Jan 28, 2021 9:28 AM
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tomascco
I've shared the Laundry Fairy theory with my wife. I think she's having trouble comprehending what's happening because she looked puzzled.
dalaiyoda
"Kinne" -- https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3888688
Fzoid
First time I've seen the ending with the cops ?
OhIThoughtNoIWasThatsWeird
This, except in my relationship, my wife would be the one that thinks the coffee table and laundry basket are magic.
Eightylb
I was the girlfriend in this. My ex wife did no cleaning at all. I can relate.
DearSweetBabyYoda
RIP...
tenbigtoes
I think this is the original.... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_kXIGvB1uU
Polsnulspace
Thanks. Came looking for this. Have your +1 Random Internet Stranger.
BigHeadWeb
My father was this guy. I was determined NOT to be this guy.
Filantropist
My wife' cousin believed this. He wanted the hamper when divorcing his wife. But then again, he was on drugs so...
Grimmrog
"I got the same coffe table " that totally made it.
Vareen
With my bf and me it's the other way 'round, I'm the swamp monster and he can't leave my mess like that... Not proud of it
iancarry
ppl should live by themselves .. teaches a lot :)
InfinityDragon
Oh look at you, all fancy with your dish washers. I have to do mine by hand.
lDanielHolm
Whoever cares the least, controls the relationship...
eleonorae
I know this is a joke but "expected" mismatches in domestic labor are a real problem. :/
somedudeyoumightknow
That's because it's an old Boomer joke turned into a skit. They had no problem with mismatches in domestic labor.
Gaelig
once my man laughed at me for doing underwear/socks laundry. so I stopped. two weeks later he said...
... you know what you said about laundry?... You were right...
SiriusandCambria
Was this before or after he became Santa Claus?
evildadunit
i too have a magic coffee table, somehow, it _always_ saves fasteners
thatsnotmydog
My daughter didn't think this was very funny
tell her she doesn't have to do anyone's laundry but hers. and her kids until they're 8.
SzKnoWnzEvr72
Maybe I should get ANOTHER coffee table? I have a lot of messes to clean up.
Solonariwan
Used to live with 2 other dude roommates. House always a mess. A sister of one moved in at one point. Others were like "it must be nice to
Have a girl around! House must be cleaner? FUCK no that nasty bitch was even messier than all of us combined. Bitch left her nuva ring
Shower and admitted herself "I just like to try to make new food, I don't really do dishes." best day ever when she moved out
FabergeBurrito
My husband is one of the rare ones who will actually do stuff on his own & not whine about it. I hit the jackpot, people.
CoraciasLilac
Funny how that works. I work full shifts, my husband maybe 5 hrs/day, and yet clean dishes sit for 5 days even after I ask him to put away
beenieweine
This is honestly why I left my ex.
enkrypt3d
he didn't have a magic coffee table?
vsxlarkdyn
This is honestly why my current might become my ex..
zachtidmore
Just get a magic coffee table.
idk why I didn't think of that /s
ProChoiceBaby
This is a lie. My gf is messy as fuck.
xyrax
THISSSS! God this lie is so unreal. If it werent for me this place would be a legit warzone and we would never find our keys. Ever.
badpuppeh81
I love my sister to death, but she is the same, once she is done with something, it ceases to exist on the physical plane we inhabit
slackboy722000
You don't have the right coffee table.
pinksparklypants
I like a messy girlfriend
BenjaminMu
Lol
BCSNN
It's the complete opposite in our house too. I'm the up early, clean everything one. She's more ... well, I know she tries sometimes.
Cretule
Amen. I still married her
Crowlands
You married his girlfriend?
Yes
lexxyc
Same. I am the coffee table most days...
sirmixanaverageamount
I go through spats where I'm the messy one, but mostly because I'm tired of my days off work being nothing but cleaning
CountessPatagium
My wife has the same basket and coffee table.
iouoneusername
So does mine, but she complains when it's temporarily out of order once or twice a week.
BoobyTraps
I gotta get me one of those coffee tables.
BewareTheIceSpiders
Its higher maintenance than depicted in the video.
PicassoCT
For the magic coffee table, one must first be, coffee able..
Yupurineutah
I have three of those Ikea tables. Apparently the black ones don't work because they're all full of shit.
TinyLiehon
Are you are insane?
DrEgg
No. He's not insane. I've got the same coffee table at home.
bigshipissailingontheocean
I thinks it’s from Ikea?
drcookieninja
Lack
Soufange
No the ones from Ikea some of those mystery meatballs appear on it in the morning... WAAAAAAAAAAI-
Ynigmatyk
I want to send this to my gf but she'd get mad at me for like 3 days...
3 days for gaming you say?
DanBranDaMan
Same
ProphetofEntropy
maybe you should do more housework then.
rowanmc
Heh this. Spouse and I back-and-forth this joke acshully, "Oh my gosh, the laundry got magically done. How?!?" is a thing we BOTH say.
ObliqueRay
tarataqa
Gimme your girl's number and I'll do it for ya.
OzzyKnight
Just sent it to my wife. Let's see what happens next. (Spare bedroom already made up.
dekket
Worth it.
p3aker
I'll send it to her, what's her number ?
blessedarethecheesemakers
Do that and when she gets mad, tie a towel around her neck and say, “Now you’re super mad!”
scJazz
RickRollable
Don't kick the hornet's nest
TheN8
Wimp
NapoleonDynOmite
Same except I do most of the house work
spalone
Haha same
molittr11
Same...
Intergalacticdinosaur
Same ?
YesImAGuyThatCooks
Sex dolls get mad now? Damn science is going too far these days.
I think I know why...
BladeTurMoiL
I showed it to mine, she must have fallen on our coffee table, because i have not seen her in weeks.
HillCountryRambler
Send it my way. I'll pass it on to your gf. She won't get mad at me. She loves me.
cuddlewithastruggle
Haaaahaha savage af.
PervertedTango
Image, no sound. For 3 days
metalrulercid
Not the worst outcome
Sounds like a piece of heaven...
I can image!
Hapsdinersdumpsterfire
My wife would stare at me for about 30 seconds.....then be mad at me for 3 weeks.
Newlyof
I know you're joking
Yes I am.
And update....I showed her the video, she chuckled and gave me a kiss. Now I don't know what to think, I've gotta check my life insurance.
masshandler3
I don't have a gf or a wife but I think that just by watching this I'm gonna get the cold shoulder for the first 6 dates
LesLesVegetables
Hahahaah accurate ....too accurate. Wait, do we have the same wife?
Is that where she goes?
Yeah same thing happened when I showed my wife the video. *furiously checks life insurance qualifiers*
Maybe do more house stuff wo being asked to do it and she'd find a funny side to ^. Not having a go, just saying resentment is avoidable.
I was just joking...but thanks.
WastingMyLifeOneMemeATaTime
Your wives need to learn to leave some mess around,go on a "wives on strike" kinda thing. You'll start appreciating her effort soon enough.
iSuckAtThisButIDontCare
I went on strike around Thanksgiving and stopped cleaning one of the bathrooms so he stopped using that one too instead of cleaning it....
Beammeupscotti
I got tired of changing the empty toilet roll out so stopped. Later watched my hubs go in the bathroom, then leave and go use the other one.
Cazzyle
I tried this once with my husband early in our marriage. He doubled down. So did I. A few weeks later the house was DISGUSTING. Never again.
Solid point... Disclaimer: Might not work if both partners are equally stubborn :)
My wife is the best thing to ever happen to me, I fully appreciate everything she does for me and she appreciates everything I do for her.
Sounds like a solid and healthy relationship you got going on there, keep it up! :)
And I do 90% of the cooking, 40% of the cleaning, and pay 90% of the bills.
Sarah1987
I’m 7.5 months pregnant and my husband occasionally unloads the dishwasher. I hate doing it, so I appreciate it so much when he does! I dont
HeroThatWasNeeded
Y'all should invest in that coffee table.
Need him to do it all the time, but sometimes I don’t have the energy. We both work full time. Guys, pitching in every once in a while is a
Huge help. I’ll ask him to bring me the clothes from the dryer so I can fold them while we watch TV. It’s hard to bend over or lift baskets.
I appreciate him so much! Other than that I’m nesting so I’m constantly organizing and cleaning.
stink3rbelle
not enough at all. Pitch in half. Every. damn. day. Straight people are fucking crazy.
Some women enjoy taking care of the house. He takes out the trash, puts gas in my car, opens jar lids for me, pressure washes the driveway..
Nize426
My wife and I take turns doing the dishes, laundry, and putting the kid to bed. When I show her stuff like this she only appreciates me more
sprayfartmaster
Yes. Just do your share of shit. It's not that hard. Good for everyone who does.
Advice I was given in my 20s was never do any chore for a man that you are not prepared to do for the rest of the relationship
idownvotekittens
What needs to get done, and who is available to do it? If something needs to get done, and you're free, do it. Don't keep score.
Sneckz
My cousins MIL gave her the same advice but she didn't listen. Now he is a man baby and she is happy and single.
I’m a man and could have used the same advice. My wife has the same basket and table.
knotch2
Dont do any chores for anybody you're in a relationship if they arent going to do then as well. It's called taking turns.
I love whoever gave you that adviceand wish I had heard it too
It was the receptionist at my first office job. She was great.
zoeelane201
Bf prepares meals and I wash every dish we make (we have other house mates I refuse to do dishes for). Room doesn't really get untidy. >
>Regular maintenance chores (bathroom tub/sink, vacuuming, sweeping) is done in small sections whenever you use that room. Our relationship>
>is so peaceful
Exactly as it should be. You both chip in and everything is sorted. Lovely.
jamiedBreaker
I failed at that, but hoping a healthy conversation & a chore chart will help. We want forever, so I'll come back & let yall know how itgoes
Oh god yes, a healthy conversation and a willing to make it work makes a huge difference. You'll be grand.
Macewindow
As a single father of two kids I honestly have no idea what kind of household raised guys like this. Don't be someone's slave.
Emberpaw
This needs more points... Best advice ever!!
Djinterrobang
Within my family, the advice given to everyone on their wedding day, man or woman, is: 1/2
"Don't do anything today, you don't want to do everyday, for the rest of your life. "
SarcasticComment
That's fair. My wife and I are even split in how we help eachother. Eventually those taskes became our designated jobs
I cook 80%+ of the time because enjoy it. Unless requested beforehand it is the assumption that I'll make dinner.
She hates how I do laundry. I only do it when I'm desperate for something to be clean. She largely handles it for the house.
fitzjustright69
My wife refuses to do dishes and I refuse to mop/vacuum. We split everything else. It was established when we first moved in together.
EMTsaidwhat
Good advice. My partner and I use the, "you're an adult and you live here so take care of your space" approach. Laundry was a big issue
Until it was determined that it was having to walk to the onsite laundry and babysit it that was the real issue.
Jthechef
Yes but no. He does the trash, the yard work, the dog poo, the drains, etc. So no we do not split every chore 50/50 but all the chores 50/50
truthader
. Relationship advice
That's good advice
Swishbug
Abso-fucking-loutely. We came up with a spilt chore system because I will NEVER BE HIS FUCKING MOTHER. Make your boys clean up too. Equality
Also have you heard the word "tmesis"? It's the only word in English that starts "tm..." it describes what you did w absolutely. Fave fact
I have never heard of that! Cool! Thank you
Exactly! Some people have been allowed to leave home with not a single clue about needs to be done.
DaniaAudax
The fun part is when he says he’ll be responsible for a chore like taking the trash out but you end up doing it anyway.
I am the trash man in my house. No one else. We all use the trash can but only I know how to take it out. I have tried to teach others. .
...don’t wait until the trash is too much for the bag to handle and re-line the can with a suitably sized bag immediately afterwards?
greygoosery
Hubs is supposed to clean the kitchen since I cook. His cleaning the kitchen is putting dishes in the washer, the next day. Nothing else.
The one that used to get me was "I'll cook tonight", but then "can you just chop this/stir that" and somehow you still get to wash up
Or you ask him to do it and he says "I was just about to!" and is all aggrieved.
Not even. I used to remind & wait an hour. Sometimes he’d get to it. Now I just do it myself.
RavenInFlyte4ever
Instead of being aimed at a man, it should be if you do a chore for anyone, be prepared to do it while you're with them (man or woman)
Of course it can be aimed at anyone but overall women tend to do the lions share of domestic labour even in 2021. 1/2
It was good advice for me as it was the first great love of my life and I was besotted so wanted to do everything to look after him 2/3
That stage wears off and could lead to feeling put upon by my own actions earlier. The person w the advice knew that would happen 3/3
PimpinKen
Hopefully you found someone compatible to you!
janeQdoe
I think the reason this resonates with people is that women are usually the cleaners and caretakers of a home and are expected to do these
Types of tasks. When a chore needs doing, many women feel like it is "their job." Like changing diapers; it was always understood to be
"Woman's work." That's changing, which is nice. But the roles played in the home are still sometimes seen as gender specific.
Yep, overall, chores are still gender specific. Even more so in some cases w lockdown and ppl wfh and homeschooling. It's fascinating really
PaleAsFuck
The problem is when you decide to do your own dishes and he has to do his. Then suddenly all the dishes are standing dirty on his desk.
Bunchie
One bowl, one fork, one spoon. All I've ever needed.
So no guests? I use plates and forks and spoons when I'm cooking as well. Not only to eat from
BigBurkhart
Guests can bring their own plates.
The3rdwheel
Dont get why people have issues doing dishes. Use it, wash it and put it in the drying rack... simple
It's a hazzle. Especially cooking food and then clean everything you used. I usually clean it a few hours after the food coma is done
I clean as i go.
Sometimes it's too stressful making the food so I don't have time. I'm always stressed in the kitchen
NotLuckyDucky
I have a friend who’s boyfriend starts doing household chores without being prompted. I hope one day I can find a guy like that lol ?
*Raises hand*
vowofsilence
My exs always used to say how good I was picking up after myself, cleaning up just cuz...lol I thought all guys did that stuff around home
They are out there. They're the real gems
Luckely that relationship didn't last. Now I'm actually in a healthy both doing choirs relationship
LongPorkRockyMountainOyster
Hahah thank god, I was gonna say the REAL trouble is continuing to date people who refuse to participate in house chores
Ye I mean. It was the abusing aspect that broke it xD it's like night and day. I didn't know how bad it was until after.
Been there, got the shitty t-shirt. I’m proud of you for making it through the other side and learning from your experience!
camelsp1der
Sounds harmonious
It's great. He cooks dinner I do the dishes. When he was visiting last year he did the vacuuming while I was at school.
You are both.....in harmony....
tomascco
I've shared the Laundry Fairy theory with my wife. I think she's having trouble comprehending what's happening because she looked puzzled.
dalaiyoda
"Kinne" -- https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3888688
Fzoid
First time I've seen the ending with the cops ?
OhIThoughtNoIWasThatsWeird
This, except in my relationship, my wife would be the one that thinks the coffee table and laundry basket are magic.
Eightylb
I was the girlfriend in this. My ex wife did no cleaning at all. I can relate.
DearSweetBabyYoda
RIP...
tenbigtoes
I think this is the original.... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_kXIGvB1uU
Polsnulspace
Thanks. Came looking for this. Have your +1 Random Internet Stranger.
BigHeadWeb
My father was this guy. I was determined NOT to be this guy.
Filantropist
My wife' cousin believed this. He wanted the hamper when divorcing his wife. But then again, he was on drugs so...
Grimmrog
"I got the same coffe table " that totally made it.
Vareen
With my bf and me it's the other way 'round, I'm the swamp monster and he can't leave my mess like that... Not proud of it
iancarry
ppl should live by themselves .. teaches a lot :)
InfinityDragon
Oh look at you, all fancy with your dish washers. I have to do mine by hand.
lDanielHolm
Whoever cares the least, controls the relationship...
eleonorae
I know this is a joke but "expected" mismatches in domestic labor are a real problem. :/
somedudeyoumightknow
That's because it's an old Boomer joke turned into a skit. They had no problem with mismatches in domestic labor.
Gaelig
once my man laughed at me for doing underwear/socks laundry. so I stopped. two weeks later he said...
Gaelig
... you know what you said about laundry?... You were right...
SiriusandCambria
Was this before or after he became Santa Claus?
evildadunit
i too have a magic coffee table, somehow, it _always_ saves fasteners
thatsnotmydog
My daughter didn't think this was very funny
Gaelig
tell her she doesn't have to do anyone's laundry but hers. and her kids until they're 8.
SzKnoWnzEvr72
Maybe I should get ANOTHER coffee table? I have a lot of messes to clean up.
Solonariwan
Used to live with 2 other dude roommates. House always a mess. A sister of one moved in at one point. Others were like "it must be nice to
Solonariwan
Have a girl around! House must be cleaner? FUCK no that nasty bitch was even messier than all of us combined. Bitch left her nuva ring
Solonariwan
Shower and admitted herself "I just like to try to make new food, I don't really do dishes." best day ever when she moved out
FabergeBurrito
My husband is one of the rare ones who will actually do stuff on his own & not whine about it. I hit the jackpot, people.
CoraciasLilac
Funny how that works. I work full shifts, my husband maybe 5 hrs/day, and yet clean dishes sit for 5 days even after I ask him to put away
beenieweine
This is honestly why I left my ex.
enkrypt3d
he didn't have a magic coffee table?
vsxlarkdyn
This is honestly why my current might become my ex..
zachtidmore
Just get a magic coffee table.
vsxlarkdyn
ProChoiceBaby
This is a lie. My gf is messy as fuck.
xyrax
THISSSS! God this lie is so unreal. If it werent for me this place would be a legit warzone and we would never find our keys. Ever.
badpuppeh81
I love my sister to death, but she is the same, once she is done with something, it ceases to exist on the physical plane we inhabit
slackboy722000
You don't have the right coffee table.
pinksparklypants
I like a messy girlfriend
BenjaminMu
Lol
BCSNN
It's the complete opposite in our house too. I'm the up early, clean everything one. She's more ... well, I know she tries sometimes.
Cretule
Amen. I still married her
Crowlands
You married his girlfriend?
Cretule
Yes
lexxyc
Same. I am the coffee table most days...
sirmixanaverageamount
I go through spats where I'm the messy one, but mostly because I'm tired of my days off work being nothing but cleaning
CountessPatagium
My wife has the same basket and coffee table.
iouoneusername
So does mine, but she complains when it's temporarily out of order once or twice a week.
BoobyTraps
I gotta get me one of those coffee tables.
BewareTheIceSpiders
Its higher maintenance than depicted in the video.
PicassoCT
For the magic coffee table, one must first be, coffee able..
Yupurineutah
I have three of those Ikea tables. Apparently the black ones don't work because they're all full of shit.
TinyLiehon
Are you are insane?
DrEgg
No. He's not insane. I've got the same coffee table at home.
bigshipissailingontheocean
I thinks it’s from Ikea?
drcookieninja
Lack
Soufange
No the ones from Ikea some of those mystery meatballs appear on it in the morning... WAAAAAAAAAAI-
Ynigmatyk
I want to send this to my gf but she'd get mad at me for like 3 days...
iancarry
3 days for gaming you say?
DanBranDaMan
Same
ProphetofEntropy
maybe you should do more housework then.
rowanmc
Heh this. Spouse and I back-and-forth this joke acshully, "Oh my gosh, the laundry got magically done. How?!?" is a thing we BOTH say.
ObliqueRay
tarataqa
Gimme your girl's number and I'll do it for ya.
OzzyKnight
Just sent it to my wife. Let's see what happens next. (Spare bedroom already made up.
dekket
Worth it.
p3aker
I'll send it to her, what's her number ?
blessedarethecheesemakers
Do that and when she gets mad, tie a towel around her neck and say, “Now you’re super mad!”
scJazz
RickRollable
Don't kick the hornet's nest
TheN8
Wimp
NapoleonDynOmite
Same except I do most of the house work
spalone
Haha same
molittr11
Same...
Intergalacticdinosaur
Same ?
YesImAGuyThatCooks
Sex dolls get mad now? Damn science is going too far these days.
Gaelig
I think I know why...
BladeTurMoiL
I showed it to mine, she must have fallen on our coffee table, because i have not seen her in weeks.
HillCountryRambler
Send it my way. I'll pass it on to your gf. She won't get mad at me. She loves me.
cuddlewithastruggle
Haaaahaha savage af.
HillCountryRambler
PervertedTango
Image, no sound. For 3 days
metalrulercid
Not the worst outcome
TheN8
Sounds like a piece of heaven...
tarataqa
I can image!
Hapsdinersdumpsterfire
My wife would stare at me for about 30 seconds.....then be mad at me for 3 weeks.
Newlyof
I know you're joking
Hapsdinersdumpsterfire
Yes I am.
Hapsdinersdumpsterfire
And update....I showed her the video, she chuckled and gave me a kiss. Now I don't know what to think, I've gotta check my life insurance.
masshandler3
I don't have a gf or a wife but I think that just by watching this I'm gonna get the cold shoulder for the first 6 dates
LesLesVegetables
Hahahaah accurate ....too accurate. Wait, do we have the same wife?
Hapsdinersdumpsterfire
Is that where she goes?
LesLesVegetables
Yeah same thing happened when I showed my wife the video. *furiously checks life insurance qualifiers*
Newlyof
Maybe do more house stuff wo being asked to do it and she'd find a funny side to ^. Not having a go, just saying resentment is avoidable.
Hapsdinersdumpsterfire
I was just joking...but thanks.
WastingMyLifeOneMemeATaTime
Your wives need to learn to leave some mess around,go on a "wives on strike" kinda thing. You'll start appreciating her effort soon enough.
iSuckAtThisButIDontCare
I went on strike around Thanksgiving and stopped cleaning one of the bathrooms so he stopped using that one too instead of cleaning it....
Beammeupscotti
I got tired of changing the empty toilet roll out so stopped. Later watched my hubs go in the bathroom, then leave and go use the other one.
Cazzyle
I tried this once with my husband early in our marriage. He doubled down. So did I. A few weeks later the house was DISGUSTING. Never again.
WastingMyLifeOneMemeATaTime
Solid point... Disclaimer: Might not work if both partners are equally stubborn :)
Hapsdinersdumpsterfire
My wife is the best thing to ever happen to me, I fully appreciate everything she does for me and she appreciates everything I do for her.
WastingMyLifeOneMemeATaTime
Sounds like a solid and healthy relationship you got going on there, keep it up! :)
Hapsdinersdumpsterfire
And I do 90% of the cooking, 40% of the cleaning, and pay 90% of the bills.
Sarah1987
I’m 7.5 months pregnant and my husband occasionally unloads the dishwasher. I hate doing it, so I appreciate it so much when he does! I dont
HeroThatWasNeeded
Y'all should invest in that coffee table.
Sarah1987
Need him to do it all the time, but sometimes I don’t have the energy. We both work full time. Guys, pitching in every once in a while is a
Sarah1987
Huge help. I’ll ask him to bring me the clothes from the dryer so I can fold them while we watch TV. It’s hard to bend over or lift baskets.
Sarah1987
I appreciate him so much! Other than that I’m nesting so I’m constantly organizing and cleaning.
stink3rbelle
not enough at all. Pitch in half. Every. damn. day. Straight people are fucking crazy.
Sarah1987
Some women enjoy taking care of the house. He takes out the trash, puts gas in my car, opens jar lids for me, pressure washes the driveway..
Nize426
My wife and I take turns doing the dishes, laundry, and putting the kid to bed. When I show her stuff like this she only appreciates me more
sprayfartmaster
Nize426
Yes. Just do your share of shit. It's not that hard. Good for everyone who does.
Newlyof
Advice I was given in my 20s was never do any chore for a man that you are not prepared to do for the rest of the relationship
idownvotekittens
What needs to get done, and who is available to do it? If something needs to get done, and you're free, do it. Don't keep score.
Sneckz
My cousins MIL gave her the same advice but she didn't listen. Now he is a man baby and she is happy and single.
CountessPatagium
I’m a man and could have used the same advice. My wife has the same basket and table.
knotch2
Dont do any chores for anybody you're in a relationship if they arent going to do then as well. It's called taking turns.
Gaelig
I love whoever gave you that adviceand wish I had heard it too
Newlyof
It was the receptionist at my first office job. She was great.
zoeelane201
Bf prepares meals and I wash every dish we make (we have other house mates I refuse to do dishes for). Room doesn't really get untidy. >
zoeelane201
>Regular maintenance chores (bathroom tub/sink, vacuuming, sweeping) is done in small sections whenever you use that room. Our relationship>
zoeelane201
>is so peaceful
Newlyof
Exactly as it should be. You both chip in and everything is sorted. Lovely.
jamiedBreaker
I failed at that, but hoping a healthy conversation & a chore chart will help. We want forever, so I'll come back & let yall know how itgoes
Newlyof
Oh god yes, a healthy conversation and a willing to make it work makes a huge difference. You'll be grand.
Macewindow
As a single father of two kids I honestly have no idea what kind of household raised guys like this. Don't be someone's slave.
Emberpaw
This needs more points... Best advice ever!!
Djinterrobang
Within my family, the advice given to everyone on their wedding day, man or woman, is: 1/2
Djinterrobang
"Don't do anything today, you don't want to do everyday, for the rest of your life. "
SarcasticComment
That's fair. My wife and I are even split in how we help eachother. Eventually those taskes became our designated jobs
SarcasticComment
I cook 80%+ of the time because enjoy it. Unless requested beforehand it is the assumption that I'll make dinner.
SarcasticComment
She hates how I do laundry. I only do it when I'm desperate for something to be clean. She largely handles it for the house.
fitzjustright69
My wife refuses to do dishes and I refuse to mop/vacuum. We split everything else. It was established when we first moved in together.
EMTsaidwhat
Good advice. My partner and I use the, "you're an adult and you live here so take care of your space" approach. Laundry was a big issue
EMTsaidwhat
Until it was determined that it was having to walk to the onsite laundry and babysit it that was the real issue.
Jthechef
Yes but no. He does the trash, the yard work, the dog poo, the drains, etc. So no we do not split every chore 50/50 but all the chores 50/50
truthader
. Relationship advice
eleonorae
That's good advice
Swishbug
Abso-fucking-loutely. We came up with a spilt chore system because I will NEVER BE HIS FUCKING MOTHER. Make your boys clean up too. Equality
Newlyof
Also have you heard the word "tmesis"? It's the only word in English that starts "tm..." it describes what you did w absolutely. Fave fact
Swishbug
I have never heard of that! Cool! Thank you
Newlyof
Exactly! Some people have been allowed to leave home with not a single clue about needs to be done.
DaniaAudax
The fun part is when he says he’ll be responsible for a chore like taking the trash out but you end up doing it anyway.
knotch2
I am the trash man in my house. No one else. We all use the trash can but only I know how to take it out. I have tried to teach others. .
DaniaAudax
...don’t wait until the trash is too much for the bag to handle and re-line the can with a suitably sized bag immediately afterwards?
greygoosery
Hubs is supposed to clean the kitchen since I cook. His cleaning the kitchen is putting dishes in the washer, the next day. Nothing else.
Newlyof
The one that used to get me was "I'll cook tonight", but then "can you just chop this/stir that" and somehow you still get to wash up
Newlyof
Or you ask him to do it and he says "I was just about to!" and is all aggrieved.
DaniaAudax
Not even. I used to remind & wait an hour. Sometimes he’d get to it. Now I just do it myself.
RavenInFlyte4ever
Instead of being aimed at a man, it should be if you do a chore for anyone, be prepared to do it while you're with them (man or woman)
Newlyof
Of course it can be aimed at anyone but overall women tend to do the lions share of domestic labour even in 2021. 1/2
Newlyof
It was good advice for me as it was the first great love of my life and I was besotted so wanted to do everything to look after him 2/3
Newlyof
That stage wears off and could lead to feeling put upon by my own actions earlier. The person w the advice knew that would happen 3/3
PimpinKen
Hopefully you found someone compatible to you!
janeQdoe
I think the reason this resonates with people is that women are usually the cleaners and caretakers of a home and are expected to do these
janeQdoe
Types of tasks. When a chore needs doing, many women feel like it is "their job." Like changing diapers; it was always understood to be
janeQdoe
"Woman's work." That's changing, which is nice. But the roles played in the home are still sometimes seen as gender specific.
Newlyof
Yep, overall, chores are still gender specific. Even more so in some cases w lockdown and ppl wfh and homeschooling. It's fascinating really
PaleAsFuck
The problem is when you decide to do your own dishes and he has to do his. Then suddenly all the dishes are standing dirty on his desk.
Bunchie
One bowl, one fork, one spoon. All I've ever needed.
PaleAsFuck
So no guests? I use plates and forks and spoons when I'm cooking as well. Not only to eat from
BigBurkhart
Guests can bring their own plates.
The3rdwheel
Dont get why people have issues doing dishes. Use it, wash it and put it in the drying rack... simple
PaleAsFuck
It's a hazzle. Especially cooking food and then clean everything you used. I usually clean it a few hours after the food coma is done
The3rdwheel
I clean as i go.
PaleAsFuck
Sometimes it's too stressful making the food so I don't have time. I'm always stressed in the kitchen
NotLuckyDucky
I have a friend who’s boyfriend starts doing household chores without being prompted. I hope one day I can find a guy like that lol ?
BigBurkhart
*Raises hand*
vowofsilence
My exs always used to say how good I was picking up after myself, cleaning up just cuz...lol I thought all guys did that stuff around home
PaleAsFuck
They are out there. They're the real gems
PaleAsFuck
Luckely that relationship didn't last. Now I'm actually in a healthy both doing choirs relationship
LongPorkRockyMountainOyster
Hahah thank god, I was gonna say the REAL trouble is continuing to date people who refuse to participate in house chores
PaleAsFuck
Ye I mean. It was the abusing aspect that broke it xD it's like night and day. I didn't know how bad it was until after.
LongPorkRockyMountainOyster
Been there, got the shitty t-shirt. I’m proud of you for making it through the other side and learning from your experience!
camelsp1der
Sounds harmonious
PaleAsFuck
It's great. He cooks dinner I do the dishes. When he was visiting last year he did the vacuuming while I was at school.
camelsp1der
You are both.....in harmony....