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My wife and I had baby #2, and her parents from Germany came to visit and help out. Instead of helping they acted like it was bed and breakfast. Instead of being happy, they were criticizing everything we did and complained.
I'm an easy going person and truly just want people to be happy. The time we have here is short so just realize you are a product of your own creation. Nobody is responsible for your happiness except you. Choose happiness.
Sorry, just venting. Feel free to downvote away into oblivion.
FP edit: Thanks for all the support. Many reached out to show where support groups can be found. Update, they just visited again, this time for six weeks. FIL played solitaire the whole time and MIL complained about how my wife moved away (20 years ago) and how they could watch our kids every weekend if she was back in Germany. Don't fly 5k miles to not spend quality time with grandkids and bitch about the past. I still don't get it. Send me whatever you think is amazing!
SirDistic
@OP it was your job to set them straight. Your house, your rules. They don't like it they can leave.
IgneousInk
that sux, dude. i feel for you. congrats on the new baby and f*ck those bitches
lavari
R/justnomil. You're welcome.
ShiverMeeTimberz
Will definitely check it out! +1
incubus2016
My in-laws also came over to "help". That's the last time they have stayed over...lol. Making noise while baby was sleeping, I did same @2am
Crazytrain77
What is this even from?
PotatoThunder
Eight weeks with house guests? You deserve a Nobel peace prize for not killing them.
YoungHeathen
With bonus points because of the new kid.
CoySwimmingKoi
Stationed overseas, friends w/ newborn had their parents complain of not enough sightseeing
TheyMayBeFakeButTheyreGrrrrreat
Your in laws peppered this precious first weeks of your child's life with bullshit. Be gone evil in laws. Let good memories remain.
ShiverMeeTimberz
Never really thought of it like that. That would explain my son's reaction here. +1
CidColetti
Dude if it were 8 days it would be understandable if you vented. 8 weeks, you deserve a reward, ya know beyond them leaving.
underscoreneckbeard
You reminded me I need to find my happy.
AnonymouZero
ok, will downvote. but i feel ya on the choosing happiness by ironically flipping you off as well.
Fuzzykitten777
Perhaps I am just lucky but....I freaking love my in-laws man. We spend a ton of time with them and really enjoy it.
MyOwnWorstFriend
Same. Sadly, my in-laws are actually more supportive than my actual family. And they taught me a lot of stuff.
userfriendly19777
House guests are like fish. After three days they start to smell.
GotGirls
Sounds like German in laws. Interview your girlfriends parents before marriage.
AirportGateKeeper
It's ok, I struggle being with my in-laws for 2 days.
SuicideSausage
No one complains more than a German
IWannaShowYouThis
& the says they're not complaining, but "helping" or some crap like that.
swearingmom
Do NOT let people come over after having a baby. I don't care who they are. They can fuck off for at least 9 weeks.
ShiverMeeTimberz
W/ baby #1, we had them leave for a week. They of course got offended and pouty. But then they were here for just as long then.
Aerrowflex
Advice noted. Thank you.
TheyMayBeFakeButTheyreGrrrrreat
Something as simple as a cold sore on a mouth can cause a child to become deathly ill. Everyone is invited to fuck off for 2 months
Primotimewaster
It's strange but every serious relationship I've had has been with a man who's parents have passed away. No in law issues, ever.
justhereforvoting
good life choices. I think I may marry an immigrant as it's hard for them to bring their parents over too
YouMealyMouthedCrotchPheasant
Had you met many Germans before? Because in my experience, lovely people that they can be, by God they love telling you how to do stuff.
Slothonym
Sadly this is true :/ As a german, I can confirm it.
whereTheYogaWomenAt
Germans own
TheGrumpest
My mom's german-heritage. this explains a lot.
haleisconfused
ShiverMeeTimberz
Yes! This
anglergal
Holy shit. Eight weeks?!?!
Happypillsforeveryone
Mine were here last year and coming back again this year for 2 months. Last year I wasnt working and doing to everything they wanted. 1/2
Happypillsforeveryone
Let's see what happens this year when baby's at daycare and I'm working. 2/2
NaziZombiePrincessKenny
This shit is exactly what ruined my 6 year long relationship with the only human I ever loved or cared about. I'm glad you guys made it.
ShiverMeeTimberz
Whoa, sorry to hear that. I can see how that could be possible.
NaziZombiePrincessKenny
Yeah...same in-laws, just varied with that she wanted so much to be accepted by them, and everything she done was wrong...so as us. 1/2
NaziZombiePrincessKenny
What you guys did is what we could not, accept that you are the only one responsible for your life and happiness. At this point please 2/3
NaziZombiePrincessKenny
stay together forever, and be happy. You deserve it.
idrinkiknowthings
Went house hunting with my husband of 4 months. Father in law ended up explaining to the realtor his plan to live with us for a year or two
Opportunist
Excuse me?? He doesn't get a vote!!
YourFriendBen
Phenomeno
:0
mallywanders
Yikes
thefuzziestofbutts
That sounds exactly what my parents did. My dad acts like a 5 year old and I was taking care of all their needs plus my infant at the time.
Anthraxwastaken
Did he have medical problems? My dad had a while back stroke and acts exactly the same, not excusing just wondering if that's the cause
ShiverMeeTimberz
I work in the medicine, I think there is some early stages of Alzheimer's going on, but too early to diagnose.
thefuzziestofbutts
Long story short, my mom babies him. He's on dialysis 3 days/week. He acts up when he's not the center of attention and gets violent.
thefuzziestofbutts
He punched my mom and gave her a huge bruise on her arm when she told him to stop acting like a child.
PrincessWasabi
Baby needs a timeout then... that's not okay
rchecka
In-laws for 8 weeks?? Venting approved.
cesarsucio
Yeah you have to be extremely patient to have survived that with marriage intact.
DeathBeUponYou
http://imgur.com/hErZe8v
Cmycherrytree
As a side note: this child is my spirit animal. That is all.
LumpDaddy
Agreed, you poor bastard, longest I lasted was 8 minutes...
Hulkhulkthehulkinghulk
Should see a doctor about that. It's a common male problem
mycrazylife5891
My in laws moved in with us for what was supposed to be 3 months, it's nearly 2 years now. Kill me. Please.
DeathBeUponYou
Check username.
Darkspire
I thought anything over one week was illegal tbh.
syko2k
I never understood this. Why not just tell them to fuck off. Or better yet, spend 8 weeks in their house criticizing everything.
Bradandboujee
Lol it doesn't sound like you are married. That's not how it works.
AngryVelvetUnicorn
No, if my parents came over and did this shit, their ass would be out on the street. Looks like YOU don't know how a marriage works.
syko2k
Exactly. Your marriage, your house, your rules. End of discussion.
AngryVelvetUnicorn
Jesus Christ, with an attitude like that, I hope you're not married or in any relationship.
LieutenantKifKroker
Just goes to show, 80 years later, no one likes it when the Germans invade.
ayymamacita
I laughed more than the usual for a silly punch line
thesethingsarestupid
27yoUGLYvirgin
It blows my mind that it's already been 80 years, I didn't think it has been that long
LieutenantKifKroker
Well... technically only 78 on the invasion of Poland, but still.
maugriman
You think buy know they would realise that kyle doesnt want to be seen.
maugriman
fucking holy shit i trainwrecked that entire sentence. i need another drink
LieutenantKifKroker
No, no. I think you're done for the night.
maugriman
too late!
DarwinHasSpoken
Unpopular opinion coming: Pregnant or not, your wife should have set them straight on day one. Good for you for being patient, though.
TheyMayBeFakeButTheyreGrrrrreat
More unpopular opinion, he could have said something and not been a bitch. It's his house too
Kitastrophe
It's generally accepted, I think, that the offspring of the offending parents handles them, so s/he doesn't end up in the middle.
ShiverMeeTimberz
There is a large language barrier, and I have no problem telling someone off, however, my wife strongly disapproved trying. Fuel to the fire
TheGrumpest
maybe read up on different tactics for dealing with different relatives? It can help give you ideas.
TheGrumpest
*difficult relatives
ShiverMeeTimberz
I agree, but in defense, everytime she says something it only makes things worse.
nyaore
You both might want to visited r/raisedbynarcissists. It might help for the next time.
doshka
www.reddit.com/r/justnomil
jawscmouse
Yeah, sometimes they'll literally laugh in your face! Thanks, ma!
giveintome
:(