Lewynsa
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Some things never change. And should never change.
Feb 24, 2021 1:44 AM
Lewynsa
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Some things never change. And should never change.
farticusprime
Boundaries work well with everyone and in every situation. I like this allegory
thefuzziestofbutts
And don't forget after care!
CorneliusCornwall
That's the good stuff right there
Lewynsa
Thank you. ^_^ Good people know the right stuff.
NarutoSexyJutsu
This is an absolutely perfect description
Lewynsa
Thank you, totally stolen, but, so correct it needed sharing.
NarutoSexyJutsu
Absolutely. So many people have incorrect assumptions about what goes on between a dom and sub.
siflandollysiflandollyshowROCK
That’s how it should be :)
Lewynsa
Exactly. :)
SashaTheKitty
I wanna be your sub
thisistheinternetimheretotellliesandarguewithstrangers
Come over then
wanderingdreams
Might be the best description I've read. Love it.
PerpetuityPhoto
And yet, 9 out of 10 guys who call themselves doms think they can not only color outside of those lines as they see fit, but into someone...
PerpetuityPhoto
...else's lines whenever it suits their ego.
FullTimeDisaster
Now I just need someone with pencil crayons
monkeyfly
It's sad that people think bdsm is about the loss of boundaries. Boundaries are super important. Always.
bouncebounceandtheclaw
My SO knows I despise tickling & jokes about it so much that I never want to even put myself in that vulnerable position.
bouncebounceandtheclaw
Maybe I need to phrase it exactly like that though. It doesn’t matter that tickling doesn’t bother him; it bothers me & that’s a boundary.
monkeyfly
Well it's not fun if you aren't having fun. If he can't respect boundaries and intentionally does things that makes you uncomfortable then/
monkeyfly
That's a bunch of red flags. And if you can't be open and honest with this person then what's the point? Hope it works out for you.
meticulousinfamousridiculousnicholas
Love it, love everything about this. I get into arguments with so-called doms about this & will always say something akin to this to newbies
Diverge
Purple skies and red ass will be on the menu this weekend i thinks!
FeltShardBurrito
I don’t get it. We just have sex.
Shpielers
Not everyone is into dom/sub. That's cool! As long as you and your partner are enjoying yourselves, nothing else matters.
TK421isAFK
What was that about purple thighs and red ass?
SoMenSayThatImIntenseOrImInsane
Go on....
TK421isAFK
Just reading what OP quoted. I might be reading between the thighs. I mean lines.
Mayyybe
tracereading
And that's why you have a safeword.
Lewynsa
Red!
Booyakahbooyakah619
Yooooo, this simultaneously sounds way kinkier than I'm used to but also so comfortable and safe, this rules.
barbarian818
vanilla folk see the privileges of being a Top, they don't understand the true weight of Responsibility it entails. You EARN that authority
graehall
A friend of mine is quite into BDSM and their birthday is coming up.
I'm thinking of getting them a gag gift.
CorneliusCornwall
Ha!
LaurenLikesStuff
thisistheinternetimheretotellliesandarguewithstrangers
Shut up dad
graehall
Why don't you gag me? :P
thisistheinternetimheretotellliesandarguewithstrangers
Oh, I would.
JOKERZwild86
It’s funny because submissive have more power o stall and all their dom a certain amount of power
LittleEllie95
A lot of people don’t realize that it’s us subs that hold the keys. Love this :)
Redskylinesunrise
You’d think it’d be common knowledge lol
Waaaaghhumbug
Both get to say stop, but only the sub gets to say go!
WoodyTugboat957
I’m stealing this. I will use this.
Lewynsa
Please do!
CayCatty
Sending this to my dom right now~
Burke616
As a hint? Or just appreciation?
Shpielers
I sincerely hope they are already familiar with the concept.
WTFprotocolNr7
My coloring book
WingedLemming
Hey, don't let anyone gainsay it. If vanilla makes you happy, rock that life. :)
WTFprotocolNr7
Yes. Happy happy happy
thegoodowl
Shouldn’t it be “my relationship with my Dom”, not Sub? Asking for a friend
VarriksTheLoyal
Nah, a sub sets the boundaries of what they want don't with them, the dom aka person writing must respect those
bambulina
That's right. Subs top from the bottom! You may be giving up control, but your body, your rules.
Sonicschilidogs
As someone with a toddler....... There are people that color in the lines? They exist? I had almost forgotten such arbitrary limitations
inkabink
The metaphor is about seeing and respecting boundaries, doesn't really work with a toddler in mind
Sonicschilidogs
It was a joke
alisa2089
Boundaries are a part of any healthy relationship, bdsm or not. (:
BananaForScaIe
Sure but bdsm requires them to get past day one.
BravelyEncouraging
Yes!
Lewynsa
Truth!
FourEyedLynx
"Traditional" relationships can learn a lot from "alternative" ones.
MmeElspeth
I know imgur is mostly anti-poly, but imo a lot of the communication healthy poly relationships use would be good for everyone.
Lewynsa
Yes, like complete and open communication. No guessing. Ask and answer truthfully.
FourEyedLynx
I COMPLETELY agree. Also. Is your username a Mercedes Lackey reference?
MmeElspeth
Lol no idea who that is. It's a name after Elspeth Reoch, one of the Paisley Witches who died at Gallow Green.
FourEyedLynx
Oh awesome! Elspeth is a character in a high Fantasy series the Heralds of Valdemar. She's badass and awesome.
Lewynsa
Your question made my eyes bug! In a good way. Lackey brought my husband and I together. So, this comment made my day!
FourEyedLynx
Ahahah awesome. I started with the Vows and Honor trilogy. Tarma was my mf HERO.
Chillinchin
Can I put my finger in there?
Lewynsa
Polite of you to ask first.
ImAnActionBirb
Inside the lines, yes.
dirrrtypiratehookerrr
I miss that type of sex. Its not healthy when theres no boundaries, so I'm jealous of who gets to experience it well. My man isnt into play
Shpielers
Same, last few relationships that element was missing. Not a deal breaker...but it's a big missing piece that's hard to make up for.
PunchyFromCleveland
Same, exactly how I feel. It’s not required for me to be happy and in love, but I miss it greatly.
Redskylinesunrise
Out of conscience choice, or just his natural inclination?
dirrrtypiratehookerrr
He's just not into dominant stuff. Bought me lots of toys like he was going to try. Honestly, can't even hold my arms down right.
Redskylinesunrise
Oh lord... I’m a big fan of communication so I’d recommend having a serious talk about it. If he’s just not into it I guess there’s not (1
Redskylinesunrise
A lot to be done. On the plus side though, you seem fun lol
dirrrtypiratehookerrr
TY! Well weve been together a long time. The sex is always so good anyway.... if I ask, he tries but I have to coach. Better than a >
ProbablyHolly
Subs need a union
thegoodowl
I would love to expand on that idea
derzilly
Local communities tend to have informal blacklists, which helps protect the people from trash monsters. Would love to get real shit set up.
derzilly
Something that you don't have to be "in the know" to know
WingedLemming
Austin's been really good about the missing stair communication, I think. I've felt lucky to have this place as my kink community.
SociallyAwkwardCanadianMoose
Uh, missing stair? Sincerely vanilla canadian
derzilly
When you allow toxic people to remain in your community https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Missing_stair
derzilly
Folks will find a missing stair (toxic person) by tripping on them. Instead of the group kicking the toxic person out & fixing the stairs.
Valkor
oh that's a good way to put it
ASongofSassandIre
I wanted to like this comment but it was at 469 and in the spirit of the post I couldn’t do that
Lewynsa
Oh, I can appreciate that. Lol. ^_^
oobedoobiedoo
Boundaries. The lines represent boundaries. I think of them as fences in a landscape. Run around as much you please but don't go over there!
Lewynsa
Oh! I like that analogy, too! Mind if I steal?
oobedoobiedoo
Absolutely, feel free! ?
majorkira9
That’s what she said
Lewynsa
Or he. ;)
Lewynsa
I thought so. ^_^ So, into the favorites folder!
BananaForScaIe
That bang on.
BlacknCrimsonRose
And now I have too.
KellyCrazyCatLadyinTraining
Samesies!! ^_^
isetprettygirlsonfire
There are dozens of us!
Lewynsa
Dozens! Mwhahaha!
newworldtraveller
The submissive always has the power
wanderingdreams
I wish more people outside the world understood that
ABisexualMess
You mean in mars? That's gotta be some wild bdsm
coffeebaby
None of their business either way
Lewynsa
Truth. Live and let live.
isetprettygirlsonfire
Yes!
Surisuule
Your subs like to be set on fire‽
Lewynsa
No kink shaming. ^_^
isetprettygirlsonfire
Some. But that's mostly my job. Check out my posts.
coffeebaby
Yours don't?