PartTimeGamerDad
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Hello everyone!
I'm not autistic, but this video always makes me laugh.
My day today.
Aw shit, I hope this isn't AI.
Ugh. When I told my parents I had ADHD, one of them responded "Oh, I think I do to a little bit!" And it wasn't the parent who *definitely* does.
p e o p l e
It's like my brain makes that old Macintosh "quack" sound and everything freezes up.
The best part of waking up is 20 mg of meth!
There is a parent at my kid's school who will just show up to rake the leaves and tend the gardens. He shows up to all the school board meetings with visual aids on how very specific processes could be improved. His emails are in all caps. He is amazing and we love him.
50% horny.
Sent this one to my wife. She thought it was funny, but not ha-ha funny.
OOOOOF
Everyone must enjoy this modern Rice
Paradise
Man, I wish I could poof out.
Thanks for reading!
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Oregwath
#5 One day not too long ago I said that I think I may have adhd. My youngest spawn said, "Yeah, so does my therapist." I'm not sure if I should be proud or not.
DemSumBigAssRidges
#7 this list might change my life...
RevolutionOnHerLips
#10 hahaha I can't tell you how many times I've created a TO DO spreadsheet, go to save it, only for my computer to suggest "checklist_todo(3)" as a potential file name lol
drdorman86350
I convinced myself to write a book, however I am still organizing my thoughts and ideas by color and feeling.
PartTimeGamerDad
But hey! You're doing it! And sometimes the process is the reward rather than the end product.
bekkayya
#1 or you could just like hang out. Multiple of my autistic friends and partners dont share any top 3 interests (save for eachother :3 ) and it works fine. These two just sound like dicks tbh, this reminds me more of that incel ragebait clip from a few days ago than it does any autistic experience of mine
AmazingNoodleSmuggler
#32 I wrote my master's thesis about psychological processes involved in political radicalization and needed to get in touch with people from the whole political spectrum to conduct a study. My search history was full of phrases like "how to join Isis", "where to get in touch with neo nazis" and "download the onion router". Threw in a "i am doing this for my thesis i promise" every now and then, for good measure.
sundaymondayhippyday
Can political radicalism be untaught in your opinion?…. https://media4.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTY1YjkxZmJldzJhNG90cTZtczV4dGR2bXh1ZnU5aThybm50czR3bXN3aHNwaTM1eiZlcD12MV9naWZzX3NlYXJjaCZjdD1n/ZoXlLG40E71zW/giphy.mp4
MirroredImage
Dying laughing. Same thing that happens to artists and writers, and adding an interest in forensics/medicine hasn't improved my search history. Sometimes I just have to google severed limbs, ok? It's for a hobby and I promise that hobby is not creating dead people
Affray
I imagine every true crime/paranormal podcaster today has search histories and downloads that put them on a few watch lists.
mksu
#28 I said I'm lazy because absolutely nothing constructive is going to come from this person questioning why I didn't do something, and I have better things to not be doing.
perturbedSlammin
I go for "but I'm really good at maths" because I'm not that good at maths but if they're so quick to judge, they won't figure that out
MisterAtomic
Quack
SpaceForGold
#27 yes. It’s this that gets us fired.
Affray
1)My wife can't process how other people know which rules can be broken/bent and which rules are unflexing. She sees coworkers not following
Affray
2)the same rules for everyone and different standards being applied, even mildly, and gets bothered because things don't shake out fairly.
Affray
3)She doesn't get fired, but people in general don't like fair and even rule follower types because they can't come out on top that way.
PartTimeGamerDad
Sounds like you have some stories about this.
SpaceForGold
Ones that burn years after getting a late diagnosis.
BitsofEpic
I got overwhelmed half way through and almost didn't make it to the end of the post because it was a lot of work
perturbedSlammin
Oh for sure, I didn't read all of this. Genuinely just stopped for the ones with pretty colours. Strangely, I'm responding to all the comments?
PartTimeGamerDad
I salute your efforts. I invite you to favorite this post, and utterly forget its existence.
RevolutionOnHerLips
Mahcks
Maybe your nt parent is trying to relate to your adhd parent to make them feel better about an aspect of their self that's out of their control? IDK, you probably know your parents better than I do.
PartTimeGamerDad
Oh, I know exactly why she did. It was a shock, and that's sort of her way of empathizing. But at the same time I could see her brain begin to blame herself for not doing anything about it when I was a kid, even though it was 100% *not* a blaming conversation. But, that's just how she acts. We had a great talk about it, but haven't talked about it since. I should probably open the door back up.
GlutenFreeCocaineWaffles
You guys get to have things like interests and relationships and medication? I spend my time living in filth being sad and lonely in between white knuckling my two jobs and minimal social obligations while hoping THIS is the year I can be taken seriously by one of those scam centers they call a clinic and actually get diagnosed, but that's not going to happen because the lying bastards who work in "mental healthcare" just want easy medicaid money without dealing with genuine mental illness...
ourari
perturbedSlammin
Me learning anything about electroplating in the middle of another project because my soldering iron tip is damaged
Affray
My brain likes to devour everything new it happens upon then get bored of it because now it's known. Repeat, be good at trivia, profit?
WhatzitTooya
My favorite hobby: Starting new hobbies and advance them till an arbitrary milestone, then lose all interest.
Cgt16
I need you to calm down and step away from my ever increasing pile of 3/4 completed projects.
ourari
But I'm only there because I'm trying to avoid my own...
jaydude22
That’s insane. I don’t have a bunch of calligraphy stuff because onetime it caught my eye.
ourari
Nor do I have stupidly expensive paper + other supplies for 1) drawing and 2) watercolor, that I have used somewhere between 0 and 1 time(s)
sundaymondayhippyday
Shut up! I’m going to be a great artist when I start!
PartTimeGamerDad
I have a half-completed arcade cabinet I've been building that's been sitting in my garage since December. Now that it's warming back up, hopefully I'll get the dopamine to finish that project.
flashums
There is this cedar chest in my livingroom. I refinished it after my divorce because I needed furniture and something to do. I had obtained said chest as a highschool freshman some 14 years prior as a moving gift from my parents. Saw it at a garage sale, captured my eye, had to have it. Whoever painted over such beautiful veneers should be reprimanded. I learned the wrong lesson from this experience, I have so many projects >.<
ourari
Fingers crossed!
I have everything I need to start my vegetable garden, including the parts for a greenhouse. For over a year. Like you, I'm hoping I can get myself going this spring...
PartTimeGamerDad
This is your year. I can feel it.
RevolutionOnHerLips
swear to god I'll finish setting up this raspberry pi game emulator I got all the parts for in 2017... someday!
DietCokeIsMyDrugOfChoice
You can do it! My husband finally finished his after many years, so it is achievable!
keyblader1985
#40 it's basically a game of "how do you want to fuck things up today"
PartTimeGamerDad
I've been teaching myself how to smoulder. That way, when I'm in noisy social situations where I don't feel like talking, I just put on my smouldering face and freely disassociate.
spontaneous9
I saw a couple scraps of wood & thought they'd be perfect for the bird house I always wanted to build so I collected them, then started collecting sardine can lids to use for roof shingles because I snack on sardines a lot & thought it would look cute & now I have approximately 13^7 pop top can lids from soup cans, fish cans, etc. living in a box on my kitchen table, nested together vertically on edge like books on a shelf that have grown into a pyramid the approximate size of a '62 Buick sedan.
PantlessThunderGoose42
When I was a child in the 1980s, My mother would periodicly go through my toy box and get rid of the styrofoam McDonalds clamshell containers that I tried to save because I had an idea of something I wanted to make with them. However, my creative vision could not be reconciled by my abilities.
PartTimeGamerDad
Simple! Just get yourself into a situation where you're obligated to do something you don't want to do. You'll get SO MANY procrastination birdhouses built!
spontaneous9
Due to the obvious overabundance of materials, I have since amended my plan to a series of short awnings for the windows that get the most sun in summer. Simple plywood slats covered with little shiny metal shingles, should be relatively weatherproof at least for the first couple seasons. Blocking the intrusion of direct sunlight into the south windows of the cabin should substantially reduce the interior temperature, especially in late summer, since there's no A/C here.
ourari
Fast-forward to the future: Plans for an entire cabin built with can lids.
OmnibusLatinName
I was going to distill my own whiskey... Every surface in my basement is covered in bottles that I will one day use when I get a still :)
spontaneous9
Some projects are longer-range than others, it's true. I once told my sis I was looking into brewing my own beer & she sent me a 5gal bucket full of all kinds of bits & pieces of a home-brewing kit, including a couple pounds of malt -- all I needed was a glass carboy (which I already had) and a dedicated fridge for the task. Never happened. The bucket, malt, etc. are still here but I quit drinking 153wks ago & won't be going back.
Sober life was a big level-up in this case. YMMV.
Cheers mate!
sundaymondayhippyday
“Wonderfully prepared! “
My parents called it
SpaceForGold
#13 as a neurospicy person this response (or even attitude, they often don’t say it) is so fucking frustrating. It’s like saying “I sometimes sit down too” to someone in a wheelchair.
dreikommavierzehn
it's bad enough to hear it from people in general. But to hear it from actual doctors and therapists? That really broke me. Sitting down with a psychiatrist and hearing yet another "yes we all have it hard".
PartTimeGamerDad
I mean, there's already a comment in here like that. But you're so right. I personally haven't encountered it very much, but I've only been confirmed for a couple years, and I don't tell many people. But even reading a meme about it sounds gross.
DietCokeIsMyDrugOfChoice
Yes! When I expressed to my therapist my frustration at even needing the ADHD meds (bc ugh why can't I just be normal 🙄 so annoyed at myself, even though I know many of us go through this cuz the societal stigma is so strong), she was like well, as a type 1 diabetic, how would you respond if someone told you to just stop taking your insulin, cuz everyone gets high & low blood sugars sometimes? That's when it really clicked for me lol
PartTimeGamerDad
I love that response. Makes a ton of sense.
DietCokeIsMyDrugOfChoice
Absolutely, so I share it when I see/her my fellow neurospicy folks be similarly hard on themselves, and I hope they can adjust the analogy to whatever works best for them.
eventide215
The annoying thing is they're right to a degree so you can't say they're wrong. Everyone experiences traits of ADHD, autism, etc at times. Similar to what you said, it'd be like saying to someone with a cold that you too sneeze sometimes. The difference is how much more it happens. Like with autism it's not just something that comes and goes.. you're stuck with it.. always..
dreikommavierzehn
mhm that was kind of a fun development with my therapist. After a few years it eventually came up, that many times when I was asked something along the lines of "do you always feel that way?", "does this always happen in that situation?" I would of course always (hah!) answer "no".
Because out of the two hundred something specific situations that I remember regarding a particular question, I remember at least 10 situations that were different. So obviously it wasn't "always" like that.
sundaymondayhippyday
My favourite was a paranoid schizophrenic friend of mine who told me
Mental Illness Is Like A Shadow,
Sometimes It Is Obvious,
Sometimes It Is Hidden,
But It Is Always There.
sundaymondayhippyday
I hated him at the time 4 being right
blanksmom
I grew up in the "only boys have that" time. Now i have 10mg to slow my brain down in the morning and get out of bed. I keep thinking how much better my struggle to pass HS math could have been (50 years ago). Now calculating number is so easy.
PartTimeGamerDad
Girl, same. After I tried medication for the first time, I got MAD. Like, "Where was this when I was a kid??" Though, Ritalin was the drug of choice when I was in grade school, and that stuff was an imperfect solution at best. I'm so happy that there are so many better and more effective drugs today.
Rogahar
#27 We thrive on rules, so when we see the rules that are supposed to apply universally to everybody we think "Ah, excellent, that's all been figured out and I'm sure everyone follows those just fine." Then we find out that no, almost nobody seems to, and it sends us insane. 🙃
shalafi71
Is that why people commenting online are such lawful little paladins?! Had assumed it was young folks because of the way school does them.
Maverickaura
#27 it should be mentioned that just because the sense is strong does not always mean the sense is accurate. It'll go off to perceived injustice just as if not more easily than real injustice. So like, have a coping mechanism on hand to double-check yourselves. My favorite is the "come back later" strategy where I drop it and leave, then remembering it later and checking if I'm still mad about it. If yes, then fire away.
SirShmango
#6 I feel like a more accurate representation would be losing the older balloons and finding them again weeks or months later. Like, if a game slides off my Playstation or Switch home screen, it may as well not exist.
sundaymondayhippyday
Well obviously you can’t read balloons above your head.
So it makes sense
SirShmango
That's fair. It is pretty subjective. Personally, my constantly cycling impulses make me feel more stuck in place than being carried away.
ExposedBookworm
#45 yeah..... that sounds about right
PartTimeGamerDad
My problem is that I'll take the most miniscule detail of the ongoing conversation and launch off on my own tangent, fully expecting everyone to understand the connection as I barge ahead. It's only when I see the empty but polite stares that I stop to clarify my reasoning.
ExposedBookworm
Yeah... that too XD
Prototypo
#10 This is why the advice of "oh just use a calendar to write stuff down so you remember" is such bullshit. I would either lose or never remember to check it. I love my phone calendar though, I put it in and it reminds me on the thing I always have with me.
sundaymondayhippyday
I forget my phone- bugger
Prototypo
Yeah, like to someone who doesn't keep their phone with them much it would be bad advice for them to use the calendar on it.
MrStealUrMeme
#5 OP Your comment was so spot on for me. Its exactly what happened when I was diagnosed. My dad said "I think you got it from me. I might have it a little." Sure Dad, I got it from the well organized, proffesionally highly successful parent, who writes everything down and color codes it. Not from my mother who is over there watching TV and listening to an audio book at the same time. Not the parent who randomly blurts out phrases, sounds, and talks to herself... among many other things.
DietCokeIsMyDrugOfChoice
Honestly, it may have been both. Sounds like your dad probably had an environment, growing up, that either encouraged him to be that rigid (a possible but less likely scenario) as a coping mechanism/overcompensation, or demanded he be that rigid (a sadly more likely scenario, esp along the lines of "beating" it out of him, likenthey did w/left-handed kids). And your mom likely had an environment wherein her parents didn't know how to help or didn't see it as a problem 🤷🏽♀️
PartTimeGamerDad
If there's a silver lining to any of this, it's that this moment in history has seen a near-complete erasure of the stigma surrounding neurodivergence, along with a much higher understanding of how it all works. I'm so glad that today's neurodivergent kids don't have to go through what we did.
WillemHellfire
Adderall. It's what's for breakfast.
CatchySensibleName
Shit. I forgot breakfast...
CALAMOSCOPYJANE
As someone with both autism and adhd: these are great! Thanks! Especially love the first bit. 😂 I’m super lucky, I found a man who is capable of handling my point-blank direct communication. He loves it, in fact. And I’ve been able to learn to soften the bluntness when it’s ego-piercing, because he’s very patient and will explain to me why what I said is construed as “mean”. He’s adhd and hilarious, and a big hottie. We feel like the luckiest people in the world. 🥂🧀🤘🤗
PartTimeGamerDad
This makes me very happy to read. Cheers to the both of you for finding happiness together. 😊
CALAMOSCOPYJANE
💋
an0therthr0waway
Gen X checking in. #4 is def not AI. :) https://youtube.com/watch?v=KTc3PsW5ghQ
PartTimeGamerDad
Well, I know who the aliens are. But those look like they're made out of felt rather than fur. So either someone just made their own YepYep aliens, or it's AI.
an0therthr0waway
ah, sorry, misunderstood your intent. after taking a second look, I'm guessing it's a Muppet 'cosplay'. :)
AmazingNoodleSmuggler
#26 I once had to explain to my colleagues (working in healthcare) that if they would look through the tiny non-frosted part of the window between my room and the corridor and notice me lying on the floor, they can just ignore me.
PartTimeGamerDad
How was that received?
sundaymondayhippyday
Healthcare they have to check they haven’t collapsed
LoftheDesert
I used to think "that's not special to ADHD, I do that, too."
Well... turns i out i have ADHD. Meeting a doctor about medication on the third of March. Much excite!
shepahrdjhon
congrats. I recently found out and I feel much better after medication.
ImAWeirdMom
Yep. When my therapist told me I definitely have ADHD and was shocked it wasn't already on file, a lot of shit made sense. Like why my daughters who were acting like I did in school were being diagnosed and medicated.
I got put on a stimulant (for something else) and the difference it made in my life is f huge.
Good luck with your meds!
BigRedNerd
The weird part for me is I don’t actively notice the difference between days I take my meds and days I don’t except sometimes I don’t annoy my wife as much with impulsive goofiness. I had tried a few different options with my Psych, but then they changed practices and I haven’t gotten myself around to finding a new one for a long time.
CALAMOSCOPYJANE
That’s great, congrats! Once you start working on strategies to help yourself and you stop getting down on yourself for what are _not_ character flaws but actual symptoms, it will change your life dramatically for the better. All the best on your new life!!!!
Animorphs
I can’t even say how many time I’d read something that is a common aspect of autistic people and think, “Well that can’t be right that sounds like me.”
MrStealUrMeme
I didn't get diagnosed until I was 30 when talking to my dad about some struggles and suggesting that maybe I have it. I went through an entire day of intense testing and came out with an ADHD diagnosis. I still didn't understand every aspect of it, and thought maybe I just had it a little. Until all the ADHD memes started coming out! I fully related to them all, and did more research. Now I realize that its not "just a little", Ive always had full blown ADHD. I see n recognize it everyday now
SavageDrums
The first few days I was on Vyvance were magical. I likely need to up my dose because that feeling has gradually faded.
AmazingNoodleSmuggler
I am a clinical psychologist. My way toward an ADD diagnosis began with me recognizing every single aspect of ADD during a lecture on adhd. Had to ask one of my professors afterwards if they were sure these things weren't true for pretty much everyone. Apparently not.
Affray
1)That makes me wonder how many students those professors have approach them like that. I wasn't in your situation, but I definitively
Affray
2)remember stumbling upon symptom/habit lists and lectures online and having an "Oh, snap." moment where I realised I tick almost every box
Affray
3)for ADHD and OCD. There has to be tonnes of students in your line of study who have some similar self realisations along the way.
PartTimeGamerDad
Memes helped me toward my diagnosis (less than three years ago!). I would laugh at the memes like "Ha ha, that's totally me," and it eventually turned into "Man, maybe I should talk to my doctor."
AllSystemsNominal
I kinda had the opposite. There's a couple things from ADHD that I recognize in myself, so I figured I'd get tested. I don't have ADHD. But then why do I have executive dysfunction (or similar)?
CatchySensibleName
Lots of things can cause executive dysfunction. ASD and depression are also notorious for it.
ThatOtherMacAvoyWoman
Could it be CPTSD? Lots of overlap.
ImAWeirdMom
Do you have any other issues that cause executive dysfunction such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, or autism?
PartTimeGamerDad
Mother Nature is a mad scientist. I have a good friend who thought he had ADHD and got tested. Turns out he just has a lot of anxiety.
Affray
Some of us get both.
v
OmnibusLatinName
So structure!
CarInAVet
Once I had (slowly) figured out I have it (by relating to too many ADHD things online), I started talking to my family about it, and my sister thought, "Whatever, she doesn't have ADHD, I do all those things too!" Guess what she's now being treated for.
SavageDrums
Now that I know what to look for, I think ADHD is way more common than we realized
Affray
Everyone the baby boomers called "Chatty Kathy" or "A bit odd, but nice" were almost definitely all on the spectrum before we named it.
sundaymondayhippyday
And in modern times we got new cute little nicknames MotorMouth- Chatterbox-SHUT THE FUCK UP! -
SavageDrums
In the 1980s we were "gifted". Haha
Affray
I was born in the 80s and in school they put me through the "gifted" programs. It was mostly bean counting type tests to see which kids could sit at a desk and crunch complex math problems, read huge books or do some computer programming. The Mensa chess club at school was just a bunch of arrogant big brains using chess to dominate because they were the bottom of the pecking order at recess. In hindsight I really think the school system was just churning out corporate drone workers.
permissiontolosedenied
Question to adult ADD/ADHD people, do you have advice you wish you could tell your younger self parents on what would have helped you make school a better experience (getting work done, passing your classes) ? I have a kiddo in middle middle school diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, and they are just not interested in doing school work. The SPED team is great and they really want to help him, but I feel we are starting to run out of strategies to help him, so I thought I'd reach out and ask ?
perturbedSlammin
Yeah as strange as it sounds, giving a person lots of space to back out of boring stuff without guilt or shame (can be quite tricky) also has the effect of freeing up their time and attention for a topic that really inspires them, even if only for a while. I've gotten a few jobs now from being "a remarkable all-rounder" = I've had like a billion hyper focus projects so I have a huge array or rare knowledge
permissiontolosedenied
It seems giving them space translates to doing no assignments at all. Like I'm thinking they think "well if my teachers don't care why should I" ? They do love looking up "retro gaming rigs" on eBay, looking up stuff on Google maps (plans our summer road trips), loves gaming and talking about it non stop, but unfortunately that doesn't help with school work...
fubizdaddie
Well, when I finally paid out of pocket for my diagnosis and medications at age ~21, my father called me a tweaker behind my back for a few months with his mother in law, then started doing it to my face. He was more concerned with me "taking meth" than all of the improvements in my life that came about from it, and was so oppressively negative so constantly (I also worked for him) that I stopped and just haven't been able to get back on them after two decades, so ... Don't do that I guess?
anender
I'm sorry you kept working for him, and let him dictate your health.
PartTimeGamerDad
This sounds pretty serious, so I would see about finding a PsyD (who bills to insurance) who can offer up some advice. I'm glad to hear the SPED team is working hard, but if strategies are starting to run dry, then it's time for a professional to swoop in.
permissiontolosedenied
The thing I worry about is them going to one weekly session wouldn't really have much of an impact for 11-year-old.. luckily insurance isn't an issue, but I don't want to waste their time and my kiddos time ? I don't know, does that make sense?
PartTimeGamerDad
It makes sense. Weekly sessions may not be required. Maybe a couple at firs, and then switching to once every few weeks to check in.
permissiontolosedenied
That might be an option. Thank you for this post it was timely.
ourari
Sounds like the focus is on what's not working right now. ADHD can be brutal on self-esteem. Look for what they try to do rather than what they are successful at. It's the trying that's hard plus success is rare plus with ADHD there is usually no feeling of achievement when you do succeed. Commend them for trying. Encourage them to celebrate the everlovin' heck out of every attempt as well as achievement. Teach them positive self-talk. Let them know they have intrinsic worth, outside achievement
permissiontolosedenied
Thank you for that. I will double down on what you suggest.
ourari
My pleasure. Best of luck to you both!
permissiontolosedenied
Stimulants didn't seem to help. It just made them easily triggered outbursts. They are on a non stimulant now which seems to somewhat help, but they still have trouble focusing on getting school work done. Within the last 3-4 weeks he's been swearing at teachers and when I say swearing it so bad a sailor would blush hearing it..
dreikommavierzehn
stimulants feel different to people.
It can help with getting homework or a learning session done, but it won't help getting started. This needs various tools that need to be learned from behavioural therapy. From planners, to actions to disengage strong emotions, to getting a reward before even starting the work. This a deep topic and lots to learn and read. Russel Barklay has some interesting lectures on it.
The other part is that stimulants may feel limiting. To me they do. People or teens >
dreikommavierzehn
may describe it as "i don't feel like myself", because it's correct. However awful the constant noise of an adhd brain hive brain is, there is also wonder, surprise and creativity to be found. All of which suddenly goes away. It feels like jumping on one leg to finish a marathon that normally you couldn't finish at all.
And lastly, with a complete denial of school work it's more likely there's more behind. You will probably need a professional to uncover that. It might difficulties with life >
dreikommavierzehn
at home (pressure for grades, fighting relatives, ...), or problems at school (bullies, harsh teachers, ...). So then it could be depression. Or it could be another psychological condition. Especially if it's autism, aforementioned situations don't even need hard triggers. Lights, sounds, loud voices, strong emotions can all already feel overwhelming enough.
And don't forget that while adhd requires external structure to function. The more negative emotions build up, the more resentment >
dreikommavierzehn
towards external structure will form. Putting an adhd child too much under pressure will simply cause it to break (same with autism).
Performance would be good to check too. both, with adhd and autism intelligence may seem lower than it really is. Which will only become visible when observing the person doing something they love.