months. Make use of the time you have with him now
usrid004
Don’t talk to him about just being sick. Spend time with him do things with him he enjoys. Talk about normal stuff. Tell him you LOVE him.
jscmac
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’m sure he’s wondering how to act as well sometimes. He loves you, so be yourself. Soak it in
MordocDeforge
Treat him like normal. Talk to him! That is the most important thing. I lost my mother to cancer in less than 6 months.
butthurtnevergetsbetter
Just try to make things nice for him. Do not start mourning him while he's still alive.
bj52398
Ask to borrow money.
coolusernamel0l
Talk with your dad. Use humour, the way you two use it. Make him laugh and remember the good times. Connect with him.
coolusernamel0l
This is advice from a 63 year old man whose dad has brain cancer
alina2907
Sorry to hear that you are in a similar situation
SecretAgentSuperBooger
If it were me, I'd sit down with him & make out a realistic & achievable bucket list. Make those last six months count.
alina2907
I like that idea :)
SecretAgentSuperBooger
You got this. Stay strong for him, OP.
TheyDontKnowAndYouCantTellEm
Parent/child reversal. You are the parent now, make the decisions as to what's best for him.
TheyDontKnowAndYouCantTellEm
Go have a one hour sit-down with a hospice worker, to begin with. They will make your/his life a lot easier.
TheyDontKnowAndYouCantTellEm
Hospice is free in most communities. You can do hospice at home, too.
TheyDontKnowAndYouCantTellEm
Hospice is when you stop actively treating disease and only make patient more comfortable, treat pain, etc.
TheyDontKnowAndYouCantTellEm
They will help YOU help him with the process of dying. Most incredible people you will ever meet. Angels.